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>be me last week
>Meet a girl in my class
>Ask her out to lunch
>she says yes
>she flakes
>she still continues to talk on facebook
>however i feel awkward that i asked her out so early
>feel emotionally drained even though I know i dont have any reason to give a fuck
Is there anything to really feel awkward about since she's in my class?
How do i overcome this so i can focus on my studies?
Only way is to find another distraction... Perhaps asking out another woman and continue to ask our women until you become numb to that feeling
>>17094797
Tell your teacher that she cheats off your tests and others, you've seen her do it.
>>17094827
college
I started dating this hellish succubus dysfunctional woman last year. I was busy with work/college, and she kept bringing me burgers/pancakes at work. She was trying to get me fat so other women wouldn't hit on me, I found out she did this to her last boyfriend.
I dumped her, but now I've gained 20 pounds. I've tried everything but can't get it off. I've been running, jumping rope, done stronglifts 5 x 5, and cleaned up my diet. I just keep gaining and losing 5 pounds.
>>17094767
CICO. Literally just eat less. That's it.
Find out your TDEE. Eat that -500kcal/day. You can eat whatever you want. Healthy food is preferable obviously, but you can lose weight eating absolutely anything.
Remember to count absolutely everything you eat, though. The cream in your coffee, that cookie you snatched at work, etc. It adds up.
>>17094767
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
have you tried to stop eating fried food
>girlfriend was a feeder
JESYS CHRIST
So I noticed this in the back of my throat for the first time yesterday. No other symptoms, my throat isn't even sore. I don't drink or use tobacco products of any kind. I likewise don't use drugs, including prescriptions. I'm a fairly healthy person, 22 y/o. Any ideas?
inb4 "go to the doctor, we're not licensed professionals." I'm not looking for conclusive answers. Just seeing if anyone has experienced anything like it before. Don't want to run to the doc and possibly throw money down the drain in random tests and visit copays. Google searches jump to crazy shit like cancer.
Jesus Christ you're dumb. See you in the Darwin awards
>>17094746
Pretty much this.
You look fucked though.
Go to the doctor, we're not licensed professionals.
What do adults look for in friends?
I want someone i can sit around and do nothing with, like in king of the hill when they chill outside doing nothing. I want to go over to someones house and talk about or partake in a commonly shared hobby, but i'd also like to be able to loiter/loaf about at their house and or mine without it being seen as a big deal.
That's unattainable correct? If i met some random fucker off craigslist or a similar service he'd want to meet up to do work, he'd have an activity planned and scheduled but there would never be any hanging out for no reason, and that's basically what i want a friendship that has that.
Is it possible? how would i go about getting this?
INB4 jobs and school
i don't do any of those things anymore
Once you're 20 and have no friends you're basically fucked, it seems. Those types of friends you gotta cop during your early years...
>>17094692
TV sitcom friendships aren't real. Neighbors are real. Spouses and SOs are real. Co-workers are real. Even affinity groups are real (gaming groups, book clubs, sports leagues). Because of jobs and families, most people don't have enough time to cultivate "just chill" friendships. The nature of friendships change as people get older. People will drift in and out of your life as friends, but there's generally something that gives you a reason for bonding in the first place (job, SOs, children, shared hobby / interest).
my best friend and I live 3,000 miles apart now. But even though we travel to see each other twice a year, it's still like old times. We can basically loaf (because it's vacation time from work) and not feel like we have to entertain each other.
>>17094730
These tragic news.
>>17094730
>most people don't have chill friendships
>describes time spent with his best friend as just "loafing" (read: chilling)
u wot m8?
wish somebody gave a shit... o well
Find people that do, drop those that don't
I feel you, ive also had people leave me in my time of need. Im always there for them tho. it sucks to be on this end of the stick.
>>17094646
I've never had a true friend...
I went on a date with a great girl. We got along swimmingly, had lots to say, laughed a lot, shared many commonalities etc. When we were together I didn't want the fun to end. But when I got home I felt nothing. It was like I didn't even have a good time with her. I had no feelings. I feel like I'll need to force myself to message her again. Big deal, right? All that means is that we're not a match.
This is actually the 5th time the same thing has happened in a year - meet a good girl, click instantly, go on a few fun dates, but then I feel nothing. No reason to see her. No warm fuzzy feelings. Nothing akin to madly falling in love and always wanting to see her.
A few years ago I was in this same situation except I ignored these feelings and forced myself to date her. After all we clicked and got along. It was actually a good relationship but I never felt totally in love so I ended it out of guilt.
Do I have the wrong expectations when it comes to dating and love? Is this normal? What can I possibly do?
For reference I am 25, dated only one girl but slept with a few more.
It just means you need to grow up.
You are like a child.
>>17094695
Possibly.
What's a healthy expectation of love? All these experiences make me feel like I'm simply hanging out with a friend.
