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Why can't I get any done? Why do I sit here all day, wasting my time on the internet when my future is slipping through my hands like sand in the wind? Do I want this bleak future? Do I want to stay in retail forever?
Why does it seem like a fuckton of signposts are pointing me to a promising future, all if I give a fuck and actually try? I mean really try rather than wait last minute, not that 'I did my best' bullshit.
Why do I hear a voice saying yes to my bleak future? It would suck, trapping me in an endless repetitive sea of mediocrity, my worst nightmare. Is that what I really want? Or am I a little bitch who can't put on his adult pants?
Why did I fuckup and hurt my dad, knowingly, financially, like all of the other assholes of his life.
Is my life even worth anything outside of the mental stimulation of video games, anime and porn?
Why am I such a fuckup with people who care and expect great things from me, but I can't do the work? What's wrong with me?
That thumbnail looks like a vagina.
On a more serious note, you sound like you are decent at writing. Maybe you need to think about your motivations for whatever work you are talking about.
>>17095206
These are literally some of the most common threads on /adv/, and also literally the ones that get the least replies.
What does that tell you OP?
Nobody here has the answers. You're asking fucking 4chan. To waste a minute of your time on this useless site requires a certain type of person predisposed to low achievement.
If I could help you I would, but I'm stuck in exactly the same place as you.
I'll bump, I have literally spent my day staring at my monitor doing absolutely nothing. I told myself I wouldn't do anything until I wrote at least 500 words of my essay. This took me 5 hrs! I mean I finally did it, but fark, I cant continue at this rate...
Nothing seems to make me really happy anymore, I just don't find thrill anywhere. Does anyone else feel like this, and where do you find meaning? I've been thinking about taking up urban BMX recently as a hobby, because watching videos online make sit look really interesting, but otherwise, what should I do?
>>17095170
Yeah, getting a hobby is good. Some people find meaning in their jobs.
Losing the passion for life is a great step along the way towards Nirvana. If you rekindle the passion, you will only suffer again later. According to Buddha it is craving for pleasure and to re-experience pleasure that perpetuates suffering in life due to the impermanence of all things.
>>17095211
Jesus is better
What's important when choosing friends?
I've had a few toxic friendships and I don't want anymore of it.
I tell my friends when they cross the line but some just continue to make me feel like shit.
How do you choose friends? How do you know when it's time to cut them out of your life?
>How do you know when it's time to cut them out of your life?
when they cross the line but some just continue to make you feel like shit.
Things you should expect from
Your friends:
>Make me feel good about being me.
>Affirm my best qualities (especially when I am feeling insecure)
>Call out the best in me, and hold me accountable to the best version of myself.
>Listen without judging or trying to fix me.
>Give me the benefit of the doubt.
>Extend grace to me when I am grumpy or having a bad day.
>Remember my birthday, favorite foods, music, and art.
>Know my story and love me regardless.
>Spend time with me, just because they enjoy my company.
>Speak well of me when I am not present.
>Serve me with a joyful spirit and without complaining.
>Speak the truth to me when no one
else will.
>Never shame me, diminish me, or
make me feel small.
>Become excited about what I am
excited about.
>Celebrate my wins!
>>17095151
My list:
loyalty
understanding
common interests
>How do you know when it's time to cut them out of your life?
When it becomes a chore to be with them
You feel more drained than happy after seeing them
They use you
Get you in situations that aren't good
Hey there, so I'm in need of help. I run this Kik group with some of my online friends and we're trying to get it more active like it used to be but we're having troble finding people to join... If you know how to help or are interested in join this group message me on Kik @_Akuma_Tora_ or just leave your Kik name or advice here and I'll message you! :3
Anyone is welcome! :3
Really need help ;-;
>>17095091
is it about anime? is it about phishing ? is it about phishing and anime ?
i want to be more like women, /adv/
so with my next gf, how can i act attached and devoted, and be convincing enough for them to actually love me back?
and how can i do this so i can safely dump them without feeling anything afterwards?
basically what i want to do is play mind games like an expert, like what most women do.
You sound strange and all mixed up inside. Maybe you literally want to be a woman
>>17095049
no, i still want to date women and be a man, i just want to be as emotionless as most women are
>>17095055
Go to therapist
How do I get my concussion to heal? It's been 4 months since the whiplash, but the left side of the back of my brain is still messed up. I've been taking fish oil but not really doing anything else differently other than not sleeping on my concussion of course.
I can't even sleep for more than a few hours in a row now since my left hip is so sore from sleeping exclusively on my left side. And it's difficult to sleep on my desk.
I've been really really stressed out for the entirety of the concussion but does that really make a difference in how quickly it heals?
Please help. I expect concussions are too rare for me to get replies to this, though.
Holly you're a bitch for removing me 2bh
>>17095007
Have you considered a doctor?
>>17095007
>I've been really really stressed out for the entirety of the concussion but does that really make a difference in how quickly it heals?
Apparently you should try to limit how much your strain your mind as it's healing.
But im no professional (yet).
Can the "Law of Attraction" be used to attract a specific person into your life whom you have a history with or maybe change their feelings about you?
