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bf and i are moving in together in 3 months and get married next summer.
we also want to have a baby soon.
we always agreed on having a baby, and also, to not wait too long to have one.
but one day, he just said, let's make a baby NOW. i told him to take it down a bit. that we should atleast wait till we're moved, since i won't be any help with moving if i'm not allowed to lift heavy things. he was alright with that. we agreed to try to get pregnant in about a year. i, however, would prefer to first get married. because i don't really want to be pregnant on my wedding, i don't want anybody to think we married just because i got pregnant and because i think we should first get to THAT level of commitment before having a child.
yesterday, he asked me to get my IUD removed and that he want's to try and get pregnant asap.
what's the matter with him? what would make a guy want a baby so badly and rush it like that?
i'm going to ask him, for sure. but i'm not entirely sure he'll tell me the REAL reasons or that he even knows what's behind all this. Can you pls cast a light on this for me?
Maybe he feels like if you don't have a kid with him you'll leave?
Just my thoughts (I'm male btw)
It's your body that's going to go through the process and needs to understand that both of you have to feel the time is right. Maybe sit him down and you appreciate his enthusiasm but you really want to give baby the best possible comfort in life, and that is when both of you are comfortable with it.
It could be possible that he has developed a fertilisation fetish, so he might just be thinking with his dick.
Perhaps try to role play and pretend that the IUD is out and see if that satisfies him for the time being.
All the best.
>>17091957
Sorry for the misssing words. Hope you understood that.
>25 y.o.
>Freelancer.
>I still living with my parents.
>My family makes me very difficult to work and I want to work calmly.
>My parents say that I don't work because I don't leave home.
Do any of you leave home without steady work , being freelance ?
How much budget is required to rent an apartment or at least a place where I can work without being distracted ?
What I can do?
>Sorry my bad english btw
Get reliable work, part-time. Enough for rent and food. Work on your free-lancing in the meantime. Select an apartment that will be easy to pay for with your part-time job.
>>17091037
Depending on where you live, you may not be able to afford a place to live "distraction-free".
I freelance and rent my own place, but I'm in a city where all my clients are. So I have to deal with crazy high rent, and neighbors all around with yippy dogs, drug addicts, crazy old ladies and homeless people. Invest in a good set of earmuffs if you need peace and quiet.
Or rent cheaply living with a bunch of roommates (although you'll hate having your privacy get taken away) and work out of a library or coffeeshop type of place if you don't need to be on the phone, talking to clients and stuff.
>>17091037
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You people won't like it but I have confess.
So I was abandoned by my boyfriend and have been playing an MMORPG to entertain myself.
I obviously wouldn't mind finding a boyfriend there or anywhere.
What I also wouldn't mind would be male attention and validation.
So I have been in some guilds in my server. Most of them were kind of dead, so it was kind of pointless. Then I joined one and I might have been the only girl there though I think there was at least one more there but she never used the guild's ts. However I got sick of the guild. Barely anyone used the ts and the guild didn't have many people. The men that talked to me didn't care that much about me.
So then I joined another one that I was advised to join. I'm not very talkative at first, I like to test the grounds. Then someone whispered me, told me to go to the clan's discord. I was happy and accepted. When I went, the person spoke and it was a woman.... I spoke back. She said with a disappointed voice : " Oh, you're a girl." I said yes. Well it was kind of awkward after that and I counted 3 girls in total in the guild and apparently one left soon before I joined. Guild had 60 something people. 2 of the bitches spent their life laughing around in discord and speaking to everyone. The territory was clearly claimed. I even lost a friend who stopped talking to me and only wanted to talk to one of them.
In real life, there are more women than men and no one gives a shit about me. So gaming is one of the few environments where having a vagina matters. But not even in gaming I'm lucky. There is always at least one whore to steal the show. And even when I'm the only one no one seems to care much but with the other bitches it's different. They have all those white knights and I don't.
