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My coworker, a 30yo married man, is into me, when i revealed that i was bisexual over some after work drinks and he said he was curious but never tried anything, and now hes like buying me anime that ive always wanted to see and stuff like that, he totally wants my dick.
Should i go for it? Or nah, im 21
no, he is too old and too married. I'm 30 and it makes me real sad to type that, but yeah.
>>17104125
Hes buying me stuff though and i havent exactly told him to stop, i kinda feel obliged to suck him off at least
>>17104118
It wouldn't hurt to get more free shit.
Will I get fat and lazy as fuck if I take antidepressants? Life makes no sense, everything seems unreal. I care about nothing because nothing seems real and I'm observing everything from someplace else. I've been like this for 6 years.
Anti-depressants will only make it worse.
>Been there, done that.
>>17104116
My dad is also depressed. He's been taking them for years, but it really help him much. In fact, he just turned into a plant.
If you are concerned, then I think reconsider after being on antidepressants for like 6 months. Your body won't change that much in such a short time.
The way I looked at it, my choice was that I take them or I probably would have killed myself.
I have a gf, and I love her so damn much. But she seems so distant. I don't want to overwhelm her but when I sometimes say that I love her I get ignored or she just says 'I know' That hecking hurts.
She said this this morning 'I do care about how you feel, but it's not really priority for me to think about that. I spend way to much time caring about other people and ignoring my needs. It's now time for me and maybe that's egoistic but I deserve it.'
I didn't know how to respond to that, first thing i wanted to say was 'what the fuck' She used to write stuff like 'It frightens how much I need you sometimes' but that part seems so far away away now.
She says stuff like she overthinks a lot and stresses and because of that she's distant, but still it hurts and I don't know what to say when she has episodes like that...
I started selling some of my stuff too to save some money for her to start her own business.
I care so damn much about her... But it's like I get no love in return...
That's what you get for depending on another person's affections.
Nothing. You actually lose valuable time and effort.
>>17104085
Should I just ignore her till she chats with me?
>>17104089
I'm saying you shouldn't care.
Tl;dr there's this qt 3.14 that has sucked me off, gave me a handjob, been talking for a few months now and it was all awesome, but I am still unsure about her since I think she still has feelings for her ex.
I don't know if she wants to be my GF or FWB ( which there's no fucking way im going for it ) since I have feelings for her but I said fuck it to myself and will ask her asap when I go to her place because I need a Yes or a No, I can't feel this anxiety about her anymore.
If i get rejected what the fuck do I say and how do I leave to not make it awkward or pathetic? Don't want every girl in my city then talking about how I fucked up.
And any tips in general about asking her, I got an idea, but any small tips appreciated.
no one?
>>17104060
background info
how many times do you see eachother what do you do etc?
>>17104060
this girl is a literal whore.
For your own good find someone else.
Hey guys, will u help me with GF? She is probably going to break up with me if i'm not going to talk with her more. Wanna give me /adv/ice?
move on to something that will actually work to make you happy/successful
>>17104055
Dump her. Spend a month or two on your own. Start trying to find someone else after that.
You'll get over it. You sound like a fucking kid, so you don't have much in life which is why you think this is so important (if you have less, what you have seems more important), but trust me, this won't be the mother of your kids. Just move on.
>>17104066
Yeah, you got me. I'm not experienced at all.
Well pol I'm about to decide my major but I'm extremely unsure. Which is actually more important money or happiness? I'm either going to major in Early Childhood Education or Comp Sci.
Comp Sci
>Have a highschool foundation of mathematics and engineering that easily lead to this.
Early Childhood
>Volunteer every Sunday helping out at a church Awana class helping take care of 3-5 yr olds
Also, I'm a white christain male and inb4
>pedophile
I'm not a fucking degenerate
Comp Sci is a better bet. Just learn to talk well do you get your internship. Hell you don't even need to talk that well, because a lot of your major mates are spergs and it shows.
Remember, the #1 decider for getting a job is if the interviewer LIKES you. Nor if you're the most qualified
It really depends on who you ask. Some people will tell you to go for the "safe" or "sure" bet like the poster above me. Others will tell you to do what you're really interested in. I'm lucky in that I pursued a major that I was really passionate about that has plenty of career prospects. I advise everyone to find something they genuinely enjoy and study that, not whatever will make them the most money. Life is too short to be trapped in a job you hate, but it can also feel incredibly long if you are.
Happiness over money has always been my goal and it's worked out better for me than most others. If you are active in your field and differentiate yourself from your peers you will find a job. The best people will always find jobs, regardless of their major.
Don't pick a career just for money. That is a sure path to a miserable life.
Keep thinking about cheating on my girfriend with both men and women
She's never cheated on me but she's hurt me plenty.
Don't know what to do
Just dump her, that will hurt her and improve your life.
>>17104040
I don't want to dump her though, I love her
>>17104049
Not if you're dead set on cheating on her.
Why is life so boring? It's just so repetitive.
drop some acid
see how "boring" shit is after that.
>>17104027
I don't even have a dealer.
>>17104031
>what is the internet?
Is this how it really is?
Yes.
Now focus on something more important, like science.
yeah except for the part about the headphones.
Women don't know anything about sound.
>>17104012
I think the point is that she wants people to see her wearing expensive headphones, not necessarily that she thinks they're that great in and of themselves.
Hi /adv/
normally I don't have a problem getting a boner and whacking one out but whenever I'm with my girlfriend I get too nervous to get it up. I can get hard while my pants are still on but as soon as they're off the panic sets in and I get soft quite quickly. I can easily get hard alone but I've had an extremely low libido for the last few months, so I've barely wanted to fap anyway.
