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Met this girl, she's insane. Should I even say anything else? No need to give details really, for some reason I care about this crazy heretic. Tell me to just stop.
>>17107422
how crazy we talking, friend?
>>17107431
Long story short I have known this girl for a couple months. We have had sex and all that fun stuff, she says she has feelings for me. She wants to take it slow, me too, all seems normal. Weeks at a time with little to know contact, hangs with friends all the time, not a problem. Asks me to hang with her and her friends, I do from time to time. However I would much rather just get to know her, without having to get to know all of her friends at once. I tell her this, and she goes into this long rant about how...
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>>17107444
1. nice trips
2. work on your writing skills.
3. girls that young are all retarded or crazy
4. you cant take it slow after youve already fucked
5. either shes afraid to be alone with you for some reason or she just likes drama. either figure it out and deal with it or drop her.
I don't really come on here and lurk alot.
But there is a minor problem in my life,and I don't know what to do.
Here's my problem.
I have, or had, a best friend of 10+ years (I'm 19 now so you can see this has been a friendship since elementary school.). Let's call him Jason.
Jason and me met in elementary school in my home town and we found out we lived literally a football field length from each other, we liked professional wrestling and anything else young boys like. we spent almost every other weekend doing things and riding the bus...
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Op here
cont.
Its gotten to a point where hes hanging out with other people who he didnt even like growing up but they have the connections to the weed.
I have smoked weed before and it cool and all but this is getting crazy.
he's told me before he needs weed to operate.
well i recently discovered he doesn't consider me a friend because i dont support his weed addiction and i never give him money.
even his girlfriend the one who is suppose to be the most caring about him wont stop giving him money for it.
He doesn't invite...
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>>17107381
also weed is illegal here where we live and im fearing its going to land him in jail
He let go of you already. You said yourself he doesn't consider you a friend. People change when they grow up. Just let him do his own thing. If you try and "save" him you'll damage your own reputation and image by associating with a person like what he's become and the company he keeps (which, by extension, will be the company you keep). Even so, he won't be the person he was before even if you did manage to save him.
Focus on your future.
I want to join the marines but I'm afraid to leave my whole life behind. At the same time I really want to there's nothing for me here anymore and Im going nowhere with my life anyway. Can I hear the good and bad in joining the marines I know bootcamps tough but I love that sorta thing and know I can make it through.
Have fun selling your life to uncle sam.
By the way, he doesn't value it as much as people tend to lead on.
"leave my whole life behind" if you think that is going to happen, think again. It is more like "bring all my baggage to the surface so that all these dudes will see it and possibly make fun of it and ridicule me..." though it isn't all bad...because "out of it, maybe I will make a few good bro's"
"nothing for me here" = "nothing for you there" it wont fix anything. Bootcamp isn't tough, it just is.
The good?: Financial aid, benefits, good skill's, brotherhood, oh, and not having to really make...
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>>17107306
Active duty Lance Corporal here, 0612 Field Wireman about to graduate MOS school.
I first went to bootcamp July last year. And so far my experience has sucked so much dick.
I've kept my nose clean, not even so much as negative paperwork. But the sheer amount of stupid bullshit you're going to wind up doing will start to get to you after a while.
>field day your room for 3 hours, clean literally everything
>scrub floor with bleach and scuzz...
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So I'm in talking to this woman for the last couple weeks and it was nice at the start but now that we're really starting to get to know each other well now it seems that she just always thinks she knows what to say at the right time or knows the right answer or she don't she can figure it out pretty much she just thinks that she's the end all to be all.Why doesn't seem so many people think that they are just number one when they're just one of the problems. What does /adv/ think on this?
Ever occur to you that this person IS better than you?
Also, is punctuation better than you? Or are you better than it? Because my money's on the former.
Durrr sum womin think she better dan me!
Blame facebook, youtube, and every other attention whore advocate site.
>anon, I'm tired of doing what I want to do all the time...
>Let's do what you want to do!
>What do you like?
>>17107305
What does this prove?
>>17107376
Literally nothing.
Anyone else getting tired of 4chan? Should we just leave?
I'm getting sick of the consistent and aggressively negative and angry moods everywhere. Also, there's rarely any content to be found, it's hard to explain but it's like reddit where it's the same shit over and over again, even though it's technically new. I can't find anywhere that's worth browsing a lot like I used to.
>>17107273
It's an echo chamber, essentially.
This board isn't as bad but yeah 4chan is the cesspool of the cesspool that is the internet. Try real life interaction/friends you play games with
>>17107273
if i get tired i dont visit
How do I learn to overcome procrastination?
Every time I have a test in school, I end up waiting till the last possible moment to start studying. I panic and memorize facts all through the night and at the end of it all I end up getting a B. Then I'm so tired I can't think for the rest of the day. I could easily be a straight A study with just a little bit of pro-activity. But I never seem to get any motivation until the last 24 hours. How do I fix myself?
Worry about it later. That's what I do.
>>17107265
do you genuinely care about your studies?
>>17107265
I have the exact same problem OP. I was like this all through high school, and now it has carried on into university. I want to do well, but I procrastinate until the last day to ever get anything done. I could easily get excellent marks if I didn't do this. I don't know how to stop though.
Time to get banned for another drug related post.
I'm planning on taking acid and I have so many questions, mostly about how to ensure I have a good trip. Where should I be, should I be alone or with friends, etc.
