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I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis. I am not happy. I am in constant pain. It has also caused my anxiety to worsen tremendously, and I can't spend a moment without being afraid of nothing.
Anons, do you have illnesses? How do you cope with it? I'm scared that I'm going to allow this to completely ruin me.
>>17113824
Something's up with my digestive system but doctors can't figure out what, and I'm too much of a big ol vagina to undergo a biopsy cuz it's surgery. I've eaten BBQ and had to have the car pull over so I could waddle into the rain and spray shit on some plants. I've had to skip school because I kept having diarrhea. It's gotten better over the years, but today I realized apparently drinking coffee after going without it for a while is a big fucking no-no
>>17113824
Stop eating things with gluten. Stop eating or drinking dairy. Google specific foods to avoid with this disease and avoid them.
Pot will help too believe it or not.
All of these things may help significantly.
>>17113870
pot isn't legal in my state, but CBD is. will that be ok.
>go out to eat with friends
>one of them, let's call him Joe, is the kind of person who will talk and talk and not give other people a chance to say anything, and when they do he only half-listens
>anyway, we get our food and start focusing on eating, but Joe mostly keeps talking and only picks at his food
>by the time we finish, Joe has still barely eaten because he keeps trying to talk about shit
>give him some time, we start hinting at him that he's got a lot of food left, but he just takes a bite at a time then starts a monologue
>I honestly believe he was doing this on purpose so he could TRAP us into listening to him talk, like it legitimately feels like he's trying to buy himself time
>like he theatrically acts like he's about to take a bite but then acts like some thought has just occurred to him and must share it with us
>ask if anyone wants anything else afterward, we all say no, so I call over the waitress when I see her and ask for the bill
>Joe starts going "wait what I'm still eating though" but I tell him we can still pay the check
>our other friend seems have caught my drift, so he asks Joe if he's having trouble finishing his meal and if he thinks he should get it wrapped
>he protests but we insist, he tries to buy time by going "welll I don't know if I want to get it wrapped up or not" but we say he can take it home and throw it away later if he really wants
>he decides to eat it now, and starts trying to pull the talking shit again
>I say my legs are cramped and I need fresh air so I'll wait outside, our other friend says the same thing and comes with me
>a few minutes later Joe is outside with his food wrapped
>as we're leaving he complains that we were pressuring him or some shit
I am just pissed off and want to hear your thoughts. Does anyone else have an obnoxious friend like this? This is just one incident. Wat do?
>>17113791
>This is just one incident. Wat do?
If you insist on hanging out with irritating people you will be put into irritating situations.
If you don't want to be irritated, stop hanging out with him.
Thats it. Make your choice.
>>17113798
Pretty much this. The great thing about life is the ability to pick and choose who we spend our time with. At the very least, have smaller doses of the people we can't stand.
>>17113798
>>17113805
Fuck, you're right.
I've known him since early high school, so I've been kind of hoping we can show him the error of his ways, but meh...
This is going to sound so stupid.
So my friend moved out to Los Angeles, and this friend knows a (lot) about me. He's also kind of an obnoxious, overweight person. He gets drunk and tries fucking everything then tells secrets and "forgets" in the morning. He kept saying he wishes he could meet friends down there, and if I know anyone down there to let him know.
I've been trying to distance myself. Well, he added my girlfriend on facebook a while ago and she accepted. Not a big deal, but the problem is: if me and my GF go visit her friend who lives close to him, he'll not only see on her or my facebook if we get tagged with her friend down there. I don't want to tip-toe around him, but I want to post pictures of my gf and I together visiting her friend. He'll be furious and hurt, or hang out with us and be annoying and embarrassing and might tell my gf's friend some shit from my past I REALLY don't want her to know.
So I want to:
>erase him from her face book. I have her phone password but she doesn't know. I don't want to ask her to erase him either, that's suspicious and seems insecure.
>travel down there without him or any of our connected friends knowing
Advice?
>>17113772
>Advice?
Man up and decide what you want.
Either tip-toe around this guy and run the chance of having an awkward encounter with him or confront him about his behavior and set boundaries with him like an adult.
If he asks to hang out tell him no, when he asks why, tell him the fucking truth.
You can't get what you want out of life and relationships being scared of confrontation and boundary setting.
Those are your options. Good luck.
>>17113780
>confront him
Thing is he hasn't done anything too fucked up to me for me to say "we're done", and if I confront him he might blackmail me because the shit he knows about me can ruin my relationship and life. I remember him getting mad at some girl for telling him to take care of his dog for a chance, and he got so mad and threatened to ruin her life by admitting something she had done that could get her deported. He didn't go through with it though.