I haven't been in contact with my EX in about 8 years, although I did contact her 2 years ago to say I was sorry about some things I did (I never cheated, was just an ass). She said she forgave me, had mixed feelings about our past but we agreed to never talk again.
The thing is, she was perfect for me. We were so similar in our interests, in how gentle we treated each other, and even our childhoods. We basically both shared the same vision of what we wanted our future to be, but things fell apart when I tool a yearlong trip to Japan and she fell out of love after a year of sparse contact.
She believes in alot of dream spirituality, and talks often about harnessing dreams, etc on her social media. Maybe I'm crazy, most likely it's wishful thinking, but I often have dreams about her where we are close again, or where we make amends, or where we are just good close friends laughing together. The settings were almost always the kinds of things she loved: giant mushroom houses, fairytale worlds, magical forests, etc. I was having these even before I knew she was into that sort of stuff. Could we be having some sort of metaphysical connection or yearning for each other? Could I use this Law of Attraction to reach out and such maybe before I try to contact her one last time? I do know she's single right now, but so are most of us huh?
yes, I'm fully prepared to be ripped apart here for suspending my disbelief for this stuff.
The LoA you read about in works like The Secret is based on a watered-down New Age understanding of the Law of Positive attraction, which is a legitimate occult concept. The essence of the real law is that like attracts like. For example, wealth attracts more wealth.
The way it's presented more commonly in popular media is essentially a psychological trick to help you focus on your goals. If, for example, you have a vision board that has a lot of money-related images, you'll think about money more often, and you'll notice opportunities you may otherwise have missed. Additionally, the constant reinforcement of your goals helps avoid distractions.
(cont.)
>>17095213
(cont.)
Now, for obvious reasons, using this understanding to get an ex back is a bad idea: it will merely force you to have oneitis. Bad idea.
However, you can use the legit occult law of attraction to help get her back, but it involves a more complicated mind game. Rather than focusing on her, think about what you would need to be in order for her to come back to you /of her own accord/ and attract her by making those changes in yourself.
So, your vision needs to be one of self change, and your use of the LoA should be used to promote such change in yourself. I. other words, attract the moth by being resplendent instead of trying to catch it while it flies away. Start preparing your mind using this exercise from Prometheus Rising.
Good luck, anon
>>17095216
that's pretty fascinating.. anyway, thanks anon.
So im trying to move out of house asap but my housemates are being problamatic about it, our lease isnt up for another 5 months so im trying to find someone to move in. Now im aware that it falls to me to find somebody new to move in, and it seems like ive found a pretty chill guy to do that, however my housemates might not like him (hes alot quieter ) and they may not be completely compatible
Now my housemates havent at all tried to help me find someone new to move in, they both believe its not their jobs to do it, even though you would think as a courtesy they would try and help me, since its not terribly hard
So if they arnt helping me find somebody, and then i find people that want to move in that they might not like, then what do i do? i need to move asap and cant just keep searching for someone who is perfect for them , especially if they make no effort to find somebody themselves
what do i do?
Fuck them. I moved out on some 'friends' that abused me daily, making me spin into depression. They were very difficult towards me when I said I was leaving before the lease was up, I gave them 2 months notice. Instead of helping me advertise, they just acted passive aggressive the entire time. I managed to get a few viewings, but no one took it. I left with a guilt free conscience
>>17094982
im still liable for rent though, thats money im going to be losing, so as long as someone else isnt there im getting fucked, so what do i do about that?
>>17094998
That's debatable. If your name isn't first or second on the lease, it's ultimately more effort than it's worth to force you to pay
I feel like shit for not being too good in taking care of my newborn ( I"m the dad).
This is my first child and I have zero experience with children as I am the only child in my family and I only have a few relatives who live quite far.
Is this ok though? I am always quite stiff when carrying my daughter and she is not too comfortable and I am struggling at getting the right angle when feeding her from the bottle. Wife is not too happy with this although she completely understands why.
All I am good at is prepping her items and bottles to ensure that wife is not too burdened.
Pic related, baby's head.
Every new parent feels this way, man and woman. All you can do is continue at it and eventually you'll get the hang of it, ignore your wife on that.
Congrats
make sure she's breast fed and keeps her mouth closed. You want her face to grow attractive.
>>17094942
You'll get the hang of it, she's just a newborn. You've got years left of this anon, don't worry just keep practicing
I applied to a job and they are doing a background check on me through a third party. The company doing the check says that they cant get the information to verify two places I worked at a couple years ago. I was stupid and didnt keep W-2s and the owners are fucking retarded franchise owners who are rarely available to get on the phone. So what can I do or ask for to verify my previous employment dates?
>>17094856
Is it for fucking Marcos pizza?
Wew lad that's some tight scrutiny for slanging pizzas.
Fuck outta there
>>17094856
you can request old tax documents from the IRS.
>>17094867
They are the cucks that I cant get ahold of. I worked for them at two different stores at two different times
What's the statute of limitations on asking a girl out after your friend has been turned down by a girl he was into?
