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She works overseas and plans to be there a total of about 5 months. She works in fashion with a group of models (male/female). Regularly she and a group of models (including males) goes to night clubs. She gets paid to be there and gets free drinks. She essays they're boring so she gets drunk to pass the time. They go for about 5 hours staying out until 3am.
We've been dating for about 8 months, 2 months long distance.
She pretty much knows she has nothing to worry about with me getting a gf or cheating but she's hot and every guy would want her....
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>>17092968
post your gf to prove any of this is worth reading
if you're suspecting that she is fucking guys from clubs why not just hire a private detective to spy on her? there is service like this available everywhere
>>17093026
Not OP
But this sounds like a fun beginning to quite the story desu senpai
I'm in need of some serious help
What do you do when your gf is convinced she's so disgusting and fat that she doesn't want anyone to see her ever again...including me
She's petite as can be. 5 feet tall, like 85 pounds but every time I try to tell her she says your just a liar, you're just saying that, I can never believe anything you say about me
I have no idea what to do...it's getting dangerous
>>17092947
Get her therapy.
>>17092952
What kind? What if she'd be offended by it like "I know what I am, I'm insulted for you thinking I have a problem"
She's like I cant take pictures anymore I can't look at myself in the mirror etc etc
>>17092947
tell her how fat and disgusting she is, then put her in bondage and paddle her ass
she'll cling to you forever
Hi there! I'm a young man from London, and I have a BIG crush on a girl who works at a supermarket I frequently shop at. I go to this place (A small-ish local branch of the Co-Op... Doubt that name will mean much to non-Britfags) a couple of times a week on average, and quite commonly more. I always try to get served by this girl (As I said, it's a small shop with only a couple of people at the tills on a normal day, so it's piss easy to do this without seeming creepy). Now, the girl is always very chatty with me, and always calls out hello to me when I walk into...
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>>17092930
>What do I do?
Have you considered asking her out?
>>17092961
Yes. That's exactly why I'm here. I need advice on that... Is it a good idea? And what is the best way to do it, without seeming creepy?
As someone who's worked in retail, it could be a 50/50 situation honestly. She could simply be being very friendly with you because she's good at customer service and knows it's bringing you back and encouraging sales.
Or she could think you're pretty cute. Problem is, it's her workplace, and it's pretty inappropriate to ask customers' personal details.
Do you share any mutual acquaintances? Honestly, just slip her your number and if she's interested, she'll give you a call/text. :)
Ok so i need some advice. I went to college and got a degree, (2 year degree) to work with my father in his business, and to eventually take over for him. I've been working there for almost a full year now full time and im not sure that i like it. I sort of want to be like a mailman or package deliverer.
The problem is that the only people working there are my aging father, myself and my younger brother, who is only half paying attention at any given time. If i quit i feel like i will be leaving him out to dry and if something happens to the business than it will be...
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A little more info:
Also money is a factor. Right now i make just above minimum wage and technically dont work full time. I rarely get 8 hour days. So on average i make about $500 every 2 weeks after taxes. My wife that i need to care for is having alot of trouble finding a job (a thing we didnt anticipate after moving back to my hometown), and this has left us on food stamps.
After i go through 2 big tests 2 years apart in my current job i would about double my wage.
However, i know mail drivers make more than that as a starting pay, have better benefits...
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bumping post. i feel like im trapped.
>>17092923
Ask him to bump your salary to a living wage and give you more responsibilities, say $15, or tell him you have to find gainful employment elsewhere. Explain to him that you want the business to succeed, but the interests of the family you made comes first.
Ill be brief.
I got into some legal shit with drugs a year ago. Girlfriend of a month stuck around. Year on i broke.
Nothing serious just weed and ecstasy. She hates drugs full stop.
I fessed up. She tried the its me or the drugs but i did it again and fessed up.
This time shes gone for a dont ask dont tell. Never in my presence and not for more than a few years.
I almost broke up with her because the guilt and the sneaking around was getting to me.
Is this the best thing to happen tk my relationship or is it just setting up for failure?
Shes...
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>>17092868
Man can't you make do with legal drugs?
Legal drugs in moderation would be a pretty good compromise imho.
>>17092868
does she drink? i hate people with no drug policies although they drink
>>17092868
gently insert some drugs into her pooper while she sleeps.
How do I ask a co-worker out? How soon is too soon?
As we always ask (which should be common sense to most people) - what is your situation?
We cannot provide advice without some sort of context.
>>17092841
Sorry about that.
So I've started working at that company over 1 month ago. And there is really cute girl that I like, she seems to be older than me, and me being what you might call a /robot/ very shy, possible social anxiety and minor depression. But I've build up enough courage, I think, to ask her out.
How, if, should I do it?
don't shit where you eat
Since I stopped smoking a couple of days ago I feel incredibly lethargic. Is this normal?
