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I am 20yrs old. I have never met my father.
I have his Facebook page. I haven't looked. I'm not sure I want to. It isnt so much the whole "expectations vs reality" thing. I'm just getting used to the idea that id never meet the guy.
I was fine letting it all be as it is. I'm afraid of changing this.
Here is my question. If you had never met your father, and suddenly had the chance to, would you want to? Why or why not?
What good could come from just knowing? Is putting a face to all of that pain worth it?
I...
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Why do you have his facebook page? Did you look it up on your own or was it given to you? What were the circumstances of him not being in your life?
My father is an alcoholic and got separated from my mom when I was around 6, now I'm 20. I meet him like once a year and every time he calls me he tries to convince me that he have changed but when I do meet him 99% of the times he will have a bootle of beer in his hands, if he don't have it he'll just go buy one during our conversation even if it's like 7 in the morning
It depends on why you haven't met him but if it's because drug or alcohol reason I would not recommend it.
>>17098211
My mom found it, he knew about me but basically said, "I ain't got time or money for a kid. Sorry, anoness. Good luck with the kid."
>>17098230
I wouldn't know.
I have a half brother, whom I've never met, as well.
best way to deal with this?
Don't be sassy when I suggest you get turtle beach
>>17098201
Someone you know, or just internet strangers? If it's someone you know it's a bit complicated, but if it's just randoms just delete the account or turn off your PC.
>>17098201
Bullied in what way? Through what kind of social media?
I asked out a man because I am lonely and now he is taking advantage of me and I can't leave. I asked him out out of loneliness. I want someone who I connect emotionally to but have up after years of not finding one and I decided to ask out this guy who thinks I look good but he isn't that emotionally connected to me. I think he's schizophrenic or some craziness in his mind. So when he rambles on I always just put up with it but I don't enjoy talking to him . I even asked him to stop rambling cause he usually makes no sense but he doesn't get it and...
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>>17098183
>I asked out a man because I am lonely and now he is taking advantage of me and I can't leave.
>I can't leave
why?
Leave him and become my int gf
Call the cops or some shit. Don't be a dumb bitch
Help me match with hot people
You sound like a real loser. Here are the things wrong I see
>all selfish
Makes you look like you have no friends
>cropped face/covering face
Makes you look insecure about how you look
>letting on about your Manley syndrome
Cmon dude you're not even trying to get laid
>'af'
You should be 18 before using tinder
>indie rock
So does every other fucking mainstream faggot, this doesn't...
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>>17098250
This is all that needs to be said.
>>17098250
Couldn't fit my whole face in the square
You would assume that people who just want to change their lifestyle to be healthier and be kinder to the planet would be pleasant. WTF has happened with the vegan culture that makes them the detestable anal crust of society that they are?
The really nasty ones aren't being vegan because of any personal conviction. They're being vegan so they can flaunt it and shit on other people while keeping a supposed moral high ground as a special snowflake. That's just one of many tools they use
>>17098106
availability heuristic. You only notice the vegans that annoying/intolerable about it while all the other vegans don't shove it in your face. hence why you only notice that ones that are assholes.
>>17098106
What do you mean, corpse-eater?
>go out with girl two weeks ago
>after that we studied together for 8+ hours twice
>today I text her "hey beautiful with a smiley"
>she says I don't think you should call me that we only went out once
What did I do wrong?
You got rekt
You put her on a pedestal, that's what.
>>17098091
The only thing you did wrong is think like a male.
A male will see a date and hanging out with a female as a potential romantic partner.
A female sees this as sizing someone up and putting them on the back burner unless he meets ALL her criteria.
So about a year ago I made the dumb decision to enlist in the Navy. I headed off to Great Lakes at the start of December and suprisingly passed at the end of January. Surprising because I had pneumonia from Christmas on and managed to weasel and lie my way into passing only the minimum of what I needed to make it through. Cool.
Problem is, I'm still here, being held at RTC waiting for the Baby's inept system to push me through. Since I've been here my stress from being in a bootcamp-like atmosphere has built to a point that my body is starting to shutdown...
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why are you still at great lakes and not your a school?
what rate btw
OP?
>>17098102
The pneumonia and now submarine clearance which I'm certain I won't get. The have special division for people like me who essentially handle all the base's grunt work.
I was supposed to be an ITS but that isn't looking too good.
How do I stop being so insecure about my height?
From what I've seen and experienced, it's the trait that has the greatest affect on attractiveness, and short men are ripped on so much in the media, in passing conversation, etc. and it's really starting to hurt. I don't want to show that I'm sensitive to that sort of thing because then I become the "cute" little guy, but when even my friends talk disparagingly about short men around me, I feel like an absolute bag of shit.
pick up a sport where you're at an advantage for being short.
>>17098100
Sorry, forgot the post.
This guy I heard from is successful and married said he never thought of himself as short. He's 5'8 and went his whole life never considering himself short.
Don't think about it. You apply meaning to everything about yourself so don't waste it on some dumb shit like "I'm a failure because of my height!".
I don't get it I'm not actually depressed but as soon as I drink, I start getting the feely weelys. I wouldn't even fully care if I didn't become some little bitch who constantly cries out for help I don't need. I also don't get actually suicidal, just that "look at me shit", last night it got really bad and I spammed my snapstory with suicide talk. I tried to pass it off as meta-humor, it failed and now people won't stop blowing up my phone to see if I'm ok.
