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Currently having a hard time going through a recent break up.
How have you gotten over it?
depends. why and how did you two break up?
>>17095842
I mostly focus on living my regular life. if you built your life around your gf its hard i imagine, but i spent more time trying to avoid my relationships so i can focus on the things i actually like to do.
if you find yourself wiht lots of free time its time to pick up a productive hobby of sorts. also asking for extended hang out time with friends can help
>>17095842
Time.
Heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world, but it DOES pass.
Immerse yourself in everyday life. Make yourself carry on. One day you'll surprise yourself by realizing you haven't thought about her for hours. Then for days.
Meanwhile, there is some small comfort to take in this - the fact that your heart is broken is proof that you have a heart. That you feel this pain is evidence of the depths of feelings you're capable of. If you ever wondered if you had it in...
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How am i supposed to deal with a warm, affectionate, horny boyfriend who touches, hugs, kisses and compliments me all the time? "Because I love you" - clearly someone this passionate is unable and unwilling to understand and accept another point of view, that love can be expressed differently without being lesser.
I'm quite the opposite of this, sulky and moody sometimes, I tease and joke a lot. My attraction is stirred mostly on the mental and imaginative plane. Faced with so much display of affection it's inevitable that there be occasional (playful) rejection and no initiation of physical acts from my part. Most of the time, however, I agree to play along for his sake. I feel like a cold, horrible human being who doesn't deserve him...especially when we argue and he complains about it.
Everything else is great, please don't advice me on leaving him. But it's bad that I feel like avoiding hangouts when I'm irritated as this will irritate me more. I'm kind of numb to all this. I associate this kind of love with maternal feelings and I only act like this towards animals. But my love sucks, it's more like a friendship with benefits and commitment
Pic kind of related, saw it around here recently and snatched it
>>17095792
if you cant leave him, then be up front about it.
explain it and say you want to meet half way. you will 'paly along' but you also want him to appreciate your boundaries. show him this post, proving that you dont want to leave him and thats not what its about. you just want to be comfortable while also making sure he is comfortable.
try to never cancel any solid plans made, but dont be afraid to say 'i need alone time' when he tries to make new plans (spontaneous or otherwise).
i was seeing a guy and he was clingy as fucked. lived right down the street so he wanted to hang out almost every day. i had to tell him we had to limit ourselves to twice a week cuz otherwise id never get anything done, and im a project oritented person.
>>17095803
>i was seeing a guy and he was clingy as fucked. lived right down the street so he wanted to hang out almost every day. i had to tell him we had to limit ourselves to twice a week
Mine fits this as well. If we see each other today adn then tomorrow again, he'll tell me how much he missed me in between.
Did try confronting him and being honest about it and he got sad, like his love wasn't reciprocated. He doesn't react well, makes me feel bad about it...at...
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>>17095826
not sure what you are asking for then. right now you are saying
>i refuse to break up with him
>he refuses to understand
not much else you can do. either give in or give up. theres no magic third option. you can keep talking and hope he changes but its like you said, people love differently. he cant see it from your way. you cant see it from his.
i have very little friends and they are all "fake friends"
(they don't care for me or my well being)
wondering how to cut them off without being a total ass
Never answer messages until a couple of days later. If you agree to meeting them, call them right before the agreed time that you cant make it this time. Repeat and theyll stop contacting you eventually.
>>17095790
the easy way is to just always say 'sorry im busy'. if they call you out on it just say what you're busy with. even if its 'playing xbox tonight' it will tell them that you care more about oyur alone time than you do about them.
they will take the hint. on the off chance they dont they will be the ones escalating into assholery, and you can just use that as a reason to 'end it' on the spot.
>>17095806
in addition to 'sorryi m busy' you can mix that in with progressively fewer responses.
I like this girl but she is my best friend and don't know how to tell her she is hot as fuck and out of my league -_-
>>17095723
let it go.
>>17095723
>dont know how to tell her she is hot as fuck and out of my league
if she is out of your league why bother telling her? you are insisting she wont be with you so why tel lher this?
that being said,
>how to tell her?
by telling her. sometimes you take them somewhere cool or nice. even just up on a hill to look at clouds or stars or what have you. have a serious talk adn admit your feelings. dont do it in a beta way, by which i...