Probably had some fucked up shit in your childhood. Did you ever get put in daycare/neglected/ or abused? If so, not the end of the world, but you probably aren't comfortable with intimacy. What you're experiencing could be just 5 flukes in a row, but that'd be unlikely.
So I'm gonna have sex with my girlfriend for the first time (we already have done oral) and she decided to tell me she has only cum from penetration once. Now I have competition. I'm afraid I won't be able to do it. I just felt hollow, I felt scared. I still do right now. I let her know, she said she was stupid to say it, it wasn't even good, it was shit, I'm better, she didn't want to hurt me etc. She then told me a story of her ex telling her flat out that some other girl was better and how mad it made her. She told me she doesnt care about anyone in her past, she only wants to be with me, she said she was scared she would say something to fuck everything up, she tried to rectify it and I appreciate it but I still feel literal gnawing in my heart, and ive never felt it before. I don't know why, I can't let it go. I shouldn't let this ruin this relationship, but I feel so fucking scared I want to cry. I've been here long enough to expect le cuck memes
Should have put a TL:DR, Sexual insecurity is ruining my shit what do I do.
>>17094626
Tell her that its her problem.
When a guy can't get off, women will tell him its his fault and not the girls fault.
It kind of actually is because I had a similar problem until an ex girlfriend got me off once, then it was a lot easier with vag sex, sodomy with the mouth, sodomy with anus, and hand rubbing from another person.
Its in her head.
>>17094626
You fuck her right in the pussy.
She chose you because of some shit other than your dick (assuming you aren't a nudist).
I'm sure you both will work it out.
I want to love and respect my boyfriend like I did before I learned of all his fuck ups. How do I do this? 3 year relationship.
Do I need to see a therapist for this?
What fuck ups?
>>17094607
If everyone could see every single shitty thing you have done all throughout your life, I bet the vitriol you'd receive would be hilarious.
People do all kinds of shitty things throughout there lives and your post kind of makes you come across as a bitch.
Seriously just break up with him, its not a big deal you said you don't love or respect him so just leave for gods sake.
I don't see the issue here.
>>17094631
Including but not limited to:
Nearly cheating with a stripper
Camming with girls, escorts, phone sexing and the like.
Being lazy, even in sex.
Sex is shit in general and we average twice a month mainly because of his hand to dick compulsions, he's never in the mood.
Fucking up my parents rental by staying there but never cleaning it. He just hides mess in the cupboards. Rotting socks in places I didn't know existed.
He bores me. We have good conversation but I find myself bored with him a lot because that's all we ever fucking do. Talk. He has no sense of play time and serious time, he wants to be silly ALL the time.
Any hint of criticism lands me in hot water with him, he shuts down and out and I don't hear from him until I let whatever issue I have go. He is hard to talk to about this.
I enjoy less and less things everyday.
I made a post about this about a year ago and I didn't think it was possible to find anymore things I could lose interest in.
I can't lie I might be slightly depressed I guess, but even so no matter what, I find it extremely rare that I can even manage to chuckle at something that I may even find funny, or even find music that I can enjoy.
Now I'm starting to not care if I eat or can smoke a cigarette.
I go out normally, and am sociable wherever I go, but I am still feeling this way and its been almost 4 or 5 years at this point.
I have to go to work obviously, but I am starting to feel as though its getting hard to do that as well at this point.
I'd really like help, I'm not trying to be whiny as I guess my life is not too bad as I'm not homeless or something at this point, but how can I be happy and like things that I once liked before? How can I be like normal people. I don't want to admit it, but this kind of hurts in a way that I can't explain and I think at this point I feel complete apathy about my existence at this point.
I'm sure others have experienced this at some point as well and if you have what did you do to get over this?
I am a 26 year old man as as I said its been almost 5 years since this has been an issue.
>>17094581
Have you tried doing whatever else you're used to do just because fuck it?
Y'know, try things you don't think you are gonna enjoy all that much just for the experience. You might like it or, at least, you'll be doing something new, so when you get back to the things you did you'll get less bored by it.
>>17094617
Yes, I used to enjoy hobbies at home normally, and after that didn't work I tried going to events, and meeting people to try various activities and even hobbies I enjoyed. Also as I said I do go out regularly and I drive often to various places outside of my state which is something I haven't started until recently, but it still feels not enjoyable.
>>17094617
OP again
Thank you for the suggestion.
I may just need to give it time, my head is starting to hurt from this but maybe in another 5 years I will feel better.
Thanks anon
Okay guys, don't laugh at me here, but I think I'm dating a werewolf. I noticed that very late at night, usually around midnight, he always leaves even if it's in the middle of sex. Also he gets really hairy, and when he comes back after the times he leaves, all the body hair is gone and his clothes are dirty. I think that what he does is chain himself against a tree while he transforms, and he loses his body hair as he does it. This can be confirmed by the chain marks around his neck I saw yesterday.
How do I deal with this?
go to /x/, they tolerate this roleplaying shit
werewolves change at the full moon, not every night at midnight
I think you're dating a pumpkin.