I've tried limiting my drinking, but in social situations...
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Try getting at the core of it. Find out what is causing it and fixing it. Maybe you actually hate yourself and don't realize it. Maybe a million other things. No one knows. Find out and fix it. It might just be an insecurity issue.
That's pretty fucked though. I feel bad for you. That snap story shit is a fucking dumb mistake but I feel bad for it. You kinda fucked yourself.
>>17098024
I kind of blame a family member for the fuck up on that end, usually I just get sad and a friend or other drunk will start talking to me and I'll immediately turn around. It's almost like once I'm alone for even a moment, my brain says "time to hate yourself".
Anyways the family member kept blowing up my phone looking for information on DNP (that shit that can literally kill you) and I just kind of went, "you know what will show them, suicide talk".
I probably do hate...
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>>17098030
Try to realize stupid little things shouldn't cause you to hate yourself to an exaggerated degree. Find the problems and fix them. Do some introspection. If it's not liking yourself, start finding how to fix that. Do things you think are good or worth your time. Prove to yourself you're valuable amd worth liking etc. You should NEVER depend on other people for liking or validating yourself. That should come from inside. You should always know and feel about yourself that you're valuable and good...
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So, I've been dating a girl for almost a year and she turned 18 by the end of March. Age of consent in Portugal is 16 so I have also fooled around with her, but always letting her lead unless I felt I could take control and not intimidate her.
Now... here's the thing.
As the thread subject implies, she doesn't look much older than a 13 or 14 year old, if you ignore her rack. But she is tiny (not midget sized), and has a babyface. The cause of her looking underdeveloped in anything but her boobs has to do with her hypothyroidism, which gave her...
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Well for the most part you could not give a fuck and do what you want publicly, which will likely not result in anything but dirty looks. And if you do ever get jt trouble, just put up with it and keep doing it.
Or you could be a faggot and be more tame in public. Don't be as sexual or too intimate. Very simple and obvious solutions. Not sure why you'd come here for advice you don't need other than attention.
>>17098001
How old and developed are you OP? Sounds like you're older and may have all the features of an older man?
I suggest keeping a clean cut face to look younger, but that's really the only advice I have.
>>17098042
Thanks, basically, just try to look as young as I can possibly be.
Dunno my size in feet/inches, but it's 182cm of height, and with a lightly athletic build. I might have the opposite of her condition. This means I have to remind myself to shave every day, but even back when I was 15 some people mistaked me for a clean cut 24 year old guy, so imagine how I look as a 23 year old.
>>17098031
I'm just too much of a sperg to understand how society...
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i need a mic that won't make me sound like bad. price range up to $300 i guess
i deserve nothing less than the best. also i don't want to my internet friends to hear me breathing? sometimes you can hear them breathing and that can't be me help
also what should i do with my life?
U fucking dumb.
>it's a tranny episode
Just get a turtle beach headset for christs sake.
How to seduce a guy?
Level hard: he's your friend
Level harder: without sexual stuff
after being in a relation with the same person for 4 years I've lost my game that is if I ever had any. Now I want to win over a guy with whom I was low key friends. But I don't want to go over the top. So what are little thing girl can do to make a guy fall for her?
You can try:
-Food. Something cooked or baked by you.
-Show interest in what he does or enjoys. Try to ask him to teach you something.
-Compliments do work.
>>17097992
Touch his penis
>>17098004
Thanks anon!
>>17098006
without sexual stuff dude....
So my friend Ruth has borderline personality disorder and has been really pissing me off
are there any things that are specific to the disorder that would really set her off or fuck with her head?
They get CRAZY when off their meds
>>17097977
>my "friend" has BPD
>I want to get under her skin and cause a feud
You clearly have not done your research. Do not engage. I repeat DO NOT ENGAGE. This will go further than you want it to, it will drag on for longer than you want it to, it's just not worth it.
just stop being her friend.
I am now inside for almost 4 years.
I sometimes go out into the garden, but people can look at me there sometimes.
I want to change my life, i want to go out and work. But this build up anxiety is crippling and i can't do shit.
I want to offer something from the Internet, may it be Cannabis seeds, cbd oil, or anything other.
Does anyone of you have experience? It should just lower my anxiety a bit, so that i can go outside.
Dude they make medications for general anxiety disorders. They work REALLY well. They are called SSRI also used for anti depression. They take about two weeks to really start working and there is a risk of suicidal thoughts when first starting (especially in teens/young adults) so tell your doctor if you have these feelings. After 2-3 weeks you'll feel real good man. Hang in there and don't give up. If the first medication doesn't work try another. Just tell your doctor girlie symptoms. You got this bro
Dude they make medications for general anxiety disorders. They work REALLY well. They are called SSRI also used for anti depression. They take about two weeks to really start working and there is a risk of suicidal thoughts when first starting (especially in teens/young adults) so tell your doctor if you have these feelings. After 2-3 weeks you'll feel real good man. Hang in there and don't give up. If the first medication doesn't work try another. Just tell your doctor your* symptoms. You got this bro
Tell the doctor your* symptoms (correction)
>tell 'best friend' i have potentially lifelong disability
>"THAT OPTIMISM YOU MENTIONED SHOULD HELP WITH ENDORPHINS'
what the fuck doe stihs even mean?
I don't get ANYTHING about what you just said.
Like at ALL.
More detail, autismo.
>>17097883
Get the fuck off your computer autist
