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Hey /adv/ I got a problem. I'm going to college in a couple months and my dad is getting weirder and weirder. I usually have my hair in a pony tail and lately, my dad will come up to me and take my hair and kinda shake my head. I hate him doing it because it messes up my hair and I literally see red sometimes from rage if I'm having a bad day because I hate having my head touched. I've asked so many times for him to stop and he acts like I'm joking even when I say I'm serious. He's gotten even weirder lately. I'll be in my room and he will...
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Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Tell him what he does makes you uncomfortable and if he wants to spend some bonding time together before you leave for college make some plans to do stuff.
>>17099737
He loves you and is gonna miss you when you're gone. You can't stop him from doing what he's doing, but he'll get over it as time passes.
>>17099737
>come up behind me and hug me
Do you feel a boner ?
Also male or female ?
So I can't talk to people.
It's not really what they say what bothers me it's what I say.
I'll chat serious or vent to someone on the internet and even if they do reply I feel like my feelings are just so stupid.
If I talk to someone in real life like a close relative or my one friend I just feel so awkward and I want to get away.
The only way I can speak to people is if I treat everything like a joke and even that makes me look bad.
When other people get serious I feel super awkward and try to lighten things up but I just look like an...
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>>17099720
Therapy.
I tried that too.
I felt extremely uncomfortable that someone was prying into my head. Probably worse than talking to people ever was.
I felt like I needed to escape immediately.
I feel like help at this point is unreachable.
This is sort of my last resort.
>>17099770
The point of therapy is to let someone pry into your head. Figure out how you work and work with you to help normalize the situation. Try harder
So I have some anxiety problems. I'm probably eligible for a diagnosis of GAD or SAD. There's essentially no rational component to this: I'm not thinking anxious thoughts like "oh god what if i screw up and accidentally insult them and they hate me forever". It's purely physical: i'm incredibly wired-up, and the slightest noise sets it off. The phone buzzing from a text is like hearing a gunshot right next to my head, and when i'm trying to formulate a response i can't think properly due to the constant PANIC PANIC PANIC PANIC shit,...
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Any time, which might be all the time; you have anxiety. Direct that energy towards the hardest decision emotionally, break your cycle.
It'll be the hardest thing in your life but it's really simple and gets easier immediately as you do it, and quicker the more consistent you do it.
When you notice anxiety, direct that energy into an image you truly want to see yourself as. This typically relates to something you enjoy doing. You have to have some level of self-indentity to propagate your energy this way.
When you feel anxiety, direct the energy...
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>>17099655
http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=107
you could try meditating
>>17099703
Tried meditation, haven't really gotten good results. My guess is that either it's for the same reason that sedatives make me less calm, or due to the narcolepsy (it tends to put me to sleep, and the effort required to stay awake probably interferes badly with the proper relaxation and mind-clearing). Or both.
I'd like to get really into it since my little bro says it's helped him a lot, but no idea how to fix this.
Any alternative techniques you guys can recommend?
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How do I get over the fact that my best friend is quitting smoking?
>was one of the first things we bonded over/have bonded over the most
>has been distant towards me lately
>recently started smoking weed again after quitting for a long time, which is something I'd never join him in
More than being about tobacco, I'm afraid he's dumping me as a friend and a huge thing we used to do together. What do?
Vape, that ought to teach him.
I'm serious.
>>17099653
my gfirst suggestion was to ditch smoking with him. only one of these thigns is important to you. if its smoking you find more smokers. if its friends you quit smoking because you are deepening your bond in doing so, while still revolving around the cigarettes.
but if you feel hes ditching you it may be time to move on in general. the big question
>how do i get over
never ask this. life is life is life. there are no ways to 'get over' this nonsense...
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>>17099661
Both are important. I love smoking, but I also really value my best friend.
What kind of legal ramifications (if any) can i expect for
>Translating articles from popular website
and
>Putting them on my own website in completely different language than the original, intented for much smaller country?
Is still stupid, I hope a journalist founds it out and sue you or something, that would be justice.
Why don't you write it yourself? Bad at writing? You have something new to do.
>>17099645
sueing. depends on your country. some places are more or less protected form international copyright law. theres some small fucking country in the middle east that illegally aired an illegally produced dragon ball x sailor moon crossover but even if japan wanted to sue itd be a waste of time.
if you make any good money from it you can expect them to at least try though. much smaller is fine but it depends how small really. agian, if you are making money, you can get in trouble id wager.
>>17099651
Not actually bad at all. Back when i used to write about random bullshit like love people actually bought my papers.
I just dont like the risk of wasting my time and energy in case it doesnt work, so thats why i want to translate stuff from already popular site.
>>17099666
Interesting, i will look into the international copyright law and how exactly it works over here in Czechia.
Thanks for the warning anon
Hi 4chan, Let me first off thank you all for taking the time to read and give your response.
