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is it wrong to call someone over for sex if you don't really want a relationship?
Casual sex is part of adult life. Just don't be deceptive about your goals.
>>17101948
thanks. nicely put
>>17101948
>Casual sex is part of adult life
It's apart of degenerate adult life
>>17101959
samefag
How do you cope with the disappointment and shame that comes with making a huge professional mistake? Missed a huge exam for my hardest class, I studied for 18 hours straight trying to review everything, felt air tight on the material, then with one hour left I decided to recharge by taking a 30min nap. Woke up late, I can say this feels like the biggest failure of my college experience so far. I'm a senior, I can take it again next year, but I've spent 100's of hours on this class and $600. I've already talked to the professor and he said im the first in 20 years of his teaching, his classes are typically 300 students. I don't care the consequences anymore, I'm just dissapointed in myself, how do I pull myself back up?
time will heal.
learn from mistakes.
if you want to excel in something you usually need to sacrifice a lot.
just remember you're only human, tho.
That's what you get for studying 18 hours straight.
Now you know not to study for an inhumane amount of time.
>>17102241
Well the exam is pretty difficult, and I had work until 1am where I had nothing else to do. I spent 12 hours earlier in the week too.
>>17101958
Yeah hopefully thanks.
My 4 year anniversary with my gf is this month. I want to go on a vacation somewhere but have no idea where to go.
We live in Pennsylvania and I'm a broke college student. But the semester ends this week so I will be working every single day this month to rack up enough money to send us somewhere cool.
Any ideas?
She's a very serious gf and I already gave her a promise ring 2 years ago. Saving up for a engagement ring after graduation next year
If you are booking last min you can get all kinds of good deals. Try the spot in Bahamas with Atlantis resort. I have travelled lots prob one of the coolest places I have ever been.
>>17101947
Okay thank you! I'm guessing I will need to get a passport too? Cause I've never been outside the United State before
That's sweet of you, OP. My bf and I are also having our 4 year anniversary this month, I wish he could take me someplace. Good luck to you!
Why is my crown like this?
Its been like this since i was a teenager and my hairline is good. But i have never ever seen a crown that is shaped like this
Hey m8. Mine is like this. I'm self conscious that I look like I'm balding. I see guys with really sharp hair cuts, and if I get the same haircut It doesn't look as straight cut.
However I think this might be attributed to not going to a good barber. I'd suggest trying to go to a better hair stylist. Personally it doesn't bother me because who really gives a fuck if your hair is a little weird.
>>17101956
same. Some days i think im balding or hair is thinning or whatever. But im not really superficial and dont really care about my looks.
>>17101991
Same bruh. Just work on other parts of your appearance. I keep my beard edged up and my eye brows groomed.
Never had a girl turn me down because my hair line was a little funky. I usually sport a haircut like pic related. I found when my hair is longer, it mats down in the back making it more exaggerated. keeping a closer cropped haircut which you can style a bit on top will help cover that up.
I'm 18, in high school, and live at home with my parents.
My dad is a devout Catholic (my mom not so much) and he drags me to mass every Sunday, but I am an atheist. My dad loves the dogma and teachings of the Church and is a classic clear-cut conservative. I tend to keep silent about my religious beliefs and avoid the topic because I don't want to set him off, and I'm scared of telling him (don't bite the hand that feeds you). But I have made some subtle anti-theological remarks, and I think he might suspect me already, although he doesn't want to accept it, I suspect.
I'm tired of being dragged to mass. I can deal with it, but I'd rather not have to do it because it's a pain. My older brother seems to have gotten away with not going to mass, I think just by outright refusal.
How can I do this? Is it a good idea at all?
>>17101898
Just talk to him about it. As long as you're respectful of his beliefs it can only go so badly. Obviously if you start shit talking his religion he might lose his cool, but if you just address the fact that they are his beliefs and as you've grown up you've decided that you do not want to follow the same religion, so you'd like to stop attending mass, then surely he would not be irrational about that?
>>17101908
And if he is you can always just move out, you should be doing that anyway.
