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How do i deal with the fact that my girlfriend slept with +20 guys in the past?
Every single time we kiss i just imagine her with an open mouth jerking off a dick.
Keep in mind that im not a washed-up +30 year old so i still feel alive and have standards that i need to keep in check.
How old is your girlfriend? We can calculate how many guys on average she has been with and show you it isn't a big deal.
So you are a washed up 20 something then?
Fuck off with that shit.
>>17108264
On average, she's been with 20+ guys
How come /adv/ has such a long lost of "red flags" that immediately disqualifies someone as "dateable", yet is pretty keen on "damaged girls"? That seems rather contrarily...
They don't want to seriously date a girl with red flags but would be keen on fucking a girl who is damaged because it is easier.
Not hard to figure out.
/adv/ is not one person, and the most common posts are of insecurities
Because /adv/ is full of /r9k/, Nice Guy™s, and lonely frogs.
The r9k's and some Nice Guy™s will have lists of red flags while other Nice Guy™s an lonely frogs feel like "damaged" girls are more on their level, and some of both will pick "damaged" because they think it's easy to manipulate.
In the end, everyone is different and there is no collective /adv/ voice. It's a hodgepodge of loudest voices that you're talking about to begin with.
in a bit of a quandary: Should I let a business trip interrupt my vacation? There's a workshop in Granada, Spain being hosted by my boss, but to get there I have to shorten my vacation and eat the cost of my original return flight ($323). The flights to Spain would be business class, which is sweet, but ffs it would be a total of 8 connecting flights. Combined with my vacation, that's 11 connecting flights in 2 weeks.
I don't HAVE to go, but I feel like I should for my career.
shameless self bump. I should mention that the reason there is an overlap is that my boss chose not to invite me originally and only did it at the last minute. Makes me wonder if he actually wants me there, but based on the goals I have for the year, I should go.
Don't go. Don't put more effort than needed if you feel the payout isn't worth it. Arbitrary ideas of what should be best for your career are meaningless at the end of the day. You have a vacation you saved up for right? Don't you dare throw it away to go waste your time on something that your boss was forced to take you in.
Don't go! It won't be worth it for your career. Standing up for your wants and needs gets noticed far more often than just following the crowd. Letting your boss know that u have balls and a life will get u where u want to go
Hey everyone ;w;, i desperetly need some advices because i can't sleep aymore and i barely eat. So it's been almost 2 years i left my ex boyfriend (we have been together for 3 years more or less),i left him mainly for the reason he was mean to me, he started telling me really cruel things and acting bad, our relationship was falling apart. So many time has passed and i had other relationship, but still.. i miss him every day, i can't get over.. i just can't. I'm feeling like he was the love of my life and i know it sounds stupid but his "good side"...
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>>17108183
youre a real bitter loser get outside and stay away from strangers.
>>17108205
sounds like your brain has been underdeveloped in the largest part which houses empathy
>>17108223
>stop acting like a blathering sack of crap.
fuck off you mentally challenged poster with ill memory. nice superiority complex
Sorry I'm a bit of an aspie, would this be appropriate as a profile pic?
You are handsome as all fuck! Now pls, for the love of god, get a haircut with shorter sides and you are literally chad.
>>17108168
You might try smiling. And the tie, even loosened, suggests a serious guy. If that's who you are, fine.
I feel like the world has given women all these tools and resources they need to explore sexuality and all this other shit. But what about men?
I am 26 and have never had a girlfriend or done anything sexual with anyone besides myself. It feels really bad to want to have sex though. It feels like their is a animal chained up in my ahead.
I want to pounce on any girl I find attractive and just turn myself loose but that makes me feel like shit.
My friends describe me as seeming jittery with a strange glare which doesn't make me feel good. How am I...
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Stop jerking off
Use that jittery energy to work out and get yourself a routine. Discipline is important and that starts with familiarizing yourself with a predictable set of actions.
Start meditating immediately. The first time will feel pointless but doing it again and again will allow you feel at peace. Highly recommend.
Read this
http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/toc.html
It might allow you read people and therefore possibly approach girls in the future. Having a little handbook of information like this will be great for you to start to read body language.
>>17108140
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
If all you want is raw sex, go out and buy some.
If you want romance, increase your circle of friends to include some female-type friends. Once you're comfortable with them as people, you can choose one to get romantic with, and sex will follow.
I just wish male heterosexuality were not seen as inherently violent or destructive. I don't even understand how people have healthy relationships involving sex.
What is the one thing you want to do before you die?
I thought about it and I just can't place one thing myself.
I wanted to lose my virginity and experience love. I got that now at 21 so in not too sure. Perhaps visit another country or maybe actually focus on my career now so I have a chance of keeping her
>>17108132
Live. And I'm doing it as fully as I can.
>>17108132
Go to New Zealand.
My granddad and I always talked about going there, since I was a little child. When he got cancer, we said that when he was going to recover we would have left for NZ.
After he died, I have been saving to go there.
No response yesterday so I guess I'll try again.
I have ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome), and have had it for the last 5 years or more. It's not the glandular fever kind either. My symptoms are worsening, and I have to do as much as possible to keep it in check. I had the chronic pain thing pretty bad, but I found as long as I get a proper exercise every couple of days I'm generally ok pain-wise.
What would you do?
I am terrified that I lack the means to live a normal life, not because I'm stupid, socially retarded, or anything like...
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>>17108074
have you spoken to your doctor about these concerns, how do people normally manage this condition?
