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How to make myself to work? A month ago I've been given a task of writing an essay. I still got two weeks for it but I wanted to have it of my back at the end of this saturday. During the week I wrote about a page worth of material. I wanted to write yesterday, I wanted to write today, I want to write now but I just fucking postpone it everytime I told myself I'll be working on it. As of now I got about 6 pages left to do. And I'm sitting here writing this post instead of working on it.
How to end this shit? How to stop procrastinating and how to start...
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>>17090127
I'm in the exact same boat right now OP.
Like, fuck me. Is free will really a thing?
Cutting distractions doesn't work. Always another form of distraction to substitute. When I block my browser I just end up reading a book or something instead.
fucking shit
>>17090136
I'm gonna try and go for it right now m8. I'll be back in about an hour and I'll bring news about the state of work.
Half an hour in, still fucking nothing.
>Put weeks of thought into a design for a necklace for my gf
>Think I've came up with something really good, symbolic, aesthetic, etc
>nervous to tell her about it
>decide today to do a rough sketch of it and show it to her not telling her that I made it until afterwards
>she hated it
How do I deal with these feels? I'm really disappointed and sad because I put so much thought and love into designing...
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Just tell her how you feel about it. She'll most likely understand how you would be hurt by her not liking it. If not, ask her how she would feel if you didn't like something she worked hard on for you. It isn't her fault but it's understandable to be hurt by it, especially if it had personal significance to you.
I once received a pretty ugly necklace from a ex boyfriend.
It was green amber.
He said he bought it because my fav colour is green and my best friend was Amber.
I wore it every single day until we broke up.
I appreciated the meaning behind the necklace rather than what it was. If your gf doesn't appreciate that then fuck her (heh)
If it is symbolic and meaningful to you both then get it for her. I'm sure she will cherish the thought and effort gone into it.
>>17090100
I don't know man it feels shameful to bring up that I'm hurt over something that wasn't her fault.
>>17090117
I don't want to waste time or money on something she hates.
I am up shits creek with my college career. Here's a breakdown of the situation
I went to community college on and off from 2005 to 2009. I got a few A's, a few C's and a lot of F's. While this is an issue, it's not the biggest issue. In my last semester attending the school (We'll say it's school A), I had gotten a financial aid check from them but I never cashed it. I found another way to pay for the semester and I sent the check back to Sallie Mae. I bombed the semester and had no inkling there was a debt on my account.
Fast...
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Honestly, I can deal with the slow battle for this stupid fucking debt, but now my college career is on the line. I know you are supposed to report all your previous transcripts to any schools you attend, but I went to a community college in 2015 and I don't remember putting that I went to any other schools on my application. I did two semesters, got great grades, then went to another CC (we moved to a new area), didn't tell them I went to School A, am about to finish the semester with a 4.0. I am applying for University now and I need to send my transcripts to the...
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So here I am, back to square A, but now with ALL of my transcripts on hold due to fucking school A. I don't know how to make them figure this shit out faster, it's been four years and nothing has come of it, now I am losing money and if I don't figure this out before the start of the summer semester, I won't be able to enroll, pushing my finishing date back even further. This is all I can think to do right now:
Plan A) Call School B and tell them that I never took college courses at school A, I simply took my GED there and I must have not made that...
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Yeah typical, nobody knows what the fuck to do just like everyone else. I am so fucked.
I want to leave home cause my mother is a psycho.
Is it better to live alone or with roommates?
>>17090022
it depends on a thousand million details. one is not inherently better than the other.
generally if you can afford to live on your own, you do. some people like having roommates cuz even if they can afford to live on their own, more money in the pocket is nice. others like knowing someone else is in the house in case something happens. some people enjoy having someone live around for the interaction, however some look for roommates because they want interaction but end up with a roommate who isn't...
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Alone.
Through my experience you will find room mates not to be much better.
I love one of my roommates, and I'm not a fan of the other, but the one I don't really like spends most of his time traveling for work, so it's a sweet setup.
The extra money is great. I pay like $200-$300 a month and their rent covers my mortgage and a chunk of the utilities.
Saves me a looooot of money for other things, like travel.
Ok so long story short, my first date with a girl I met online (I'm also female and older than her) was nice and she's sweet, but her gina smelled like bad fish. She has a nice body, amazing tits, is super nice, a little bit boring and clingy, but the smell really grossed me out. How do I tell her this? My fingers stank so bad after, but goddamn she's so sexy and she really likes me.
wait, like fish or like something rotting? just if its fishy could be diet - i know mine got rank when i was taking supplements so i stopped
but if it smells rotten u need to ask her if she has a gyno and has been tested, cos that could b serious dangermousse
Girls are gross.
