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About 2 days ago, I went for a walk with my guard dog German Shepherd named Mars to the park in the afternoon like usual. When I went to the park, there were a lot of people there either leaving, or trying to ignore the screaming of these idiotic women screaming in their microphones about why they as individuals "need" feminism.
In hindsight, I should have just chosen to leave these women alone. I like a good fair debate and I've even spoken to Christians on the street holding signs saying how nonbelievers will burn in hell for not believing in him, but this was a blunder on my part.
They almost immediately started insulting me and ganged up on me giving me almost no room to really make my points, and calling me a privileged white male (even though I'm only half white) and that I contributed to their issues. Things got heated the further I tried to speak, and one of the women SPAT in my face and then slapped me, and with that, the rest of the women started laughing.
Before I could react, Mars knocked the woman to the ground and started biting her face. Her friends screamed and one of them quickly took off her shoe and tried to hit my dog with it, but Mars very badly bit her wrist.
I grabbed the leash and ran as fast as I can out of the park. Obviously there were witnesses, but it's been about 2 days since this happened. If this gets worse, can I call self defense, or am I responsible for the attack? Please everyone, I even called in sick for work because I'm very worried. I really don't want to lose my dog.
>>17091423
lol they assaulted you first. It sucks that you fled the scene of the crime.
However, they have nothing to go on. You might be a local, but if you live in a major city nobody is gonna fucking find you.
hell just go to a new park. If those shrews were protesting odds are they don't even go to that park at regular intervals, cause people don't shit where they eat.
hell, you can probably go to the same park in the evenings and nothing will happen.
>>17091431
Also, to alleviate your fears.
The average homicide solve rate is around
66% in the US. and that is only for those 'cleared', where they have enough evidence for a suspect, but not a conviction, so it's about 50/50 on the best days they would solve a homicide
But assault, against a random person where you are never going to again against people who aren't locals and possible in a major city?
Odds are 20% or less you never get found out.
>>17091423
I really gotta be honest pal, you should have stayed, or called the police immediately after. You were in the right. They were assaulting you, and the dog did exactly what dogs do when their owner is in danger. Even the most peaceful dog would attack.
You fled the scene, and you've been hiding for two days. They will find you. You may even face charges.
Your best chance is to report in, tell them what happened, including the panick and running away on pure reflex and confusion, and that you've been afraid and didn't know what to do.
Those bitches would have burned if you stayed put. They may still, but not if you stay in hiding.
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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
>talked to a girl yesterday after class
>seemed to go well; similar interests; she brushed her shoulder against mine while we were walking and sorta lingered; few lulls in conversation toward the end though
>didn't ask her out because we have a sections class together on Fridays
>I'm guessing she was waiting for me to ask her out toward the end of the conversation yesterday
>as we were going our separate ways yesterday she said that she'll see me next week, then realized that we have class tomorrow and corrected herself (I think she sounded a little excited/happy too)
>didn't show up to class today
Girls: Does saying "I'll see you Friday/next week/Tuesday" to a guy mean anything? I'm guessing she just couldn't make it today, but I've noticed that another girl has said the same thing a couple of times.
I'm assuming it's much better than a curt "bye."
>>17090342
Also, is shoulder brushing/lingering a good/solid sign?
>>17090502
It can be, but it's not enough to go off on its own.
I'm probably going to have to fight this guy tomorrow, I keyed his car (long story). He's like 6'2 and one of those undercover security guards that arrests shoplifters. I'm 5'10 and slim build. Advice?
Bring a knife and key his body.
>>17088763
you don't fight him. fighting's for children and professional athletes. just remember if he confronts you: whoever takes the first punch is the lesser man. it takes a man to throw the first punch, but it takes an even bigger man to walk away. that's how you truly win. stand behind your actions. if keying his car or whatever you did is enough reason to assault you you must have really deserved it. or else he's a dumb ass for possibly gaining a criminal record for something so petty. don't fight him anon. take the high road.