Here's an idea, try being selfish, use what resources you have to experience anything positive before youre ready to go. Maybe make a bucket list, because at this point its all about you, you cant afford to think about others anymore because you cant even look after yourself. Maybe after doing all this something might change. If you see an opportunity, take it
>>17108074
>What would you do?
well I can tell you what I wouldn't do, I wouldn't go die in a bedsit in east buttfuckistan. but then maybe I have more to lose than you, idk. I have a husband and parents and brothers and friends who would be pretty bummed if I was gone. anyway I can tell you what I did do, although again my situation isn't identical. and idk if you live in the usa or not. I do.
my issues are mostly mental health-related with some physical stuff (migraines...
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Have you ever experienced, or carried out, an act of altruism to a stranger?
I used to buy and give away games on Steam.
>>17108062
I've volunteered at my local soup kitchen before albeit somewhat unwillingly.
Very rewarding in the end imo.
>>17108062
i have bought homeless people food a few times.
How do I decide on a career path? I'm about to graduate with a bachelor's in environmental science and I'm conflicted between law school and a PhD in aquatic ecology. I have a 3.2 GPA because I was an unmotivated idiot my first two years of undergrad.
I work well with pressure and competition, I love arguing with people, and I'm good with analyzing and briefing cases. On the other hand, I also love studying nutrient cycling and aquatic insects but I'm not interested in teaching or writing grants.
How do I choose? I don't want a family...
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>>17108061
One path has money, the other path has insects.
>>17108061
>unmotivated
>3.2
I wish I was naturally talented...
I'd follow your passion as opposed to law school which would be more a monetary oriented goal imo.
I'm a bit biased as I'm trying to into STEM myself..
If you are passionate about the law and can see yourself going down that road, then by all means.
>>17108061
Small side point. Calculate your GPA in your major, and use that (openly identified as such) wherever you have to mention it. EVERYONE screws up some intro or gen ed courses, and grad schools or employers are most interested in how well you did when you settled into your major.
Simple question really. Is there a downside to taking those mickey mouse courses in college, like "history of rock" or "folkloric dancing", if they literally have nothing to do with your major?
I have two required classes till I graduate, but need to take two more "whatever" classes to round out my student status to full-time.
Nah. Do graphic design or something, too.
No, that's the point of electives, they can be whatever.
OP here, thanks for that. I keep visualizing someone looking over my transcripts, future employer perhaps--and seeing one of those classes and being all, "the fuck is this?" like it'll damage my resume.
Hey /adv/isors.
I'm considering running guns in/out of Russia for some quick(ish) cash, as I speak fluent Russian/English, and am pretty business savvy.
Any tips/advice?
My advice: have a more detailed plan than: "I'm considering running guns in/out of Russia "
What's your target country? What kind of customer do you want to sell to? How will you acquire the guns? Do you know anyone in this business? How will you physically move the shit? Do you have any basics in money laundering? What kind of partners will you need? What are the risks?
Ask yourself ask of these questions and then you will realize that there's no easy or quickie money in this line of work. Experience and networking after key and I highly doubt...
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>>17108065
I'd rather not give explicit details but believe it or not, I do have a plan.
I made a connection a few years back who is already in the business, and needs someone of my skillset. I am considering it.
>>17108070
Only one connection? Do you even know if this guy is legit? It seemed like a gamble unless you've been in close contact for ask these years. Again, vast and trusted network is everything there.
Regarding specifics, lets say that, hypothetically, you would like to work in the fun trafficking business. Would you have an hypothetical and detailed answer to each and every one of the questions in the first reply of the thread?
Hello /adv/, what should I do?
So here goes the story. I'm 19, a guy and I've never had sex.
What's so bad about it? That I'm constantly reminded about it by my "friends", every argument ends with "At least I've had sex." or "You're still a virgin." Everyone who knows I'm a virgin constantly mentions it. My "friends" pressure me into getting a paid escort, which I don't want to do because of moral reasons.
I don't even know when it became such a problem. I didn't care at first...
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>>17108040
This is the only advice you need to hear: change friends.
I was virgin until 22, am now 26 and have no difficulty getting laid anymore.
You need to stop caring and have friends who motivate you to work on yourself.
change friends
>>17108040
It's hard to lose your virginity if everyone knows you are a virgin I guess.
Your sexuality is your business.
I'd try to slowly move away from your old friends and make new friends that don't know/ don't give a fuck about that sort of thing.
Girl friends are good too.
>>17108089
When I say girl friends I don't mean girlfriends btw.
A good girl friend is a good way to find a girl to fuck.
Hey guys so I landed myself a cruise ship job on American Cruiselines that pays 630 a week or 90 a day and has 12 hour shifts with breaks. But it goes to 7.50 an hour.
However I also landed a lifeguard job that has 10.5 hour shifts that are 15 an hour. It is at a seldom used luxury pool for the ultra rich. The hours are unclear so I may need to to take on a part time job.
On the cruise ship I'd have to live with total strangers. The lifeguard job I'd go home and live with my mom who is glad to have me back and will provide me with free food and shelter....
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Cruise Ship for the adventure and new friends and life perspective.
Lifeguard for that /comfy/ life and if you want to save some dollars while working on a project or something.
>>17108035
I've never done it before, but from what I've read, cruise ship jobs fucking suck.
>>17108035
Any tips on how I can grab a job like that
Tell me about it and how you deal with it.
Me- 21. Had some cuddling with 8/10 girl back when i was 17. Is tinder the way to quench the thirst?
Pic is of me.
>>17108024
Damn. I can see why you're a virgin.
All you need to do is take your shirt off and you'd be the classic perp on COPS.
And Jesus, is the best picture you can take of yourself where you're taking a piss? I don't need to see that shit.
Get a haircut, shave and get /fit/.
Just go to a fucking prostitute for fuck sake.
>8/10
maybe on soc or reddit my dude
