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Problem.
When is it socially acceptable to start seeing someone again after a break up without looking like a slut?
The guy I was seeing cheated on me so the break up mid March was very hostile. I got over it, I hope, haven't seen him since.
Someone got very interested in me over the past 3 weeks. I guess I could like them too.
Can I give them a chance without looking like a slut?
If they cheated on you? I think you have the social upper hand. Go wild, he lost the mourning process the moment he betrayed your trust
>>17094525
I dunno, the next day? Thanks to college tumblrinas you're pretty much in the clear to do whatever you want.
>>17094540
See, I dont know.
It feels like I need to wait a certain amount of time before I can get even to something that is not very serious.
I get along with this guy very well, and maybe we could actually become a relationship, just the question is, is it socially acceptable for me to just jump from one guys arms to the others...
Tumblr? Is anyone actually using that? O.o
how do I get the motivation to draw?
I look for inspiration in external things. Books, movies, going out in nature.
>>17094495
I notice sometimes being outside helps me think about drawings sometimes.
>>17094510
Mhmn, and I reflect on it, and it usually gets me out of a slump. For writing though, I'm a horrible drawer
Sleep hours have been getting later and later recently, averaging 2am-12:30 because every tutorial or lecture I have takes place in the afternoon. Besides taking half my day it really seems to be taking its toll on my confidence but whenever I try sleeping at 10 or whatever it takes me hours to get to sleep (this has always been a problem).
Any help available would be much appreciated.
There's a trick I use to prevent jet lag whenever I travel, and that is not eating for 8-12 hours before you want your new breakfast time to be. You go to sleep and get up at the time the best you can and eat as soon as the time you want, which resets your internal clock. Hunger makes it hard to sleep but it is possible.
Does pulling an all nighter and then sleeping early as fuck the next night fix it?
>>17094796
It has for me.
I work part-time doing night shifts in weekends when there are a demand for it. Since i am attending Uni i am therefore forced to get my shit in order after said work weekends.
Not going to bed after my shift and staying up until sunday night usually works.
But then again, my sleep cycle is fucked from as far back as i can remember.
My girlfriend is in her third trimester of pregnancy, works at a resturaunt, tells me a coworker joked that she must like it raw since she's pregnant, she thought it was funny enough to tell me thinking id find it funny, I on the other hand feel like going there and telling that guy to keep his trap shut or worse but is it worth embarrasing her at her work and starting shit with someone I dont know because Im very protective of her? Part of me can't tell the difference if im in the right to take action, advice appreciated?
Not worth it m8, although I can appreciate on how you've taken it. It's disrespectful, but not necessarily worth a talking to, they might just have a generally crude sense of humour
>>17094471
Thanks man i needed that
>>17094471
This was my first time actually posting instead of just lurking so i appreciate the response, 4chan gets a bad rap, but this actually helped me from making a huge mistake, thanks again anon
How do you get rid of acne?
stop eating shit. eat clean
>>17094472
literally has nothing to do with it but ok.
I eat terrible things all the time and never once had a problem with acne or any skin blemishes. I'm a god damn porcelain doll. and I'm a guy.
>>17094454
Get 8 hours of sleep every night,
Drink lots of water.
Seems to work for me.
How do I stop caring about having a relationship? I did it a few months ago and was a lot less sad. Now I'm back to agonizing over the fact that no one gives a shit about me.
>>17094441
I genuinely want you to find someone that loves you, so it's not like no one gives a shit about you.
>>17094441
It can be hard, but I find the best route is self improvenent, whatever that may be for you. Maybe physical or mental or spiritual. I know it can be hard though, I'm visiting some family this weekend and they mention us kids having families and stuff, I'm one if the few currently single without kids at 27 years old. I try to push it out of my mind, I've been really hurt in the past and know what I want and won't settle for less at this point
>>17094465
Not him but
>do self improvement
>immediately feel good
>realize it's still just a distraction from >no gf
My professor has tasked us with finding pi with Python.
This is the psudocode we are using as a reference:
'''pseudocode
square of area 4 i.e. side length 2 centered at (0,0)
inscribed circle of radius 1, centered at (0,0)
area of square = 4, area of circle = pi
pi = (area of circle/ area of square) *4'''
Absolutely no one in my class has any prior programming experience, and I was hoping for any possible help for newbies.
>>17094431
import math
math.pi
>>17094445
I already know about math.pi, but our teacher wants us to find it using rng and a circle in a square.
I'm 22 years old but sort of look about 18 unfortunately, and just got out of a "relationship" with a woman in her 40s.
I want more sex and I want it with women as old as her because I think they're really hot. What do I do to get some? How do I meet older women and how do I make them like a guy like me? I want to fuck them and never talk to them again except for sex because I'm sick of relationships after the emotional abuse my last "gf" put me through
Halp
>>17094408
Also I'm decent at sex. Am about 6 inches and can last decently long, sort of as long as I want to, but if she doesn't seem into it I start going soft which is an issue.
Halp
>>17094408
Tinder with the age range set to your preferences or find a bar or venue frequented by older people and socialize.
>>17094423
Will I get any bites whatsoever? What if you add in the fact that I'm severely spergy
This "gf" of mine got my hopes up and set my standards real high I just don't think I'll be able to match it anymore.