I'm a Christian myself but never go to church because I can't stand the human politics that creep up literally all the time.
I can see your dilemma, it's unfortunate that it'll probably hurt your dad's feelings but if you don't want to stomach the church visits anymore then you should do what makes you happy/what you believe.
if i'm an 18 year old guy and haven't had much physical/sexual development, should I see a doctor? I'm pretty short and my genitals haven't grown much. I also dont have armpit hair or much pubic hair. I've read about shots that can jumpstart puberty, like testosterone. I saw a thread like this a while back but didn't see any responses. I really appreciate any responses. I'm nervous that i'm about to start college and I look like I'm 12.
Some people are naturally not very hairy. But lets get to the heart of the matter here....are you implying you have a tiny dick and balls?
Yes as you might have hypogonadism or some other hormonal problem. They're usually easy to fix
>>17101901
i'll show you mine if you show me yours
Sup, /adv/, listen to me, please. Too many minds past 10 years. So, i live in 3rd world country (thats why also sorry for some grammar problems etc). I am not able to walk for last 10 years. Because its shitty country i`m working as freelancer and whole my life is shit. Im poor as fuck, my father left me in my childhood and mother got mental problems and like once per year i need to pay for clinics, pills etc after something happend with her, so i dont have anyone. Whole my life is 4 walls and only problems which i need to solve from time to time, because nobody else will. Usually i`m going outside like 1 or 2 times per year, thanks to my country, live on 4rth floor in apartaments and cant do anything with it. And to be serious i must also say that i dont have any relationships. I mean like, no friends or any people irl who doesnt care of me, even a bit. Everyone bailed on me 10 years ago, i just disappear for them, like a person or just someone who still alive. I remember once ive heard from one woman that she though im dead. And not just like a joke or so. Everyday i working or thinking about it, trying to forget everything else, but after some time it is getting me. Someone say to me something, i`ll see something or something will happend. Thats it, always like that, everything is going fine, but then boom. Im done. All these minds, realization of my useless being. I feel the same things like some people after crashes or so, they remember their lifes before and they just understand what they lost and what they cant do. And now my future is really illusive, i should be dead for already like 18 or 19 years but still here. Here. And thats it. Now im in that mode. I cant kill myself because i remember life before, but im feeling like i dont have anything to do. Yeah. As always, shit happends, then one more, and i'm again on that edge.
Thank you for reading this post, i know you dont care, but i should write it, just because otherwise something will happend.
You still have me OP
What happened to you?
>>17101865
Thanks for that, atleast
I made a thread earlier but got no response I think I made it too long. All my doctors agree I should get a service dog but my fiance told me no because he wants to travel and we can not do that with pets.
I do not know what to do.
>it's a girl with a shitty boyfriend on /adv/ episode
This just keeps happening!
Anyways, can you tell me what the service dog is for? Maybe he should go travel alone and single if he's going to be such an ignorant faggot
>>17101848
Dogs>women
>>17101860
I have a lot of allergies and sevre ones too, anxiety disorder that is really bad, crohns and short term memory issue. I made a thread earlier with all the details of my disabilities and medical problems.
I can understand where he is coming from because he does not want kids because he wants to travel. I want to travel too but if my medical problems get bad I can not travel at all. I find my anxiety calms down a lot around animals I even started my own business recently watching dogs and walking them. I try to keep my anxiety down because it greatly affects my crohns. I have always had an anxiety disorder I know what helps I just do not understand why he is being like this when I gave up my dream career to be with him.
A very long story short there's this qt 3.14 that I've been talking to/hanging out with, she sucked my dick and swallowed was literally best shit ever, hand jobs also on point, rich parents etc.. she's literally perfect apart from being a bit dumb/immature at times. And only had 1 BF of 1.5 years before me. ( Idk if she still has feelings for him, probably ? ).
For some reason I really feel insecure and unsure about her.. We haven't met for like 4-5 days now, only saw her in school briefly today.. and I am thinking about just getting some roses and just ask her when I go to her place if she wants to be my GF, cause I really want to LOCK her down or just be REJECTED, cause I don't want to be FWB with her, literal torture after it's over.