He still dabbles in doing the thing that I used to do together with him (not what you think it would be) and if I said I didn't want to be in his life because of that he might be like "this guy used to do this shit too! what a hypocrite!"
And I really want to get him off of her facebook. He posts really obnoxious stuff and if I post a pic of us he would probably say some dumb shit.
>>17113849
>Thing is he hasn't done anything too fucked up to me for me to say "we're done", and if I confront him he might blackmail me because the shit he knows about me can ruin my relationship and life.
This doesn't change my advice. If keep him in your life he'll continue to be irritating and you'll continue to have to tip toe around him.
If you want to stop doing that, get him out of your life, even if its messy.
You seriously have these two choices, man. I told you to get rid of him and you basically said "BUT I DONT WANNA AND ITS HARD"
Well, too bad.
Lost the key to my gym lock, what do i need to open this little shit?
Bolt cutters. Come on, locks are like $3.
>>17113787
Yea i know, i just lost mine today. Dissapointed i lost it cause now i need to bolt cut this shit.
Wasnt sure if there was an alternative, thanks anon
>>17113760
you could...
fucking pick it you pleb.
there's like a thousand tutorials on the internet.
So a few months ago I had an LSD trip that gave me an intense psychotic episode where I saw God and the devil and descended into hell after being told I was Jesus by messages through the tv. It took me quite a while to recover from that and to come back to my senses.
The thing is, everytime I smoke weed now it takes me back to that place. I start hallucinating noises that remind me of that trip or I start think my friend can read my mind or that I'm in hell or that the tv is giving me messages. It takes a little while to recover every time I smoke. But, I think I'm pretty normal when I recover and don't really have delusions to my knowledge.
Here's a little background:
>mom died when I was 6
>had anger problems growing up
>dad shut off emotionally, he played games or went on business trips all the time
>developed depression in teens, was always an odd child
>depression came and went often
>spent time in a psych ward last summer for admitting to being suicidal
>only tried suicide once toward the end of my senior year in high school
>locked up, nothing changes
>doctors said it may be schizophrenia but couldn't get a diagnosis
>compared to the schizos I was fairly sane
>then the trip
So what do you think this is? I really want to get advice because I really don't like going to doctors. Do you think it's just flashbacks to the psychotic trip when I smoke weed or do you think it's the onset of schizophrenia?
I keep clean, bathe daily and eat right and exercise and I am capable of feeling emotions and I can stay relatively level-headed most of the time, so I personally rule out schizophrenia. But I haven't heard of such horrible psychotic breaks caused by weed alone. Maybe I screwed up my brain with my history of drug abuse?
Bumping with C&H
I had a somewhat similar experience but it was a 4th plat DXM trip that I was in no way prepared for physically, mentally, or emotionally. After that trip I could not smoke weed without getting horribly anxious and paranoid, which had never happened to me before. This was about a year ago and what ended up helping me was two things, one of which I for sure recommend and one which I can't in good conscience. The first thing is that I just stopped smoking with other people for a while, and I stopped smoking to get high. I would get "buzzed" and then quit there, and while there was slight paranoia and anxiety I learned how to deal with it. The second thing was to get insanely high by myself and get into that head space again, sort of force myself to relive the feelings I got from that original trip. I kept the voice recorder on my phone on and a pen and paper next to me and started talking and writing and drawing whatever came to my mind, and that actually ended up helping me make the connections I needed to make to understand what made me have that awful trip in the first place. Now everything's pretty much back to normal.
>>17113843
I have stopped smoking altogether and plan on never doing it again. Even when I think it's safe to smoke again it takes me right back
Ask anything I might just be able to help!
fee=cool pic
Last time I got some nice pics I need some more so don't skimp on me.
How can I avoid being an autistic gay retard?
>>17113754
you did not pay the fee
>>17113754
This cat doesn't work fore free but I will let this one pass.
I have no clue what is autistic gay retarded so explain what makes one.
More detailed question better answer.
Is this hazel? Or just simply brown eyes?
>>17113732
Just brown.
Brown. Hazel is green and brown together.
>>17113732
Brown.
Im about to add this girl on instagram. Any advice? Anyone here done it as well? Im trying my best not to come over as a creep or stalker. Im a an average looking guy, am fit, not autistic, but since she got a lot of neckbeards who bombarded her social media before i feel that she could have a prejudice against strangers adding her.
Any advice is much appreciated
>>17113648
Katya Lischina?
>>17113655
Yes. Why do you think this is bait?
>>17113659
Because I'm sure she's used to it by now, considering everyone and their mother knows who she is. Stop thinking you're special, because you'll never mean anything to her.
Okay, I really need advice.