My old faithful Toyota 96 finally died, right as I'm graduating college. I've got 5000 in the bank.
I need to save up money so I can move to New York where there will be a lot more job opportunities for me. My current internship pays very little.
I've done a good deal of research. I want to put a down payment on a car that I can use for Uber. Then use Uber to pay for the car and save up money.
What I figure was that if I put 3k on a 10k vehicle, I'll pay about 300 a month on it and about 250 a month for insurance. Seems like pretty high insurance, but that seems to be the going rate for "ride-share friendly insurance". I currently won't need to worry about rent.
I want to know what can be expected of purchasing a car? Fees associated from buying from dealers, how do I spot bullshit, how much can I expect to talk the price down? Do I have to deal with this shitty try-to-fuck-over-the-customer style of sales from the 70s?
My current plan is to walk in and basically have a plan printed out like : "This is the car I found online, I want to test drive it. If I want it, I want to put down exactly this much and I want to pay no more than this a month, for as short a period as possible. I don't want to talk about other cars or finance options, I want exactly what was advertised on the website or better or I'm leaving."
Yes you can expect to talk to the price down. Just say something lower than you want then let them come up to something. Or they will say no.
Before you actually buy a car, pay a mechanic on Craigslist to come and check it out for you. I caught two people last time trying to pulls some shit. Something with the radiator, and another one with the air conditioner or air pump or something.
You're going to overpay at a dealership.
>>17094570
Holy shit why is your insurance $250? You just need standard insurance to drive for Uber. In your case get liability since it's a used car.
My insurance is $225/month but only because I have a sports car now with full coverage and a DWI. Before that liability on my truck was $75/month.
Good luck trying that if you go to a dealership. They're gonna bullshit you, but yes stay firm with what you want. Don't come off too abrasive. It's good to be assertive not be an ass. Low ball them first then eventually stop going up when you get to the price you don't want to pay more for. You don't have complete control over financing. It will depend on what the bank they use allows based on your income. You'll probably have high interest even with good credit, like mid 4-10%, and a long payment plan with low monthly payments.
>>17094586
I'm so sketched out by buying from owners. I bought a car for 2000k once when I was younger, even got it looked at by a mechanic. The head gasket cracked on day two. I was lucky enough to have redneck cousins willing to harass the fuck out of this dude into giving my money back. Turns out he knew it blew and put some kind of sealant shit in it that he knew would only last a week at max.
I'm looking for a very specific car, I'm pretty set on a Prius. My friend has had one for years and has said nothing but good things about it. I've also driven it a few times and I really liked it. It's really hard to find a car that specific from an individual.
>>17094611
I just did a Geico estimate, the first time I tried and put "I'll be using this for uber" it shut me out and said "we don't offer rideshare insurance"
What company can I go with? I've heard some will cut you off if they find out you do Uber.
I just want to get a 2009-2011 Prius, so my overhead cost of Ubering will be lower. Or something with comparable MPG/Reliability
i wanna try pursuing rap more seriously but worried being trans will fuck with that.
thoughts?
i only expect to be local right now, but i'm not sure how i'd carry myself confidently.
You'll be hazed pretty fucking hard. That's just a reality OP. If you can handle that, well, follow your dreams
>>17094572
>2016
>implying being trans is a bad thing
OP will be the next big thing regardless of talent for being trans alone.
>>17094584
I didn't imply that. I implied they would receive a lot of bad reactions, and to be prepared for that. Not to say they won't get the opposite as well
What does it say about my sexuality that Arby's gets me harder then sex with my girlfriend?
Nothing because arby's is sexy af
>>17094552
Fuck, that meat is so wet...
>>17094552
You love roasties
I'm 27 with a dead end job I hate and no real skills. The only reason I haven't quit is so I can continue paying rent. I started going to a community college but it feels like a complete waste of my time and isn't moving my life forward. I've only stuck with it this far because I have to believe it's somehow better than doing nothing at all.
Where do I go from here? Is there a realistic career I could get into that doesn't require college or hours of physical labor?
ever thought about working in EMS?
>>17094538
I did but I heard the pay is terrible.
>>17094544
well what are you making now?
I'm a guy, and I am very emotional. Whenever I watch a sad movie, I am bound to shed some tears. I avoid being obvious about it when I'm with my friends, and hide it. However, I have a girlfriend now and I don't want to hide anything about me. Should I tell her I'm this emotional? She knows I am very empathetic, but not that I literally cry when watching pretty much any sad movie.
sure, why not
>>17094535
Don't tell her out of context- that seems a bit excessive and weird. She'll figure it out when you weep at sentimental stuff. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
>>17094545
Does that really seem weird? I don't really cry at ANY sad movie or scene, but I get very immersed in movies and really "feel" the emotions. Also when I'm talking to my closest friends about things that are sad, and I feel they want to cry but are holding back, I also have to hold back crying as well.
