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/adv/ anyone know how to get a job with no work experience, at first I wanted to try and get an internship or part time in an IT department or something but I'm having no luck. thinking I might just have to try and become a bartender for awhile. I need to work /adv/ I just don't know if I should keep holding out for something to give me useful experience or something to pay the bills.
>>17112061
You apply for low skill entry level jobs, like fast food. You can't just get an internship at a skilled position when you have zero experience or education to back it up. Even bartenders need to be trained to know all of the drinks. You either go to a class for that, or you get hired on at a place that's willing to train you from nothing. Those places are rare.
You'll need to take a bartender training class which can be quite expensive, or get hired as a barback at a restaurant/bar and after a while show interest in learning more. Though it's doubtful that you can even get the barback job without experience despite it being entry level lol.
When I was in your position I decided to go into security since I noticed there were a lot of listings for it on Craigslist. I got a license then applied with a couple of security agencies (Securitas and us security) and had a job within the week.
>>17112061
You need to work as you said. Whether it's volunteering or doing any kind of work is better than nothing. The longer you're jobless the harder it's going to be. With volunteering you can also network and even get some references. As far as getting some kind of tech job, you're extremely limited without education plus job exp. Only thing remotely close you can start with (requires connections) is interning and data entry. Also do a lot of reading on w/e specific field in IT you're going for...
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So a girl I had been talking to a while ago did something I considered cheating. We were at the stage of almost dating. We skyped every night. She only lived about 25 minutes away so we couldn't always go do things since I had work. She told me she was afraid I would leave and find someone better.
Next thing I know, she is posting about a guy on Instagram whom she called a "cute and amazing guy", with a bunch of kissing emojis. I go to his profile to see her comment babe on one of his photos. Of course this bothered me, so I said something. She acted like...
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You're right and wrong. Skyping every night doesn't mean you're dating unless you specifically discussed being together and both acknowledge it. Also a cute and amazing guy that she calls babe isn't someone she feels nothing for, so you're right. Maybe he rejected her or something
>>17112025
We did discuss getting together.
I remember her telling me that the guy didn't know what he wanted so they aren't dating so I don't need to worry.
>>17112050
So she basically tried to get with him, but he rejected her, so she pretended like nothing happened? The fuck?
How did you get over that person you really liked?
Like someone else
I haven't, it's the cause of my self loathing
>>17111988
Move on. That's the only thing anyone can really tell you.
does anyone know how to set it so you have a different laptop wallpaper each day on windows 7?
setting it to slideshow and change every 24 hours only changes it every 24 hours that the laptop is active, so how do i get one for each day of the week?
>>17111987
Just dump her and look for another girl who's better. Get a job and move out from your parents' basement. Get help for social anxiety and depression if you can't make friends. Girls like guys with confidence. Stay in school and don't get too drunk or do drugs.
>>17112004
IM NOT A FUCKING WEABOO YOU FUCKING HATERS I JUST FUCKING LIKE ANIME OK???!!!! STOP THIS FUCKING SPAM IM NOT PRETENDING TO BE BORN IN JAPAN I JUST FEEL LIKE JAPAN IS MY HOME BECAUSE AMERICA SUCKS (BTW PLEASE VOTE BERNIE OR ILL LEAVE THIS PLACE) SO REALLY SOMEONE NEEDS TO TELL YOU GUYS ONCE AND FOR ALL ITS NOT FUNNY TO ACCUSE ME OF BEING A WEABOO OR SOMETHING BECAUSE ITS JUST FALSE!!! IM AMERICAN AND NOT JAPANESE!!!! ALL I WANT IS TO LIVE THERE NOT BE JAPANESE OK I DONT GET WHATS WRONG WITH YOU if you wanna chat (girls...
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>>17111987
Try task scheduler.
Hello /adv/, I need some help.
I run my computer through safe mode and deleted something because it had something to do with some malware that was fucking with my browser.
After deleting the thing from regedit, the malware fucked off, but now I have a bit of a problem.
Apparently, my account that I've been using on this computer since Windows 10 released is now a "Built-In Administrator" account, and I can't do some things when it's like this.
How do I fix this and revert back to the normal Administrator account? Thanks.
>>17111979
i dunno, maybe edit / create accounts?
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=windows+10+account+management
>using windows 10
>ever
you asked for this anon
>>17111999
I tried looking for stuff in the account management, but I couldn't find anything.