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let it go is dick advice
i know i risk the chance of ruining our freindship sometimes i get this vibe like maybe she likes me but i can't tell
Hypothetically say an American guy raped a few women roughly 20 years ago on a trip to a few countries in Europe (Hungary, Czech Republic) and that guy feels bad about it now how could he do something to remedy it?
Keep in mind he has no idea who the women are, doesn't even remember their names and it's not like he can fly to Hungary and go to the cops and say "hi I raped some Hungarian girls here 20 years ago, arrest me."
What should he do? Give to charity?
Should probably hypothetically kill themselves
>>17095707
water under bridge, man. Live and let live.
>>17095719
Two completely different pieces of advice
So need some input from the population of users on/adv/.
A 18 year old female coworker seems to be into me and we're into the same sorta stuff, problem is im 25.
Is this socially acceptable in your eyes, why or why not?
What issues am I likely to face at work or otherwise?
Its fine. I was banging an 18 year old at the same age. Good times.
>>17095700
>socially acceptable
OH NOES SOME STRANGER MIGHT ASK YOU YOUR AGES, COUNT THE DIFFERENCE AND THEN SAY THEY DONT APPROVE.
stop worrying about something is socially acceptable if its
1) legal and
2) both parties are consenting and willing
you can do something that is entirely socially acceptable and someone will give you a hard time for it. faggots get shit on every day just for holding hands with a dude, you'll be fine.
>what issues ami likely to face at work or otherwise
depends on what your work policy is. some dont care. some do. if the girl responds negatively you can be seen as an aggressor and chastised or even fired. if shes totes in to you then you dont have to worry until your inevitable break up. if its temporary work on iether side i wouldnt worry about it too much. but if you've been there more than a year and plan to be there for at least one more, you risk having a break up that makes working there not only awkward but dramatic and tahts when a manager gets involved and tends to side with the pretty girl crying unless she did something absolutely batshit crazy .
again, find out what your companies policy is. shes 18 so im guessing you are entry level peoples and there shouldnt be any restrictions.
>>17095700
Don't mix work with fucks.
So I'm engaged to to a man I love with all my heart. He's sweet, funny, caring, and handsome. But sometimes sex really hurts because he's circumcised. I know this to be at fault because I've had sex with one other person that was uncut and it never hurt.
It basically starts out fine but then gets very abrasive and hurts no matter how much lube we use. He basically pounds me raw and it takes him a lot of time to cum. He's also said erections sometimes hurt.
I love him and the intimacy I share with him but I just wish it wasn't painful....
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Yes tell him it hurts. Those damn circumsized mutants
>>17095691
It's not his fault, it's his stupid parent's :( we both agreed that if we have a son someday he will not be cut and break their family tradition. They're not even Jewish, it's so retarded.
>>17095680
>foreskin restoration
Is that a thing that actually exists? Jesus Christ.
Anyway mutilating his penis further probably isn't the answer. Yes talk to him about it. I don't see how lube doesn't help. Maybe try better lube.
Have you ever felt like you used to be funnier but life hit you and you lost some of it? How did you recover?
>pic somewhat related
Actually the more shitty my life has been, the funnier I feel I am. Better at observational humour and stuff anyway
I just get sarcastic af.
>>17095683
Well, what about as you matured and had to pick up responsibilities or people feel out of your life?
Is attraction always felt both ways? Say a gay guy is walking around at uni and feels a strong attraction for another random male? What is going on and what would happen?
>>17095668
Of course not, what the fuck is wrong with you?
>>17095668
what would happen is he would drug him and fuck him in the ass
>>17095668
OP here let us make this more specific. Say the gay guy can discern between lust and attraction and he knows he is feeling attraction. The other guy also seems to look like he has took notice of him. What is going on and what would happen?
Is smoking weed for degenerates?
>>17095659
No. Everyone does it. Also weed isn't a choice
Weed is barely degenerate. As the other guy said, everyone does it. Not literally everyone, but fucking loads of people. It's 2016. Middle aged housewives smoke weed and do stoned bible study.
In my, drug using opinion, he real degenerate drugs are hard drugs (opiates/opioids, stimulants, downers, etc.). Weed is just mild, and psychedelics are their own weird thing.
