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How much has money been an issue for you in your relationship.
I've been in a 3 year relationship. My gf finally has 2 part time jobs, but nothing stepping. I have a full time job that has area to move up.
MY focus is my career / earning a living. Throughout the relationship I've been more smart with my money / attitudes / worked hard to get jobs. My concern is if money is already an issue now. How much will it be more in the future? I feel as times goes on she'll want kids but shes in debt. I want something more even.
It sounds a lot as though money is a big issue for you. You sound resentful of the fact that she doesn't earn as much money as you. But that doesn't necessarily need to be a problem.
I think you should ask yourself why this bother you so much. does she pay her share of the rent / utilities / groceries / whatever?
It's perfectly reasonable not to want to have kids until the both of you are debt-free. But you need to have this conversation with her.
If in the relationship you are already resentful about what "your" money is being spent on as opposed to "her" money, then you are doing it wrong. Do you expect that when you have kids down the line, you will rip shopping lists in half where she buys the formula and you the diapers?
If you believe she has made imprudent financial decision, part of learning to chart a future in the relationship is being able to bring it to her attention in a respectful way and being able to discuss solutions. Note that being a woman is a huge detractor in the open job market, and had you been her, you yourself may not have been a better way out of the situation.
Your attitude sounds more like "I made better decisions than you did so I deserve these nice things which are MINE and I resent you for using MY THINGS!" Newsflash: no matter what the redpill MRAs talk about, women earn less than men, and their career paths are hampered by societal and personal expectations of starting a family down the line. ANY woman you date within your socioeconomic stratum is going to earn approximately 85% of your wages and if you land upon a millionaire, she's not dating you for your prudent financial choices. Once said woman becomes pregnant and the mother of children, she will earn even less.
Wanting something "more even" by your definition involves a childless marriage where you are dating above your stratum. Note that these women, to focus on the career and earning a living, will not be doing the emotional work and commitment your girlfriend currently brings to the table. To be honest, since any woman would be dating below her stratum to get with you, you will need to bring more to the table once you break up with your girlfriend due to these irreconcilable differences.
>>17091825
She's a woman who is more focused on relationships clearly. Would you prefer being with someone who is 100% career focused, barely makes the time of day for you, is more irritable from high stress work so will snap at you more often, and probably won't want any children because of said career?
The stupidity on this board sometimes is incredible..
So ive been talking to this girl for a few weeks now and to put it short.
I plan to meet with her, she accepts ecstatically. We talk till the day or day before of the meet up and then she comes up with some excuse, e.g. work calls her in or parents need her. Its happened 3 times now and havent met her other than the first time we met.
Is she just shy/chickening out, or am i being A+ Trolled.
Wat do?
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>>17091803
>talking to this girl for a few weeks
>plan to meet
ya blew it before you started pussy
>>17091803
No one here can tell you the answer to this. I would probably feel like if someone can't get their act together by the third time then they're not really worth bothering with.
>>17091806
Mate, within those few weeks, we planned to meet 3 times. And a few weeks as in 3. Sorry that i have a full time job and uni study and only have half my weekends to do anything.
Is there a point to any of it?
Who cares?
It don't matter... None of this matters...
>>17091787
Hey I was wondering why I'm really turned on by women who smoke recently when all my life I've hated smoking? What's the reason?
How should we know?
>>17091769
Because I don't
It's called a smoking fetish, OP. My dad has one (my brother found all these videos of women smoking on YouTube in his web history because he doesn't know how to delete it due to being 67.).
There really isn't anything you can do about it except embrace it (by dating smokers) or not (by not dating smokers).
This might be a silly question, but how do I ask out a girl I only see when she's working? I've seen her a few times and made very brief small-talk, but she seems to be busy all the time. On the one hand, I don't want to bother her at work. On the other hand, I'd like to ask her out. Is there some sort of protocol with this?
>>17091682
Just to be sure, when you refer to this working girl do you mean just a girl who is working when you see her, such as a waitress or something, or do you mean a 'working girl' ?
>>17091682
bumping because I'd also like to know. Certain girls would never mind attention from a guy they like, others are actually serious about their work and would get annoyed.
>>17091687
She's not a sex worker, if that's what you're asking. She works at an establishment I patronize often.
can you name what positions and salaries are for the positions that don't require putting needles in people?
do those positions require 2 year degrees from community college? i'm not trying to be the manager, just one of the dudes who's behind the glass with the computers.
http://www.indeed.com/q-Plasma-Donation-Center-jobs.html
isn't 2 years of college also required? trade school maybe?
>>17091694
-about the medical screeners.
hey senpai, i got into all the UCs i applied to: LA, SB, Davis, and Berkeley.
which should i go to? and which is the least cucked, AKA most apolitical?