I'm starting to worry her patience will run out soon and she'll find a guy whose dick actually works. anybody know how to deal with this? without drugs preferably
Did you try getting hard in another room and then charging in and jamming it in before it can go soft?
>>17103938
Ugly as fuck girls a dick wont be getting hard for
>>17103938
Try not whacking one out for a couple days before you get her alone. Guaranteed to stay hard if you haven't came in a couple days. Focus on your breathing, it will keep you relaxed and distract you from the task at hand. Good luck.
My gf and I are surely going to be separated next year, because of our careers. We were separated this year but the cities were pretty close, so we saw each other every weekend.
But next year would be different. We would see each other, maybe, one time every three months.
This year was pretty difficult to us, we had a lot of problems personally, but next year would be horrible.
My parents won't let me go to her city.
None of us have drive license.
I understand my parents bc I have to take care of myself but I know that if we are separated again, the relationship is going to end and I'm so afraid of that. So so afraid.
And maybe this summer won't either be a happy final time to us bc we are going to be so sad.
I have no choice, I know, but I just don't know how to take it. Help /adv/
>My parents won't let me go to her city.
You're an adult, I don't see why this should be an issue
>None of us have drive license.
So get your fucking licence and stop whining.
>>17103873
I'm pretty young, I still depend on my parents. That's the problem.
>>17103890
Assuming you're old enough to be here, you shouldn't have to depend on them.
My girlfriend of 4 years
>never cheated on me
>supports my hobbies
>supports my goals
>has a lot going for her
>takes care of me sexually
>takes care of me emotionally when I need her
>is incredibly attractive and always has been to me
>perfect wife material
Why do I still want to have sex with other people? Why do I still consider doing it at times?
I'm trying to not be a piece of shit.
its natural
Why don't you just have an open relationship? I don't get why you wouldn't just bring it up.
I wish my boyfriend would allow it. He is kind of not very sexual and I am very sexual, I need more than calculated sex...
>>17103823
Here's the thing OP.
Every one has thoughts like yours in long term relationships.
Acting on those thoughts is what makes you shitty.
If you love her, and you're monogamous- don't do it. You'll hate yourself.
So my boyfriend for the past 3 years (first serious relationship, he was a first for many things) broke up with me in late February and I basically felt like I had been crushed. However we talked things out and decided we'd get back together, things were going amazingly, there were a couple of occasions where my anxiety/depression got the better of me but he was supportive and loving.
Fast forward to Monday last week, he goes on holidays with to see his uni friends (he never took holidays but really needed it, plus he said we'd go on one when he came home). The week is normal, I miss him and message him and he says he'll call (which he never did).
Fast forward to Sunday night, he's home and has barely said anything to me apart from small talk. I go to his house because he wants to talk. After getting there basically he tells me he cheated on me with some uni girl (who knew he had a gf) and that we're breaking up. A list of things he said throughout the 4hr ordeal or him trying to console me:
1. I do and don't regret it
2. I love you
3. I wanted to do it
4. There's someone out the who's better for you
5. I'm holding you back
And so on in that matter.
He himself has had another girl cheat on him and was worried for a majority of our relationship about me cheating. And then he goes and sleeps with someone else?
Now I'm a wreck caught in between self destruction and horrible ironic memes.
TL;DR
My ex is a fuckwit and I need someone to talk to and help me with this.
Pic for reference
>>17103811
Accept your loss. Remind yourself that's it's better that it happened now then 10 years down the road when you have kids and a mortgage. Understand that what he did wasn't your fault. Grieve, accept and move on. There's really nothing else you can do unfortunately. Learn from it, would be my biggest advice. Don't let it make you bitter or resentful.
What do u need help with? It sounds like that this will be a learning experience and you gave the relationship more time but it didn't do well. Time to get over the guy, it will suck. But it will be over, and you can focus back on your life.
>>17103811
Shit happens. It's going to hurt for a long time. Try not to do anything stupid. Focus on your life and your goals. It'll hurt less over time. Then move the fuck on with your life. If you wanna cry or scream go cry or scream. If you wanna punch something go to a gym and beat the shit out of a bag. Feel the feelings as they come but always hold on to the idea that you'll get through it before too long and focus on something, a project, a goal, to help you get through it.
Yup it's that simple. It's not easy. It's gonna hurt like fuck. But there's no magic cure type answer. That's all there is to be done about it.
Girl leaves class early
I want to go outside while she is out and then kiss her
Good plan /adv/?
You know she probably leaves early because she has somewhere to be, right?
>>17103808
*local man arrested for sexual assault on campus...*
sounds good to me, go for it anon
How do I stop looking at girls, so I've noticed I look at women and girls too much creepily, I look at their private areas far too frequent even though I'm not interested, it's almost instinctual and I find it creepy because I figured I do it too much, like every girl I see I just look for those areas first. Any way I can stop looking? Or decrease?
>>17103804
Yeah, you learn to control your impulses you fucking monkey. If you can't, seek help.
You can't stop because you're addicted to the dopamine being released by your brain as a reward for you looking at things you find appealing. Why do YOU think it's creepy? I bet you just think it's creepy because you've been told so many times, and take their opinion for the truth.
I oogle the women I want, whenever I want.
If they have a problem with it, they can go ahead and fuck off. Or they can come complain to me about it, and I will calmly tell them why their opinion is worth jack shit.
>>17103809
When girls will stop only wearing booty shorts or tights.
