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Britbong here, I'm in a dilemma as to whether or not to go to university
I get the feeling like I'm being tricked into it as no one ever seems to bring up any negatives
I'm academic and not vocational but I still don't feel like the debt would be worth it
I thought that uni only really benefits those who want to go into a specific career and make connections with people in the industry (eg. dentistry, engineering)
I don't have any career aspirations and would be doing a degree in classics and philosophy which seems like a waste of...
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I'm second year Uni of Aberdeen and I hate uni. That's mostly because I feel like I chose the wrong degree and as a result I feel like I'm wasting my life and now have no choice but to waste the rest of my life as well never being able to do any work i actually find fulfilling. I thought about not going to uni, but I was too afraid of the uncertainty, I would say If you know or think you know what you want to do then just do it, uni is fucking retarded a lot of the time dude and it really doesn't make you a more intelligent person. That said be realistic...
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It might be different for Britcucks because I don't think you guys need to take out tens of thousands of dollars worth of loans to get your degree, but what I generally tell Ameribros is that they shouldn't go to college if they don't know what they want to do and how to get there.
>>17092529
Isn't University free in Middle East 2.0? Might as well go if it is, who cares that it may take you 6 years.
im a relatively successfull 27yo guy with good genes and a nerd. could also have aspergers, but have compensated a lot of it.
I like girls that are nerdy, i like redheads and because that was the only thing people ever liked on me when i was young, I am kind of strict in that i want to have my kids to have blue/green eyes aswell.
At the moment I have found a pretty perfect girl in my book and we date and fuck since a month.
Problem is, a chick I am not really interested in (doesnt fullfill my requirements above), but go jogging with regularily seems to be...
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>unironically using the word nerd
>>17092489
You're wording is a bit off. Are you seeing to girls or one? I'll take it as two and say that...
The one you go jogging with is only in it for the money. She's looking for security, not romance. She'll seek romance elsewhere in the long run.
With the shy one you're going to have to communicate your needs straight forward. Tell her you're not feeling loved and you feel the romance is one sided. Try not to make it seem like a business deal or an ultimatum, but like its coming...
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>>17092560
im OP, yes there are two different girls
The girl A I date (hottie)
the girl B I jogg with (not my taste and niveau) and dont date, and never have.
yeah i also think that Girl B isnt my type and she is also a bit damaged, should I just friendzone her and treat her like a friend? Nothing is official with Girl A so far, but should I tell girl B so she stops trying to win me?
Yeah, i think I should tell that A directly, how do I word it the best?
do I say "Men have needs aswell",
do...
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What does it mean to be in a wedding? My sister got engaged and her fiance asked me to be a groomsman. My friends are excited that I'm in the wedding? I'm not even sure what to do.
Groomsmen just stand there dude, you don't do shit.
But a lot of people are dicks and make you pay for your own tux rental. Because like, I guess it's the least you could do for this over exuberant display in addition to your expensive gift on their registry.
Fuck, weddings piss me the fuck off. What a waste of time and money.
>>17092497
>Groomsmen just stand there dude, you don't do shit.
You may also be charged with ushering people to their seats, but this is generally pretty easy. As you stand in the doorway facing the altar, friends of the bride go on the left, friends of the groom go on the right, and close family sits up front.
If there are an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, you may be asked to walk one of the bridesmaids down the aisle. Again, easy stuff.
Question: where is the...
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>>17092527
>Question: where is the wedding going to be? No need for specifics: the country and general region is enough
Southern England, I'm from Canada though my sister moved there
>gf wants ffm threesome
>asks me if i want to have sex with other girl
>say yes
>shitstorm ensues as she says it's fucked up as i want to do that
am i fucked in the head or is she over reacting?
Your girl friend is a childish cunt. Leave her.
>>17092432
I mean like she's fucked in the head honestly. "Hey wanna do something just about 95% of straight men want to?" "Sure" "HA I LIED IT WAS A TEST YOU DONT LOVE ME >:("
>>17092432
had a chick do this to me on multiple things. RUN.
>be me last week
>Meet a girl in my class
>Ask her out to lunch
>she says yes
>she flakes
>she still continues to talk on facebook
>however i feel awkward that i asked her out so early
>feel emotionally drained even though I know i dont have any reason to give a fuck
Is there anything to really feel awkward about...
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Or overcome it to not be awkward around her?
>>17092564
yes
>>17092408
you need to think of it from a different perspective m8
people ask people out to shit all the time, most the time you ask girls 'out' it should really be seen as 'hey come hang out, no expectations just I think you're cool'. The fact they are female doesn't matter.
So just be cool. You've done what you need to do, so that's good. She will make the next move if she is interested, it might be subtle so be ready. If nothing happens then at least you know she would...