Just wanna know how it is to suffer from depression. that's all. On the interwebs all I find are catchy af Stories no one wants to hear about. Gimme the truth.
>>17094403
It sucks then you die or you get over it
>>17094403
i imagine for everyone its different.
for me it was this sensation of absolute hopelessness. life was more or less the same it has always been when i was happy, but all i could think about is how it'd be better to just slit my wrist and be done with it.
mine was chemically induced though so didnt last long. had similar feelings in teen years but nothing that dramatic.
>>17094403
I feel like there's nothing inside. Completely alone, with only your own self loathing as company. I can't stand being alive, and I can't bring myself to commit suicide. Maybe a few months down the line I'll have the guts.
So I went out with a girl that works somewhere where I like to eat. Anyway, I dropped my spaghetti hard and she wasn't interested in going out with me again. Then I did something really autistic and wrote a song about the date and sent it to her. She never responded.
Unfortunately, I really love eating there and want to keep going back, and even though I think this girl is cute, funny, and interesting, I think it would be unfair to keep going there and make her feel uncomfrortable in her workplace.
My question is then, is it possible to salvage the situation by texting her about it sincerely and asking to be friends or if she'd feel uncomfortable with me going in there still? Or should I not make it into a big deal and still go in there and small talk with her like we used to before all this? Wouldn't that be forcing her into a situation she can't escape from?
Holy crap it sucks that the mere fact that you like someone can make someone uncomfortable.
Right now I don't feel like i just never want to show my face there again.
I'm really thinking about just explaing the situation to her and being upfont and frank instead of just being awkward and never showing my face again. Any advice?
Well you dropped your spaghetti and then dropped the fucking kitchen with the song thing. But who cares, just keep eating there if you enjoy it. There's literally no way to salvage that relationship though, sorry
>>17094446
Thank for telling me the truth. I honestly don't know why I'm taking it this hard. We don't know each other that well, but i really didn't want to fuck it up with this girl I guess. Damn, this sucks.
Hey, my mom just works and sleeps.
She's been through a sad phase, so I want to give her something that she will enjoy spend time, but nothing like books, because she sleeps reading them.
She needs a new hobbie, what do you sugest?
Please, this is serious, don't give me a dirty advice.
Watch funny movies/TV shows with her to cheer her up and suggest going painting together at a pottery place or maybe just at home to get her feelings/thoughts out on a canvas.
>>17094374
the best thing you can give your parents is your time.
play games with her? Like board games maybe? I don't know...
I haven't talked to my mom in years...
I let my brother in my group of friends and he constantly disrespects me. Whenever I try to confront him about it, he simply tries to avoid the issue and claims that I'm "attacking him".
I've known these friends for years and I asked them to treat my brother like a friend too, and now I am regretting it. How do I teach my brother some respect, or if worse comes to worse, cut him out (now he is pretty much always tagging along to what we do)?
Banter him back
>he can't take the bantz
Some of the most common ways that he disrespects me is by interrupting me in the middle of when I'm speaking, before I make my point, and assuming my point before I make it (usually he gets the point wrong) he "responds".
Another thing he does is wait until I'm done speaking, then change the topic completely before anyone has a chance to respond to what I just said.
Sometimes, he will interrupt me and just change the topic completely.
He also likes to sometimes position himself in front of me in "circles" so that I am blocked...
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>>17094351
Depending on your ages, beat the shit out of him.
You should call him out on his shit in front of people. In front of your friends, when he disrespects you, say it out loud, and tell him how much he is acting like a child.
What exactly is he doing?
One little frustrating thing can ruin my whole day and make me wanna kill myself. I just punched a wall and started crying w/ extreme self loathing just because a CPU fan wouldn't fit into my computer. What's wrong with me and how can I fix it?
You sound like you have a lot of pent up stress. I used to be like this because I was avoiding working on the major stressors in my life. Do you have anything like that?
There are professional people out there that are only solely to help you with this kind of issue.
A therapist isn't just for crazy people, and even the most normal of people need a little help in their life every once in a while.
A professional therapist would find the best options in helping you with this little anger management issue you have and help you live a better life in the process. It is a win-win!
>>17094337
Can't hold a job because of my stutter, haven't been remotely attracted to anyone in a couple of years (maybe because my last girlfriend treated me like trash) and have a shit relationship with my parents who I still live with because I'm 18 & can't hold a job because of the stutter. That's probably it but I can't really fix any of that.
Does alcohol work well with energy drinks or do the effects counteract each other? I'm thinking about mixing some tonight, but not if it turns out awful.
Energy drink give you a caffeine boost and a sugar rush while alcohol lowers your inabisions, a good combo since alcohol can often make you tired as well <3
Hard Liquor + Energy Drink = Fun
They make you energetic and feel less drunk, but in reality you'll be very drunk. It's hard on your heart and might make you go crazy
>took a girl's virginity yesterday
>we're not together, dating, anything
>we've been friends and hooking up occasionally for nearly two years though
>ever since it happened she got weird with me
>saying "thank you" a lot like I did her a favor
>being vague, came back from work and didn't initiate conversation
>attempted to talk...
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She a bible thumper?
Does she have another man?
Can't make bricks without clay, man.
>>17094309
She's not in a relationship and she's not christian. She was seeing a guy since february but it wasn't serious and they barely meet.
It could be a peer group issue. Is she a popular girl/are you a popular guy?