I don't even miss cigarettes or have the urge to smoke, I just want to be less tired.(Coffee isn't helping to fix the problem.)
Keep it up man. In the long run you'll feel better.
I've noticed recently that I smoke so much that I get tired and it affects my work. That could eventually happen to you but who knows we are all different.
Just try to cut down on the caffeine possibly. Over time your body may start to regulate itself.
I recently went 4 days and without realizing it picked up at pack at the gas station... Back to square one i guess.
It's normal mate.
Bad influence here, I was trying to stop, but I caved. As you can see, I'm losing.
Good luck!
Yeah, managed to quit for 3 months. You'll feel better eventually.
Still, its really hard to quit permanently. Even if I had no physical "need" to smoke anymore I still missed the quiet moments of smoking so I had to start again due to stress and shit.
Question 1
Are constant erections normal? Like during the morning I notice is a popular thing to joke about how men wake up hard ect but is it normal for me to STILL get erections literally non stop? If any sexual though pop into my head about a girl I see or even remember, bam followed by a 20 minute wait. Sometimes I wear two pairs of pants to cove it up. Can I get like a sedative for this?
Question 2
Wut are the chances I go out of town to a bigger city with lots of clubs that I will get laid if i rent out a REALLY swank hotel for a couple of nights and lead with that?
Question 1: morning erections are normal and do happen normally. If I'm not mistaken they happen more when you have to pee when you wake up.
I used to get erections all the time when I met my second wife and we used to fuck a lot. My dick was always wanting to be inside something. I would have to jerk off on my breaks from work to stop getting blueballs. My brain's desires were just too strong I guess. I jerked off all the fucking time too to avoid blueballs. Now not so much. It's been about 3-5 years since that stopped.
Question 2: I was in the...
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>>17092746
Question two is more of leading with a expensive hotel at a CLUB not a strip club.
>>17092779
Yeah, I figured you were just out for some easy pussy. Strip clubs are easy pussy plus the girls look good and probably cheaper than blowing a week's rent on drinks for a girl, her friends and an expensive hotel. Anyways, Your chances could be zero if you have no game whatsofuckingever. I'm assuming that's exactly what it is since you're actually considering going through all this.
So back in highschool I was the "nice to everyone flower child" kid and made a lot of weak relationships with everyone and the few good friendships. So I met a friend of a friend who we'll call Ryan. Ryan is a slightly overweight, anime, video game, 4chan guy (hes the one who introduced me to 4chan). He had few friends because of a slight "dont take shit from no one" attitude. He was a suprisingly funny guy.
So the problem is that today he doesnt goto college and he just sits at home all day, and hints how miserable (and probably lonely) he is...
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You sound like a good person, he needs to realize that he will forever be unhappy doing what he is doing.
Don't let him drag you down with him
>>17092696
I think hed have to know the alternatives first. What its like spending more time outside.
I don't really enjoy walking, but I could swim for hours. Maybe Ryan's the same. He doesn't have to do laps or anything. Just being in the water together could be fun. Then just go eat afterwards. If things don't work out with Ryan, I'll be your friend OP, you seem like a great person
It's almost Monday already!
Don't stay up too late! I need you to be ready to go on Monday morning!
>>17092657
Nigga im working graveyard all weekend and my lecture starts at 8 am on monday, late isn't even in my vocabulary anymore.
I have transcended past fucked up sleep, i have transcended past the need for hormone regulation, i have transcended past the night.
>>17092668
Shit my dude. What's it like? Have you killed anyone yet in that misty nightfog?
>>17092672
The echoes of slumber still pass through my weary mind, feeling the tension as it seizes my will to relax.
But seriously though, a nigga be tired.
How do you do this without it being awkward? Girl I've been dating is coming around tomorrow as I'm cooking dinner and she seems suggestive towards "bedroom games" happening and unless that means snakes and ladders on the bed its obvious what she's looking forward to aswell as I.
When I'm no longer kissing her and move down to her neck to kiss what do I do? Do I softly bite? Or actually kiss? What if theres saliva being left by me what happens when I kiss her tits and move down all these questions a 23 year old should know but doesn't....
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always suck gently when you kiss, mouth or otherwise, this just keeps the saliva from dribbling out
also, ask her what she's into, if she wants a hickey or what
if she seems flustered and can't communicate what she's into, then you both need to have an honest and frank talk about boundaries, safe words, green light yellow light redlight designations, etc
>>17092607
Do what you feel like! Short of biting a piece off her, everything's game!
And no "bedroom games", you can fuck her, no problem! ;-)
Haha, dude you suck.
>>17092625
>hickey
Fuck that shit, don't even bring it up and if she does it to you slap the fucking taste out of her mouth. It's the stupidest thing ever invented besides North Korea.
Have you ever seen Ghost? try watching a few movies/clips that have some nice love scenes. It'd probably do more for you than some stale text from us. I could give you good advice but not sure it's worth giving because you wouldn't have the flow...