I'm so angry. I'm already kind of known in the server and there aren't many other guilds I can go to. I have one in my eyesight. It has 40 something people. But I bet it has bitches there too. Cont..
Continuing.. there is this guild and there isn't much else. And when I will have been and left all guilds what will I do? I doubt they will take me back.
I want a guild with no woman and not a sexist guild obviously that hates women, a normal guild where men would kiss my ass.
You all hate me I bet for writing this but I needed to confess. I'm sensitive at the moment, I just wanted attention and love.
And I also have a question : how do I get in a guild with these requirements? It's not like I can ask the guild leader if the guild has other women and that I'll only join if I'm the only woman in it. They would think horrible things of me. What do I do? Help..
>>17090867
>So I was abandoned by my boyfriend and have been playing an MMORPG to entertain myself.
That's cool, what's the problem.
>I obviously wouldn't mind finding a boyfriend there or anywhere.
Wouldn't suggest finding guys in online games. They are there for the games, not the girls.
>What I also wouldn't mind would be male attention and validation.
The issue here really, is that male attention and validation is creepy as fuck, so we don't give it out as much as we used to.
>The men that talked to me didn't care that much about me.
Again, it's because they were there for the game, not your T&A.
>2 of the bitches spent their life laughing around in discord and speaking to everyone. The territory was clearly claimed. I even lost a friend who stopped talking to me and only wanted to talk to one of them.
You joking? Please tell me this is a troll?
I'm actually glad I don't play MMOs anymore. Are girls really that hard-up they are coming to socially reclusive betas for attention?
And fighting over them?
>In real life, there are more women than men and no one gives a shit about me. So gaming is one of the few environments where having a vagina matters.
Actually, it matters in real life too. Again, male attention is has been labelled creepy, and doing things for women has been labelled sexist.
That's the reason that shit don't happen in real life.
FFS, don't ruin online gaming by attention whoring. Basically creates a rift between white knights and people who actually want to play.
>But not even in gaming I'm lucky.
Again, most guys play games for games. NOT GIRLS.
>And even when I'm the only one no one seems to care much but with the other bitches it's different. They have all those white knights and I don't.
I... You know what, fuck this.
Do what you want, I'm a single-player guy anyway. Fuck other people, fuck online games and fuck attention whores.
10/10 good troll.
>>17090892
I'm not trolling though. And why isn't gaming a good place to find guys? It has many guys after all. I'm so sad these days, I just wanted to shower in male attention.
Do you have at least any suggestion for the guild seeking? There aren't many more guilds, I can't keep joining and leaving.
This drunk chick got on the bus and I noticed this is it an std?
>>17090412
I don't think so. How are we supposed to know though? And why do you care enough to take a picture and make a thread?
>>17090415
Because look at the pattern
ingrown hair infection.
From using hair removal chemicals.
In last stages, if it's not red.
Hey /adv/ I need help.
I've been considering suicide as an option in life and this is the third time that this has come up for me. I've been depressed most of my life, with the exception being my childhood. I used to think that if I just pull up my bootstraps and got living life and got friends and all that it would solve my problems but I always wind up feeling depressed and back where I am right now. Yes, I've been to therapy and went on the drugs and they didn't really do it for me.
What should I do? I know this isn't normal and I've run out of options. Friends and family are sick of it and think I should get over it and do things and I'll be okay. Never works out like that.
>>17089889
Youre not the one
>>17089911
What does that even mean?
>>17089889
people are dismissive, and it sucks. i just got diagnosed with mdds, and the weeks leading up to it has been a lot of 'oh you'll be fine'. even now that i got it, my friend just responded with a
:/
emoticon. best ive gotten is a 'damn that sucks dude'.
sucks when people dont listen. as for you, i have some good news
>went on the drugs
>didn't really do it for me
congratulations. you are not clinically depressed. you are just sad. therapy gets mixed results cuz every single therapist and interaction with you is a bit unique
bootstrapping is a step. but its only the first.
what a good therapist should do is help you explore what is making you sad, and hten find ways to fix them. but many simply expect you to 'come to terms' with what made you sad, and thats bullshit
Which of these two hats looks better/cuter?
