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>meet girl that i found myself drawn to
>suddenly realize i have the conversational capabilities of a dead rat and can't make much small talk
how do i get better? our conversations peter out after a minute or two
Either the chemistry is there or it's not.
>>17103776
Don't make small talk. Talk about things you actually care about and are interested in. The whole point of conversation with a new potential partner is to get to know each other better. That doesn't happen with small talk. There are things you are interested in, things you know about, things you can talk about for days, and there are things you want to know about her, so talk about that. The big talk.
>>17103776
The more you practice the better you get at it. Just talk to more girls in general even though you don't like them it will help you get your skills up
so me and my friend are technically not dating. we hangout and act like we were dating we were together for 3 years. but earlier we were talking and I asked if she likes someone ever and she said this guy with the same name as me. a couple weeks ago she went to his house to make a catapult or some shit for school .. she says they didn't do anything but I just found 3 pics of him saved I'n the notes on her iphone. like she was trying to hide them. she's sleeping next to me right now wat do?
TL Dr gf is likely cheating. what should my next move be ?
Don't seek revenge, just end the relationship- you already don't trust her. Stop wasting your time and GTFO.
she swore up and down she didn't do anything and she's had other chances to have sex and turned them down (one girl) but I don't know what to believe. 3 years ago we broke up and she fucked another guy the next day and we got back together and a couple months later I found a fwb on Craigslist and I fucked her for like 6 months while we were dating as revenge so I'm kind of just as bad but I stopped a while ago.
>>17103758
>technically not dating
Case dismissed.
>see m8 at uni
>his with one of his other mates
>hey brad, what's happening?"
>snobs me and keeps walking
Knows this guy since high school, to is wrong with people
>>17103757
Wtf is wrong*
my name is Brad and I have no friends
>>17103757
2 cool 4 u.
fuck em.
not worth your time.
Alright guys, we're in for a long one this time
>pic unrelated
So to start things off, I've been with this girl for about 3 years now. In the past 8 or so months, she's changed drastically in response to me becoming more of my own person (I.E, me becoming very depressed but shh). She's become blood-sucking, needy, self-centered, and overall very loud. All she ever talks about is the special needs kids she teaches.
The main point here is I want to break up with her. The big issue here though is that she has a...
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You should like....
tell HER about it.
>>17103670
o dude i tried. Total meltdown. Wasn't enjoyable at all. Started crying, begged me to "not be sick of her" or something. Made me feel real bad. Manipulative as fuck dude.
>>17103673
Hmm. Seems as though you've stuck your dick in crazy.
Buy the ticket take the ride.
I would try talking to her more... beyond that you're pretty fucked.
At what age should I kill myself? Serious question.
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>>17103659
Not soon enough
>>17103649
What's the rush? We all die eventually, might as well enjoy the ride while you're here.
Help, he's funny, smart and kinda hot. I don't want to feel this way. He's also a dear friend from 3 years now. Even if I can't be with him, I think he's a really good person so I want to expend more time with him. I don't want to tell him I'm gay because I feel that I won't be as close as right now because it'll be "weird" for him. Help.
>>17103639
find some gay boi to bang and move on. Trying to convert a straight person gay will only damage your friendship and possibly reputation.
I'm so sick of gay men liking me. I'm not gay, fucking stop it. Lost my best friend, I thought I could trust him, I talk about girls with him. He told me he's not gay. One day sleeping over at his place he started hugging me and trying to touch my dick. Since we're best friends, I tried really hard to put things to normal, but I can't. Barely talk with him anymore. Wouldn't have cared if he was gay or not. But I felt that my feelings have been betrayed. He knew I was straight but pulled that shit on me. I felt I've been deceived and somehow...
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>>17103689
Welcome to what women deal with daily.
Scumbag sneaky-Pete bullshit.
hey guys, I'm only 21 but my body's already fucked. doctors told me my cartilage is deformed but everyone suspects it's not that, it's early onset arthritis (runs in my family).
so pretty much I'm always in pain, but if I stay sitting or lying down with brief periods of exercise in between then I'm fine. BUT. I work retail, and cashiers aren't allowed to sit down because fuck minimum wage workers I guess?
does anyone have advice for keeping my pain levels down? pills don't do shit for me anymore and I'm running out of...
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smoke some chronic weed for your chronic pain.