TL;DR Taking acid, advice
don't do drugs they are bad and will cause all sorts of problems. I knew a guy who did acid I think he did a 10 strip whatever that is and had permanent tracers in his vision.
>>17107198
I did acid a couple times four years ago, no tracers to speak of. But this will affect you OP, be aware of that.
Go to erowid.
Have friends with you who know about drugs and stuff. The less people the better imo. It's hard to gauge people but try to screen them so you aren't tripping with a bunch of dicks. You're gonna be like a child in a way, unable to do any kind of math, so prepare for that. My advice is start googling "lsd trip advice" and "lsd trip safety advice"....
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>>17107198
Have you done it yourself?
Choosing a college, and I'm getting caught on something.
I'm interested in a college in the northeast US, (from the southeast here).
I found out about the school because I stalked the Instagram of a guy I met via kik. I liked the guy. Over a year ago.
I've looked at the university and applied, but I'm not sure if I'm going there because I like the school or because I want to see that guy. He's a year above me.
I really like the school but part of me feels like I'm lying and saying I really just want to go because of possibly seeing...
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Forget about the guy.
Pursue an education.
>>17107165
If you think about him this much there is a good chance it's about the guy. I suggest going somewhere else, wherever else you'd like
>>17107172
I've mostly forgotten about him, and I know nothing will ever come from the two of us.
I just feel bad and though I really like the academics and the school, part of me feels like I'm just lying to go see him.
I'm a bit worried about him recognizing me (although we only spoke for about a week).
I wouldn't be so worried about seeing him save for the fact that we're both gay, so if either of us were in any sort of gay related event or organization we'd be more likely to see each...
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Can anybody explain to me the appeal of having a dog? For me, getting one is signing up to having a baby that won't grow independant for 15 years. Not to mention the costs and the fact that you can forget vacations. The hairs, the barking, the vomit, the shit, the odours, the damaged stuff.,. How would that ever be worth it?
I'm asking because the bf wants to get one and i'm not so sure about it... Seems like an unnecessary pain in the ass.
>>17107107
>I can't handle committment and responsibility
you could have just said that and saved yourself all those words
Dogs are for lonely betas who need constant companionship
>>17107118
Well, we also get married soon and then have a baby. I'm sure i can into commitment and responsibility. I just see not a single positive aspect... I'm not unnecessarily burdening myself "just because".
Sup /adv/ I'm sure there are at least 5 of this same thread here already.
To shorten the story a bit, I've been chasing a guy on and off since fall of 2013. I've finally come to terms with the fact that it's truly done, and never really "was", but it feels almost humiliating every time I think about it. Any way to attempt to kick the constant thoughts? Before you say it, I have lots of hobbies, friends I hang out with, things I'm interested in, etc.
To get it off my chest: (read or don't, I just want to ramble)
It...
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Well, he is different. To you, at least. You've spent time with him and grown close. It's only natural that it is taking awhile to get over things.
And yea, I can see why you'd feel crazy. But I bet he feels crazy too. Between confessing his love to someone and then bailing for work, yea, he's probably fucking drowning in stress or confused as fuck about what he wants right now.
He's human too, ya know? He's probably squirming in his own way too.
Yea, it sucks it didn't work out. But you two had a good time together while...
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>>17107082
OP i've been through this situation before and to get over it you need to know a few things.
> if he liked you he would have already dated you if it's been years
>don't trust the "oh i just am not good at relationships bs"
>it's a lie and he just doesn't like you.
>some people are sociopaths and get off on hurting people
>block...
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the feeling that you have that he's different is called delusion
Help I have a 11 pm curfew at 19
I've been in a terrible situation for about a year now.
>I'm 19 I work at a grocery store part time
>still live with parents trying to save for a car
>my parents are super controlling specifically my dad
>never lets me stay over at people's houses or stay out past 11
> this sucks ass because all of my friends get to stay out when they want and they're always like...
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move out then, rent is like 300-700 per month
you can afford that if you work hard
I was in the exact same boat. Unfortunately unless you have a friend you can stay with you're kinda screwed until you're able to save up enough money to leave. Sorry anon.
>>17107103
the grocery store i work at doesn't give many hours because i only can work 5 days i get 14-27 max
How do you get over anxiety?
Been trying to find the answer. I've been using phenibut for social occasions (parties, job interviews, hanging out with people) and it really helps, it's only a temporary fix though.
get an adderall/xanax prescription
>>17107085
is there a permanent solution though? or am i just fucked?
What do you do when you can't break addictions?
What are some good ways to top addictions.
>>17107062
Find something else to focus on. Martial arts is good, especially because you have a good supportive group of people and you learn to focus and train hard doing something you like, and can't do if you're using.
Find other people who are also breaking addictions. You're not alone, and neither are they. Then have a mentor or someone you look up to who can be an emotional cornerstone and a helpful guide through your journey.
Be spiritual. I'm a christian, but you might follow another...
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>>17107062
Find a new one
preferably a healthy one
Should I see a psychiatrist? I don't have insurance, so I'll probably be paying out the ass if I go, and I don't have a steady income right now, that's the main thing that's stopping me from going. I don't particularly like the way my life is going right now, and I feel as if I need a second opinion, or some sort of guidance just to help me get started on the right path again.
About once a week I get panic attacks, mainly because I think about dying, and the thought of not being alive and conscious some day in the future scares me. I just...
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bomp
I think you should go, age doesnt need to be a measure for therapy. Just seek help.
>>17107014
depends on the person
