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I went from reading a random article a friend shared to having an epiphany. Just realized yesterday that I'm asexual. Yet, I still love my current partner deeply. I'm not sure if I should tell them or not.
How do you have a partner if you're asexual?
>>17105728
Betas will do almost anything
Being asexual is not an inability to love. It's a lack of sexual desire for others. You may still have and enjoy sex with your partner, you may not. Do tell your partner about your feelings regarding sex.
I've lost weight and wear a good push up bra and lift weights/squat, but no matter what I can't get this guy to be enthusiastic when he has sex with me, like he was with his ex. He was always touching his ex in public and telling her how sexy she was, but with me he's not that interested in touching me, if we have sex he doesn't seem to be into foreplay
I'm not as sexy as his ex I don't have her mindblowing figure, but I wouldn't mind him treating me as if I turned him on, rather than just a cumrag
>>17105719
So how long before you pull the plug on the relationship?
I see a lot of red flags in your post that make me think you're just the ex rebound.
>>17105755
I don't even need him to like me romantically I just want him to treat me as if he's actually into me
>>17105797
lmfao how fucking sad is this
just run more, chubby
Going to be long, but all the details are necessary.
Last Friday, I had a day off of work. I went to my guy friend's pool. We drank a little (4 drinks that I can recall- one mixed, 3 beers ). We were in and out of his apartment to refill/use bathroom. I drink a lot, so no big deal.
Flash forward to me being at my apartment. My roommate and family had apparently been calling me nonstop and I finally called one of them back. My roommate could tell I was out of it and came to pick me up.
I don't remember anything. Last time I remember seeing the...
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Either he drugged you or had sex with you when you were incapacitated. If he really cared about getting you in trouble, he wouldn't have had sex with you. I think he said the sleep thing to cover his ass, then when you ignored him, he might have thought you did remember a little and again, tried to cover his ass.
A shitty friend either way
>>17105696
I would punch him in the teeth. He just lost a friend.
I'm not sure what to say. If he was very drunk too, then why can he remember having sex but not if he wore a condom? It could be as simple as a drunken hookup, but the fact it didn't even jog your memory.... Idk.
My GF (of 3 years) is incredible and the best gf I've ever had, although she's got a lot of fat above her hips (so much so that she doesn't wear pants normally, she pulls jeans and shorts up to her waist and it bothers the shit out of me). I've been trying to not be a dick for years and I havent said anything mean I've just made little suggestions to work out with me or eat healthier but I'm getting fed up and it's driving me insane. I hate when she dresses like she does and I'm sometimes embarrassed to have her around my friends. Please...
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kys
Start working out and eat healthily, try to lead by example.
Maybe she will follow.
If you take a discusion, she will turn it into a 'you don't really love me for who I am' and you will end up apologizing and getting some mcdonalds for her to calm her down
>>17105688
You accept her and her fupa or don't. Or do more active things with her like walking or hiking.
I wanna start lucid dreaming but i never remember my dreams (saying remember cuz i dont want the well actually u dream yadda yadda) so it feels like i never dreamed so i cant write them down. Anyone know a way to dream more often so i can remember and write them down? no vitamins or supplements
>no vitamins or supplements
melatonin is literally the lord of lucid dreaming, pal.
also, don't smoke weed
http://www.dreamviews.com/content/
>>17105680
That shit is a fucking meme.
Like jelqing and the female orgasm.
Hey /adv/.
There's a girl that I've been very close friends with since high school, we went to prom together (as friends), and since we've been to college we've still been in close contact, texting every couple of weeks to update each other on what's been going on and helping each other through problems and sadness and stuff. In particular, she's been feeling really lonely, finding it hard to make friends and tfw no bf.
The thing is, I've had feelings for her for a long time, around the same time i asked her to prom in senior...
