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>they seem interested
>they're even the ones who initiate the most sometimes
>then suddenly nothing, and when you go to them they're clod and give one word answers

Have you ever been the one who's suddenly cold? Why?

I just don't get why these things happen. It seems to happen to a lot of people, leaving them puzzled. It may be happening to me right now and I'm wondering what happens in those who do that.

>talking to this girl I met at a concert
>she lives in another town
>keep wondering how much I should talk to her

>if I talk to her every time I want to, and propose to see each other too often, she might think I'm clingy
>if I don't talk to her often she might forget me and lose interest

She used start conversations and it flowed really well, and then suddenly it's cold.

I don't know what to do. I've been in a situation like this before and from what i remember we just did whatever we felt like and it worked out. We grew very attached.
But this whole "dating" thing is filled with advices like "seem detached, don't be too present, have a life and let them crave your attention".

It's annoying and I hate mind games. And i'd hate to mess it up because I didn't understand "the game".

There's this girl I've wanted to go out with (we've known each other in highschool and I took her to prom) for a while, and we went one one day a while back, and I don't think it went well, but she agreed to go again sometime. Even tho we agreed on a time, she never got back to me. Whatever right?

After trying to instigate conversation (nothing weird just boring shit like "hey" or something relevant) I matched her on tinder. Because she never got back to me I figured "fuck it" and messaged her on tinder "nice butt" and she never said anything to me after that.

Three months later she responded "thanks anon" and I said "12/10, hearty chuckle" and then she said "if I can make anon laugh, it makes my day"

later she even initiated conversation with me by sending me a text, and we've talked a bit here and there. I'm not really sure what to make of this. People have told me she's awkward, and I don't know if she was flirting with me or just be weird.

I'm a newfag, so if this is not where I post this, sorry. Just getting used to it. I normally lurk.

Stop pretending to be a doctor online and giving out medical advice you read on wikipedia. It's dangerous and will cause more problems because you cannot accurately diagnose online.

I did a myriad of drugs over a long period of time and still feel a bit cloudy mentally, even after months of not using. I know I haven't given you much information to work off of, but generally speaking, how much can you brain improve after ingesting neurotoxic chemicals?

do you guys really party and fuck around with the nurses, pls tell me the truth

>>17066019
(I am a single person and cannot speak for an entire group, whatever group it may be) I wish people didn't take virginity so seriously. Yes, there are people who have amazing first times. 90% of the time, it's mediocre at best. Your first time will be awkward. When you lose your virginity, it most likely won't be with the person you stay with. It sounds like such bullshit, but I really wish people wouldn't see sex as such an amazing, perfect act.

Spoiled and bored and childish

Learn a skill, get a hobby beyond sitting at the computer and maybe someone will find them interesting. Holy fuck. Self pity and sour grapes are not anything to offer another person when you are asking them to offer you somega part of them physically or romantically. Too many people trying to take without knowing what giving is, I hope none of them have credit cards.

they delight in it. women are terrorists.

Dear CUNT
I know you've almost finished your bachelor,
but please, don't move back to my city.
I really don't want to run into you again.

Eat shit and die.

Sincerely,
Anon

Hey dee

Pretty please don't leave me wondering here

If you wanna hang out, nice, I wanted to. I want to get to know you more. If you didn't want to and you just used an excuse to dodge it, please tell me so. You said you would call back but seriously just tell me, it's ok. I don't bite and we don't know each other much anyways.

I just don't wanna bother you, since it's my fault and all that thing happened a year ago. I'm a dumbass and I'll take your cold shoulder as punishment if you want.

K

I wish you would tell me where we went wrong. I still love you so much it hurts, even though you ended us 2 months ago. You offered to stay friends, but then treated me like dirt when you acknowledged me at all. How did it all fall apart so quickly? You say I didn't do anything wrong, but how can I believe that when you shifted your entire attitude toward me so quickly? I wish I could hate you for the way you treated me - being angry at you would dull the pain of knowing you don't love me anymore like you used to - but I can't do it. As pathetic as it is, I'll keep waiting for you forever, just as I told you I would.