>inb4 DUDE WEED LMAO
just try it, and start with an indica dominant strain
>>17103634
>>17103634
>>17103634
way ahead of you on that one. it really does help when I can get it but I live with an ex cop right now so I have to be really careful, and I can't get it too often.
appreciate the tip about the strain though, I'll try that next time I have the opportunity.
fucking hell no idea why that triple happened but whatever
I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months. I am in the process of moving into her parents house for the summer (they offered). My family lives in another state (I have been living on campus). I have very few friends and no car.
My girlfriend and I had a slip up. I had another random girl off the internet send me nudes and she was texting and sexting a guy she has known longer than me. This was 2 months ago.
Tonight she demanded that she looks through my phone. I told her no and she got pissed. She obviously has no trust in me in regards to me talking to other...
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>>17103581
Think about the long term- if you can put up with her bullshit and get a free place to live it's probably worth it.
If you do stay, get out as soon as you can- she sounds abusive as fuck.
Typical controlling behavior on her part- she wants you to be vulnerable and depend on her so she can control and manipulate you. It's a power thing, makes them feel good.
Dealt with this sort of bullshit with multiple women. They all turn into complete nut jobs once they get comfortable around you.
It's a behavior thing that's extremely common in men too. People are fucked.
Good luck OP.
>>17103581
>Bothers me she has no trust
>Nudes from another girl
Moving in together in the midst of all of this?
Have you guys talked about having an open relationship? Works for some people. You don't seem too upset about her sexting. And this way you could do what you want on the side.
leave, there's literally nothing else to say
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So, I am at a loss for what to do here, and am hoping to get some advice on how I should proceed with this matter.
About a month and a half ago, my boss, with whom I am friends, made a mistake on an inventory order (fast food), which resulted in us not having any of some of our foodstuff. She took me aside and asked me if I would go to the store in the next town over (which is like an hour and a half drive, I live in Wyoming) and pick some up. She told me that I would be allowed to stay clocked in, AND that I would get paid mileage. I make $9.25/hr, mileage for the company is $0.30/hr, and I drove 206.8 miles and was clocked in for exactly 3 hours, meaning I was expecting $89.79 after completion.
Then, like 3 days later, my boss takes me aside before I clock in and tells me that after a 2 hour discussion, higher-ups had decided that since this was an under-the-table exchange, I could choose to be paid either for the miles OR for the time, but not both, because the thing I retrieved was "not worth $90".
I was pissed. However, since she was my friend, i decided to let myself try and calm down before I did anything rash, and just said "ok".
I completed my shift that day, and before leaving asked to speak to her in our office. I told her that I made an agreement with the company, which I completed my end of, and so I expect them to also hold to their end of the agreement. I also said that I would be willing to take legal action if necessary.
She told me that she would pay me the $30 for my hourly pay and I told her that I was okay with that. I left satisfied with the resolution, having averted losing my job over, essentially, $30.
For two weeks after that, I began noticing my boss was avoiding me. At one point, during conversation, she made a comment that I took to be insulting my ability to understand something.
I tried brushing them off, but then, my roommate (who is also friends with her because of me), told me that he was upset with how I had handled the situation with her.
I was upset, but I don't like operating on heresay, so the next day I asked to talk with my boss after work again. I asked her if there was something wrong, as I'd gotten the vibe that there was, and she told me that she took what I said (that I would be willing to take legal action against the company) as me wanting her to lose her job. She then told me that our friendship was "tenuous at...
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>>17103572
That sucks bro, you should have really demanded to speak with the "higher-ups" about that, especially if you were prepared to threaten legal action. Either way, you should have at least given her an opportunity to resolve the issue before you threatened her. Ultimately though, she probably wasn't much of a friend if she was willing to let you get keelhauled like that.
You've learned a lesson: don't be too close to someone who's your boss. Sorry.
hey guys i need help with a survey.
pic related.
>Are you a male or female college student between the ages of 18-25?
>from 1 to 5 how often do you eat potatos
>from 1 to 5 how often are they in french fry form
Yea
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>>17103558
i do actually need your gender though. i have to compile stats from both genders and need to see which likes french fries more
>from 1-5 how often do you eat potatos
>no frame of reference or time frame given
>just a completely subjective scale of 1-5
OP I think you need to relearn how surveying works.
