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Where do I find a gf?
Can't go to bars yet, can go to strip clubs but fuck that gay shit.
ok bear with me for a second, what if it was possible to converse with human beings of the opposite gender outside of bars and strip clubs
>>17103412
>"Can't go to bars yet"
Fucking kid confirmed.
You wont find a gf in a bar op, even if youre lucky to get a phone number 80% of girls that goes to bars to chat with strangers are hoes and single mothers, fucking tv movies have made our kids believe that they can go on to a bar like they are fucking Charlie Sheen and get pussy
Ir you are a neet and cant find a way to relate with other human beings then go in omegle and talk to some girls, its like goin to a bar anyway
Hey so I put alot of effort in at a new school and nobody wants to be my friend. I'm helpful in class and people always give me compliments for some reason
But none of them want to be my friend? I messaged 3 guys and 3 girls on my friend list in class a few days ago and none of them replied.
Are you ballsy enough to be an idiot and say "Hey would you ____ like to be my friend?" That's usually how I do it and it sound dumb but it works
Join a club and find people with similar interests as you. Otherwise just joke around and try to maintain a good attitude and be open with people. It is hard but it's worth trying
>>17103417
I tried!
I applied to every club in the university even the religious ones!
The only one that accepted me was Kendo that I actually want to try starts in August.
does anyone have any experience with mental illnesses or personality disorders?
>>17103363
No nobody does.
This is 4chan nigger why do you think we're here? What do you need help with?
I don't suffer from any mental illness, but I've been around people who have expressed symptoms of certain illnesses. I've been around a few people who take anti depressants and ADHD meds but I don't think those qualify as mental illness, just an impairment maybe.
Why do you ask?
>>17103363
Schizophrenic reporting in, what's what?
Computer systems or electrical engineering? At the university I'm going to attend next year, they're separate but dual degrees seems easily doable. However, a quick search on say, monster, yields 100+ jobs for computer engineering while ee yielded a measly 60.
What do to anons.
B-bump
>>17103361
So you searched for jobs in your area. That doesn't mean shit.
EE will provide you a broader, more marketable skillset. You can work in literally ANY industry. Narrowing it down to just a computer focus still affords you many opportunities, but it's a highly saturated market and you will likely end up at some shithole corporation that has you churning out code like a monkey.
> However, a quick search on say, monster, yields 100+ jobs for computer engineering while ee yielded a measly 60.
I think you just answered your own question
What's the cheapest beer that's still able to be stomached by chicks and teetotalers? Is PBR any good? I normally buy Sleeman but I'm looking to save a few bucks here.
Uh....Steele Reserve?
That's the cheapest I know, but man, it does not taste good. Some people like it, though.
Get Sparks or 4 Loko. High alcohol, cheap, and tastes good going down. Make sure to have water available as they can upset some people's stomachs if drank to quickly.
>>17103341
If you find a woman who will drink Steel Reserve 211s she is an alcoholic.
i need to know something.
please somebody say "yes" or "no"
first reply stating such will be what i decide upon.
i will elaborate once i receive this
Fuck no.
>>17103334
All of my nope.
Yes
(unless kill yourself, then no you dipshit)
Ok, this has nothing to do with love or shit so listen up.
My teenage son is a history and politics whiz. He goes to debate and Model UN and owns the competition. He's super diplomatic and even slimy as fuck in some cases. Issue is: he's a minor so he's kinda fucked on doing actual things.
Basically he needs to at least get something of significance done or else Mom's going to pressure him to do pharmacy. (which he's good at btw)
Also one more thing: he's a super liberal, but not SJW. He says he's a economic radical and social...
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Wtf are you even asking?
Does he volunteer with the Dems or weird ass third parties? Which give him a better shot at being successful?
>>17103242
He's a teenager. If he volunteers for any campaign he'll spend all his time licking envelopes. No matter now brilliant daddy thinks he is, he's not going to become a trusted advisor to the President.