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Nigga you retarded as shit. Shoulda asked that bitch out years ago. You think she puts up with your pasty white ass for friendship? Nigga don't make me laugh
>>17105670
Great post desu senpai
>>17105665
wait until she's there to share your feelings about it. Wait for the right time and give it to her directly. Or, better yet, you can observe contextual clues such as how she reacts to an occasional physical touch. If she doesn't retract or move away then she could totally be down. Also she's lonely so most likely already hinting to you about it that way and she will be buttered up for easy lovin.
And shit homie. You understand movie night with a guy and a girl is code for sex, right? I mean...
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When I express what I'm feeling I hurt people. When I keep everything inside and be "nice" to maintain harmony that feels bad too.
>>17105613
You forgot to put question with a question mark into your post OP.
As a punishment post green text about what did you tell to other people so that it damaged everything and everyone in close perimeter of 50 meters.
Well, which feels WORSE to you?
Does it feel worse when you hurt people, or worse when you have to "try" to be nice?
Most people feel bad when they hurt someone. If you are okay hurting people as long as you can feel free to be yourself, well enjoy a lot of bad relationships, drama, and possible jail time.
It's all about finding a balance man.
I started using tinder yesterday and i matched with a girl. We talked a bit and she asked me to use email to contact her, since her bf goes over her phone. So i email and asked if she wanted to meet up. She thank me for emailing back;mfw. SHE told me she is alone in her house until next week and said she can host in her house or she can drive with a ;) emoji.
I have a girlfriend she is cute like 8/10, with nonexistent sex though. We only have sex when she wants, she gives me does half hearted kisses aka pecks. We have been together for almost two years.
Back to...
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>>17105599
It will feel great cheating your girlfriend.
She will most likely have some disease because it feels like slut behavior: bring condom.
>is it a scam?
If you want to make sure she isn't robot, send her picture and ask what is on it.
If you ask about stealing kidneys, it is a risk you have to take as a male to get wet pussy.
>>17105599
It would be funny if it was your gf using a fake picture and setting you up. I suppose thinking with the head above your shoulders is not your forte.
>>17105599
Sounds like a common tinder scam. I've gotten them a few times. Sometimes it's something about her bf having erectile dysfunction and they need dick. Its fake.
This guy broke into our apartment and stole my friends laptop. Got a few good pictures of him on security film. Anybody have any advice on what to do after a burglary? Already filed a police report. Anything else that might help like some kind of online face recognition?
>>17105595
Put his face on a poster and post them in public places around your area.
You can also post fliers saying, LOCAL THIEF, IF KNOWN PLEASE CONTACT bla bla bla.
>>17105595
>online face recognition
Facebook and Twitter would be your best bet. Chances are he lives near you, and he's a friend of a cousin of a friend or something. Just post your pictures and say "this guy robbed my apartment, post and re-post until somebody recognizes him"
Girlfriend wears revealing outfits to raves. I don't care but as a result of my friends telling me how girls like that are sluts its starting to get to me.
So I never really cared about her wearing shit to raves. After all, they're raves. I wear revealing shit and she doesn't care either. I just go and have fun. I trust her and she trusts me. She turns down any guy who comes up to her and I walk away from girls that start grinding on me when I'm there.
My friends always talk about rave girls being slutty and shit.
Now I've been...
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Raves are designed for degenerate, slutty people
If you're cool with it, and she's cool with it and you're both happy doing what you do. Fuck every body else.
I love raves.
But girls who dress like that are all sluts.
If you were one of my buddies, all serious with a slut like that, I'd think you were a cuck also.
My friend "Sanjay" his baby's-mama "Vanessa" and her new boyfriend "Asshat" had a bit of a fallout recently that is inspiring some rather deep seated anger in "Sanjay" that he wishes not to act upon, but would have no problem taking action if he so chooses to, this aside the point. Asshat threatened Sanjay with a hunting knife in front of Sanjay's son, when Sanjay had only attempted to have a conversation with Vanessa about their son. Sanjay has the upper hand and moral high ground, as he is approaching the situation thoughtfully...
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>>17105484
JERRY! JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!
>>17105489
Fuck.
