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I think my boyfriend might be a serial killer. We started dating at the start of last semester because he's a math whiz and I kept asking him for advice, and we ended up spending so much time together I got to find out he's not a very snarky, non-apologetic personality without the annoying bravado attached to it. I made a move to ask him out, and he seemed genuinely shocked. He even asked, "Do you think this is a good idea?" At the time I thought it was some kind of joke, but now I'm worried.
See, he doesn't DO anything. That is, if I ask him to take me to an art show, or a cooking class or whatever, he'll go willingly, and he always excels at whatever activity I take him to, from reciting poetry to wall climbing. But he never asks me if I want to do something. He never seems to have any plans, he doesn't hold any interests, he just seems to be engaged whenever you interact with him, like he's a human Furby.
He doesn't want to have sex, which I find highly disturbing. I "walked" in on him in the bathroom to try and get things started, and he is well-equipped downstairs, plus I've seen him get hard-ons before so I know it has nothing to do with his male sexuality. I have considered he's not attracted to me, personally, but he doesn't even stare at other girls that I KNOW are hot. It's like he's unaware of other people around him, or he doesn't care.
I asked him once what his goal in life is, and he said he has none. And yet for some reason he still goes to school, he still goes to the gym, he takes care of his home so very meticulously, and yet he tells me he doesn't care.
Is there a handbook for this kind of behavior? I can't for the life of me understand how he operates, and I'm growing more and more worried as time passes.
Aspergers.
Or he might be asexual.
Introverted.
He sounds like a creep though.
>>17114675
If he was a serial killer (which he's not btw)
He would appear very charming and have a whole back story
Sorry anon, but you fell for actual autism
>>17114675
Dammit, I was expecting a box full of ears or something.
You know you don't literally mean serial killer. Why would you be so rude to sufferers of sociopathy?
Sorry I'm a bit of an aspie, but what would make a more appropriate profile pic out of these?
The hedgehog one. It doesn't have you making a "I forgot to wipe my ass" expression and it doesn't have Ja'Quan Jenkins in it.
My high school has a week where seniors sell themselves to other students and the students get to dress up the seniors on Friday. The kid who bought me plans to dress me up in a very tight dress. How do I go all day without having an erection in class?
A pair of kitchen shears will work wonders
You could learn how to tuck but then that might either make you look like you've done this before or that you're very unendowed.
>>17114651
rock the boner proudly.
or ducktape it between your legs.
I vote for #1
Is 2 months in a relationship too early to say I love you ?
Bonus question: In your experience, how long is it until is it appropriately considered to say "I Love you"?
Bonus question: What's the earliest a partner has said it to you ?
>>17114608
Love is unconditional. Would you do ANYTHING for them and expect nothing in return? Are you selfless? Would you clean up their crap if they poo on the floor and still feel the same about them? Lust is not love.
>What's the earliest a partner has said it to you ?
Said it to me, about 4-5 months in, I don't know if she really loved me or the idea of loving someone that accepted her and treated her well.
>>17114619
I'm withwith anon, love is unconditional but is sometimes unrequited.
My first serious partner said it to me about 5 months in.
>>17114608
depends.
my first boyfriend actually said it about 2 months in. it felt right because we spent everyday together since we started dating.
my current said it in about 3 months... kinda made me worry at the time because i thought he said it too easily and i didn't think he knew me well enough to say that genuinely. met on tinder, and with the distance and everything... we've only met once at the time. (though we did text everyday and pretty much pour our hearts out) but now it's all good; he's been true to his word and shows how much he thinks about me and loves me everyday.
i don't mind waiting a year or so to hear that as long as they mean it. take that as you will, but essentially, the more you understand them and accept their flaws and stuff, the more meaning and weight it carries.
>be me, 22 still living with parents
>toxic environment that I hate
>only make $1500 a month
>student loans take out $260/month
>live in LA, so rent would be $500/month at bare minimum
>hover around $2000 in bank account due to expenses and my parents charging me rent
Any tips on getting out of here ASAP? Besides, obviously, getting a better job. I NEED to keep this job to get enough experience to move onto another, at least a year. No upward mobility but may get a small raise or something
Join military
How much are you paying to your parents ?
>>17114603
>rent in LA
>500 a month minimum
Hahaha
Need some advice bros. In a decent relationship with gf, but feel compelled to cheat. Hooked up with (pic related) at the end of last semester while gf was abroad, feeling the urge to hit her up to do it again. What do?
You're a cheating scumfuck piece of shit. There's only one thing to do.
>>17114576
Thanks senpai :^)
>>17114573
>but feel compelled to cheat
Why don't you become single so you don't subject your gf to emotional harm?
Girlfriend was upset at her mom and was talking to me about it. She seemed fine for a bit so then I told her I had to go finish up some homework. She gets mad at me and tells me that she wants me to stay because she was upset. I'm like okay that's fine my bad I didn't realize you were still upset. She gets mad at me and tells me that I was supposed to ask her if she was still upset before I left and she hangs up the phone on me. She then calms down but right after downloading the okcupid app. She called me and told me she was being over dramatic and that she downloaded the okcupid app to make me upset and that she just wanted to tell me.
Been dating almost 2 years... This used to happen a lot before but I left her over it one time and she took me back pleading that she'll change. Last time this happened (trying to get me jealous because she was mad) was like almost a year ago.
What do I do /adv/? Forgive? Forget? All she did was download the Okcupid app. I'm just scared she'll get back to her old ways of being a bitch because she used to ruin me. After she changed she was perfect but not she did this today.
Holy fuck tell her to fuck off. Selfish bitch doesn't even understand you have to finish homework and then she calls you back threatening to cheat? Bitch has brain problems, who would want to stay with that?
