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What's a good place to meet a STEM guy who lifts? I go to the uni gym, but no smart guys there. I have nice guys in my classes, but they don't lift.
>>17090711
>i go to the uni gym, but no smart guys there
unless you talk to each guy and ask what their degree is, you can't actually know that.
>but they don't lift
that is unfortunate. try sitting in on other classes if you can, but its a waiting game for the most part.
>>17090711
>An average body isn't good enough for me
>>17090711
Most the people who lift in my gym are stem. Most the people in my school are also stem. Try seeing if they have a lifting club. Also how much do you even lift?
For the first time since graduating college, I've worked for the same company for more than a year. The problem is I live in Los Angeles where finding a full-time job is difficult and, even if you do, living on a single wage is near impossible.
I had a job offer today from a summer camp in the midwest, where I'm from. I've been thinking about moving back. I'm concerned that after the summer camp well paying office jobs will think I'm a job hopper again because I left a stable source of income to move to my home state for a temporary position.
I took the position because most places won't hire out of state applicants and intend to find a full-time job or school year employment, whichever comes first, once the summer is over.
What does /adv/ think?
>>17090700
>i live in los angeles
were neighbors.
>ful time job is difficult
>Even if oyu do living on a single wage is near impossible
i have a part time job, currently live off of 1,400 a month. i rent half of a 2bedroom apartment with a view of the hollywood sign. the other room i sublet.
just sayian.
>moving all the way over there for a temporary job
its...
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>>17090748
Thanks for the response. The camp job will pay for room and board the entire summer. After that, I plan on staying in the midwest for the rest of my life. I'm concerned they'll think I plan on taking summer jobs the rest of my life or bouncing around.
As for the costs of moving, most of my belongings will fit into a large suitcase. I don't travel light; I live light.
>>17090751
travel costs include the cost of travel, not just your stuff. but if you are planning to settlei n the midwest, dont worry.
no one looks at someone who just moved, sees you have a temporary job and thinks 'WOW WHY THE FUCK DID YOU TAKE A TEMPORARY JOB YOU MUST NEVER WANT A REAL JOB TROLOLOL'
worse case scenario is you explain it, but literally everyone knows that sometimes you just take a job to get paid. people in charge of hiring know this more than anyone. if you had lived there six...
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>i over hear ex's bf saying he's trying to get her on the pill
>she then later asks me in the day that if he would theoretically bails i'd help out with a kid
I know i should say no and keep away, but i truly never had dad. This new guy she's seeing he ain't shit. I don't even try to make eye contact with me and he get terrified when he sees me, his around her. He also has like 8 personalities.
My question is, what do i do?
>>17090651
Enroll in community college and take an English class.
Also, stay away from your ex. Neither of you are smart enough to raise children.
>>17090651
>Talking to your ex
Stop being stupid and tell that bitch to fuck off. You really want to put yourself on the hook for caring for chad's baby as second choice to a skank?
Look at your life.
>having anything to do with an ex
>not proofreading your posts
Re-explain the situation coherently if you want help.
Hi /adv/ I usually stay in /k/ but no one there would be able to help me with my issue. My friend, we'll call him T, recently began binging on bars. I really don't want to see him throw his life away. Any help to get him to quit while he's ahead would be appreciated.
>Tried talking to his parents
>Tried telling him how I feel
>Tried getting him to go to rehab
>>17090594
Mind your own business fag.
>>17090635
if you had friends, especially one since preschool, you'd care about them too. But I bet you're just a socially awkward fag
>>17090594
addict here. he won't stop until he's ready to.
gl
App ideas
I need app ideas that will make money without getting sued give me original ideas thanks guys
>>17090592
try thinking of one! that should help!
Low hanging fruit is gone. Market is stupid saturated. You gotta do something really big and substantial. Something very difficult.
