Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 925. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 925. page
>had sex with a female friend
>we cuddled all night
>want to turn this into something
How long do I wait before writing to her? What should I write to her? Jesus christ help me /adv/ I'm no good with women
>>17100416
Don't be a weirdo.
Don't ask where this is going.
Just hang out again, flirt with her, fuck.
After having sex with her multiple times, you can worry about turning this into something.
>>17100416
Don't wait a long time to contact her, don't try to make yourself seem aloof. Just don't smother her with too much emotion/expectation too quickly.
Just text her, say something along the lines of "I had a great time last night, you free tomorrow evening? Want to get dinner after work?" (or school, whatever, you get the picture)
Don't be all like "that was magical, I really feel our souls connected," but don't hide your interest or excitement either. If she's not a mental case, she wants you to care about this. And if she IS the type of girl who's terrified of anything "real," it's better to find out early on.
>>17100467
>that was magical, I really feel our souls connected
rofl
>mfw some people would actually say this
>mfw i deleted my reaction folder
How can I stop fapping? I want to stop or reduce fapping in general since I feel alot better and more energetic when I don't. The longest I went without fapping was about a week or so and even then that was a stretch. The hardest part is during the mornings when I wake up and it's difficult resisting the urge to spank the monkey.
>>17100413
she looks really familiar ..
>>17100433
FB fap thread probably
Fuck bitches and you will lose the urge to fap.
So, I found out that my boyfriend was raped when he was 12 by his uncle. I've been extremely angry since then and just want to make the life of this rapist pedophile miserable. Anyone wants to help or have any ideas?
>>17100408
If the statute of limitations hasn't expired, cops.
If it has, just let the past be in the past.
Dredging up the past will probably make things worse.
Nothing you can do but help him move past it, keeping his mind off of it until it fades.
>>17100408
How old is your boyfriend now?
Should I talk with my ex again? Or will she talk to me first?
>>17100407
No.
No, no, no.
>>17100410
Why not though
Why do you want to?
Can having another girl in your Facebook profile picture (e.g prom), be off putting to potential dates?
>>17100399
Your profile picture is meant to be as representative of you as possible. If someone has another person in there, it's generally safe to assume that that person is their partner.
>>17100399
yes omg
I have no idea why guys do that, especially in Tinder pictures
>>17100480
She inititated contact by sending me a friend request and a message request. I then asked her out. She said yes and she flaked the day after. Could my profile picture still be a contributing factor?
How do I pass UK graduate job interviews? I've probably taken part in about 30 processes for internships and graduate roles since 2013 and failed all of them (though I have passed individual phone interviews).
Almost all questions are basic questions about the company or competency questions. I know about the STAR format for the latter. I think the only reason I may fail these is due to not being a normie. I've interviewed with companies in many industries (investment banks, public sector, engineering, and more) and it seems that every recruitment process desires glib normies who are above a low intelligence threshold and who were President of the Anything Society at university.
Do you have any advice for giving off the normie vibe? You may say stuff like "Be concise, structure your answers and so on" but I know literally all of that.
You may know all the right answers, but how's your delivery? Do you give interviewers a weird creepy vibe?
>>17100376
Honestly, sometimes my voice gets clogged up when I'm nervous. But I don't know if it's a big deal. I talk in a straightforward way
you're still applying to graduate roles since graduating in 2013? what have you been doing since then? and what degree can get you into banking, public sector, engineering and more?
I'm not sure what my ex wants. We broke up a month ago yet recently, he said he still wants to keep in touch. He says he's not interested in a relationship though because of stress in his life and our age difference. I'm pondering whether to stick around for him or just let it go. Deep down, I still want to some day be with him. I'm being irrational aren't I?
Just let it go. Maybe someday you'll meet again, when you're both ready for this. But it's clearly not gonna work out unless he changes somehow, and you can't make him do that.
>>17100350
>No context
How can we help you if we don't even know what happened?
Alright. Well, I had been with my ex for about eight months. He's 20 and I'm 28. The past two months, however, he had started to change as school and problems in the family started to affect him. He became less loving and respectful toward me with no change in sight...