And I also can't pin shortcuts to the start menu anymore.
>>17112028
It's been good so far, I don't know why it's fucking up right now.
I'm a 28 year old guy and never been on a date in my life. I have been going to therapy for a few months and trying to better myself. I own a house, have a college degree and a good job, I work out and I'm still a small guy but I'm not a skinny weak kid either. For the past few months I have been trying to dress and look better and try new things to meet new people. I have figured out that it's OK to share feelings and have personal conversations, and for the first time I think I am close enough to my friends that they would notice if I left. I think that...
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Meeting people is hard but at least youre making an effort
what about coworkers or your group of friends? anyone there who can help you meet someone who will at least go on a date?
The thing with online dating is that it just feels artificial and mechanical. Ever tried joining an interest group to meet people? Or try volunteering? Basically form activities that open you up to human interaction?
i'm 28 and never been on a date either but that's largely been by my own choice, since i've never cared for intimacy and i'm a bit asexual. anyway, op, i'm pretty good looking and have noticed that when females are attracted to me they'll enjoy talking about anything, act interested, etc and do more than the reluctant interview answers thing. you're probably running into girls who just don't feel much attraction to you, hence the disinterest. just keep trying if it's what you really want.
i'd like to say though that you've...
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Does anybody know what this could be? Had them for around a year and they're kind of painful
isnt it just a callus?
picture makes it hard to tell
>>17111905
They're crater like
>>17111905
Looks like it. You'll have to burn and scrape it OP.
> At a nerd con hotel room party
>In a committed relationship, partner didn't come with
> Gorgeous girl there, 10/10 resembles my first love, not even a nerd, just friends with the party host
> Night goes on; ppl getting trashed; I'm mostly sober out of combination of high alcohol tolerance, a promise not to drink too much, and being a creep who laughs at drunk ppl.
> Host and heavenly creature have been flirting...
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>>17111876
Yeah man. You totally missed out on being in a threesome.
>participating in a threesome
>not even the cool kind
Yes, you missed out on a threesome, but on the other hand you also missed out on being a cheating slut, so I think you've come out on top, really
I met a nice girl and we connected on a deep level. We wouldn't really talk about surface level things that much and the conversations were mostly deep, a lot of opening up was involved.
Things didn't work out and I just want to move on, any advice? I also can't shake the feeling that I won't meet someone who I connect like this on a deep level with again. A lot of the times when I talk with others on that level it just feels cheesy or forced, but with her it was natural.
Thanks
Bump from my phone before I shower
You don't really give us enough background info. Where did you neet? Do you have to see her every day? Do you work or study? What exactly did you like about her apart from being able to have "deep conversations"?
>>17111830
I work and no I won't see her again unless she comes to visit me at work. I liked her because she was beautiful physically as well as her personality. She's a really good listener and is accepting and I always felt like she genuinely cared about what I was saying where when I talk to a lot of people it feels like they're not listening and they'll literally talk over you just so they can get their words in and feel validated. Never had that happen with her, she was very genuine
So a prostitute has my phone and is blackmailing me saying if I don't pay her she'll "ruin my life".
I've had the phone deactivated but can she still use it in anyway?
Are there lots of unfortunate pictures on your phone? Does it have contact info of all your friends and family?
>>17111724
No pictures, has my contacts.
>>17111715
>I've had the phone deactivated
Congratulations, you have done the best thing you could.
> use it in anyway?
You mean what? Phone number to deactivated SIM card? Nope.
Your other information in the phone like contacts, passwords, SMS, browser history?
Totally yes.
Only if you had iPhone, it has automatically option to delete everything on it in case of theft.
Other phones can do this too, but you have to set it up manually...
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so pic related, itsa me.
>live in the Greatest of Britains
>24 turning 25 in Aug
>1.79m, 80kg, 10 -15% fat index.
>33.5k year salary, increasing quite regularly with bonus and quite a bit of holiday.
>Have a house, car, can cook keep myself clean, and fed on more than student meals.
So I think I'm doing well there, I want to move on to the next phase of life. Finding someone to make the journey through...
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meet people. talk and have fun. meet more people. and someday you find someone, when you use the opportunity.
>>17111707
Believe me man, with your looks, get social and you'll get girls.
>>17111707
online dating.
Hey /adv/.
My ex- gf is probably coming over tomorrow, and will stay over night (because she need to).
