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Is there a list of useless college majors? What are some useless majors?
Philosophy, history, anthropology, sociology, liberal arts, and anything incredibly specific and useless to anyone like transgender studies.
>>17087887
So anything with "studies" in it.
>>17087887
I love marine biology, t-b-h.
Please let that be useful and fruitful.
So I quit my job about a month ago because I was under the heavy impression I had another job lined up, I interviewed 3 times, had great rapport with the managers, they kept assuring me I had the job but never gave me an offer.
First they said they would get back to me on the 17th, then the 23rd, which they never did. Called them yesterday and they said the manager said he would call me back that night, never did.
Can I apply for unemployment in the state of California for quitting my other job on the premise that I had another opportunity but it didn't pan out?
I also left my other job on good terms, and only put in my two weeks when the guys that wanted to hire me reassured me non-stop.
inb4 "never quit a job until you have an offer in writing, go back to your other job, etc.
>>17087848
>inb4
Well, in practice it's the obvious truth. I get being excited but it's just general common sense. Go beg for your old job back
>>17087855
don't think I have a chance with unemployment?
How do you break up with someone youve lived with for 4 years?
They still really love me, but our relationship is dead. We do nothing.
They have few local friends and their family is on the other side of the country.
What do?
Be honest. What's worse than dragging an emotionally dead relationship along after 4 years? 5 years. It has to end, so just get it over with. Yes, it will suck, but isn't it better for everyone involved?
>>17087831
Thats my thinking.
We have a vacation planned this month. I think after that. Maybe things will magically turn around.
>>17087823
Your coworker must be so hot. She ruined your relationship.
We're both 24, met ar work, develop an infatuation. She tells me she really likes me but she wants to stay with her boyfriend shes only been with for two months. What do i do in this situation is she just using me as an emotional pillow? Is this a huge red flag and i should abort? I mean shes all over me all the time touching me and bitting me and playing around but wtf.
>>17087790
She would do the same thing to as she is doing to him. Move on.
Uhh, yeah that's a red flag. If the position were reversed, and you were going out with her, wouldn't you feel a bit worried about your current situation? She doesn't seem trustworthy in the slightest. She actually seems like a horrible person
The thing is we agreed to not follow it further so that we dont hurt the other guy or anybody else, i dont want to fuck around and be all sneaky and shit either. I get that happyness shkukdnt come at thr expense of other but its not like they are super serious, it seems she jumped into something then i come a long and now shes scared
Hey guys. I was chatting with a chick on anti-chat. It says you have to be 18 years old to use it and her profile said she was 18. Anyways after we were chatting for a while she says she was 17, turning 18 in three days. I immediately told her to stop talking to me. Does this sound like a sting or am I just being paranoid. I feel like they would have to be more clear about the age from the beginning.
>>17087772
17 is legal in most place 2bh
>>17087772
>turning 18 in three days
Your desperation is showing.
>>17087776
Not in North 'Murica
Which job would you take if you were in my situation?
Finishing college in a week and have two offers. I didn't think I was going to get any and now I have two. One of which seems ridiculous.
Job A:
Basically 70k, big city in south, company seems off, glassdoor reviews say managers are fucktarded. People are very nice.
Job B:
60k, same city in the south, company is well known and established, reviews say the place is excellent. People are meh.
>better pay and nice people
Hmmm
>>17087769
They seem dysfunctional
>>17087791
Don't trust reviews that much. A well-known and established company is more likely to see you as being replaceable and won't have much interest in training you.
Saw a thread where a fellow oldfag was giving advice and I thought I'd throw in my hat.
40 years old
Professional audio engineer
Two kids
Married for 16 years
Fucked up more things in my life than I got right but I'm a better man for it. Ask away.
How do you keep a woman happy?
For say, 16 years?
>>17087750
The most important part of any relationship is listening.
No matter what we go through my wife and I can always find a solution when we sit down and talk about it, face to face, no bullshit. Maybe we've been lucky, but its sustained us for almost two decades. If you would of told me that was going to be the case when I was 18 I wouldn't of believed it.
When we were younger we moved around a lot, went to concerts, had crazy nights on the town; keeping things interesting was easy. Now we have to put time aside just for us but regardless, making her happy makes me happy.