As a result, I thought it would be best if we broke up. Being the weak person I was though, I crawled back to him only to get hurtfully rejected. However, after ignoring him for a while , he decided to talk to me again recently stating that he wants to keep in touch. I apologized for acting selfish and desperate while he apologized for acting cruelly. He said he wasn't interested in a relationship though. I still have feelings for him and wonder if he does too.
I think that basically sums it up.
i could really use some insight into my dating profile. my short summary is that while i'm not hideous, i'm also no Adonis. maybe a 4 or 5 - just average overweight guy. i've tried about 10+ years of dating and managed to fuck up one relationship, and out of all the cold starts, i get a couple half started conversations that lead no where or get brushed of. the one time it panned out i'm convinced was a fluke - she even said after we broke up that she was in a bad place and just looking to forget her ex.
because i work nights, i sleep most of the day and commute when i'm not working. the couple days off i get i'm doing chores and otherwise doing the upkeep work (house, car, et c). not too many chances to randomly meet women at all, and my job has no female employees that i ever see (since i work nights).
tried some blind dates, and dates set up through friends that either blew me off or just had the one date. given that with all this the problem i figure is that i'm just not out there enough to be seen, so i tried online dating. in 3 years i've gotten maybe a dozen replies total, most of my messages go into a black hole seemingly. they aren't one liners, my profile isn't a novel, i'm not hounding people. i think one bad aspect is that i just have one picture of myself - i'll get some more done as soon as i can.
i'm the common factor in all this, and i'm not seeing where i'm going wrong. i'm hoping that the above, as well as maybe some answered questions could at least point me in the right direction
pic not related, just a project.
>>17100345
>just average overweight guy
Eat better, eat less, and exercise more. Care about your appearance. It's not even shallow, it doesn't make these girls shallow. It says a lot about you if you have the discipline and work ethic to take care of your body, and it says a lot about you if you don't.
>>17100352
have been for years. from 400ish lbs when i was 20 i'm down to around 260lbs now and still losing. regular activities (biking, fishing, shooting, jogging/walking) as well. i do have some thick hair that gets greasy easily, but i just shower twice a day, easy enough. my clothes are simple and i groom and shave like anyone else.
do you think that i'm not dateable as a work in progress and should just hermitize until i'm fitter?
>>17100345
>i'm not hideous, i'm also no Adonis. maybe a 4 or 5 - just average overweight guy.
This stands out to me. If this is how you present yourself, that may be why you aren't seeing a lot of success. I mean, I understand that these aren't the words you use to describe yourself to a potential date, but it's pretty clear that you don't think very highly of yourself, and that's something that can be a real turnoff. "Chicks dig confidence" is an overused aphorism, but it's true.
I also understand that you can't just will yourself to be more confident. So my advice to you is this: Instead of talking about yourself, talk about the things that you're passionate about (this is, in many ways, the same thing, but if you can't be enthusiastic about yourself, at least show her what DOES make you enthusiastic). The image you posted look like floor plans - are you interested in architecture? What do you do in your spare time? What do you look forward to when you're working or commuting? Talk about that. Even if it's an interest that you don't think your potential date will share, you need to show her what you look and sound like when you're passionate.
I got work in a little less than an hour and don't know if I should go in.
So, I was at work Saturday (I work retail) and customers were pissing me off because it was super busy and they were all ring fucking dicks like they couldn't wait 5 minutes while I took care of the other customers in front of them, so I started to lose my temper and towards the end of my shift some smart ass customer and his fat wife started talking shit and I was so close to snapping.
I needed a price check on one of their items and I asked this older lady I work with if she could give me a price check since I always help her out and she just said "oh no, you're gonna have to do it yourself" and I just lost it. It was the last straw for me so I just said "Fuck that!" Really loud with like 25 customers standing around and she just said "anon come back" and I just yelled "Fuck off" and walked out.
I'm scheduled to work this morning so I called my manager to see if I was fired and he said no but he has to talk to HR.