Yet.
Let him work for a local candidate he admires, just for the experience, and as long as it doesn't interfere with school.
Let him finish school and go to college and maybe law school, and THEN start thinking about politics. Between now and then he is likely to change is academic...
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I am crushing very hard on a woman at work, but she has a boyfriend. We talk during the day despite no direct need to.
She seems like me at least as a friend.
What does adv think are the odds that she would leave her BF for me? Theyve been dating for a year.
Obviously something like this is case by case but what is your experience?
you dont want to be with someone that has a character trait of being willing to leave a relationship for someone else when there are no problems in the relationship
that means she will eventually do it to you
what you can do however is stick around and if she breaks up with her boyfriend you can swoop in
that's what I'm doing. Playing the long game
>>17103224
Thats true. I can wait. Hopefully no one gets a ring on their end.
>>17103224
maaannneee
not op but thats what im doing and this game sucks
>flirty eye contact back and forth
>randomly come over to talk to me or coworker im talking to and stares into my eyes
....and then she goes home and gets porked by her chubby bf :\
Are you comfortable with people crying around you?
Are you comfortable being the only person in the room with a crying person?
My roommate cries often. She's under a lot of stress at school and life in general, but the smallest thing sets her off. She once thought our fridge was broken and cried about it. I hate being the one who has to console her.
I was cooking this morning for breakfast and she walks in the kitchen telling me how bad her night as last nigh. I could feel the tension and she was about to cry so I nope'd it out of the kitchen with my food.
Am I a bad person for not liking when people cry?
>>17103202
>are you comfortable with people crying around you?
depends on the context but generally sure.
>being the only person in the room with a crying person
see above.
>my roommate cries
>often
i see the issue. yeah constant criers can be hard to deal with cuz you can only be SO supportive before your life is about coddling them. if you care about a person and know theres an end thats okay. but if not and you arent willing to take care of em long term you can feel selfish, wehn in reality you just want yourl ife back.
ive been crying a lot too to be honest.
>>17103211
Well seeing how I am the only other person in this thread, I'm going to have to ask you to stop because it is making me uncomfortable.
Kidding. I just get anxious and stressed around people who cry. I think the worst experience I've had with someone crying was when my mom started sobbing while driving me on a winding mountain road. I was scared for my life.
>>17103230
woof that does sound a bit scary. i dont blame oyu for wanting out cuz shes being triggered by nonsense and there doesnt seem to be an end in sight. suggest therapy to her.
will reducing/stopping the amount of times i masturbate stop me from seeing everything with my mind's eye with a lewd lens?
No, if anything it will only increase.
>>17103219
This. Over time goes by, it will only get worse.
>>17103219
>>17103305
fug
what can i do then to not want to fuck every woman i meet
I shitpost and samefag a lot on this board. It's like a fucked up hobby. I like to write, especially "in character." I mean, I would feel terrible if anyone thought I was being completely serious. I'm not, even when I'm posting some serious shit. You know? There's always an element of play in it for me.
Is this totally normal/okay or is this bad? I'm relatively new here I guess.
>>17103180
you just described half the people here. its bad in the sense that some people dont want you to do that but thats life so who cares
>>17103180
As in you do that whilst responding to other people's desire for advice, or you do it whilst 'seeking' advice?
Sometimes people say shit they don't mean. But they don't say shit they aren't thinking. My advice is to spend some time learning about the actual people you emulate. Maybe even spend some time around them, if you can do it safely. Then decide if these are really people you want to be associated with, even in jest.
And please: don't do this on /adv/. The people who come to ask questions are hurting, and running so low on answers that they're resorting to 4chan of all places. Hell; most of the people who come to answer questions are also hurting,...
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Tomorrow I have my first day off of work in over three months. I finally have time to get laid. But it's been a long time. How do I go about getting my dick wet in an easy way?
Well, since your offday is so rare and valuable I suggest you avoid the chance of failure and visit a whorehouse.