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Is there a way to turn someone who is straight gay?
I'm 100% straight and no. We find gay sex instinctively physically revolting.
No, there really isn't. They might be bi, though; you can always ask.
I'm 100% straight, not a homophobic like other anon, my best friend is a lesbian, my childhood friend is gay, I go to gay clubs/bars pretty regularly:
Nope.
If you're gay, you should know better than anyone that some things just feel... right, and other things don't. You can't force anyone to feel anything they don't.
Does it look/sound good to American people?
>>17092391
Where does it come from?
>>17092400
It's of Indian origin!!
>>17092391
Doesn't sound bad, maybe a little hard to pronounce after reading. People with unique names tend to be more successful though
Should I ostensibly convert to the same religion as my fiancé in order to keep his family happy?
He's Christian, I'm apathetic about religion.
No.
What could they possibly gain from this? Wouldn't your piety be recognised as fake?
I wouldn't do it. I barely stayed sane going to church every Sunday with my wife's family for a couple years even though they knew I was an athiest.
>>17092383
They'd gain peace of mind that their son isn't marrying someone of whom they knowingly disapprove.
We'll be living on the other side of the country to them, so it's not like they'd know I don't go to church.
sup /adv/.
My girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up with my yesterday (Thursday), rather harshly at that.
Two months ago she already wanted a relationship break, but I talked her out of it. But on Thursday she completely broke up, saying that nothing changed, like I never want to go out or anything (because University is stressing me hard the past few months). The point is, before Uni became so stressful we actually did quite a lot and even now we were doing things that are rather rare occurrences, like going on proms and stuff.
We also had a small talk 2 months...
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>>17092237
bump
That's nice of you to be honest OP with what you want.
Here's the main issue: She broke up with you because right now you're boring and a downer. She wanted to break up with you more than two months ago, the fact that she was asking for a break was already the breaking point...she gave you two months and all you did was convince her nothing will change.
So basically she had 5+ months of being sick of you. Who is their right mind is going to willing go back to that?
That doesn't mean you're completely fucked, she still loved you...
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>>17092314
Sheesh sorry for the lack of proof reading, i am very shit at typing
So you're going to need some back story for this one.
Dated a guy for 4 years. Let's call him Ben because that's his name.
Within a year I started receiving messages from his ex girlfriend, she said they had been fucking the whole time we'd been together. Said she had proof. I confronted him about it, he said it was bullshit (obviously). I asked her for proof, she wouldn't provide it. Nearly broke up with him but I was fucking stupid. It all died down. Went on for about a year without incident.
Two years in he tells me he's...
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Six months later things start getting weird, his friends are acting really strangely around me to the point where I'm scared to hang out in social circles because it's making me seriously uncomfortable and my female friends are ‘warning me’ but are too fucking weak to actually tell me what the fuck is going on. I finally discover why when I'm at an Australia day party and I go off with a mate I went to primary and high school with to get more booze. Out of the blue he asks me why I'm with Ben. I say I love him and he proceeds to tell me how Ben is telling EVERYONE that he wants to break up with me, has been sleeping with other women for months and is only with me for convenience. I confront him, don’t believe his whinny bullshit excuse but like a full spaz, I let it go and things die down again.
We have a quite phase for about 6 months, where I’m actually giving him a lot of attitude and essentially telling him to ‘fuck off if you don’t like it’ daily. He sticks around, I’m sick of being in a relationship where I know I can’t trust my partner but I just don’t leave. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it, it’s not healthy and I’m aware of that but I just don’t leave.
The last year of our relationship I felt kind of trapped, he would get quite mouthy when he was drunk, once throwing a MAJOR tantrum in a supermarket and literally screaming at me, I left, hailed a taxi to which he came running up to, pulled the door open and dragged me by the arm out of the cab.
About a month before we break up he tells me his parents are selling their house and moving to the country. Within days the house was up for auction and sold and they were planning the move. He hadn’t told me they purchased a new house, hadn’t told me when they were in the planning stages of selling. Generally selling and buying houses takes a few months so learning about this just weeks before it was all finalised was a shock. The little slime ball had been hiding this from me and also had his family hiding it from me.
I was at his house a few nights after the auction,...
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Finally the maggot declares that he is moving to Newcastle. I pretend to be sad. He says I can go with him, I make excuses about how I don’t want to leave mum who has health issues and we agree to split. Couple nights before he leaves he shows up, tells me he loves me, starts crying about how he’s scared to go on his own. I stonewall the fucker because I am NOT falling for that shit and have finally found my feet and grown a pair of balls.
Ben moves to Newcastle, I discover that dating actually can be really fun and life is not this horrible endless pit of bullshit, I’m...