And what I'm wondering is if I should even come in or if I should just snot go and avoid that bullshit. I'm a part timer getting paid $8.25 an hour working 22 hours a week. Do I just avoid what could potentially be some serious shit if I go back in? Fuck HR and fuck retail.
What do?
Fuck no.
It's retail and quite easy to land a job in.
>Do I just avoid what could potentially be some serious shit if I go back in?
>serious shit
Like what? At worst they'll just fire you, which is what might happen anyway if you don't go in.
Bump.
My manager said I wasn't fired but he needed to talk to me and HR. Which I assume means it's only a matter of time. And I feel like if I go in ill only be in more shit because HR is never there to help. Anyone been in a similar situation?
GF told me she cant tell me she doesnt love me.
But still has sex with me, gives me blowjob when i want, comes home on time, cleans, cooks, watches stuff with me etc.
>Been together for 4 years and some change
>Lived together for 4 years
>Neither of us has a "real" family, we have both been more or less on our own since 15 years of age
>Neither of us has good friends (i stopped talking with mine completely when or before we got together, she still occasionally talks with hers)
She told me that thing about not being able to tell me that she doesnt love me after i made a huge fucking scene and basically kept yelling at her to FINALLY TELL ME that she doesnt love me.
Before the scene we were kissing and then i asked her why she doesnt seem to want to tongue kiss anymore. She said its because i told her sometimes her breath smells.
So i asked if saying something like that couple of years/months back and in the morning means we like wont tongue kiss ever again?
She kept silent and then started talking about how she didnt cook the potatoes correctly.
I told her sorry, but i dont give a fuck about some motherfucking potatoes right now.
Then i just kept pushing and pushing, anger rising and rising, asked her why she doesnt want to go anywhere with me EXCEPT the motherfucking pub (we got together and went on lots of "dates" in the woods, just strolling about)
She said she is tired and doesnt feel like going anywhere. (But kept trying for like 20 minutes before that to calmly get me to bed and watch tv with her, instead of answering my questions )Except we didnt go anywhere for at least couple of months as it seems we are both very depressed.
Before that, i hung out with my female friends and she hung out with her friends until we both got jealous and made each other stop.
What is going on, what the fuck is this mindfuck.
I mean, im not having any illusions i consider our relationship dead. Still, the things she says and DOES dont seem loveless to me
Youre a child playing pretend at being an adult. You really only care about your own selfish emotions. And it sounds like she's significantly depressed.
Overall this feels like a really unhealthy relationship /cycle you guys are stuck in.
That's just my 2 cents as a 30 year old with a lot of bad relationships in my past.
>>17100293
My girlfriend of 4 years doesnt want to tongue kiss, go anywhere or talk about issues and i am caring only about my own selfish emotions?
She kept saying lets relax and watch something etc. as i kept repeating it seems like the only option for us is to split up.
I get a lot of attention from other women, and i have been asked numerously why am i even with her (generally she is not considered attractive at all). Its because i fell in love with her for who she is and how she acts.
Why am i selfish for not wanting to keep ignoring our problems and never talk about them, instead pretending how everything is ok?
Why does she want to keep ignoring them?
She kept saying i should calm down and just go watch tv in the bed with her, but i just couldnt take this status quo anymore, what is so bad about that.
Literally one simple thing i can do is to kiss her and apologize and i know 100% that everything will be exactly as it was until now.
Problem is its not making either of us happy, yet we dont seem to want to leave each other.
>>17100320
Dude look at your reply. I can tell how salty and anxious and needy you are just from how you communicate.
I'm surprised she's stuck with you for so long. Maybe that's the key word - she feels stuck.
You need to do some honest self reflection
What are some cool cult names.im not good at naming anything but i really want to have an etheir creepy or cool name for a bunch of ill willed people who will kill for me.
death eaters, of course
>>17100240
Something that sounds benign can still be sinister.
Like "The Order of Eternal Peace" or something like that.
tunnel snakes
So basically gave someone the middle finger on the road today for being a jerk.
I was going the speed limit and the car in front of me slowed down sharply, so I had to do the same. I noticed the car that had been weaving in and out of traffic who was right behind me, was waving his hands around in a an anger at what appeared to be muy sudden braking. I gave him the finger in return which resulted in a 5km tailgating and roadrage incedent in which he would not stop following me and kept signaling me to pull over. He looked like an utter psychopath.
