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So there are these two girls that I've been seeing recently. We hung out together (they are really close) and we got to know each other really well. It's obvious that they have some sort of interest in me (not sure how much though) and I want to make a move.
So far, I enjoyed talking to girl A more than girl B and it seemed like me and girl A had some sort of connection inbetween, and I feel like I'm more attracted to her for some reason. But she's definitely less attractive in looks than the girl B who is far more prettier. This may sound dumb but I'm uncertain to go for which one as I don't want my foolish decision to ruin a potential relationship. I'm just worried that if I go for girl A, the special 'connection' that I'm feeling may just be a temporal thing, and if I went for the girl B, I'm not sure if our relationship will last long (we've talked but I don't feel super attracted to her atm).
I've only had a girlfriend once in my life. I'm an 18 year old dude I just don't want to make the wrong move (If possible, I would want a long relationship with one of them). What do?
>>17092124
The common sense choice is girl A.. is this seriously even a question.. wtf..
>>17092124
>I've only had a girlfriend once in my life. I'm an 18 year old dude I just don't want to make the wrong move
You are 18. You're going to make wrong moves every day until you're in your late 20's. Doesn't matter who you pick.
In theory, you can't avoid pursuing someone because you're afraid it might not work out. Every choice in life is taking a chance and hoping it pays off.
That's like not buying a car because you're afraid it might break down some day. Go for it, kid. You only have a few more years to be an idiot so yuck it up.
>>17092132
well the thing is girl A is a literal 9/10 and I feel like we could develop the special connection over time if we were to start dating seriously. I didn't really start to feel that special connection with girl B until about a year or so of hanging out, and once she got pregnant it seemed like we got way closer than we were before so i'm just not sure if that's genuine chemistry that's hard to find or if it can be created over time
Hmmmm
>be dating girl for three years
>she pretty
>but skinny
>and sorta kinda boring
>but loves me a lot
>a whole lot
>i moved to a new city a few months ago for school
>see this other girl
>not as objectively beautiful as girlfriend
>but almost more so to me
>i've always had a thing for curly haired brunettes
>notice brunette girl a few times around campus
>don't pay much thought
>until i do
>do minor level social media stalking
>loves literature, humanities, writing, hiking, politics, camping, film, and even a lil video game
>all the crap i love
>starting to think soul mate
>shit
>i have a girlfiriend
>never even talked to this brunette plausible future wife
>have gf that loves me a whole lot
>also pretty sure brunette girl is a few year older than me..further in her degree probably graduating soon
>still thinking about her a lot though
>fantasizing about dating and flirting her
>not even sexy stuff
>just the romantic stuff you think about when you genuinely crush on a person
wat do senpai?
Let's face it, your chances of a successful future with either girl are practically zero.
We all want what we can't have. I kind of feel sorry for your girlfriend, as I too am the boring girlfriend who loves her boyfriend a lot. And I'm always worried about tying him down. But he willingly stays with me, so...
Opie just get your girl to improve. She should notice you're ready to bail and start improving herself.
Or I don't know. She isn't me. Typically what I do is always try to be the best I can be for my boyfriend; always willing to improve. Dunno if your girl is the same way. But yeah just prompt her to improve herself
>>17092114
Thread/
So I'm a bit of a new fag, I'm confused because some boards have threads lasting a few days without much activity, and on my main board,/b/ the threads usually last around 4 hours. What's up with this?
It's because some boards are just more active than others and /b/ is the most active part of the cesspool.
/b/ is just really popular. Everyone comes to 4chan through /b/, but then eventually moves onto other boards once they get fed up of it (pic related).
Some threads on other boards can last weeks. It's not because they're inactive, they just have a smaller user base.
OP here, let me get this straight, the smaller the board the longer the thread?
So I'm starting to go out more on my own, and I'm having more success meeting new people.
But I can't really keep contact with them, I have hard time calling/texting people regularly.
How do you do it?
>>17092068
scully is so beautiful
>>17092079
9/10 would creampie
>>17092068
Obviously you don't actually care enough about these new people, or else you'd make time for them.
You can just organize a really simple system where you allocate one hour a day calling/texting people, preferably new ones.
Was gonna sign up to Western Union to send money to a friend overseas, but I didn't want to use my real name for when they pick up the money. Is it bad to sign up under a different name?
As far as I know you use a code and then have to specify the name of the person picking it up and they will check that.
>to a friend
You're definitely doing something illegal. And you're about to make it worse.
Trying to send money with a fake identity may get you into much worse shit than whatever illegal stuff you're paying for.
>>17092102
I should of mentioned I guess that I used it WU before, but that I never seen the option. Unless things have changed the last 3 years I have tried it. Signing up again I was wondering if there would be big problems using my real address and stuff except for my actual name.
I'm home alone most of the time and it's starting to be suffocating.