It smells like she has a uti. I've gotten them before too, but I wouldn't have agreed to go on a date if I smelt like that. It was just plain gross.
I was way too embarrassed to say anything to her about it. I need advice on ways to tell her without being so direct. I don't want her getting angry at me or not talking to me. I'd hate to lose someone like her to something that could be easily fixed
I have an interview here tomorrow. Any advice or stories about what it's like working there?
I live in walking distance and have basic social skills so I'm feeling pretty confident, but still.
>>17089984
The interview is gonna be a gangbang ?
>>17090003
Not as far as I know.
>>17089984
I know a couple people that worked there.
Both were drug addicts who were in and out of jail and stole everything they set their eyes on.
Sounds like they give out jobs to felons almost exclusively.
Are large canvas prints worth the money? My boyfriend and I are celebrating our 2 month anniversary next month and I thought I might surprise him with a portrait of ourselves that he can hang over his bed (we don't live together yet).
I want it to look sort of like a painting and not just a blown up photo.
>>17089960
>2 month anniversary
>celebrating
why though
>>17089960
He's gonna run away if you do this.
Yeeeaaah, I usually don't give this advice to girls, but this seems a bit needy tbqh
Anyone ever fucked a married chick? How did you feel afterwards? Did it land you in any hot water?
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I've known/been very close with a girl for over 10 years now. We've always had a ton of sexual tension between us, just never had good timing to actually become intimate with each other.
Anyway, about 2 years ago we lost touch for a while and in that time she became engaged to some guy she had only been dating for a year or so. Once we got back in touch she would constantly text me about all the issues they had in their relationship and...
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Alright anon.
I say don't do it. Yes she's married, but it's not like she's some cougar or hot mom, she's your bro who you flirt with. So I don't think that sexual fulfillment of cucking her husband is gonna really be that great.
But on a more important note, I don't think you should abandon your morals for that girl man. She sounds a little loopy from what you've said. She married a dude after only dating a year? Nowadays, that's a bad sign that she rushes into things without forethought. And you're gonna get...
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>>17089973
Yeah that's the way I'm trying to keep it framed in my mind.
Though I should say, this is pretty low risk. She moved 6 hours away once she married and the guy has no clue who I am or where to find me. The girl would come to my home town and stay in a hotel for a night or two while we hang out and probably disrespect every surface of her hotel room.
>>17089997
Yeah, but that's for now. Word will get out eventually, and he can figure out who you are. I wouldn't believe everything this girl tells you, you don't know the guy. Not saying he's gonna kill you, but you know. Who wants that kinda shit in their life? Knowing there's some guy out there hating your guts forever cuz you had sex with his wife. It kinda makes you a turd....
Not trying to sound like a fag man, trust me, I get it. But you're too close to this person, emotionally and...
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My girlfriend only ever wants anal sex and hates it when I touch her breasts (the nip only is okay sometimes).
I love her so I didn't let it bother me too much but now she wants to wear a realistic strap on while we have sex even though she won't be using it... Just wearing it?
She has body image issues so I don't want to make her uncomfortable asking her... Does she sound like she might be a trans man? She's also bisexual and identified as a lesbian when she was a teenager.
I'm not gay but I want to help her work through it and support her.
Possibly. Or that's just what she's into (strange as it is, there are more "out there" fetishes). We're not going to have a better answer than she does.
It's possible... the strapon (without using it) and anal sex thing seems especially suspect. The first is weird as a fetish.
Maybe watch a couple movies with her involving trans people or something and see if she says anything? Or watch a documentary while she's home about transmen, and make sure she can see/hear it even if she's not watching it with you.
Strapon thing might not be too weird. I'm a girl and I have fantasies of having a dick so I have one for fantasizing and pegging my boyfriend.
Have you ever seen her vagina? Does it look strange at all?
i hate spending time with my parents.
i know edgy right? well its not
whenever my dad calls me and ask me to go eat lunch with him and my aunt i say yeah, some lunch sound great.
Then they want to go to my aunt place have some coffee, my aunt has always something new she bought she wants to show me.
Ok but after that its anon lets go watch a movie
and after the movie its lets walkmy dog
and after that is going to the winery to buy some wine because its cheaper today or something
and after that there is something else and i kid you not i left 11 am and im coming back 9 pm not wanting to coock dinner or anything.