If making your woman happy doesn't make you happy you're probably with the wrong one.
what is your height and weight. also,
what other boards do you frequent
>At Macy's
>Some guy in business casual attire comes up to me and asks if I've seen the new Superman movie
>Thought it was kind of weird but engage him
>Keep talking some more
>Later on he says I seem like a sharp guy and would like some sort of business partner and that he's a business owner
>Ask him for a card
>He asks for my number
>Says he'd like to get together at a Starbucks and discuss his business opportunities
Is this some kind of scam or is he just gay?
It was odd that someone would come up to me like that.
>give your opinion on a superman movie
>become a business partner
Seems legit
>>17087727
I told him I haven't seen it lel
I agree with you, it sounds very odd. Most likely a scammer or con man. I strongly suspect that his next move will be to describe an "amazing investment opportunity" that will pay off "big" and all you have to do is let him borrow 10k money and he'll "get back at you"
How do I learn to cook for myself? I'm fucking my budget and my belly up with fast food
>>17087714
Youtube videos. Cook what makes you horny. Might as well start here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUP7U5vTMM0
I also like jacques pepin and munchies on vice.
Cooking cheap is another matter entirely. Cooking in bulk is the start, but there's a balance with the versatility of ingredients in multiple dishes so you don't go insane that becomes an art. Also means you only have to cook lunch or dinner like twice a week.
>>17087714
There's magical things called cookbooks. There are also other tools, like looking up basic cooking techniques and videos with a computer to learn how. It's like magic, learning about different subjects like that.
Like the guys above said, youtube videos and cookbooks. There are lots of Internet sources at your disposal. Don't forget about the cooking shows on TV. Do you have a relative or friend who's good at cooking? Or maybe take a trip with someone to a grocery store if you can and ask questions, and for suggestions.
I don't think there's an easy way to describe "how" to cook. It's a skill; you practice it. You won't be good at first. You'll make a lot of mistakes, but won't get better by avoiding it and not trying. Pick a dish you want to learn how to cook, and practice it. Start off with easy dishes, and then move up to harder ones at your pace. Cooking is a very valuable and useful skill, so I wish you luck.
How do I tell my friend that I just don't fuck with him anymore? No real reason in particular, I just find him annoying now. We've grown apart and have different interests and shit. I can tell the conversations are force when we talk to each other.
Only reason I'm having a hard time is because he's been my buddy for quite a long while.
Just stop talking to him. Years from now you might regret it but fuck you, this is what you want
>>17087696
Don't leave old friends behind.
That's what women do.
>>17087699
>>17087700
Well yeah, I feel kind of bad, but he's not really the type of person I can just talk it out with. If that were the case, we'd probably be on decent standing right now.
>gf of 3 years
>she has debt
We both met while she was coming out of college. I was already 1 year out of college in her town doing contract work. I was working / doing food service in between contracts. When she graduated she had a job lined up and worked for 6 months and got let go. After that she took a year off from working while she was still looking for a job. She was living on Employee insurance.
Fast forward today. 3 years into our relationship. She does part time work and volunteer work in her field. I have a job. We haven't gone on vacation / I don't feel comfortable with moving in with her cause she doesn't have a job.
The problem is shes in debt and doesn't really have any plan/strategy/motivation to get a job . I'll constantly offer help, suggest jobs that I've seen online and be patient.
Well now the relationship is at a point of sink or swim. Feels like anything I suggest she just gives me a fucking excuse or just starts crying. Honestly it feels like she just wants to have kids / have someone deal with her debt.
I don't see any REAL effort to get a job.
e.x I woke up every morning applied to jobs for months on end. or her she thinks that's insane.
she claims she applies to jobs. but I think its just fucking bullshit just to get me off her back.
feels like I'm some sort of father figure and shes a dumb teenager that won't get off her butt to take responsibility for her life. or relationship is great. but when it comes to serious shit. money / future etc. She's all feels and no real fucking plan/idea of action.
>>17087663
I feel like I've done everything I can on my end. Most of our relationship is just me being patient on her. As the relationship goes on I feel a pressure to commit more. But she doesn't have what I need to commit more.
I feel the second we move in she'll become more lazy.