Wether she sleeps with me in a bed or not, is not known yet.
We will meet up for a new start, because we had a few "problems" in the past, of which we want to get rid of and make up a new relationship.
How should I behave?
Like nothing happened? Kissing her?
I will hug her, and be there for her, because she recently had a hard time, but what else can I do?
Shall I hang up all old photos, and "memorie"- objects of her?
Please...
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Flowers?
>>17111720
Yes, thats what I will definately do.
She loves flowers, and I will bring her some, definately.
>Shall I hang up all old photos, and "memorie"- objects of her?
wot
I was taking my last test for the semester and my browser crashed. It submitted my test, I hadn't even answered a question. My instructor won't let me redo my test. Is there someone I can appeal to? I'm in a state university.
self-bump
self-bumpo
>>17111678
It is hard for me to imagine crashing browser submitting empty form in the same time.
This is also reason why you usually have more tries until the deadline is over.
>What do I do?
If your instructor is not helping, you can try the subject guarantor (instructor's boss?). Then the next one is head of department. But most likely nobody will give a damn about you.
Out of curiosity, which browser it was?
I went though my boyfriend's messages.
He messaged his old girlfriend, the longest relationship he had before me.
He had a dream about her leaving to go back to her home country (Denmark) and expressed the bitterness he still had towards her for leaving.
I'm so fucked up about this. Do I talk to him about it? Do I let it be?
I don't want to stay with him if he still has these repressed feelings for her, bitter or sweet. I just can't deal.
I don't understand. Why does it concerns you if he has BITTER feelings toward her? Isn't that, you know, a good thing? Are you so emotionally unstable that just the idea of him having brain power allocated toward a person with a vagina makes you insecure, like he should think only of you and nothing else under any circumstances? I noticed you don't express any regret about snooping on his personal life. It is unfortunate behavior. You should not do that.
>I went though my boyfriend's messages.
He shouldn't be sending those kind of messages to his ex, but what you did is way worse.
>>17111663
When you truly loved somebody in the past, you can't get them ever from your head.
>I went though my boyfriend's messages.
Invaded personal space without authorization. GG
>Do I talk to him about it?
Yes sure and then you can talk about breakup because it will be next thing.
When I met my wife, she was fresh out of high school where she was in the color guard, so she was fit from all of the activity (She was ~130 pounds). I was addicted to meth at the time and we worked at the same minimum wage job. She helped me get clean (It'll be 11 years clean this august)
We dated for a few years, then got married. By the time we had gotten married, she had put on quite a bit of weight, but I wasn't too worried (she was ~200 pounds). Then we tried to have kids, and were having a hard time. She found out she has PCOS and it would be nearly impossible to have kids until she slimmed back down. After that she entered a serious depression, and ballooned in size.
She now weighs over 300 pounds.
She has arrythmia, so it's like having a gun pointed to her head that could go off at any time. I don't find her sexually attractive at all anymore, and we have sex maybe twice a month. Her depression has spiraled out of control, especially because she's right on the cusp of turning 30 with fertility problems that are made worse with her weight. I've tried everything I can do to help her, but she is the single pickiest eater I've ever met in my life. She hates 90% of vegetables, most fruits, and all meat that isn't chicken. I've tried taking her to the gym with me, but she is so ashamed of herself she hates it. I bought an exercise bike and she broke the seat with her weight. She has an overfondness of sweets that is hard to break. She's been going to a therapist once a week for the last 4 years, but it hasn't done much because she seems to forget about all of the techniques described to her as soon as she leaves the office. Every time I try to help or bring up changes in diet, she breaks down and starts crying. It affects me every day, and it's to the point where I volunteer for 12-36 hours of overtime every week because I feel a lot happier at work.
I'm at a loss /adv/ because I love this woman but I feel powerless to do anything.
>>17111634
Sorry to hear that OP, but the only real way you could help is by support her and it sounds like you've just been doing that. She needs overcome her fear of the gym, its a place where people go to improve themselves, people wont ridicule you for doing that. if she still won't go I'd suggest go jogging in a park, but it wont have any real impact unless she herself starts eating better and working out. ask her about her motivations, maybe confide your own feelings gently, if all she does is pushes you...
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>>17111634
You might want to have her see a mental health professional. I think at this point it's beyond anything that you can do.
I feel for you. It sucks to see someone you care about destroying themselves like this.
>wife gets THICK
>this is somehow a bad thing