Man why would you key his car...I don't understand why people do this because your car is part of your soul.
Did he catch you stealing or something?
Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years. We're 22 and have been together since high school. We've shared a lot of first experiences with each other. Have heard multiple times that should not be so committed at such a young age.
Anyone here with first love stories that can give me input on whether or not they regret staying committed so long?
>>17088598
I've got a good friend who's been with his gf since high school. Been about 12 years for them. Easily the most committed, healthy relationship I've ever seen.
If it's working for the two of you, then you should stick with it.
>>17088598
Same sitch, just one year older.
23/6 years.
it's fine. i don't know. if you're happy, it doesn't matter much.
>>17088598
Don't fall for the hookup culture meme OP. You have something rare and special.
>Have heard multiple times that should not be so committed at such a young age.
Says who? Not the statistics. Highschool sweethearts with few to no other partners between them is a recipie for the highest success rate in marriage.
Once again: do NOT fall for the hookup culture meme. Take it from someone who gave up what you had to sleep around. Its a sad, shallow life compared to the closeness and intimacy you can build with one person over time and starting young.
I got as far as putting it in the breach last night and then sitting for about two hours until I passed out and awoke about 6-hours later in utter pain from sitting for so long with my back slouched.
You tell me where I can find other smart people.
I have never in my life felt as though I was in the presence of equal or higher intelligence. To me, everybody seems like rock-beating nuckle-dragging primitives.
In that sense, I am alone. I will always be alone because nobody understands the language nor the level of consciousness on which I perceive the world.
It's like stargazing and trying to share it with a dog: they will NEVER comprehend it and so you are left alone.
Tell me, /adv, how long would you choose to live in such agony? If the world were nothing more than 3-year-olds and you were the only adult and they never matured, how long would you live alone with your thoughts before you went crazy? Where do I go?
boy lemme tell you something, when you can stand over somebody in a conversation, how do you deny that you have a broader scope of perception?
Do you know what that's like? Do you know what it's like to talk to somebody twice your age and force yourself to dumb down your own words and statements so that they don't get harmed?
If what you're implying is true, then why do THEY constantly call on ME to fix their issues and for advice, yet I never call on THEM because THEY have never had something I needed.
That's like saying you have more money than the banks...as you take out a loan from said bank.
>>17090804
>I have never in my life felt as though I was in the presence of equal or higher intelligence. To me, everybody seems like rock-beating nuckle-dragging primitives.
oh boy here we go.
You are not the smartest person on earth. You probably are not the smartest person among all the people you know.
Academically I am smart. Coasted into the top in 10 in high school. I coasted through engineering school. If I am prepared I can impress you with what I can do. Catch me off guard and you will think I am knucledragger.
>Tell me, /adv, how long would you choose to live in such agony? If the world were nothing more than 3-year-olds and you were the only adult and they never matured, how long would you live alone with your thoughts before you went crazy? Where do I go?
If these was that level of difference in intelligence I would take over the world and work towards living a Sci-fi dream.
My gf and I have been together for seven years and have two kids together. I've always been faithful and a good provider as I have a great job which involves working from home at least part of the time (this will come into play later). That said, she works as well in the field of mental health because she likes it and works 3-4 days a week doing that.
A few weeks ago she suggested that instead of outside day care that she brings a female co-worker into the home to be a nanny. I told her I'm fine with it if that's what she wants. She says she does as it saves her time not having to drop the girls off. I agree and it's settled.
Fast-forward a few weeks later, I meet the nanny and she's actually pretty hot. Girlfriend leaves for work. Now I find myself basically alone in my house with a hot nanny for at least a few hours at a time several days a week (kids napping, etc.). This is not good.
I need some advice. Is my gf trying to set me up for failure? Is she just that dense or way too trusting of people? Over the years she has mentioned in passing wanting to watch me fuck other women which I've never pressed her on so is this her way of trying to move forward with the conversation?