And my mom is 10 times worse. Mom always wants me to visit on sundays wich sucks because the bus takes an hour to come on sundays, she will grill some meat outside which takes 2 hours and in those two hours she is running all around the house doing god knows what. Im left waiting at the table either alone, alone with grandma or alone with some elderly friend of my mom. After we eat i want to go home but mom complains so i have to stay another two hours either browsing 4 chan in my cellphone because god forbid she stays for twenty minutes in one place or i take a nap upstairs.
I dont want to avoid them but its there really an alternative?
Learn to make excuses or just tell them you need more time to yourself. Or start saying "Okay but I can only do lunch, then I need to leave" and stick to it.
Learn to say 'no'?
Move? I hated spending time with my family so much I moved to another country that I know most of them couldn't even get in to visit. I've been a lot happier since then.
>>17089860
i live alone dude
>>17089859
its hard to come up with excuses to my dad because he doesnt tell me we are going out for lunch, coffe, a movie, a walk, window shopping, etc. He will invite me to one thing and then the other and if i say something he will complain because its just one small thing more.
If i agree to visit mom and then show up an hour after the time we agreed she will wait that hour to start grilling the moment i show up
Any anons care to share stories where you were dating someone and only one of you had a job? I'm seeing a guy now that I really care for but the main reason I don’t want to commit fully is he doesn't have a job. I don’t mind treating him every time we go out, it's moreso the underlying contrast between my highly driven personality and his more laid back one. Curious to hear how that sort of dynamic has worked out for others, from either perspective.
>>17089844
If you have hesitations now, I can guarantee you that it will turn into resentment down the road. Your gut is telling you that you're going to be unhappy with having to pay for everything. And in all likelihood, have to deal with the consequences of a long term relationship wherein he has no ambitions or desire to get off his ass and contribute.
If I were you, I'd bail before I get any deeper into feelings for him. There are tons of men out there who you would be happy with, and who have the self-respect...
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If you need to ask then he probably isn't right for you.
It never works out in my experience. Eventually the person without drive feels like dead weight to the person with drive, and the person with drive gets tired of dragging them along.
If you feel like he's worth holding onto and you don't mind dragging him with you on your way up, it might work... it's not something I could bring myself to do. It gets exhausting.
When I was a 8 years old kid I would lay in bed, imagining myself as a beautiful girl living alone, everyday being sexy, sluts around and found that hot as fuck. When I grew up, I met sluts exactly like that, nearly got into a relationship with one, and found them incredibly disgusting afterwards. What's wrong with me?
>>17089800
You've got trap potential op you filthy slut
You grew up.
Also >>17089810 do your male features like hairy legs or having a penis ever make you feel uncomfortable?... Like, hey, maybe you'll just try shaving them a little, or putting on panties, or you kinda want boobs?
Maybe you were destined to be the slut, not have the slut.
You don't want to be with them, you want to be them.
What's /adv/ consensus on time management?
– Pomodoro is a fraud and maybe only works for really dumb tasks that you can do 20 minutes at a time
– I appreciate the flow whenever it comes, but there is no way to trigger it (that I'm aware of) so this is a kinda useless concept
– Planning/keeping your commitments in a list definitely helps
Anything else?
Esp. interested in how you track time spent on various activities.
>>17089798
Dude just get what needs to be a done and have realistic expectations
>>17089798
Get rid of things that are a waste of time. See, now you have time.
>>17089805
I'm not buying it. Surely there must be better and worse ways to manage your time.
Good point about expectations though.
OK so I've accepted that my boyfriend is the biggest asshole. He's not a Chad, he's not muscular or good looking. He's just another fail normie who I made the mistake of meeting/loving (I really care about him, he took my virginity so of course I do).
I'm honestly growing more and more tires of it. We've been dating for a year and recently he's been showing me his true colors. He used to be very loving towards me but now he ignores me, puts me down, and refuses to actually follow our conversations to understand what I'm saying....
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Inb4 you fuck on prom night, get pregnant and are stuck with him, but op don't be a greedy shit and break up after prom just to use him for something.
>>17089748
Just find another dude to dance with at prom. Sure, he'll notice and maybe take a little out on you, but then he should probably feel stupid for letting it happen. That's what I did, the girl I was supposed to be with (then again, we weren't dating) caused a huge scene, but then afterward things went really well with the new girl so w/e man.
>>17089760
We both want to go, in fact I think it's the reason why he's been sticking with me.
Cute girl I added on facebook years ago messaged me out of the blue. I replied, message was seen 2 days ago, still no reply... Feels bad man :(
Post the conversation, I don't think anyone can give you any advice otherwise.
>>17089741
>messaged me out of the blue
probably a misclick
She got the wrong person.
