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So I've recently started dating a girl who I'm pretty much in love with.
We've tried having sex a few times and I've found that I'm not able to get much more than a semi, despite her being a strong qt. I can still jack off perfectly normally and I have had sex before, and it's never really been an issue.
What are some tips for dealing with this situational ED?
Probably just nerves because you really like her. It'll pass evebtually. Also less porn
Been through a similar situation myself, I understand how incredibly embarrassing it feels. It's likely a combination of nerves and satisfying your drive through masturbation. Cutting out the jacking off is the best first step, it worked for me.
>>17095478
I don't watch porn, I jack off most days but I actively didn't in the days leading up to seeing her.
I think it might be nerves too, but I want to know if there's any strategies for mitigating it.
I feel like my bf's parents aren't exactly thrilled with his choice. It hurts. What do i do? Do i ignore it and act as if everything is good?
Why do you feel that way?
>>17095440
Parents rarely are, especially at first.
>>17095442
I'm older than him.
We are only dating since 6 months but will move in together in a few months. He's been living at home till now so i will be "stealing their little boy". He's the youngest of the family and the last one to move out.
And i also have a child.
They do have a point, externaly seen. But after all, it's his choice
So there's this girl I work with, and I've noticed her showing some signs she's attracted to me. Problem is, she has a boyfriend. Now I don't want to break up any relationships, but she could end up being happier with me, also I wouldn't mind dating her. What do?
>i've noticed signs
>that definitely means i have a chance at destroying her relationship
>this moral dilemma i've created for myself burdens me so
>>17095431
Who's destroying anything? I'm just saying she might rather be with me. It's not like I'm cheating with her.
>>17095443
has she told you she might want to be with you? cuz outside of her actually saying it you're probably reading too much into it
Is it even worth it? I've lived 20 years of my life now and I noticed that in school I never really looked like the typical black male. My skin is a bit lighter and my eyes are a bit lighter too.. My hair is quite soft and it's bugged me because I couldn't fathom the fact of being biracial. Recently, my brother came to visit from college -- Okay fuck it here's the tldr; My Mother is Puerto Rican and my father is black. Is there really any reason besides self gratification to check out Puerto Rican culture? I'm just a halfy anyway..
If you want to? I'm mixed myself but identify mostly with my country I live in, as does the rest of my family. I guess there's no harm in exploring that stuff if you're curious
>>17095413
It's part of your heritage, so what's there to lose?
It might give you some sense of belonging or it might just be a fun project for yourself.
>>17095413
Who gives a shit. I pray to god in the future my son isn't worried about petty things like this when he is an adult.
I'm not trying to be rude OP, but you are man, a human being. Who cares about the rest. From one black man to another just don't make a big deal about it.
Your race all that encompasses your person or who you are.
Why should I continue living and not just end it now to not experience further pain?
Because of the unforeseen joy
>>17095387
How do I know I will experience joy in the future?
because death is not the end, it's merely a transition to another life where you will have to go through all the same crap again only to reach this "level" that you failed at in the past (this) life.
look into buddhism; suicide is not the easy way out that you think it is. it's much harder to end suffering.
So I've had this insecurity over the past few years that the majority of women I come across under the age of 30 view me as some worthless beta creep the minute they see me. The stranger thing is that I'm gay.
Is there any way to overcome this or find out why I'm like this? I think it's getting really unhealthy
why would you care what a woman thinks?
doubly so for someone who doesn't even have to fuck them
>>17095349
How women view men, ignoring status and wealth, is an indicator of their inherent worth
>>17095344
Come out.
How do I stop feeling jealous?
You don't. You just get more logical
>>17095308
Stop feeling.
how about less logical?
Me an my gf had sex for about an hour an afterwards, the spot she was laying on has these white spots around it. What did she leave? It doesn't look like any stain she's left before.
>>17095297
the stain of another man's semen unfurling out of her womb during sex
>>17095297
Your gf is a drug mule
looks like dried powder? she from columbia?