>>17089197
Left
bonus hat
>>17089199
I do like the richness of left's colour and how it gradiates to the top, although I prefer the thickness of right's bottom
PUA term for something all women do to see if you've got the confidence that they desire in a man. Basically they say things that "betas" would find difficult to respond unaffectedly.
In the real world people just call it playful flirting that people use to gauge whether your qualities are aligned with their preferences. There is no universal code of conduct.
Protip: some women like easygoing "betas", some like flippant jocks. Most everyone likes a guy who doesn't take things personally and can quickly establish flow in conversation.
>>17088748
I'll give you one life example.
I went to house party with my then gf. She wanted to drink vodka (eastern europe bro) and I just wanted weed and beer. She said that she wants some weed and I said no - you cant mix vodka with weed or you will be helplessly drunk and puking all night. She insisted and I yelled at her that she will get no weed and the conversation is over.
Later at night after a good fuck I gave her she addmited that she only wanted to test how will I respond. She didnt want to smoke weed.
>>17089415
Sounds like an insufferable person to spend time around.
What is the optimal way to live as a Sigma male?
>>17088141
>Sigma male
It's a race to the bottom isn't it?
>>17088146
uwot
Spread the virus as far and wide as you can, and whatever you do, don't trust the blue guy.
>school semester starts, some new guy has joined my theatre department
>something is off about him
>he sprints everywhere, jumps off of things, shouts every word, swears every 4 seconds, voices his extremely polarizing political opinions to everyone (he's a "radical marxist" and has a theory that feminists are going to put men in camps in the near future)
>probably autistic if i had to guess
>he talks to me constantly, telling me all his personal problems despite me not knowing him well at all
>he confesses to me one day
>i politely tell him i have a boyfriend
>this doesn't phase him
>he writes lots of plays, including one where the love interest is named after me
>one day he decides to read a play he wrote
>the play takes place in a dystopian society where men are oppressed by women and put in concentration camps
>the main character goes on and on about how much he wants a woman to hold and love
>as he delivers these lines he looks me straight in the eyes
>the play ends with the MC raping a woman because he couldn't find a girlfriend
>everyone is silent and people afterwards ask me if i knew anything about this beforehand
After this instance I was definitely getting creepy vibes from him, and after he approached me privately and told me he lusted after me and all the other women in theater and feared he might become a molester like his uncle, I politely asked him if he would talk to someone other than me.
>this doesn't work
>he gets more aggressive as he tries to get me to like him
>sits right next to me during breaks
>find out he wrote a letter about me to one of the female troupe members
>in the letter he says that he thinks i'm a damsel in distress and he desperately wants to "save me from my pain"
>what
>bribes me into talking to him privately with sweets (i reject his offers)
>one day he asks me if i can just step away from my lunch table for a bit, he wants me to read something
>it's a suicide note
Cont.
>>17087795
Let him kill himself, he's not fit for society, and I don't feel like paying for his suite in the psych ward
>>17087804
This. I realize you put Cont. in your first post, but I've read enough. The guy is off his fucking rocker, and it actually seems like a potentially dangerous situation. I'd definitely alert someone in the faculty that can deal with this, maybe kicking him out.
This guy's gonna end up in the news, anon. Talk to the authorities and quit the passive resistance.
What's the best way to psychologically bully someone at work until they quit?
give us a scenario
you do it by
growing up
>>17087753
well this chick at work is playing games, I'm over it. I'm not her boss, so I can't fire her, but we work in close quarters and don't want to see her face.
Do girls expect you to buy them meals and shit when you first meet?
I got a weird look from her when I said give me $20 (our bill was like $45). Is this type of judgement common? I'm not stingy with people I know but I'm not going to buy something for someone I just met, just cause she has a pussy. The idea of doing that makes me cringe.