Is it a wise move? Should I wait a bit more and do something or is the best option to just go for Yes/No?
Been chatting with her for like 4-5 months, hanging out for like 2-3 and some sexual stuff in the last month or so. Problem is she was back with her Ex for like a week in this period even though I told her it's a mistake and then she came to me saying I was right.. but still it's fucked up situation and I don't know what to do.
Send her my way, I'll talk to her for you!
>>17101814
Go for it anon. You can be a filthy NEET for the rest of your life.
>>17101818
You can talk to me if I get rejected cause Ill definitely come here to feel better about myself if it happens
I'm in a bit of a pickle here and I really need some help.
So I moved in with a friend of mine in september in a college dorm room. Everything was going fine. One day he stopped talking to me, or acknowledging my existence entirely.
This left me suspicious as we had been best buds up until this point so I asked some mutual friends what was up and they said that he had some issues with my living habits.
Alright I thought we are two mature adults who can handle this like civilized people. How wrong I was.
Since October of 2015, he would go through cycles of where he would be friendly and nice to me and cycles of which he would pretend I didn't exists. On various occasions I would ask him what was up if he wanted to talk about it or anything and he always would tell me that I was fine.
On various occasions I got down on my hands and knees and begged him to talk to me about it because I could see that there were things that I did that bothered him to the point of pretending that I didn't exist. Every time I tried to open a dialouge he would say that I was "Fine" and then run away from the situation.
The other day he finally spoke to me again and opened up about some things and we seemed to be doing better as friends and roommates. Then yesterday I noticed he was begining to ignore me, but also harass me and undermine me when he could. This is what happened.
me : dude whats up what did I do to deserve you treating me like shit
him : WHAT DID YOU DO???? WHAT DID YOU DO???????????
*muttering*
He then grabbed his stuff and left. He refuses to speak to or look at me. I have tried to get him to tell me what I could do to improve as his roomate and his friend so that he wouldn't end this school year hating me.But he won't answer my text messages or even speak to me. I don't know what I did, or how I could have stopped it and now I am at a loss of what to do.
TL;DR my roommate hates me because he avoids talking about his problems
Your roommate is a passive aggressive asshole that's talking shit about you to other friends while not saying anything to you.
I suggest move out and dropping the faggot
>>17101775
what are your living habits like, i feel like youre leaving something important out.
Do you have gross living habits? Like how clean or dirty is your room, bathroom, kitchen, living room? But you said you noticed some things that bother him, can you think of any? Something maybe you had said ?
From what you explained it sounds like something else is upsetting him and that HE is the one with an issue that makes him not want to talk to you. So I'm just throwing something out there, do you feel like he could be gay?
I had a friend who was pretty awkward, he was a real social chameleon too, but anyway we use to smoke pot a lot and just other guy shit till he got caught smoking and kicked out of his parents place. He stopped after that and we didn't talk for like 6 months, he told all my friends that I just used him to smoke pot and once he stopped we didn't hangout. This was bullshit because I had called him a few times between our 6 month break and he never responded, I figured it was because I smoke a lot so he wanted distance from that stuff so I even invited him kayaking with some of our friends who don't smoke and still no response. After I heard from my friends what he told them, I tried confronting him and he totally avoided me at all cost like he would go through great measures to not see me. I got in his face one day about it and he admitted it was wrong and told me to text him so we could chill. From after that I guess he was 100% sure I was gay and missed being with him because literally the second we got together he tried gay shit on me! Nothing wrong with being gay I totally support them but this friend of mine had serious issues that had nothing to do with him being gay, so I'm glad I ditched him.