Please talk to me, yellow bird.
G

Go to church, if they have people your age they are probably nice. At least if it's a Catholic church, I don't really know other kinds.
Or join a charity group in your area.
>durr but im atheist omg stop shoving ur religion
then disregard my advice and try something else

>>17066804
I occasionally go to church with my parents but it's mostly older people and children, no one my age.

>>17066798
I've never seen anyone 23+ on this site escape NEET-dom or become more social. The best that usually happens is that they get a job and upgrade to shut-in.

Your thread is one of many and /adv/ is shit at giving practical advice.

>>17065781
4chan all viewpoints and all subtypes, it gives no exception to adv, and certainly not gender issues. If discussion is not your thing you may find tumblr a more welcoming community.

*allows

/adv/ finally experienced the dread that is the friend zone and learned to never let some vagina push you around like that.

She'll cheat again. You didn't see other women. Her character is flawed. She has different values on these things. Not compatible. Sad!

>>17066613
I should also clarify that when she went on her date we weren't together. She said it was shitty and nothing happened but I don't know if that's the truth. She's genuinely good person who did a bad thing and it's the only reason I'm still with her. I dont believe she's have any reason to still lie about it.

>>17066613
more of your gf bruh

>>17066269
You sound like a great and loving mother. You should keep it.

get an abortion now. i'm all for finding a solution that works for both (or better, all three), but holy crap girl... if YOU think your ex is shitty, i dont want to be that baby. do him a BIG favor and end his suffering now.

>>17066269

Live with your responsibilities or die alone. Make your choice. Now fuck off you waste of human filth.

>>17062341
>>17063186
Alright. She responded to the last message I sent.
She said this:

>Hahahahaha..thanks [NAME OMITTED] :D :)
>I dont have a bandname yet cos were just playing in school. The singing contest? Im joining in some singing contest in tv show but i always fail in auditions x( ;_; .i never lose hope though' :D :D
>Sometime il gonna sing for you :) :D :D <3 :D

And yes, there really were 11 emoticons
I created the closest 4chan equivalent to the ones she used.

I want the response to be my own, so I'll come up with that on my own and then have you guys proofread it. But here's what I need to know -
Did I do well?

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Girls, do you find men who are 30-40 years older than you attractive? Not even for dating or sex, but just if a handsome man was 40 years your senior, would you like him? Pic related for example is 54

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And are these guys attractive?

>>17062113
ok sure, we're talking now so lets talk

how do you expect to have a relationship without physical intimacy, and where do you ever see this relationship going?

What? It makes sense that you can develop a little crush on a girl far away from you.

Also keep in mind that she is probably taking ten miles of cock an hour for every mile she is away from you. That makes even more sense.

You know what, OP? Screw being sensible.

Go to the other side of the world to be with this girl and have amazing adventures. Why the heck not?

Anyone can die at any time for no good reason.

>baby I knew was born at 23 weeks, severely premature
>lived on life support at hospital for 8 months
>barely got to see family, children's hospital was far from their home, family had to beg for money for gas
>finally died from lung and kidney issues

It's been months, I barely know this family, but for some reason I'm still super fucked up about it. And it's not like it's the first baby I've known that died. One of my friends had a trisomy baby that was born without eyes, and died within an hour. Two other friends, one recent, had stillbirths.

For some reason, though, this particular baby death has really shaken me up. I think it's because it took so long. I kept bracing myself for it, telling myself the baby was going to die, but once he got past 6 months, I had this glimmer of hope. Then he just fucking died one day. All that work to keep him alive was for nothing, he spent his entire life in a hospital bed, almost always away from his family. It was a horrible life for a baby, and it was for nothing.