I was considering pulling over but he looked like john cena on meth and im not sure that would have been a good idea. What could have happened? Should I worry about seeing him on the road in the future (since this was in my area of work/living)?
He could have probably yelled at you, and maybe try and hit you. I wouldn't be extremely worried. How big of a town do you live in? Just keep a look out for people following you. And if you do see him following you, call the police and/or drive to the police station.
>>17100251
I didnt get his license plate because I was quite shocked that this was happening at all, so perhaps next time if it happens, this will be the first thing I make sure to do.
im usually an extremely nice person, i was just having a bad day and did not expect that kind of reaction.
>>17100233
You should've driven slower to piss him off more.
So, I'm sick. Like, not gonna recover sick. It's gonna be a long painful death and honestly I don't want it. How can I kill myself without making it look like I killed myself. I'd like to spare my family the horror of suicide and the horror of watching me die slowly.
Pic unrelated, it's my dogs.
Damn Anon, you could try getting into an accident like crashing into a tree while intoxicated so you're not risking anyone else's life, they'll just think it's an accident. I don't condone trying to commit suicide but what do you have anon?
>>17100219
I don't drink, so if I was drunk I assume they would know I tried it. I have endormetriosis, which is rarely fatal, however after 10 years of surgeries and treatments my doctor told me this morning there is nothing else they can do. I will just have to wait until some adhesion attaches itself to some important organ and kills it.
>>17100230
That's awful anon, the other thing I'd suggest is smoke inhalation from a fire, set from the kitchen or something. I wouldn't want you to burn to death, falling from a ladder doing housework or something related. My best bet would be a car accident, it's believable.
Sup nigz, i got invited by a friend to try weed, 3-4 of my college friends organized it,should i do it? How it feels? Any help is welcomed
>>17100120
4chan is 18+
>>17100123
I am 19
>>17100171
Suure
Pic unrelated. Needed a random pic to upload to post. im on my iPad which has no pics, so I had to take one for this.
I started dating a girl whom I'd been close friends with for the 9 months or so prior to us dating, back In June 2015. Within a couple months we had fallen in love pretty hard, and we're always together when we weren't working. We'd hang out probably 5 to 6 days per week, for almost the entire day. We had tons of fun, tons of common interests, got into a lot of trouble, and just basically had the time of our lives together. We talked about finding a place to live, after about 5 months. Normally I'd be like uh no, but we were extremely close... Looking back, it was still stupid. I guess she was 3 months pregnant with my child (I hate condoms) at that time. Thankfully for everyone involved, she miscarried.
Anyway, she left me out of the blue at the start of January, and was with another guy less than 2 weeks after we broke up. I was really depressed and fucked up in general for 2 and a half months after that.
They ended up breaking up in like March, and ever since then she still tries to act a lot like we're a thing, or still dating... (We're still OK friends, hang out here and there.) she calls me babe over texts and tries to kiss me and stuff still (I've fucked her quite a few times since we broke up.
I can tell she really wants me back and regrets the fuck out of leaving me without talking to me about it and is trying to work it out before just quitting.
I honestly still love her a lot, and miss our relationship. I'm afraid to give her another chance, I worry about this happening again.
Should I quit being a beta faggot and give her 1 more shot? It's literally my decision, because I know she'd get back with me in a heartbeat. She isn't aware that I still feel this strongly.
OP here,
Sorry if this post is shittily detailed and has like no real structure. I'm exhausted, but too high on stims to sleep.
And yes that's my gun in the picture... No, I'm not thinking of offing myself. It was under my pillow, so it was the closest photographable thing. Fuck I'm high-.-
>>17100102
No. You shouldn't. She does not care about you. She just needs you because she hates being alone and you are her best and fastest option right now.
As soon as a better chance comes along she will dump you again. Stop being friends with her too if you can.
You know I actually started reading your blogpost but the sentence structure and general retardation was just too much for me.
Sober up and try again tomorrow