Just post a pic of your goods on Craiglist.
Hope you're not opposed to gay stuff.
>>17103188
No whorehouses where I live. And I have no idea how to find a prostitue...
Spooked by police and crap.
Starting with the tl;dr first.
>gf doesn't satisfy me as a gf, she can't cook, she sucks at sex nor does she pursue me for it, and my best friend and sister dislike her, but she works almost perfectly as a friend
>she's one of the most dependable people I have
>problem is that I'm very emotionally dependent on her, even though being with her is causing me severe emotional turmoil
>every time I try steeling myself to leave, she gets...
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Full problem
How do you fully resolve yourself to a break-up? It seems like every time I get close to deciding that I don't want to be with her anymore, she starts getting closer to me, almost as if she can read my mind and it makes me feel massively guilty that I even want to leave her. She comes along with this mission in mind to be as happy and beautiful as possible, trying to bring the spark back. And I can never tell if it does come back or if I'm just with her because I can't summon the strength to end it before something really bad happens. I even tried writing down a list of the reasons why I need to get out, which are as follows
>emotional co-dependence to an unhealthy degree in my part
>sex life is shit, I honestly don't feel needed at all physically, and she doesn't make much of an effort in the bedroom
>I really don't fucking like myself and I don't know what I want in life or relationships
>my inability to decide whether I want to be in this or not is turning me into a toxic person and driving me emotionally unstable
>she's my first for everything ever. We've been dating since we were freshmen in college and I graduate next year. I don't know if I want to be with her after that and that bothers me incessantly
>I'm also very broke, as broke as a college student can be, like I have $200 to my name, with $840 of rent to pay coming up, and a hopefully soon, a car to take care of. The idea of her always wanting to go out to different towns and amusement parks and cool shit scares me, because I don't know if I can afford to do any of that while being able to drive and not starve to death on $8/hr.
>things are very off and on, sometimes she'll be a bitch, sometimes she'll be extremely peppy and pleasant
>she likes being passive aggressive and that makes me very aggressive
>>17103164
>when we meet in a few days
So you don't live with her, and you don't see her all that often? This is easy as fuck. Stop dragging your heels. Just break up with her. If you're clinging to some noble idea that you have to break up in person, get the fuck over it. You're in the 1% of people who actually do that anymore. You don't owe it to anyone. Call her up and break up, now. The more you keep scheduling this kind of shit, the more you contemplate and...
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>>17103178
Have you talked to her about any of these issues?
If she wants to stay with you I'm sure she's be willing to help fix things. That is, if you want to as well.
give me a reason to live:
Mom has cancer and is dying
Dad is a stubborn oblivious retard
Little brother is a heroin addict and so is his wife, they have 2 kids
I was fired after 10 years with the same company on friday, I already got a new job so there is that
I broke up with my gf 2 months ago because I have anger issues and she couldnt stand me yelling at cars when I drove and it made her scared
all the dates I have been on recently have been failures
ho do I get out of this rut I am in?
>>17103140
I just have a family member die so ik the feels anon...but I'd say the first thing you have to do is find and outlet for your anger...try excersize
>>17103140
>mom has cancer and is dying
my sincerest condolences. but also
>boo hoo im the only one in the world who has to ahve their mom die.
if your parents last until you're into adulthood, then its not particularly traumatizing. yes sad, and yes i wish i could just cuddle you while you cry and we play mario kart, and maybe i rub your feet or something and you're too drunk to care that its a little gay.
but if you want to...
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See a therapist. They really can help, especially with the anger issues.
I wouldn't blame you if you had depression, either, though you don't make it sound like you're super depressed.
At what point does self-love/respect become selfishness?
>>17103122
They're entirely different things.
To love and respect yourself is not selfishness. It is only selfishness when you don't respect others. Love optional.
When it starts hurting people.
>>17103122
when it compromises other peoples happiness unreasonably.