I'm finishing up a transfer degree this spring, and then will be moving on to a four year school out of town. I'm married, and though both my husband and I work, (him full time, me part time while I finish hard as fuck classes) we can't make ends meet. Our landlord and internet provider (which I need for school) both upped their prices on us, and because we've been juggling paying bills for so long, we have back car insurance, back electricity, and even back rent past due.
I still owe money to my current college for a class I'm taking for my transfer degree, (already looked into it, no help to get it paid off even though its for a degree, longer story) and everything of value I own with the exception of my wedding ring, is already in pawn. (And I'd only get like 30 dollars for it anyway, because that's what 1200 dollar rings get you in pawn around here).
I figured that perhaps we could stay at either his or my mom's house while we gathered enough money to pay off our bills, but both of them told us no. One has a full house, the other one told me her landlord said no. I asked my estranged father for some help, but he also told me no, because he's paying out of pocket for cancer treatments not covered by his insurance.
And no, I don't qualify for food stamps. We check every two months and last time we literally made ten dollars too much. I applied for every scholarship I could get my grubby hands on, and not a single one, not even the 50 to 100 dollar ones, came back. And I while I've been desperate enough to take out a personal loan on the car, I can't. My husband has terrible credit to boot, and late payments mean mine probably has taken a hit as well.
So I'm sitting here too stressed to focus on my crucial homework (because I need a good grade to maintain what financial aid I have that covers my tuition) and hungry (again) with no way out.
What am I going to do?
have you tried not living beyond your means? Where the hell did your husband's bad credit magically appear from I wonder.
where the fuck do you live. quit pawning shit and start selling it.
>>17113627
We don't try to live beyond our means. I don't go on amazon shopping binges, I don't buy vidya gaems, I don't even go out to eat that often. I haven't bought new clothes in over a year. I'm struggling to pay the basic necessities. LIKE FOOD. It's not like I have an Xbox live account or whatever, and am refusing to give up that. I don't have cable, I don't get things for myself to make me feel better.
I only have what I need. Electricity, a roof, food. Internet for school (my classes are all hybrid) a car insurance payment I'm required by law to have, to drive to work and school.
And his bad credit is his own damn fault, and yes I'm pissed about it but I can't do anything about it.
What exactly are you accusing me of?
Alright /adv/ give me your advice on this situation. Met this girl in grad school (Shes 23 I'm 26)...should I pursue next semester or let her go?
>Met this girl about 2 months ago
>She starts texting me a lot, all day every day, always wanted to hangout, always asked if i needed a ride when my car broke down, she even bakes me cookies once.
>This girl seems pretty cool, and she might be in to me. Maybe I should ask her out
>Unfortunately right when I begin to think I might fancy this girl, she sends me a 1am text about how she hooked up with a guy she doesn't want to have feelings for
>100% straight gay best friend zone
>I give her advice that night, but as of a month ago I stop texting/snapping/ her...I'm not going to be her gay best friend
>I think she got the hint, in fact I've gotten a passive aggressive vibe from her the past few weeks. Doesn't text me anymore or say hi
>Yet I get about 10 snaps from her each week
>I get the feeling shes mad I ditched her in her moment of need yet she still is trying to get my attention
Alright so school ends next week. I never told her I liked her and atm she isn't going to date that dude she hooked up with.
My plan was go minimal/no contact all summer (I might be in the friendzone) and give it one go when school starts in August. Or not what does /adv/ say?
>>17113584
She's obviously using you as a spare wheel (no pun intended).
It was obvious that she was shifting through a bunch of guys and ends up finding a better guy than you and wanted to cut you loose, forget about her famili.
>>17113596
noted
Well this might for sure get you out of the friend zone.
A few years ago, I introduced my gal pal to my friend. 4 years later, they are getting married, and the wedding is coming up in three weeks. While they were the ones to make their relationship work, they would not be getting married if I had not introduced them to one another.
My Gal Pal has not included me in the bridal party, and I am not invited to her bachelorette party. This is all because one of her bridesmaids hates my guts. This Bridesmaid and I used to be friends, but our friendship ended after a huge spat nearly 6 years ago. I won't bore you with details, but I thought after 6 years, we would be able to move past everything and be there for The Bride. Apparently not.
The Bride says the reason I am not in the bridal party is because, "The Bridesmaid is stubborn. I know if you were there, she would just be mean to you the entire time. It isn't you I am worried about, it's her. She holds grudges." This Bridesmaid is ONE person. I know for a fact there are more people invited to the wedding who like me than loathe me, but my "friend" The Bride is accommodating this spoiled brat of a woman, and is excluding me from the bridal party and bachelorette party, even though I introduced her to her soon-to-be- husband (Who is also my friend) and I have been her friend for almost a decade.