>>17095659
more lives have been ruined by alcohol than mariajuana, yet society says drink up johnny! it's fun!
that being said, if all you do is smoke pot all day and eat cheetos, you're no better than the bum with a cardboard sign on the street corner looking for "bus fare"
You're creating something that needs a lot of artwork. You'll be paying your artist about $2000 dollars over the next two years, so let's say, $1000 dollars a year. You'll be paying them through PayPal.
How much does Uncle Sam take in taxes from you per year? How much does Uncle Sam take in taxes from your artist per year?
>>17095631
Nigger this is /adv/ not /math/
You can look that shit up yourself and use a calculator.
>>17095631
>2 years
>paypal
Why?
>>17095631
if you have any sort of business license is considered a work expense and therefore doesn't factor in with taxes. taxes are for profit.
as for your artist, it depends. most artists are independently contracted and they should fill out a specific form (i forget its name) but essentially it makes them responsible for reporting their earned income. most artists getting paid this small an amount are more comfortable just not reporting it, unless they actively do this for all their money.
talk to your artist and see if he wnats it under the table or not.
I'm going to spend about a year in my current city and i spend about 15% of my income mouthly on transportation such as taxis. Such income could be used to financiate a small automobile bike, outside gas expenses. Is it worth it, considering i'm going to move out in a year?
>>17095532
Based on your English you may live somewhere that has taxes and other fees that make motorcycle ownership unfeasible.
Get a bicycle.
>>17095544
Thanks for the advice, i was also considering that. Non-related, but what could i improve in my english?
>>17095575
It's a bunch of minutia that makes English excessively complicated to master.
>capitalization of proper nouns
>word endings
>syntax
If you aren't speaking to native English speakers in a professional setting I wouldn't worry about it.
I've posted here about my financial situation and the struggle with getting a degree before, so I'll just give it a quick rundown.
>Had financial aid, lost for one semester to fix GPA (by .1 GPA points, dumb lab TA, whatever).
>Parents convince me to let them cover it instead of getting a loan to cover up the fact they'd ruined my credit by using my identity prior.
>Parents didn't pay for it anyway, owe $14,000 and can't get loans.
>Financial aid permanently forfeit by break in attendance.
>Past 18 months have been dealing with that, mostly saved by a charitable grandparent.
But I've been accepted and offered loans to attend the summer semester (which would lead into a continued attendance there). It's Out-of-State (the extra tuition was waived back when I had my financial aid), and no in-state place has accepted me yet.
I'll need $7,000 for the summer and about $16,000 for each remaining semester (4-6), or approximately 50 grand a year just to finish school.
What are any jobs that pay this? The only ones I can find want you to already be out of school, and the one that I got a phone interview for (Big company that I could work elsewhere within once I got my degree) said they don't want to hire students.
I've spent the last year and a half miserable (for other reasons as well) due to being incapable of doing this. Not from a lack of ability (3.0 in my engineering degree path) or desire, but simple inability to pay for it. Should I just give up on college?
>>17095512
Plenty of escorts and strippers are paying their way through college.
>>17095537
I'm a homely guy, though, Anon.
Unless the gay escort business is both more lucrative and indiscriminate as I think it is.
>>17095565
>the gay escort business is both more lucrative and indiscriminate as I think it is.
Not much $200/hr+ work out there, but it can help make ends meet.
So Friday some serous shit happened and it's a lot to write down so I'm going to screenshot my Skype chat of me telling a .
I know when this first all happened I came here and was told to do nothing and thats when the phone calls and my friend telling me all their plans happened
Doesn't seem very dangerous or harassing, just avoid them. Why do you hang out with shitty people? Are you a shitty person too?
Everyone in this story sounds pretty shitty honestly.
I just got out of a 6 year relationship and I want to fuck hot teenage girls
>27
>own house
>own nice car
>have relatively lots of expendable income
>in good shape
>open to doing drugs and have many connections for them
How do i maximize pussy gains? Where do I meet young girls who want to fuck older guys. Think online dating would be good for this kind of thing?
>>17095503
>27
>teenage girls
You're in a zone of pain.Too old to be feasibly dateable in a non-creepy way, but too young to satisfy daddy fetishes.
Drugs are fun, but if you start fucking the kind of teenage girls who do hard drugs, things will probably get really messy really quick. Honestly I wouldn't recommend giving them anything harder than weed.
>>17095507
theres gotta be a way to tap the market.
>>17095522
i was thinking girls that wanna do coke could be a good way in