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I lust after my Aunt desu

>>17059182

(2/2)

I'm at a point where I feel like I've finally something to give to someone else. I want to be there for someone else and I know that I can do so. But I want to find someone who hasn't been in a relationsship before like me. My self-confidence has improved drastically but I'm still afraid of being in a relationsship where "the stakes" are higher for me than for her. If someone has already much more experience than me, I fear that it will be much easier for the other person to walk away from a potential relationship than it is for me. Since I'm an idealist, I give everything I have when something/someone is important to me. And I am so afraid of getting hurt again after I've given it all to someone, so I want to minimize the risk.

You can laugh however you want and tell me how I'm naive but this is how I feel. I'm an idealistic idiot and I know I will never be happy if I give up in what I belive in.

But what I need is a plan to find someone with my values? How do I spend my time wisely, meaning in places where there are higher chances to find someone like that? Just chatting up all the seemingly shy women in my courses comes off as desperate and as a pathetic reaction to having been turned down.

I will be going to much more clubs and parties, etc, but I'm not sure if this is really the place to be.

Assuming that the women who haven't been in a relationship yet in their early twenties are anything like I was two years ago, they won't do much except go to school/university and stay the rest of the time at home or in their girl cliques. How could I find or reach someone like this?

The first thing that comes to my mind is going to church, since I live in a christian city, but since I'm not christian myself, I am not quite sure how this would be preceived, and also what social gatherings there are to meet such women.

>>17059184
>I will be going to much more clubs and parties, etc, but I'm not sure if this is really the place to be.
Nah usually clubs house many whores that have cheated on their ex and are looking for another dick to bounce on, or something along the lines. They may even have bf's already but love the attention - ie do not go for these fucking whores.

Terribly difficult to find someone your age that is a virgin. You probably want to go to church or something. But yeah , good luck OP to finding a girl that is above 20 and hasn't fucked 5+ guys in her life.

you ask out a girl.
After a week you tell her you're a virgin. Don't ask if she is, tell her you are. If she doesn't say "I am too" you break up with her. If she's a megaslut she might break up with you for it, but likely she'll just be like "aww" and say she doesn't mind, but isn't one herself. Break up with her. She'll call you sexist. That's fine, move on, find another girl.

>>17064079
>The massive hypocrisy of modern society painting them as victims and men as oppressors is incredibly off-putting
So some people said some dumb shit, and it affected you so much you hate women now? Stop taking political tripe so seriously.

And start to put more faith in individuals rather than groups. You won't be disappointed as often, and you'll be able to interact with people more naturally.
I've always been an ardent individualist and i have a hard time even thinking of women (or men, or blacks, or gays, etc) as a collective group.
Everyone is their own person, and should be approached and dealt with as a specific case.

>>17064112
an individual is still more likely than yourself to hold the traits of that group. I was talking to a female friend of mine a while back and we're having a good conversation then out of nowhere she starts talking about the gender wage gap and unironically saying I have it good as a straight white male. At the time I was unemployed and struggling to find work while she'd just started her cushy new high-paying job. What the fuck? This sort of shit is common

I used to have a sort of egalitarian attitude towards women, but as I actually met more and more I sort of ended up dubious. Most seem like just kind of unpleasant people. Not bad or anything, but not someone I could stand to be around to long. They always seem to be holding grudges or shit talking other women behind their backs and generally being petty, all while acting all smiles and sunshine. And I'm like, how can I ever trust a person like this? I've met exactly one woman who didn't give me this impression, and she was *still* putting up a false front (that she was happy), she was just really bad at it, so I noticed.

In fairness, men are bad with about the same frequency. The way my coworkers sometimes discuss women freaks me out a bit. But I'm not romantically interested in men, so their behaviour doesn't concern me so much.

β

Talking about it is beta. Doing something about it is alpha.

>>17064275
Alpha/beta does not have anything to do with the subject matter of your convos its the delivery. An alpha could talk about video games or Ww2 and that doesnt automatically make him beta.

>>17063441
You sound like a bitch. Honestly.

>>17063441
If he doesn't give a shit about your feelings then you shouldn't be together. You're too needy/insecure and he's too much of a manchild prick to consider your feelings.

i wouldnt be in this kind of a relationship. Not that i would be hurt about that or anything, but just blah, get a more mature and classy companion