Give her an ultimatum: Get a job or your relationship with her ends.
>>17087678
This is basically what I said.
IT honestly feels like her plan on life is as follows
>I have debt
>maybe if I don't talk about it , it will go away
>someone else will deal with it
seriously I don't understand it at all
What do I do /adv/ I have been with a girl for 8 months and we tend to argue a lot because she tends to take out her anger on me unintentionally because she is gets stressed out quite a bit and recently shes been very upset about it and apologizing and being more attached to me. In the past she would leave me over little things and then she would come back sorry and she wants to try to be less "oh look drama I'm going to cut you and everyone out of my life" she is very anti social and prefers to be on her own but I managed to convince her that she should keep me in her life and since then shes been actually trying and being lots more affectionate. She tells me she won't let anything get between us anymore which is a good thing. Me and her are very opposite with little in common such as that she is sporty I am not, shes more of a person who likes going outside and going to the gym as I am the type of person who enjoys themselves gaming. Recently there was a bomb threat at where I am currently getting my education and I was roaming the halls and I had to go to the closest classroom so a teacher taken me in and there was this one girl who was pretty cute and a gamer. Me and this girl have been talking a lot for the past two days and it turns out we are extremely alike with interest and with the way think about things, the only thing I found different with us is our political views but that doesn't matter. I've been having feelings grow for her over the amount of time we known each other, today she told me she likes me as well but the problem is that I am taken and I don't know who I want. I don't really like the thought of leaving someone for someone else but I have been stuck on this for awhile now. My girlfriend lives in Canada and I live in the US, my girlfriend and I plan on meeting up in the summer and the other girl lives already near me. I don't know who I want and I look forward to advice from you guys and see what you suggest. Ask me if you want to know more.
tl;dr
>>17087720
Tl;dr version is that I am having difficulty deciding who I want to be with
>>17087731
the second one.
This isn't a joke . I feel allot better when I don't masturbate,but for the past few months I can't help be do it everyday. What are some techniques I can utilize to make me stop? On a side note,I have a bit of a dillema. I have an attraction to little girls, lime 6 yr olds. I think jerking off controls it, but as I said I want to do that less. If I haven't jerked off I'm really hot and I can't help but stare at them. Also I've been lifting almost everyday after class which for some reason working out makes me horny,so that doesn't help.
>>17087623
Lol I didn't mean to say I'm really hot.
>>17087623
>I feel allot better when I don't masturbate,but for the past few months I can't help be do it everyday.
<falling for the nofap meme
Religion helps a lot of people through problems like that. Granted, a lot of people have the urge to masturbate ( maybe not to little 6yo. But still) so you are not alone. I would suggest seeking psychological help for the attraction to 6yo though and most likely they will help with the masturbation problem as well.
I barely have a libido, I don't want power, I'm not materialistic, I'm fine with both solitude and companionship. I'm not a basement dweller, I go out often enough and get in new situations an average amount I guess. Life is so fucking bland sometimes, and I want to feel desire for someone or something. Give things a meaning and experience more emotions. Desire something else than having desires. What do I do, /adv/?
Do something for other people
You might be depressed. And/or you aren't being exposed to new shit. Life gets very bland if you fall into a routine. Everyone has different tolerances of bland.
Try new shit.
Isnt this the way to Nirvana?
Sorry for the novel
>be me, grade 6
>meet girl in same grade, fall for her instantly
>we became super close, best friends even
>she'd call my house phone and we would talk for hours every day after school
>her parents loved me, i was the only boy ever allowed at her house
>i was always too afraid to tell her how i felt but one day she asked me if i had a crush on anyone
>she could tell when i was lying because we knew each other so well
>got me to admit i had feelings for her
>"i like you too"
>i literally jumped in happiness when that happened
>she has to go
>the next day, my awkwardness gets the best of me and I'm afraid to talk to her in fear of ruining it
>later that day my other friend comes over
>"dude *insert said girl* just told me she has a huge crush on me and now she's my girlfriend
>my 12 year old world falls apart for the 4 days they "dated" (6th grade remember)
>she says sorry, asks me to still be her friend
>i say yes, still have strong feelings for her
>we continue being best friends
fast forward to grade 7
>We stopped talking because we started hanging out in different cliques (we started middle school, you know how that goes)
>we don't talk for a few months but my feelings never went away
>she texts me on new years eve
>"id honestly kiss you right now"
>i reply "i would kiss you back"
>she tells me she loves me
>at this point i just say it
>"i love you too"
>she leaves me after a few weeks, i get sad but whatever
>still have feelings for her but we don't talk after this
skip to 9th grade
>we start high school
>end up having the same class
>friendship rekindles
>become extremely close friends again
>i never stopped feeling for her, always too afraid to say anything
>she starts having a lot of different boyfriends and would always come to me when they mistreated her, id always comfort her
>i watched her get heartbroken over and over and it killed me inside, but i never said anything
please let me continue first
cont.