Hi /adv/, I'm the worst at giving blow jobs. My longtime bf's ex was a fatty who could deep throat and I literally don't know what to do, and he's too frustrated to teach me. I can get it wet and act like I need it but do I literally suck on it or treat it like a face fuck? Porn is good for the external show but I have no idea what I'm doing once it's in my mouth. It's pretty pitiful and I'd like to just git gud. I feel like I'm the only person missing the program here. Any tips or help on what the fuck to do with my mouth/lips would...
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>>17103477
male or female ?
>>17103477
>ex was a fatty
>you have to live with the reality that he is imagining her while doing anything sexual with you
>you're losing to a fatty because you fail at the most basic of sex mechanics
Hahaha oh wow, I hope you have a good career planned out, because life is going to be hard for you.
>>17103479
both, obviously
>>17103482
ok thanks! please like and subscribe!
Even if a patient is underage, they can't be forced to accept treatment correct?
It would be easier to discuss legality if you told us where you live.
>>17103483
Nevada.
>>17103465
kinda depends. if you have a DNR thats a thing but im not sure what that covers entirely
hey /adv/
so i know this might not be the best place ever to ask but you guys usually don't fail me
okay so: i am 18 and i was just diagnosed with severe depression and social anxiety and PTSD after feeling terrible for years but not having any healthcare system
today i was prescribed zoloft 25mg and i am supposed to start Wednesday
things were looking really shitty and hopeless like 2 weeks ago and it seemed like there was no way i was getting any kind of help any time soon so out of desperation i took it into my own hands
a friend offered...
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Dont fuck with chemicals that alter your brain. go see your local GP.
>>17103463
You can start the zoloft like it was scheduled, they're the same type of molecule and you won't risk any type of overdose with it. Be aware nonetheless that you'll need to wait for several weeks for the changes to take place and that your mental state can be worse the first weeks of treatment.
Ssri meds can work well, but for the love of God, do not fucking quit taking them without guidance from the doc. You need to stop slowly, over time. I was on lexapro and accidentally ran out so I didn't bother scheduling a new appointment for more. I got something called brain shivers about a week after running out, and if I had to do it all over again I don't think I would make it. They didn't go away for two weeks.
Tldr; anti depressants work but don't go off of them suddenly.
>apply for an entry-level job at Best Buy
>"Anon, come for an interview during the job fair."
>get there before anyone else, being one of the only scheduled interviews of the day
>get interviewed by a manager
>that manager immediately sets me up for another interview with manager of the entire store
>he tells me "actually, I think your skills would be better placed at another...
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>>17103460
Literally no one here can explain this to you or give you insight as to what happened. You need to fight for the job. Go to the store tomorrow, ask to speak to the manager, and tell them you would like clarification on the situation.
>>17103461
And how exactly am I supposed to ask what happened?
"Hey, your manager said I got a job after an interview, but within hours I was someone in the running for another job and I was told that I was not in the running for any of the jobs. What the fuck's going on?" They'll probably just hang up.
>>17103460
>>17103461
I agree.
You should go back there and ask for clarification. It may have very well been an error on their part.
And if it's true, then ask what could have been done better on your part.
Although I know I don't have to tell you this, don't be rude. By going back there and asking what went wrong you gain three things:
1) The confirmation that you did or did not get the job
2) Advice for future job applications
3)...
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I like a girl
what casual compliments are socially acceptable for a guy to say to a girl in a group of friends?
example:
> girl shows you a picture of her that she got done professionally
Should I say she looks pretty? cute? good?
> is it ok to casually say that a girl looks cute/ pretty/ whatever without any provocation?
what about if you are in a group of friends?
for the sake of the argument assume that I'm attractive, she's attractive, and that there is some sort of undeveloped mutual attraction between us
> General compliment thread
You can totally compliment her. She'll probably like it. Just don't be creepy.
>>17103470
how do I not be creepy? what compliments are good?
what am I supposed to do?
Yeah it´s ok if you compliment her my friends do it all the time and i don´t find it weird.
If you want to get your point straight, that you like her, you mght have to say it without any provocation, she will probably understand what is going on if you say it a few times.
just don´t be creepy (best way: only say "oh anon you look pretty today" and that´s it, then if she wears a nice shirt other day compliment her, etc)
the guy i am going out now pretty much just flirted with me this way for a while really.