I was trying to work on a guitar tab writer that generates tabs from an audio stream. I got it relatively accurate when I play slow clear notes, however fast notes, bends, whammies and chords I have no idea how to pull off. I started reading on how to detect harmonic patterns and it is fucking insanely complicated. I frankly don't understand the math behind it. I haven't found a similar app so it must not be very easy to do.
>>17090592
Make an advice app that responds like Doctor Bot from Space Station 76:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHx2KU_v69A
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxH08loyRRs
Third date ideas?!
On first date met girl at arcade, but only stayed for like 10 minutes.
Need a third date idea, and I was wondering if going back to that arcade would be lazy because we barely spent 10 minutes in there.
Second date we went to two museums.
Third date ideas? plox
>>17090568
do things you enjoy. if a girl judges your date ideas as 'lazy' then she isnt the kind of person you want in your life for any amount of time.
Don't do a movie, that's a shit date because you are quiet and don't actually interact.
Take her to dinner and then if you are of age have drinks after. Third date you should go for the kiss if you haven't already. If you have then go for a long kiss and see what happens.
A good date is like a playbook in Hockey. Start with a general plan but react and adapt to the situation.
>>17090568
Take her to your cavern of desire and bury your flesh club in her tunnel of lust. Lay out your finest wolf pelts before she arrives and praise the fertility gods for a the next fortnight that her womb will be ripe and ready for your seed.
>know some guy
>briefly met a girl he is apparently friends with while meeting the guy for a brief chat
>today go into the gym
>"oh hey anon"
>what
>look towards the source
>a girl I know I recognize is there
>remember I met her in some kind of public place
>she can tell I recognize...
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>spill spaghetti
Don't be so self-concious, if anything she seems to be the one who should feel on the awkward side of things.
Look at the exchange from her point of view.
>>17090566
You didn't spill spaghetti, but I'm not sure why you friendzoned yourself this weekend
But you're golden dude, clear to pursue this as far as you like
>>17090566
Cock blocked yourself
Hey /adv/,
I tried to write out this whole story but it turned out way too long.
So, tl;dr version:
this guy I had a fling with became infatuated with me.
I broke up with him when he got clingy.
I don't want to talk to him anymore because he started getting emotional and being a dick to me.
Now he keeps messaging me/bothering me and is bugging me to hang out.
How do I get him to leave me alone?
I'll give more details if you're interested.
>>17090538
Did you ghost or tell him it's over?
Have you tried "Please stop messaging me. It's over."?
>>17090549
>>17090550
I told him it's over.
So this is where more details would be helpful:
He got clingy, I told him I wanted to break up. He got super emotional and basically would get upset every time he saw me and made my life a living hell for a few weeks until I broke off all contact with him.
We were good friends before all this happened, so he apologized a month or so later and we hung out once or twice but then started getting emotional and being...
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Had a crush on this guy in my class for a few months. Finally asked him out yesterday after thinking he was reciprocating but was just shy. Had to do it online because classes have ended. He turns me down because he's in a relationship, although I do think he was also checking me out at least a little bit. I still have to take the final exam, how do I not be an awkward fuck and maintain a shred of dignity? I know guys handle rejection all the time, I just feel like such a creepy fuck for checking him out all the time and stopping him after class to introduce myself. Shit.
laugh it off and continue being normal. say hi when you see him and don't try to purposely avoid conversation, that will make things awkward. being normal after a rejection is best.
>>17090535
We've only talked like once for 30 seconds so that won't be an issue lol. Mostly just been exchanging glances (so I thought). I thought when I went up to him he was just nervous but I guess I made him uncomfortable.
>>17090537
ehh it'll be fine mate. you didn't do anything wrong by taking an interest in someone and going after them. their response afterwards, being uncomfortable or whatever, is on them. as long as you keep acting normal, you're in the clear.
What does it mean when a girl says you smell nice and look "cool"?
It means she wants to marry you and never leave your side.
It means she finds you attractive and fertile.
A girl told me I smelled nice one time, and I asked her how I smelled. She said something like, "I don't know. Good man smell."