skip to grade 10
>she gives up on boyfriends, hangs out with me
>nothing was ever explicitly implied but you could feel the tension between us
>she'd always be really close to me and rest her head on my shoulder or give me really long random hugs and say how much i mean to her
>i loved it so much
>halloween happens
>we are in a group of friends but they're being annoying
>every time she rests her head on me a friend comes to try to interrupt it just to be a jerk
>we leave on our own, end up at park
>sitting on a bench, its about 11 p.m.
>we get closer and closer
>i finally sum up the courage to hold her hand
>she holds it back, looks at me and smiles
>i kiss her (my first kiss by the way)
>i lean back in a "wow did that just happen" way
>i waited 4 years to do that
>she says my name, so i look at her, and she leans in and we literally just kiss over and over again for 2 hours
>i walk her back to her house, holding hands, thinking life is just so perfect
>i kiss her goodnight
>next day, she wasn't at the place we usually meet up at before school
>don't think too much of it
>walk in to a classroom to say hi to a different friend
>she's in the corner sitting close to some other dude and we make eye contact and she makes a face like she knows what she just did
>she tries to apologize to me over and over again, saying how she just wanted us to be friends and she's afraid of ruining us
>i forgive her but things aren't the same
>literally 2 days later she starts making out with a friend right in front of me
>never felt so heartbroken seriously
>i leave, don't talk to anyone in that group for 2 months
>she apologizes again and i say whatever
>friendship isn't the same anymore
>we still were friends though
>i still felt for her even after all of that
>summer comes a bit later, and we start hanging out a lot
>she starts getting close to me and i don't know why but i kissed her again
>she kisses me back
>"we need to just be friends"
cont.
>at this point i give up, end up meeting a girl at an attack attack! show and we start dating,
>relationship ends badly
skip to end of senior year in high school
>she messages me on Facebook, and i figure eh why not
>we start talking again
>i tell her everything thats happened to me in the last year and a half-two years since we last spoke
>we catch up
>she ends up going to a college 3 hours from me while i go to community college
>we text each other occasionally but nothing too serious
>back of my mind i realize i still have feelings for her
>an hour later she texts me
>"i miss you so much"
>we end up flirting again
>she snapchats me nudes
>I've wanted to see that for 7 years at this point
>"lets hang out soon"
>two days later, same friend from 6th grade (at this point i considered him my closest friend) who "dated"her for 4 days texts me
>"DUDE I GOT LAID LAST NIGHT"
>hes kinda a player so i don't think too much of it
>"oh yeah? thats cool dude!"
>"guess who though?"
>the very same girl
> i feel crushed, tell him what happened
>he gets pisses, instantly stops talking to her and apologizes to me a million times
>im not mad, he really didn't know
>i eventually stop talking to him too though
skip to 6 months later
>she texts me "hey"
>im so pathetic i reply
>i still have feelings for her
>she invites me over
>we hang out just normally
>after a while she lays on her bed and I'm just sitting on the floor awkwardly
>"you can lay down too, you know"
>i lay down next to her and we talk
>i kiss her on the cheek after she keeps getting closer to me
>"you shouldn't have done that. i have a boyfriend you know. You should leave"
>i apologize a million ties and she seems fine
>texts me a amonth later
"im drunk and my boyfriend just cheated on me"
>i reply "I'm sorry, are you okay?
>"why do i even text you, you don't care"
>never replies to my texts ever again
skip to now, a year later
i miss her and feel for her and i don't know why. what do i do?
get over it.