The weekend is here and I have nothing to do. Vidya is a distraction and useless. Tv shows, likewise. I have no hobbies at the moment.
I broke up with someone 2 months ago and I'm always lonely now. It's weekend and I don't know what to do. I have nothing to do outside, literally nothing.
My friends might schedule something for tonight, but even knowing that I feel very uneasy.
I don't know what's going on with me right now.... I feel like I'm wasting the weekend when I could be doing something great...
Start going to the gym.
Trust me, I was just like you. I started going to the gym, just lifting. You don't even have to do it to look better, it just lets off so much energy and you feel fucking amazing after it. Learn to love going to the gym and I promise you it will change your life.
>>17092061
this.
I'm going kinda going through the same thing right now OP. Lifting is a great outlet.
>>17092051
>I have no hobbies at the moment
That's your problem right there. Exercising, like the two above posters said, is a great choice, but dude, come on. There are limitless options. Pick something that's interesting to you and get involved. Board games, fixing bikes, political volunteering, drawing, playing guitar, needlepoint, cooking, magic tricks, stray animal rescue, fiction writing. Pick SOMETHING.
So, things ended with my ex a few months ago but we're still friends (mostly because she still hangs around my place sometimes) and I'm pretty sure she's still into me much more than I am into her. I know she has a lot of issues and can be very frustrating, which is a big part of why I let the relationship end (we never really broke up explicitly but there was a mutual understanding that things wouldn't go on). Now yesterday, she asked me whether I'd be down to just be fuckbuddies and I said I didnt think it was a good idea - obviously because she'd start getting ideas if she doesn't already have them and it would inevitably lead to drama, which I hate (another major part of why I broke it off - she always needs to "talk through" everything even when it's obvious that nothing good will come from a talk). However, my dick is obviously not in agreement with my mind and I keep coming up with excuses why it would be alright.
So basically, I need to hear that this would be a really dumb move - tell me your horror stories. Or about instances where it worked out, really any advice is appreciated.
Pic unrelated.
>>17092049
You know this is a tragedy waiting to happen. This is real life - we're not living in a romantic comedy where you'll 'see the error of your ways' and get back with your ex after fucking and live happily ever after. That never happens
>we're still friends
No you're not. Being friends with an ex is the exact same as being in the friendzone. One person is faking the friendship in hopes of geting more out of it. Cut ties completely and in a few more months start dating again
>>17092049
>So basically, I need to hear that this would be a really dumb move - tell me your horror stories.
There's no need. This is a really dumb move and you made the right call. Our entire lives as males are comprised of us convincing our dicks to do the right thing.
You know exactly what will happen if you do this. If you don't mind casual sex snowballing into a melodramatic shitstorm with your ex girlfriend then go for it.
If you don't think its worth it and you want to avoid that mess all together then continue on the path of righteousness. Your choice.
>>17092060
>>17092092
Thanks guys, that was all I needed to hear I think. Having fapped furiously a few times in the meantime, the idea seems pretty ridiculous now.
Hey, /adv/ I think I fucked up. I have girlfriend of 7 months and for the last week, we think she`s pregnant. Period is irregular and late for like 4 days already and yesterday she had nausea and for the last week she feels tired, but maybe that`s, because it is deadlines in uni. Idk, what to do /adv/, I love her, she loves me, but sometimes she says that shes not sure if she wants to spend her rest of life with me. Her mom wouldnt let to do abort and we are pretty young Im 21 and shes 19. That should I do ? Sorry for all this nonsense, but Im stressed, maybe I will rewrite everything if its confusing
>>17092030
1) have her piss on a strip
2) congratulations!
Seriously, tho, sit down and talk with her about it.
My advice is that if you can help her have her baby, you should, and you should want to do that because it's your feckin' kid too, man.
If you can help her have it and find a nice family desperate to have kids who will adopt it, you should, and you'll feel better because you did the right thing.
>got a friend who is a 10/10 human bean desperate to have babies, can't, is having to fork over 20k to adopt IN THE COUNTRY, but she and he husband are working her ass off to do it
I seriously hope you been using birth control?
If you did it correctly, it's a very low chance.
Wait two more days, then if she doesn't get her period, get a pregnancy test. Hopefully, it's just a scare. If it isn't, well, you need to talk to her and decide what you want to do
>>17092934
We were using only condoms and it didnt brake or anything
My parents divorced when i was like 4, I'm 18 now. My mom has been on-and-off with some guy for some years now (8 years at least) but i haven't met him all these years because she didnt want to. I only met last this summer on vacation (they're broken up now) and she introduced him to me as a friend, later i figured out he was the guy she was with and i was upset she didnt tell me. Also that he is so clearly still after her.
I've been seeing him more after this (he's bringing us groceries and stuff). Brought us stuff yesterday, left, and forgot his phone here. I searched it and found nude photos. 4 of my mom in lingerie, 2 of them having sex. I felt like vomiting, and really had angry thoughts, but i thought it would be best and more mature not to do/say anything.