Females - would you ever put your man in this situation and if you did, why & what would you be thinking? How should I handle this?
Males - How would you handle this if your gf put you in this situation?
I'd think I could trust the father of my children to be able to control his damn self a few hours a week.
Do you not know her well enough to know if she's generally dense or is just trusts you much more than she should?
You seem to have a pretty big communication problem in your relationship. You're unsure how she perceives you, and rather than talking to her you're trying to be a mindreader. You've already established two possibilities: she could be into it, she could be trying to set you up for failure. Third option though, she was honest and wanted to get a nanny because it's easier.
You're setting yourself up for failure if you do anything without talking about it first.
>>17090036
I get that, but I wouldn't put her in the same situation if the roles were reversed. This thought process is what drives me nuts about people. Sure, you should be able to do a lot of things like walk alone in a dark alley at night or go run with the bulls for an adrenaline rush, but shouldn't you kind of expect things to go wrong if you do these things?
Dear A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J ,K, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, U, V, W, X, Y, Z, and 24.
I loved all of you and I hope you all enjoy your new boyfriend/girlfriend/xhirfriend/friend/buddy/chum/pal/amigo/sensei/mother/lover/baby/surgery.
On the other hand, I am so very pissed that you didn't give me enough attention/love/sex. It made me very angry and I hope your buddy/chum/pal/amigo/ese/chinese/boygirlfriend get burnt in a car wreck and become ded.
D'aww who am I kidding? Of course I still loves u.
Signed, Ω
PS: Lub u, let's get sum fuck
/thread we can all go home now
I'm fucking bored. Who wants to come try and kill me. I have nothing else better to do. I'm a rare kill it's worth it you can send me to a taxidermist. It'll be sick.
>>17082739
There's no denying that this pretty much says it all.
What causes men to be invisible to women? I mean average guys, not basement dwelling neckbeards.
>>17086061
Lack of confidence
>>17086077
Nice bait.
You know the drill
I bought a couple of videogames using my ex gf's credit card a couple of days before we broke up.
I'm glad I did.
Said this in the previous, but her it is again.
Every time I talk to her, I always go and analyze her actions during that conversation, hoping to find a way to make us happen.
Though I know it won't, she's rejected me once already. I guess it is partially a gut feeling that everything may fall into place down the line.
I'm going to kiss you on the lips tomorrow and there's nothing you can do to stop me.
I just read the young love thread and now I'm incredibly depressed and my self esteem is 0.
I'm 25 and I've never had a boyfriend, no guy has asked me out, no one I've liked has liked me back
I've missed out on so much because I'm just so ugly and boring and unloveable
I feel like killing myself.
Advice?
Be a slut, You'll have a white knight fall for you and you can bleed him dry.
>>17089364
Are you gay or female?
How ugly are you?
I desparately need help /adv/. My gf of 3 years just cheated on me with her ex. We both love each other so much but I dont know if I can look past it and forgive her. It makes me even angrier because in the 3+ years we have been together, we have done everything but sex. The only reason I didnt dump her instantly and am thinking about working it out is because I decided to experiment with a guy behind her back once and didnt tell her about it but she actually had the guts to tell me about her affair. Please help.
>>17088082
So is this bait? You posted this earlier today. I guess this is bait. Fuck you for making we waste my time earlier
>>17088089
I really really wish this was bait man. I dont ever really come this board but i cant talk to any of my friends about this because of the gay stuff.
>>17088089
>>17088094
I just posted it again because i was hoping to get opinions from more people.
Ok so last night I asked out a girl to come to the aquarium with me on Sunday, it will be our first time going out. Anyway, what do you guys suggest I do for the date to make it the best possible?
I plan on suggesting to change the time to the morning so we can eat at one of the restaurants in the aquarium for lunch instead of getting kicked out at 5 pm (when they close). How do I do that? I plan on saying "Hey, are you ok with me coming in the morning instead, like 9 AM?". (btw fish land opens at 9 so that will be best time to get there.)