IIRC, smell is an indicator of fertility/sexual compatibility and some other stuff.
>>17090501
She wants the D
>have performance anxiety
>doctor says I don't need viagra, just need to calm the fuck down
>ask him to give it to me anyway so I can do it once or twice, learn that "oh this girl actually does like me", then not use it anymore
>gives me generic equivalent
>tells me to start at 20mg
>doesn't work
>go up to 30mg
>doesn't...
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probably gave you a placebo so you would think the pill would work and finally relax to get an erection
instead it's still on your mind and the placebo had no effect. a lot of performance issues really are because of anxiety. being in the right mental state could mean the difference between getting it up and not being able to get hard at all, even when your super hot gf's ass is right in your face
You want help?
Calm. The fuck. Down. Chill. It's not gonna be the end of the world. Pills are not help. Never. Be strong.
>>17090488
complain about generalized anxiety and get a script for benzos instead. i guarantee you'll calm down
I want children but I'm gay
wat do?
Adopts. Find a surrogate.
Kidnapping.
>>17090473
adopt. surrogacy. find lesbians who want a baby (this can be complicated but it can also be good for a child to have 4 parents)
also consider finding a couple of lesbians, impregnating both. they keep one child you keep the other. visits regularly but thats it.
pretend to be straight. sleep around with ho's. when one gets pregnant offer to keep the child and they dont have to do anything (this could be sticky with you being a child support for a child you never see).
there are many...
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Hi,
I'm a straight male. Over the years I gradually fantasize homosexuality. I even fap to the idea of being fucked and bugger some gay arse. I think porn and chans have a role in this but that's not the matter. The problem is I don't like this situation, not one bit. I personally think that this is a disease of mind and body. So, what do you you recommend to solve this problem? noporn? nofap? and for the record after I cool down from a masturbation session I terribly regret it and loath it.
Nothing is going to change it. If you're fantasizing about fucking dudes and getting fucked by dudes, then you're gay. Period. Quit being a homophobe and just accept it.
>>17090468
>I'm a straight male
>But I fantasize about getting fucked by guys.
>Oh, and I fantasize about fucking guys, too.
>In fact I masturbate to it.
Yeah, okay, whatever you say.
>>17090468
this is not unique to you. I've dated a lot of dudes. I was the first for many of them cuz i came out early. it was always the same thing
>IM NOT GAY
>I DONT LIKE THE GAY LIFESTYLE
>I STILL WANNA SETTLE DOWN AND MARRY A WOMAN AND HAVE KIDS
>I CANT IMAGINE THAT WITH A GUY
>I JUST USE DUDES FOR SEX BUT AM ONLY ROMANTIC WITH WOMEN
every single...
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confidence.
how do i achieve maximum confidence? how do i stop having insecurities.
>>17090461
Well my man you gotta start just beeing urself my friend and all things will work themselfs out from there.
>>17090461
confidence is simply certainty. to break it down further, Confidence differs from cockiness because confidence means you have something to back it up. that is why you are certain.
most people arent confident in the way you think. they arent confident that whatever they do will be successful. The thing they are confident about is that it won't negatively impact their life.
a 'chad' has no issue going up and talking to a girl even though he gets turned down quite a bit. hes not afraid...
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>>17090638
So,
to achieve confidence you simply have to dissect a situation and think about whether or not it will actually hurt you. chances are, it will only affect your life if you get the desired outcome. otherwise your life goes back to normal.
certain circumstances i recommend staying away from. for instance dont ask out a girl in your immediate social circle, as it can cause tension from within the group. but if the girl is one you dont have to associate with closely on a regular basis, dont worry.
dont...
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Question for any girls out there: do you get turned off by a guy if he compliments you too often?
>>17090424
Yes, because it's too often. Often is very different than /too/ often. Too much of a good thing and all that jazz.
>>17090424
I get turned on by seeing two guys make out. You should do that to impress the girls.
Am not a girl.
But that girl in da picture is so beautiful.