Anyway Id try talking to your friend about it more, force him if you must so you can see his true colors, personally it sounds like something is wrong with him, on a mental level. Be safe brotha
Hey
I'm a semester away from graduating with an engineering degree. I like what I've been learning regardless of how frustrating school is at times. My grades are pretty good for my major and the school I'm going to (above 3.0 GPA). However I realize now, that once I graduate, I really don't want to work 40 hours a week, and would be willing to take a proportional reduction in salary to work half of that as an engineer. Problem is... that doesn't exist. There are no part time engineers.
I don't want to be a slave, but no company is willing to invest time and money into a young employee, only for them to be half as developed ten years down the line. Has anyone else on here felt this way? I just value my peace and free time far too much, and I am willing to reduce my living standards in exchange for free time. The only solutions I see: start my own business, and hopefully one day, after potentially years of more than 40hrs/week, I'll be able to relax and enjoy my spare time. Or I could enter another, less demanding profession, though this will be challenging because I didn't study in that field, and may not enjoy it much.
I'm ok with admitting I'm lazy, because I realize I value time more than money. What do I do?
>>17101732
There are 2 ways both require a lot of work upfront
Start your own business. Bust ass until it is developed enough you can go part time. There is a good chance the business will fail as 80% of all businesses fail in 5 years.
Live well below your means and chase paychecks after college. Invest every cent you can. Retire when 3% of your investments will provide for all of your yearly expenses. You need about $700k to get $20k/yr in income.
>Or I could enter another, less demanding profession, though this will be challenging because I didn't study in that field, and may not enjoy it much.
Any job that pays enough to you to live even a basic existence requires at least 40 hours a week.
>>17101776
OP here. I'm just a little disenchanted with how much work is required of the average person in the 21st century. I read this article:
http://strikemag.org/bullshit-jobs/
"On the Phenomenon of Bullshit Jobs"
I just don't think anyone should have to work a full 40 hours a week working a job they may or may not enjoy in order to survive. The 9-5 is antiquated.
>>17101732
When you are looking for "part time job" as a student from university, you have to replace all part-time words with practice (like Practice for diploma thesis) or "I want to work on your topic for diploma thesis".
These kind of sentences can carry you through HR departments straight to real departments where the real stuff is done. However you still need to shoot emails pretty much over any companies around you.
>I don't want to be a slave
Well, I study + part time job at Bosh basically as a software engineer who is paid the same money you get as a cashier at shop (I know this because I was between my first year of study). But I really like what I do there, I will start with 1 year of experience in my job list and possible with confirmed job.
However with little money comes no responsibility. When I need to school, I just shoot email I won't come next two weeks and they can't do a shit.
It was hard to get there, but I don't regret it. And I believe my boss doesn't regret too. In fact he asked me to bring my schoolmates too if I can.
Hey /adv/
Here's the situation:
I recently got into a new relationship with a girl and everything seemed actually pretty great, I think I can honestly say I'm in love (we've been together almost 3 months now).
I was sitting in my room working when she said she needed to talk and that she went to go get checked out for some issues she's been having with sexual health. At first she told me she was diagnosed with PID and a yeast infection, and reassured me she didn't think it was that serious nor did she have anything that was incurable. This put a damper on our sex life for a week but then she had to talk to me again since her results came back from the clinic.
My new girlfriend has chlamydia and now I do too, I'm going to get checked tomorrow but I already know I'll test positive for it. This is all curable but I just can't shake the feeling that my girlfriend is a little bit of a tramp. I know she isn't but it's there. She claims she's had only two sexual partners in the past but I feel that number may be closer to four, and that she hasn't had sex in over a year, which I believe. It also makes sense that she now has PID since that is caused by untreated STIs over a long time... I don't know how to think or what I should do..
Advice?
Use your money to buy a higher class hooker next time
You need to get the fuck out of that relationship bro. She's either a whore or retarded for not using jimmies while fucking a manwhore.
>>17101718
>i can honestly say im in love
>we've been together almost 3 months
>almost 3 months
>honestly im in love
>3 months
>almost
i literally lol'd.
>i think my girlfriend might be a tramp
>she could have had up to 4 sex partners
Hey
I am 19 years old and i think i may have some problem. I used to be a very happy child until around 8 grade when i started to walk away from everyone i knew. I spend most of my time closed in my room working, writing and playing video games. When i go outside i start shaking and i feel like i wanna puke especially if the streets are full of people.