So now i feel like shit. I can't even look my mom in the eyes after this. I'm not so upset about her having sex and taking photos of it, but how could she be so UNBELIEVABLY STUPID as to let the guy keep the photos. I'm in disgust and awkward whenever I talk to her.
What do.
>inb4 ur moms a whore
>inb4 cuck
>inb4 post the nudes
Going through someone's phone is a dick move 2bh
>>17092027
I know, wish I hadn't.
>>17092020
Why tf do you care? You're 18.
Go get a job, a gf and a life. You are just starting to enter the adult world. Why are you letting this childish bullshit bother you?
Focus on improving yourself and living your life. You sound way too attached to your mom for your age.
Just got bonded out of a maximum security part of a county jail about six hours ago. Accused of aggravated assault. Spent five days with two accused murderers, men who have shot at and/or stabbed people, and god knows what else. Max sec cell, Sullivan county TN, all white cell, I am the twelfth man, third man to be sleeping on floor.
Five days felt a month.
Pretty scary stuff for me anons. Did 47 days for a 2nd DUI. Doesn't even come close to that.
Just need to vent bros. Looking at serious time. Anyone been to prison? Advice, comments, questions?
what did you do?
See a lawyer with experience in criminal law. (A public defender will do; they're ridiculously overworked but still better than lawyers from firms that don't usually handle criminal clients.).
>my dad's a public defense lawyer who takes overflow cases for the feds in Pennsylvania
>>17091994
Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.
Current crush of mine wich I spent most of the times with at uni last two months called me yesterday afternoon, I was in class so I couldnt pick it up and I sent her a text "what's up". Shortly after that she replied "I'm just kind of drunk and stoned with Lucy at the park and I just wanted to say that it'd be nice if you were here :)".
We are really having some nice times when we are together, do you think that the text indicates there's something more going on? She never sent me a text like that before
>>17091910
Yes. How much more of a sign do you need, take this chick out to dinner get a couple wines in her and fuck her.
>>17091910
>just kind of drunk and stoned
/thread
>>17091944
We spent like majority of our free time during the week together. At this kind of a comfy bar we both love. Or just hanging out...if I ever had to ask a girl out for a dinner I'd knew it wouldn't be the right one for me.
>Be 24 dating a 56 year old lady I made out at a club with one time
>Had regular sex at her place
>suddenly hear nothing from her for three weeks
>No calls or answers the door
>learn she died in her apartment from the manager of her building
It's been a month and I feel like that dad trying to be hip at every party I go to. Girls that have hit on me feel underage and immature. No idea where to take my love and social life to.
>>17091903
cougars.com or w/e
but sorry for your loss
probably bait. it's not like she was 80 and prone to having a heartattack
>>17091903
This post sounds very troll. If not troll, then you are super lucky. You now have a chance to experience life twice, once through the old lady who wanted a young companion, and now with other younger ladies. I understand, you're 24 and all women are idiots at 24. Don't worry, they start calming down in 3 or 4 years and stop being so entirely vapid. Then you will get even more attention, and you will prefer it then. Until then, fuck whoever you want.
Hey /adv/ I'm in my teens and I have recently had a terrible outbreak of bacne, and I was wondering if anybody would know of any way to get rid of it?
Thanks!
underage
mods
>>17091893
eighteen.
nineteen.
>>17091889
bath salts wit magnesium. sit back and soak, loofa the shit ouuta urself
What are the pros and cons of dating a girl I'm not that interested in?
>>17091854
Pro- you might have a pussy to fuck
Cons- you look like a fuckwit for pussy
I'll only do pros.
>friends are busy? you can hang out with her
>practice courting and sex
>practice mind games and dodging her mind games
>you become more desirable to other women.
Women always like taken men. I feel like women see the ring on my finger not as a commitment but more like a sign I've passed the 'exam'. I'm sane enough for someone to marry -- and that's desireable.
>>17091858
>you might have a pussy to fuck
Not that interested in sex, but that's a reasonable point.
>you look like a fuckwit for pussy
But she's actually rather cute. Does this point still stand?
>>17091859
I've gotten decent at the mind games after being in a relationship for several years, but I suppose it's good to get rid of the rust.
____________
I suppose I should just be straightforward: I work a lot, and I'm trying to save money but I miss companionship. What would make it worthwhile?
How do you keep yourself alive? Simply letting go is a very peaceful thought. If you're dead, you're free of the worries and obligations that come with this life.
>>17091843
lmfao, pretty big assumption about "death" there, pal. what makes you so sure you won't be instantly planted in a new womb?
>he thinks death is the end
girlslaughing.jpg
>>17092797
>be rich and depressed
>kill self
>born as a nigerian nigger in a desert with no water or food
LEL
>>17092802
Good thing reincarnation isn't real.
There's more people being born than there are dying.