>>17086912
If it's a date, you should. If it's just some random person, fuuuuuuck no.
yes you fucking stingy autist
its just 45 ffs, youre not buying diamonds
if youre broke, dont go on dates, cook her shit
>>17086912
Women should pay for half but saying "give me $20" is just autistic.
Anyone have experience taking xanax? What was your experience like?
I took xanax once and now I'm a gay prostitute.
>>17086248
I found it very relaxing, and mildly sedative.
Seems kind of silly as a recreational drug; it really mostly makes me sleepy.
I used to take Valium, which has similar effects, occasionally, when I lived somewhere it was available over the counter. I would slam two beers with a Valium to pass out during all-night bus rides. I once tried to take it for fun, on a beautiful sunny day on a beach, and all I did was waste an afternoon sleeping.
>>17086248
Xanax the first time
I took one dose, or like half a bar or something like that I can't remember.
Didn't notice shit, felt the same yadda yadda.
I took double that my second time, and blacked out for 4+ hours and only know that I ate a pizza, because right before I took the xanax I put a pizza in the oven, and the oven was off and the pizza was no where to be found when I was back to normal.
Don't have an interest in doing it again, but you know if it was the weekend and they were in front of me, why not?
I can't shake this feeling and wish to kill myself, more so when I'm depressed. I think a lot about death and often fantasize about various ways I could do it.
Up until now, all of my boyfriends have been against it or didn't seriously contemplate it. They get upset at me for thinking about this, even when I can't control it.
Where can I find someone who doesn't want to 'live forever', someone who'd be willing to commit suicide with me one day. It would be romantic, probably messy too and we could do all sorts of dangerous things together and talk about death like something we're looking forward to, no selfishness and no pleb talk like those who only say it to appear dramatic or crazy.
See a fucking doctor, anon. Why deal with suicidal thoughts and shit when you genuinely don't have to for any reason?
I'm suicidal-thoughts-free for the first time in years thanks to the wonders of getting my brain shocked, but there are other treatments which are usually tried first and are usually effective for people who aren't me, for obvious reasons.
>>17086048
Get out.
>>17086048
This turns me on, be my waifu?
Be me, 30, out with my gf and her co-workers. Gf is close to me in age.
One dude mentions how she wants him and all this sort of thing. Says stuff like this every once in a while, I'm sure as joke, but I'm not laughing. I find it inappropriate and almost as though he was testing my jaw if you know what I mean.
While they are friends and maybe it's understood to be a joke, seems a bit of a strange joke to make in front of someone's bf.
I let it go, didn't say anything. But it rubbed me the wrong way hardcore. Might have to see this idiot again in a few days at a social function.
If it happens again, what should I do? When I was younger I feel like I'd just say "wtf is that shit cut it out" to him or her, but I feel like I should be too mature for that.
What do?
Been together 4 months btw
Punch him in the throat
>>17086002
dont worry about it too much, the dude is just peacocking you. if you want to you could always get some game going yourself. here's a shitty example:
>douchebag: hey anon i'd really like to take out your girlfriend some time
>op: whoa thats good to hear because i thought you were into me this whole time haha!
I'm getting to the age where everyone is getting married or having babies or moving in with their long term partners, I haven't even had my first boyfriend, and I'm only just starting university now whilst they have good jobs and travel the world.
How do I deal with this overwhelming feeling of jealousy?
Get back to me when you're 27. Also you're just starting uni so put that on the back burner and focus on making your life awesome before bringing others into the fold.
Or become my internet gf
>>17085813
start dating people and see if you can find a partner? if you're not ugly, or retarded, it shouldent be that hard considering you're a girl.
>>17085813
Well.....
you are not doing nothing. You are starting at university, something few people can afford. so see that as an adventure.
Also, get over comparing yourself with others. If you pursue what YOU want to, and what makes you happy, then it won't matter what anyone else thinks.