>M/23
>Girlfriend of roughly 2 1/2 years just broke up with me.
>This was my first relationship
She couldn't give me a reason other than she didn't love me anymore. How the fuck do I handle this /adv/?
>>17095296
Well, you're in the exact same boat i was in 2 years ago, except i was 21.
Don't do what i did which was to hold on to the past and drink heavily.
Instead, do what i did after that.
I went that summer on a spontaneous trip to a music festival with friends, really gave me some perspective.
So, go do something you've never done, preferably somewhere you can explore and meet a lot of new people.
You need to let go of the past and look towards tomorrow as a clean slate where you can...
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>>17095296
>how do i handle this
>how do i cope
>wahhh
ur not looking for real advice when you ask this question. and even if you were the answer would always be the same. only you really know how you'd cope with it in the little ways, but the legitimate answer is you just keep living oyur fucking life cuz your life is exactly the same as it was 2 and a half years ago
you're going to have all sorts of thoughts and doubts and anxities
you're going to think it was all your fault, that if you had done something different it wouldn't have happened, that if you change something you'll get her back
the thing about breakups is that sometimes there's no set reason as to why it happened. sometimes feelings change, sometimes compability wanes, and a lot of the times it's just some arbitrary thing that doesn't reflect on the people involved. people change and it might seem like too simple of an answer...
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I'm babysitting 5 yr old right now, and I casued the child to cry. She won't stop,and honestly I'm not sure how to approach this. I just don't want her telling her parents.
>>17095283
Try shaking them
How did you cause this 5 year old child to cry, pray tell?
>>17095283
Ugh. Mine is almost 4 and I have not figured out how to deescalate. Bubble work sometimes, or ice cream or sweets, but I don't like to negotiate with terrorists, so I normally just throw her in the bath tub, but that might not be so smart if OP is a guy.
My friend done fucked his hand up. How can he get rid of this?
The only cure is suicide
degloving
I vape everyday and I'm still heavily embarrassed for your friend. Why didn't you stop him OP?
I've been trying to hit on a girl via IM for two weeks, and somehow the response was quite positive, until yesterday, when she started to mention her ex, and how she was missing him and that she just messaged him. Now, I feel bad because I invested a large amount of time and energy in the conversation. Any thoughts or advice?
Cut all ties and move on. Even if she dates you, it's going to put a serious strain on the relationship which almost always ends badly. Maybe some day in the future, but that day is not today.
Thanks for the honest advice. I'm definitely going to cut the ties.
>>17095250
The friendzone exists, but it's your fault for going in it.
When you meet a woman she judges your worth as a potential partner. If she automatically deems you unworthy you're not given the time of day. If she's uncertain, you'll have a shot. But you must take this shot relatively soon, because if you don't take the shot then after some time she'll decide you're not interested in her. This is when you're put into the friendzone. The fact she's dumping on you about...
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hey 4chan. i have to ask for some advice. there is girl in our school. i love her but she doesn't know me. i found her name,adress,everything about her. how can i meet with her?
You don't love her, you don't even know her. What you've done is find her attractive at a pure physical level and filled in the blanks of her personality with your wild imagination. You've created someone that doesn't exist in your head, and fell in love with it
>>17095256
This man is right op. Focus on yourself.
>>17095256
+1
ALSO researching strangers like this is creepy as fuck. Don't do that.
Need to know
Literally lives at stake maybe
no
they get high
Not sure about pets, but the vapor has nicotine in it. I'd avoid exposing babies to nicotine, last time I checked nicotine was said to cause developmental delays.
My current job is awesome and I love it but making $20k usd/year doesn't really work so well in your 30s. What should I be when I grow up?
Who cares you married bitch
That's something you have to decide for yourself, Anon.
>>17095225
That's my pinky. And the ring is crappy plastic jewelry from a bath bomb thing lol. I don't even have a bf and live at home.