Its obvious isn't it? Make Sanjay and Asshat ha e a baby, see how that makes Vanessa feel
I have started to get anxiety over the fact that I'm forgetting the math that I've studied and learned in earlier courses. I mean I'm not forgetting it 100%, the knowledge is still buried in there somewhere and a little repetition will most likely make me remember it again. Ideally I would like that knowledge to always be "fresh", ready for me to recite, and not require me to sit down for a couple of hours and repeat it. Since the case is not ideal, I have started to get anxiety and I feel like a less of a student for not even remembering what was taught...
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Are you planning on getting a job that involves math? If so, it's common for professionals to review things they already know. Look through old textbooks and shit to find out what you're rusty on and relearn it.
>>17105382
Your memory is not perfect. Learn to accept that.
You can either relearn the material you've forgotten when you need it, or you can occasionally review what you've learned to refresh it in your mind.
Either way works. I go through some of my old math texts occasionally to review and rework problems so slow down the rate at which I forget things, but I also have an actual interest. Over the last ten years or so I was also doing a lot of math tutoring in basic math, which helps.
>>17105411
No not really. I plan on working with networks and network security.
>>17105413
It's hard for me to accept that things are not perfect, but I can at least try. I guess I should take active measures and review some old stuff if it bothers me this much. Deep down I actually like math, but don't consider myself smart enough to be good at it. I'm studying linear algebra at the moment and I'm actually really enjoying.
How often do...
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How do I get my boyfriend to stop rambling?
He goes on and on and on about things and I really just don't care about any of them. He's really earnest about it and it's just so frustrating.
Break up with him and let him find a gf who likes listening to him.
>>17105375
I love it when females get a taste of their own medicine.
>>17105375
unfortunately you are asking how to change his base personality. its something he does naturally. its not a small detail, its how he interacts. while changes can be made, asking him to change it could be bad.
im the same. i ramble. so i date chicks who are quiet and like to listen to my nonsense. nto all do. some girls will immediately walk away. others im surprised will sit there and listen to me talk about flat earth theory and shit
What is a good, satisfying way to get even with a rapist without involving doctors, lawyers, or police in any way?
Drugging them, then raping them back. No other way unless you get authority involved.
>>17105265
Simply try and get them to hit you, then you can legally kill/wound/rape them in self defense.
>>17105265
If she won't go to the cops, you have to assume she's full of shit and move on with your life, brah.
There's no other way to handle things unless you are lucky enough to catch him in the act and shoot him.
Does PTSD ever improve without people taking medications?
I started dating this guy recently and I think he suffers from PTSD, He's very nervous and startles easily, He is kind of paranoid too...We have been together a year and about a month in when we were intimate I saw a large scar on his stomach and shoulder.
He told me 4 years ago he was shot twice while working doing security at a private company.. I didn't believe him but I looked it up the news articles online and and even his mom, sister, and dad collaborated it.
He flat out denies he has PTSD and even I have no experience with it and I'm almost sure he does have it. His mom also hinted to me he has it
Literally almost every symptom
nightmares, night sweats, anxiety, paranoia, he doesn't trust people, he is always kind of staring at nothing, and he gets startled very easily, he is always paranoid of people acting strangely or suspiciously. Even during the day in very comfortable temperatures he is pouring sweat and on edge
He refused to go into detail about what happened but said one of his coworkers was shot to death during the incident.
Does PTSD get better with time? What are some things I can help him do that will ease it without him taking medications or therapy and without him knowing im trying to help his symptoms (because he doesn't think he has PTSD or doesn't think PTSD is real)
hey op.
how long ago did this happen?
>>17105329
It happened 4 years ago
>>17105333
lol sorry kinda skimmed your post.
my bf came back from afghanistan with ptsd and it was very rough for a long time. same symptoms your describing. hes gotten better with time, but some days its like theyre not really all there. hes currently not on medication for it. sounds like he needs to work through his ptsd and acknowlege it. if he continues to surpress everything its gonna get worse. as far as what you can do just be there for him. dont press him it takes a lot of fucking patience to be there when someone...
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