I cant keep a conversation with anyone except in an anonymous way like what i am doing right now.
I am usually very negative about things i do and most of the projects i make go in the trash.
Another example of what i have: 1 of my brothers died and i wasn't able to cry or feel anything.
I feel like an empty shell.
I am always sleepy also even thou i sleep +8 hours every night.
I am very nice even with people i hate.
I also have suicidal thoughts even thou i would never comit suicide.
If you know if i have any problem please can you tell me how to fix it i am tired of just spending day after day like this.
Sorry for the long post and have a good day/night. And sorry for any mistake i could have made i am not english
Seek help, get an asestment. Sounds like mental ilness, wich can be dramatically improved with therapy and medication. You dont have to live like this.
Also you are super super young. You can totally change.
Clinical depression plud a healthy dose of anxiety.
See a therapist, consider low doses of anti-depressants
>birthday weekend
>go to a club, it's backed like sardines
>live in ui town, everyone just graduated
>on xanax, amphetmaine and drinking beer. completely on top of my gave with 0 anxiety.
>friends who i sell drugs to or havent seen me recent constantly say "damn you're getting in shape" etc.
>it was 80 deg otuside so i wear a red polo and nice shorts
>get a pitcher of bee with my friend, finish the whole time
>scope around bitches, if ome isn't talking to a guy i just move on.
>plenty of qts were on their phones all alone, so i say
>>hi, why are you alone
>basically got a bunch of bullshit answers, only like 1/5 said they had boyfriends
what the fuck guys? is it really just a numbers game? you have to get rejected 100x just to get the opportunity to settle for a landwhale? i graduated from the top uni in my state. top 20 in the country, i have a good job, blond hair blue eyes thick stuble, i could lose a few lbs of fat but from american standards i'm skinny.
WHAT THE FUCK?
can somene give me list convo starters or something? I could have been the perfect match for them but they didn't even give me a try, just to be nice. I'm 5'8 but this uni has whites as about 40% of the population so i was taller than a lot of mestizo, mulatto, and asian guys. i was about median height
i'm not depressed about it, just fucking annoyed about why no girl wants anything to do with me?
'hi, why are you alone' isn't the best pickup line imho
>>17101633
I'd be lying if I said I'm smooth as fuck all the time. But with
>hi, why are you alone
yeah im pretty sure it obvious how you fucked up. You think thats how you get dates? No m8. You need to be smooth. Flirt. Look good. Dont get too attached. Ignore them a bit. Girls like attention. I've never been good at flirting at bars. But I somehow manage to do well in other settings, like hitting on a cashier or a random girl on the subway.
>>17101639
>>17101639
what else should i say?
i also said 'whats up' and 'how are you' and 'whats your name?'
it was a loud club you literally have to scream in their ear for them to hear it
So my best friend was an extremely attractive girl who was way out of my league. Anyway, after she broke up with her boyfriend, I became her rebound. We screwed for a few months and I got really close to her, but she didn't feel the same about me and she eventually found someone else. She and her current boyfriend have been together since October. We still talk a lot, but we don't get drunk together anymore or anything like that.
I've been on two Tinder dates--the first girl was using old photos and myspace angles and the second girl said fifteen minutes into the date that she wanted to marry me so she could get a green card.
I'm having a hard time moving on after being with my best friend. Maybe I'm still shooting too high and fat girls and mail order brides are "my league". How do I move on? Don't give me that "learn to be happy by yourself" bullshit, you all know being alone for months and months while your friends are loving their girlfriends and getting engaged fucking sucks. Help
>>17101556
Learn to accept the women in your league or upgrade yourself so that attractive women are in your league.
>>17101574
Also 2 dates is hardly getting out there. When you are looking for a job do you fill out only 2 job applications? No, you go to multiple different place.
Your best friend is kind of an asshole for using you as a 'rebound'