Also, how do I make it clear that this is a date and not a couple friends hanging out? I don't know how to initiate hand holding, I'm afraid I'll make her cringe or something, plus I've never been in a relationship or even held hands with a girl before. I'm not sure if I should feel out the situation during the date or if I should be very explicit about it. I did offer to pay for her ticket there, but I'm not sure if that is enough.
All right I chose to be explicit, lets see how this goes. Still waiting for the reply.
>>17087818
Quit waiting around for her reply. Go do something productive. God you aren't even in a relationship yet and you seem needy as fuck.
Well you made it clear its a date. Now focus on reading her reactions during said date. Then you can progress from there. Also no thinking, this will come naturally to you. The more you think percentage of failure will increase.
Also good job taking my advice yesterday and growing a pair of balls.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xppg2plHqB4
>>17087818
Don't text too much. Talk and ask her things in person.
>I don't know how to initiate hand holding
Just brush your hand against hers, see what happens.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
>fart guy
lost
glad he's included now
Girls (Or guys for that matter)
Would you ever trust your gut if it is telling you that you will end up with someone who rejected you not even two weeks earlier?
(Note: In my case, my gut is saying that it will all workout with her in the end, though she rejected me already. I know it won't work out, but my gut is saying otherwise. It is just saying to be friendly with her, and everything will fall into place down the line.)
Ladies, say you left your partner of six years to live in another country.
Say you told him that you are still in love with him, and want him etc, but don't want to come back to the country he lives in because no bad association with original country.
Say you want to be single for a while because you were in and out of relationships most of your life and you want to know if you love him for him or for everything he has done for you.
Say you told him that he should try and date other people to see the same.
What would you expect the guy to do? Accept shit and just move on? Or would you want some show of resolution and move to the country as well after a year or two?
As a side question, how much of those reasons stated above are typically bullshit (from a woman's point of view)?
It's obvious that the online dating pool is catered to Caucasian males. I recently performed the following experiment.
With my real profile, I would send out very detailed replies, sometimes even referencing the specifics of a female's profile, so that she knows I've read everything. Additionally, my profile is equally detailed. After literally hundreds of messages sent, I get no replies; just 1 or 2 fatties and maybe a 1 or 2 on the 10 scale.
On the other hand, I recently created a profile of a good looking Caucasian male with limited profile information. Nothing too detailed. I don't even send detailed responses with it. Just a "Hey" and maybe a smiley face.
What's sad is that even those females who specifically state they won't reply to men who say one or two words, or even one spoken word of ebonics.... they still message me back.... with extreme enthusiasm on top of it. In fact, 85% of the females I send messages to reply and they're excited about potentially meeting up.
If this isn't proof of sexual racism, I don't know what is. Online dating for me personally if extremely difficult... but I guess not for white guys. baka. I could probably make a good blog out of this one.
It's like, some of these profiles are low key designed to weed out black people who are thought to be uneducated... but even when a really educated one like me responds, they pretend like they never even seen my message.
"these girls are not into me, RACIST!!!!!!"
>>17083312
You should probably do some real research. The results are out there. If you look on okcupid, overwhelmingly so, the minorities are typically the only ones who mark off that ethnicity doesn't matter.
I don't know what to tell you other than the fact that you're delusional about the website itself being racist or out to get you. The girls you're talking to just aren't into you or prefer white guys. I'm sure you're a great person at the end of the day people have preferences about what they want in a partner, and race is one of those for a lot of folks.
Either keep putting yourself out there, or go to a dating website specifically made for people of your ethnicity, you'll likely have more success.
48 year old man
Married 24 years
six kids, 2 grown and out of the house
won and lost, succeeded and failed enough to know a few things
Ask away
[had an end-of-month meeting cancel]
>>17085865
do you get happier as you get older?
If you have an adult daughter can you set me up with her?
>>17085865
I'm trying to move into networking-based marketing (I sell life insurance) to generate leads. Any tips on that?