I have gone back and forth about all this. On one hand, not being in the party means not having to plan anything or buy an expensive dress, etc. Except, I would have done all those things anyway, but because of The Bridesmaid and her supposed bad attitude, we need to be separated. I've been more than graceful about taking "the high road" on this shit.
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I was invited to the BRIDAL SHOWER, and had to work with The Bridesmaid to write down who got what for gifts. I thought we were getting along, but apparently the Bridesmaid later gossiped she couldn't stand to be around me, etc.
WTF, pham? The Bride is literally saying, "My friend is a brat and hates you, so to avoid conflict, you guys can't be in the part together or even the bachelorette party." I have talked to close family and friends, and they all say this is nonsense, and The Bridesmaid should be expunged for being a brat, which I agree. But The Bride won't do it.
What would you guys do? I am trying to be understanding for my friend, but that's all I've been: understanding.
Meanwhile, I'm not invited to the fucking bachelorette party because the girl who doesn't like me will be there, and I wasn't included in the bridal party. My family thinks my friend is being two faced, but I may be too close to the situation to recognize it.
So I'm good enough to get her a gift and set her up with her future husband, but not good enough to go the the bachelorette party or be in the bridal party?
It's open bar. My handsome date and I may just get shit faced and leave. I don't know if I'm over reacting, or if this is a deal breaker for our friendship.
It's her wedding you selfish twat. That being said she is a shit friend. Cut her off
>>17113542
Seems like you needed more of a rant. You already know your friend chose her friend over you and you just wanted to let off some steam.
Can only find generic help that doesn't really work.
Does anyone know any effective ways of promoting content on YouTube without giving the guys over there cash? It often doesn't work and it costs more than you'd expect.
Just to let you know, I'm up on social media, I am trying to collaborate, and I am trying to make videos frequently.
Unless you are previously famous or at least internet famous, you're mostly shit out of luck. For every 10 videos of the thing you search for, there are likely 100s of videos that never get more than 50-100 views.
It's just the nature of the beast.
Your best bet is to latch onto something trending and be one of the videos that might come up when people are searching what's going down.
What are your videos about?
>>17113404
This is a good tip, find an unfilled and emerging niche and make it your thing.
My brother is trying to get YouTube famous and he has an app on his phone that gives him subscribers. He's actually gotten hundreds since he started using it and I would think having a high number looks good to potential actual viewers. I can ask him the name of the app if you're interested
>>17113404
I mostly do YTPs on current events. Recently, I did one on Keemstar, which might go down well.
Other things include the simple ones that get views but don't engage the viewer with the channel, like compilations and clips from other videos. These bring in the views, but not the subscribers.
Is there anyway to lower my sex drive naturally as a 23 year old male? It's through the roof and not good for me.
Why: In short Im rather unattractive, so no sex for me. No, my standards are not high...they are basically dont be too fat. However not even 300lb women talk to me, ever.
Im finishing college next year and having to see so many pretty girls around and none talk to me is rather depressing. If sex wasn't on my mind i would not be depressed.
Some will ask, well anon try eating healthy and exercising: Iv been working out for over 2 years, I eat healthy balanced diet and I dont even eat red meat or pork. My body fat is roughly 10%.
Thanks, I tried googling this but not much help.
>>17113361
Did you even engage any girl ever? Fill your lungs with air, rub that sweat off your face and have a chat with some girls?
>>17113361
Steroids will eventually tank your sex drive once you've shut down endogenous test production.
>>17113372
define engage?
>>17113395
not trying to risk my health, I work out and eat healthy to be healthy.
My grandpa is turning 91 tomorrow but just got his license taken away. I want to give him something that he could do at home that might cheer him up. Ideas?
hire an escort
>>17113326
What does he like to do? For example, my grandpa and I used to build airplane models because he was a pilot back in the day.
>>17113326
A fake license
My girlfriend is an RCMP officer and she volunteered to help with the Fort McMurray evacuation and left 2 days ago. The phone calls of what she describes is intense and scares me, I'm really worried about her safety.
She left without giving me much heads up, she just texted me and said she was going, came by and grabbed some things, gave me a kiss and left. I'm not really too hurt over that because that's what drew me to her in the first place.
I am worried about her safety though and she was going door to door to clear households while the city was burning, I can't make her come home sooner but I find myself checking the news for hours and hours everyday.
Any tips on how to deal with this and not be a little bitch?
This is a view from 70km outside the city
this just in: she got burned alive like a witch and died cursing you for not stopping her
>>17113297
She's just your girlfriend, not your wife or a relative. She's replaceable.