>>17091574
What are you planning on studying?
>>17091574
Berkeley is historically leftwing, Davis right. SB is full of brainless surfers. UCLA has a bit of everything, including the nonpolitical.
>>17091686
geography, physical+GIS emphasis. at Davis it'd be environmental science.
>>17092050
UCLA is what i'm leaning towards. UCB is attractive in the sense of its ranking, but with how political it already is, things are gonna get especially heated come November I imagine.
Trying to smoke pot with my new roomates, but theyre all anti weed. My car is in the impound lot and since I do my work online, there is now reason for me to leave my apartment. How can I smoke weed without them knowing?
vape or dab.
put a fan in front of your bedroom window, smoke right behind the fan, and blow the smoke out the window through the fan.
>>17091550
Good idea... But what about the neighbors?
Does it make any difference?
>>17091514
Nope, doesn't matter. As long as you have your own pad, you're good
>>17091514
JUST GET LAID
it doesn't make a differance at all unless you only want to have sex with college girls then duh doy, it makes it easier
how can i make my friend falll in love with me
>>17091512
>make
that was your first mistake.
>>17091515
Fucking kill yourself, holy CHRIST.
>>17091512
Death.
What are some sites or apps that would help me find work as a freelance writer?
Go to FA and write some shit about big cock tigers yiffing dragons or something
>>17091533
YEah yeah I know about FA, cmon anything else
>>17091504
There's an app called talent. If you have it, you'll succeed as a writer. It works best in conjunction with hard work, determination and luck. They'll drain your battery life if you're not careful though.
I keep falling asleep at work. Today my manager saw it too. I used to have severe sleep problems in high school and college that made me fall asleep even while driving. even though I get about 7 hours of sleep every day I still fall asleep at work. my boss doesn't seem happy at all. what do i do?
Do you eat well? Take vitamins?
Lack of B vitamins, iron, vitamin d, etc can cause constant sleepiness. In the meantime, drink green tea.
>>17091436
I eat very well but I do not take vitamins. I guess I'll take vitamins and see if that helps at all.
>>17091417
7 hours is nowhere near enough sleep for most people. Try 9 or 10.
Would it be a dick move to expose a molesting cousin after 20 years? He's now married with a kid in the military as a consideration.
>>17091404
depends on the 'molesting' he did and why you want to expose it now.
tell us the story. no need to gratuitous sexual detail but the circumstances are required for us to know.
>>17091408
>no need to gratuitous sexual detail
Speak for yourself. OP got pictures?
I was 10 and he was 16 and he used ice to shove down my pants to retrieve it with his mouth, and happened more than few times.
Why now? No particular reason. I've just always wondered if should have brought it up.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for years. We aren't planning on breaking up anytime soon, and we both want to get married a few years down the road, maybe sooner, but right now, at this point in my life, I want my own fucking place.
I love him to death, but I hate that I get resentful with him smoking in the house and generally not picking up as much as I like to keep the house clean. We have tried to communicate about this, tried to come up with ways to keep things clean, each having our own chores, and he has tried quitting (did for about two years), and tried those vapes, and now he's back to two packs a day.
On top of this I just feel fucking crowded even though I have other space in the house to be. I love him to death, but oh my fucking god I want my freedom back. I want to clean the house and not have it get messy again within three days, I want to only worry about cooking for myself, I want to get my own pets and hobbies without first having to come to some kind of compromise with my partner.
We're reaching a point where in the next year we will both be finally stable enough to support ourselves without leaning on each other.
My question is, should I pursue my own place? And yes I have brought this up to him before and he asked me to at least wait till we we're both in a more financially stable spot, which I was already planning on doing.
Have any other couples done this? Did it help, or harm your relationship?
>>17091378
honestly if he doesnt care where he smokes and doesnt clean up after him self then he doesnt sound like a very good husband i would get separate bed room but not a separate place. just broke up with a guy with similar issue but doesnt mean you should do the same
Just make him smoke outside. Do more outside the house.
I'm in the same position, except instead of moving out, I want to fuck other girls
I feel your pain OP
Sup /adv/ people. I'd really like to help a few friends of mine find good men. The friends in question are very much in-line with what /adv/ likes in women. I on the other hand have like 90% of the red-flags that /adv/ considers bad in women. Because of this, I have trouble helping out.
How can I help my girls out? They're sweet and all, and deserve good things.
>>17091372
>The friends in question are very much in-line with what /adv/ likes in women. I on the other hand have like 90% of the red-flags that /adv/ considers bad in women.
You're going to have to qualify those statements.
>>17091377
How do I help my traditional, conservative, shy, sweet friends get some dick.
>>17091393
Male prostitutes.
Stop meddling in your friend's lives you nosey cunt mind your damn business.