This is a issue that has been going on for several months now. 8 months if you want an exact number. This is beyond the point of being cute, This is not funny any more and, it is by far the most annoyed I have been in a long time.
I have actually been sitting in my room all day thinking about it. I have these two girls in my school, 8 months ago they moved from Las Vegas to Chicago and ever since then my life has been a living hell.
I think they are twins, but not identical...
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>>17099578
Get some carolina reaper hot sauce, or jolokia pepper hot sauce; and -really- fuck with them.
Get their numbers and fucking mail/mms flood them anonymously.
Every time they do this, retaliate in a passive aggressive way that there is no way faculty can prove "YOU" did something.
Be wary of cameras.
Slash tires if it gets bad.
NEVER ADMIT YOU'RE DOING THIS OR GIVE THE HINT, with body language or actual language you know what I mean.
Dudes advice. Punch her on the bridge of the nose. You will break it. If you continue to hit neck if you can that way the bitch have a hard time breathing . They are going to kick your but eventually but will not fuck with you anymore after that.
Maybe next time grab their arm and ask them what the fuck is going on. They're doing it because they know they can get away with it.
If it comes down to it you might have to fight. At least the school will have a record of you reporting this.
How exactly do you make a move on a guy? How do you flirt with them?
>>17099551
Put his dick in your mouth.
>>17099551
Talk to them like another human being.
>>17099766
What exact words do I use?
Why am I so terrified of aging.
>I'm 21, 22 in a re months
I am terrified of aging, I look at young people with envy and would rather kill myself than get old.
What the fuck
>>17099547
I'm 28 and still feel look how I did when I was 20. There's lots of things to look forward to when you get older
>>17099600
You aren't freaking out? Why?
>>17099547
Op I'm 18, and ever since I was 14 I started freaking out about getting older. We only have so much precious time on earth, and it's terrifying how fast it goes. I suppose you just have to do your best to love in the moment, live for today not tommorow. That's what I do, and for the most part it works.
I need to know if I am Bi or Straight. I have always masturbated to girls but last night I masturbated to a man who I have been talking to for a while. What are some ways to see if I am Bi or straight without requiring another human being.
>>17099526
All you have to do is stay calm and think about last night.Why did you do it? How did you feel? Did you like it? Do you feel attracted to him?
Those are the kind of questions you have to ask yourself.
There's no exact method that can say "Yes, you're 100% bisexual" or something like that, this is more like speculation in a sense, you have to use your feelings as a guide
>>17099526
>what are some ways to see if i am bi or straight wihtout requiring another human being.
porn, generally. its not fool proof but if you can watch a lot of gay porn and get off, you are likely gay. watch some without touching your penis and see if oyu are naturally stimulated.
its not fool proof though to be honest i think the most important thing to sexuality is chemistry. I am a gay man, but a few weeks ago i saw a webm of soem really hot lesbians making out and fingering...
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Sexuality exists on a spectrum for most people. It's likely that you're mostly into girls but have a strong attraction to this man in particular.
Don't sweat it and don't get too worked up about discrete categorizations. Humans are more complex than that.
Hey guys I need some advice.
I'm about to invest 3000 dollars into my business, still relatively new (though it has made money, little though), and I'm somewhat getting cold feet. I'm not the only one, it's me putting in half with a colleague to buy equipment to do business with.
I'm hesitant due to only the possibility of failure. I ask for advice perhaps by those who have gone through similar situations. Any questions welcome.
Depends on the business. More info if you want competent adv
>>17099623
>depends on the business
mostly this. but also what this investment means. is it just money down the drain but your life is otherwise fine? or is it htat you are relying on this money to become more money cuz if it doesnt you are fucked sometime this year or next?
>>17099509
Are you a photographer/videographer?
If so, they're rough fields. I quit doing it for a living a while back because I just couldn't take how shitty it was. 90% of it is marketing, though, and if you have a niche that's not overflowing and can actually market yourself and produce good work, then there's still a place for it.
What I'll say is that 3k isn't that much money in the scheme of things. Yeah, losing it would be a punch in the gut, but it's not an amount you...
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What's the best way to find a therapist, /adv/?
I'm turning 30 this year and have been living with depression and anxiety for most of my life. I've hit the point where I just can't do anything anymore, lost the love of my life to it a few years ago, lost my job to it last year, lost my apartment and had to move back in with my parents, and went back to college but dropped out of all my classes because I couldn't muster myself to get to them these last few weeks. I've hit the point where I'm just so upset and angry with myself that I...
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>>17099428
>whats the best way to find a therapist, /adv/?
generally speaking you should go to your isnurance providers website, put in the proper information, and it will pull up a list of nearby therapists who are covered by your insurance. others may also be covered, but these ones often get you the smallest copays. go in and try each one for three sessions. quit if they arent good and move on to the next. im not saying quit if you dont see improvement, cuz it takes time. but if your...
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