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we've been having an ongoing conflict about cleaning the apartment for the past few months. we moved in together in late december and through mid march i kept the apartment virtually spotless. then my brother blew up on me about how i should never clean up after him no matter what. so i stopped cleaning up after him and...... it just felt so depressing and frustrating. the apartment was never anywhere near as clean as i wanted it to be. he would leave food out all the time. he would scatter crumbs all over the place. he made food stains on the kitchen table and i had to get a tablecloth (i didn't tell him why i got the tablecloth because i didn't want to make him upset). i felt so disempowered, like i had gone from having a meaningful job of taking care of our apartment to being a pariah in HIS apartment. it contributed to feelings of depression i've been having lately, and combined with my all or nothing perfectionist tendencies i sort of gave up on cleaning up much of anything. this only made him more upset because for about a month he had to start cleaning up after me. he finally got fed up last week and stopped talking to me (well first he yelled at me until i started crying, and then he yelled at me some more. but then it was the silent treatment for the rest of the week. any time i tried talking to him he wouldn't say a word in response). then today we had another argument where i criticized him for getting to dictate everything while i'm expected to go along with all of his ideas no matter what. so he asked me if i had any ideas of my own. i did. i just want to be able to take care of the apartment. but i didn't say that, because i was afraid of how he might interpret it.
my brother is kind of effeminate but he's still very much a conventional male. i'm not, and i know that that can sometimes make people uncomfortable. sometimes i even weird myself out. (cont)
desu i'm not just worried what my brother might think if i took over cleaning the apartment, but i'm also worried about being too much of a degenerate/weirdo/whatever else you want to call it. i'm also the one who loves to cook and i cook meals for my brother. i know how weird it would be for me to be responsible for both cooking and cleaning while my brother works. desu that might be an outright unhealthy dynamic for siblings to have.
is there any way i can approach him about this without making it weird?
You dun goof'ed by accepting a roommate that won't let yo pick up after him. The problem is him it seems. He seems set on living in a pigsty and won't accept anything else.
Wait wtf. Why does he not want you to clean?
>Parents used to berate me for not having any trophies
>dad resented me for years for not playing football
>after they got divorced they kinda turned it down because I'm probably the only person willing to have dinner with them
Anyway
>Want to buy a Playstation 4 to play an anime game i'm excited about
>Don't want to catch hell from mom or dad for acting like a loser
>If I...
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I don't get the last three greentexts.
You need to get the funds from mom and dad?
Can't tell them it's for a Ps4?
If you don't get one in a week /v/ will have consoles and you won't? messing things up for you?
>>17092588
No, an anime game is out for ps4, if his parents find out then they might think he's a complete nerd, and if he doesnt get it in timd, /v/ might spoil the game for him.
>>17092588
I have the money
They'll just react extremely negatively when they find out what I bought
I just realized I'm gonna 30 by the time I finally finish university.
Should I kill myself?
Electronic Engineering btw.
Sounds clutch why kill yourself?
>>17092549
Why would you kill yourself when your life finally approaches its prime ?
i hope not.
i want to go back to school and i'm 25.
i asked this on another board but i don't have the prerequisites to get in and am wondering how. at least you are almost done. I've been working since i graduated high school and now have to go from not paying attention to not going for 7 years to going into medical.
21 year old here. Not a virgin, but my entire life I've never really gotten a break with the grills. I have many female friends, but 80% of the time, anyone I like is taken, and the other 20% I fuck it up by going for it too fast and putting them off by seeming eager, or I move too slow, or I'll get their number/facebook and they'll proceed to ignore me and were never interested in the first place. Had a handful of sexual encounters, but they were always drunken mistakes with people I wasn't into.
Anyway, things seem to be going well for once. Started...
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>>17092548
You're absolutely right. It's also hit and miss with what you say when you first start dating somebody.
If you're socially awkward, movies or restaurant with table games are a good way to go until she gets to know you and that you're quiet.
If that's out, just ask questions about her. And say wow or that's impressive
>>17092548
Like all dealings with women, she's really in it for her own feelings. If you can make her feel good, about being with you, she'll follow you around no matter where you want to go. Rather than making some specific plan that doesn't account for her mood in the moment (the only thing that really matters to a woman) it's better to learn to read the situation, and adjust the date on the fly based on her mood.
Is she annoyed because she wants to talk but the venue is too loud/sticky/skeevy?...
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>>17092865
After doing this for a while, you'll start to learn how to advance a date, and how to read women, and pick ones that you actually like spending time with. If you're a couch-potato but you're always taking out girls who want to party, you'll either bore them, or bore yourself grinding in noisy clubs for hours.
Similarly, some girls are really into shows or movies, so a good date for them might be going to see something, then having a place afterward to talk about it. If her idea of a...
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