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My girlfriend has all the symptoms of a pregnancy (nausea, headaches, "stomach"aches, hunger, etc..).
The last time we had sex was like 2 months ago (long distance relationship) These symptoms started from before, and since then she had normal periods (abundant blood, red blood).
Is it still possible that she is pregnant? We always used condoms and almost always checked if they broke or not after using them so I think it is very unlikely. I have also notices that her belly grew a very little and this makes me worry. Maybe she is just becoming fat(?. Thanks
Still having periods? That's the stuff the baby needs to live but i dont know. Definitely go to a doctor just in case you want to abort.
>>17092220
Really could she be pregnant? If it is the stuff the baby needs to survive, isn't it more likely that she is not?
>>17092225
I'm sure there is some medical exception to it. But my guess is there is no baby, but get that checked.
Need help identifying this spot on my chin. Sore, no head like a pimple, only clear liquid and blood comes out when I drained. Sorry TMI
Just wash with a lot of soap. Dont get your dirty band on that things and leave i there. Id it doesn't go away within 2 wweks or so go see a specialist
Dirty band?
It's probably some kind of ingrown hair or infected sweat gland, and the reason why you don't see any sebum when you lanced it is because it hasn't "come to a head" yet and it is in the beginning stages of the infection cycle.
It can be "brought to a head" quicker by applying a hot compress. If you go to a doctor, they will prescribe you oral antibiotics to treat the infection.
Pimples in the chin area apparently indicate hormonal imbalances or issues in the genital region, and once you resolve those issues they should stop reappearing....
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> be me
> always wanted to slay pussy
> couldn't cause health reasons/shy
> Start lifting, get first gf at 18
> things end 3 years later, keep lifting
> meet current gf
> she is 19 and had exactly the life I always wanted.
> fuckbuddys, spring break, etc.
> everytime I look at her...
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you're already clutching to her
She didn't in her youth and I can garantee you she sure as fuck isn't clutching to you now
>inb4 love
She probably "loved" multiple other guys before you as normal people do
Just have fun, if it works out, it works out; if it doesn't you might as well still hit 10
>>17092181
How am I clutching if I have already planned to break up with her while I'm 3 months in Asia this summer (internship)
How is she not clutching if she's willing to spend a ton of money to visit me there?
>>17092182
It's a simple excuse to see asia without actually having the expenses of actually trying to live there.
and still, if you are already planning on breaking up with her, what's this thread even about?
Should i just start seeing escorts?
I've got the money, I don't have the best luck with Women (well its more like i can hardly ever meet any), and it seems to me if you want to fuck random women you're going to end up shelling out a lot of money anyway. Some escorts seem incredibly hot, the sort of women you'd be extremely lucky to ever get a chance with, which further increases my interest.
But then i don't know, is it a bad idea, is it awkward, how does it go down, do you feel like shit afterwards.
Is there anyone here who's...
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Some people can have a very good time with sex workers. It might make you feel ashamed or guilty afterwards, or you might feel fine. It depends on what you want and what your relationship is to sex.
>>17092148
Well i understand the difference between sex and love making.
>>17092141
Its an often bizarre blend of shame, and self disgust but your body feels relieved, it doesn't care how it happened.
I have this best friend that is a 10/10 grill and I find her super cute and attractive. She has a lot of guy friends but hasn't dated anyone in a long ass time. I was sure that almost a year ago she liked but now I'm just getting mixed signals. She used "flirtatious" emojis when I was positive we were having a moment. None the less I'm really good friends with her, and recently I've been talking to her on the phone and she has brought up taking showers a lot, she calls me a tells me she just got out of the shower, told me she'll be right back because she's gonna go take a shower, how long she showers, she told me she remembered something about when we hung out, when she was in the shower, and the other day she was talking about how she thought of a good brand name for dildos while she was of course in the shower. This is the first time she's done this and it started a few weeks ago. I know I sound like an OP fag but is she trying to turn me on or something? Or am I just so deep in the friend zone that she's really comfortable with talking about detailed showers? I have felt strong feelings of her flirting with me but other times she's all "k" with me. Need help anons
Fall in or bro down?
>>17092135
>She has a lot of guy friends
She is doing the same to the other guys
drop her.
>>17092135
She has some weird fixation with showers. Bitch needs therapy. Also, having a bunch of guy friends is so she can get validation. Every girl does that, duh. It's like how guys are friends with girls because they have at least some super tiny hope that they can get some.
Whatever guy said men and women can't truly be just friends is totes right. There's always one wanting more and one at least semi stringing them along
You're probably right dude, I can't drop her as a friend though. She's done so much and has been so fucking helpful. How do atleast lose attractions towards her?