Context: My friend was into this girl he was sure was into him, but he was afraid to ask her out so I kept pushing him to be more brave (because I want him to be happy. Eventually he did and got turned down. I think she was more into me but I never did anything about it. I was thinking two months. Is that too short? I just don't want to be a dick to my buddy.
Ask him first.
>I just don't want to be a dick to my buddy.
Then don't. Are you fucking stupid or something?
As soon as a buddy is interested in a girl, you put her in the NOPE pile. Learn to be a decent human being. Forget the ho and get someone your mate isn't interested in or hurt by.
>>17094868
I figured I would ask him first before I did anything, which is why I'm asking how long I should wait. I definitely would not do anything without asking him first.
I really like my manager at work but he's older than me (not significantly). It's technically not allowed but I really want to get with him. For the record, I'm decent looking (at least 7/10, not to be cocky) and he isn't like Chad attractive but I think he is. What do?
>its technically not allowed
Why do women like fucking things up so much?
>>17094848
Fucking this (and I'm a woman).
OP, don't do it, don't be that girl or that moron. Don't fuck up his life or yours. Back the fuck off.
If I were him I would want to be left alone
I have a ADD and it takes alot of
focus for me to pay attention.
And recently even though I've been taking my medication and focusing more my grades haven't improved at all. What should I do?
>>17094834
>What should I do?
Go back to your doctor.
Medication isn't a guarantee for good grades but it definitely plays a role.
You need to analyze exactly what it is thats causing your poor grades. Is it JUST because you aren't paying attention in class or could it possibly be a combination of your ADD and work ethic?
Either way, go back to your doctor.
>>17094843
my work ethic is make an attempt to work for 10 minute
get distracted
and barley get anything done
if school matters to you then of course there's a point to studying and making your best efforts to succeed there.
if it doesn't matter to you then fuck it, study something you actually have a personal interest in, just be aware that doing poorly in school may alter your future.
this issue has many factors and you BARELY gave us any details. you're probably just going through a phase where you haven't really even begun to master the art of focusing your mind on things. you should know that if you never learn this and develop this art of focusing it will only hurt you in future when you're a scatterbrained dumbass.
for the good of your future life and well-being, take time to develop better habits with regards to your studies.
>girlfriend of 5 years whom I live with asks to borrow our car after work on thursday
>we normally carpool to / from work together, but she says that she'll drive me home first before she goes to her family gathering
>sure, no problem, we agree on a time to leave so she can drop me off at home
>agreed upon time arrives, i'm ready to go but my boss wants to talk to me for 5 minutes so my girlfriend has to wait in my office for me for 5 minutes
>get back from convo, girlfriend says she doesn't want to bring me home because I'm "late" and that she doesn't have enough time
>I get annoyed because this fucks up my whole afternoon that I scheduled around her, now I have to take the bus home, and my dinner plans are shot - basically nothing to eat for dinner
later
>girlfriend gets home from having borrowed the car
>i'm sitting silently in my office browsing the web because i'm annoyed, generally not in a good mood
>girlfriend comes in and starts badgering me, asking why I'm annoyed, and I tell her that she fucked up my whole day for no reason when I was trying to do her a favor
>she tells me I can't be annoyed about that (?)
>she storms off in a huff
>haven't spoken a word to her since thursday night
>sitting in my office with my door closed right now, and sleeping in my guest bed again tonight I guess
Women are honestly the biggest pain in the ass. I wasn't even that mad until she told me that I had no right to be annoyed.
I'm basically sitting here stewing in rage because she has fucked up my whole weekend by refusing to talk to me. I think she's waiting for me to apologize for being annoyed with her, which I'm not going to do because I had a right to be annoyed.
The thing that really gets me is that she obviously doesn't even understand why I'm mad.
I'd value any response since I don't really have any close friends to confide in, but if not I just wanted to get this out there.
Do I continue my stalwart silence until she speaks first?
Don't cave.
She blew up over a minor inconvenience.
what was she going to? was it something important? if it was just some family barbecue or something she's being a cunt. if it was something actually serious maybe she has a point.
>>17094828
I never cave, but that's what I'm worried about here.
Normally whenever this happens (the not speaking for several hours / a day) she always realizes she was wrong and apologizes after some time.
This is the longest that we haven't spoken. I don't even think she thinks she did something bad / to annoy me in the first place.
>>17094835
She was borrowing the car to go to dinner with her parents. The reason she was dropping me off early was because she had a meeting with her boss before that. We only live 15 minutes from our workplace and we were leaving an hour before the meeting, so a 5 minute delay was in no way jeopardizing her getting to the meeting.
I yearn power. I have been yearning it for some time. The dreams of might.
What can I do to gain it? Additional information: I'm an INTJ so an individualist type; I'm not very social and quite enjoy being alone.
Video games brah. Command armies and pummel your enemies n shit
>>17094809
Oh come on. Video games are but an extension of reality. It's easy to have my avatars powerful; however I need power in real life.
>>17094805
>not social
>like to be alone
You'll never get power with those stats, especially if you weren't born into wealth. Better luck next time.