>>17114548
She never changed, she just temporarily changed her behavior. People don't actually change. Either she's looking to replace you or she's looking to manipulate you.
Sounds like a manipulative bitch to me OP. I'd drop her.
>>17114554
It's my first ever relationship... She used to drain me when she did this before but I was really infatuated. Over time I got tired of it so I just started ignoring the fuck out of her.
I feel like shit right now. It was going so good and I thought she wasn't crazy anymore.
I've discovered my vore fetish accidentally on a video, i felt something strange when saw a video where some furry character ate another one, that was just for fun, but i felt something strange about that, so i discovered my vore fetish after that.
time ago i was at furry hentai, but now with vore fetish i barely fell furry porn arousing, also, I'm very selective about how my vore fantasies are, i don't like human-related vore, enjoy only soft vore, i fell vore with digestion way more arousing than vore without digestion,
as a prefer fatal vore more than, non-fatal vore, but i ok with any 2 of these 2.
(THE QUESTIONS) about this, i having several problems to accept my vore fetish, due to:
I find fatal vore way more arousing than non-fatal vore, but i don't agree with the idea of dying to it, so i try to imagine even after the digestion, the prey can come back by its own desire (the conscientious keep after the digestion) or with magic, but don't seems it is working, i just have the same strange feeling about it, i don't want to accept the concept of dying, but as my favorite kind of final it is a bit hard.
also, i having questions about getting rid or not from this fetish, i know it's a really weird fetish, and seeing some kinds of vore that i don't like makes possible for me know what you guys without this fetish feel, i know how it seems gross, and i miss a lot that furry fetish (with sexual acts), so, i don't want it to become the ONLY REALLY arousing kind of "porn", but i don't really want to get rid of it, i trying to keep a balance between my fetishes, but how vore it's completely new for me (around 3 weeks) i think i could give it some months to make it more common and controllable, also seeing some furry porn to don't lose a true kind of porn, but i fear that it could make me more addictive than now about this fetish making me don't feel attraction to others kinds of porn anymore, what i mean is, these questions are driving to crazy.
PS: sry grammar
...you're fuckin' weird
>>17114543
God, all of my this.
you are mentally ill, stop watching bizarre anthro porn (or any porn) and take up a nice hobby like hiking
i have a crush on this girl, we always talk and do some things together(ive known her for like 4-5 months now), today she texted me saying she had a dream about me,then went on to say how she hates when guys chat to her on facebook, but said i am an exception... i suffer from slight depression and a bit of social anxiety so i am very hesitant.
despite having no real relationship experience atm, this is a definite yes.
>>17114527
She's expressing an interest. Be a confident person and ask her out. Have a specific place and time in mind and don't be put off if that doesn't work. Suggest another time, same place and let her pick the time.
If she says no to both, then she's not interested.
>>17114534
>this is a definite yes
No. It's a probable "yes," but I was in basically that situation, and it turns out that no, she wasn't interested in me in that way.
So, OP, if you're not an otherwise desirable guy, then I wouldn't bother trying.
Or "lower my standards"
I'm terrible and hot girls don't like me. Average girls don't like me.
Everyone I know says I'm creepy as fuck, online and in real life. I have very few friends and hate myself and I'm just so shitty and toxic all the time but a man can't help his nature. I work in a factory and don't have much money. My face is ugly as shit. I have been working out and making progress on my body but fat loss and lifting isn't going to fix my face.
So basically I'll never be the sexy rich "good personality" guy any girls want. I do have plans to go into a 2 year program that will get me a better job but it'll be at least 2 years before I can even afford to start, and time to work on my body. I'm 24 and don't really want to delay my first relationship for several more years, it's shameful enough as it is.
Fat girls like me though. They jump my bones everywhere I go and I always react harshly to shut them up, because that's fucking disgusting. But now as a lonely grown adult virgin I can see that they're the only ones I'll ever be good enough for. I can look at fat naked girls online all day and it does nothing for me, how do I mentally train myself to get into this? You can say "lower your standards" all you want but if I can't get hard it's not gonna happen. How do I fix this?
>>17114488
man, i mean physical attraction is important but you want to focus on people's character and personality if you want anything to last...
i guess i'm a fairly attractive femanon. my friends and family always rail on me for having "weird taste" in boyfriends because they don't fit the 6'+, rich, gorgeous, and successful profile that i should be dating. i mean, it's not like i can't get those types; i've dated the models, lawyers, and athletes and whatnot, and honestly, they were nice people too. but the most passionate relationships i've had were with guys who were pretty unfortunate in both appearance and status and whatnot lol.
in the end, i date the guys i do because i see potential in how much they're willing to be a true partner; which means loyalty, respect, kindness and honesty. that's what's most important to me. i can't help but find their imperfections endearing if i hadn't already found it charming in the first place; especially with the way they look at me like i'm the best thing in the world and how they'll do anything to make me smile... really melts my heart.
so op, maybe try to give those girls who may have the ability to be a great partner a chance. you might fall in love with their extra curves or something lol. or alternatively, you can become the person the attractive people you want wants to be with. there's always a pay-off or balance in these sort of things.
my current boyfriend is pretty poor, is missing a tooth (wears a fake one in its place), is under 6' tall, and is pretty out of shape. but man, do i love him to death and i am so grateful and happy to have such a selfless and sweet person... thanks op, now i gotta tell him how much i love him again lol.
Character and personality are much more important.
>>17114558
This made me cringe.
I have constipation. What are some foods that'll make me shit?
coffee then cold water immediately after
Greens
Spinach, broccoli, celery. Get some roughage in there to clean you out.
>>17114473
Apples and figs do it for me.
It's complicated. Please bear with me, describing my situation makes it sound so unreal, like the plot of a Tumblr romance novel or shitty fetish porn, but this is part of my life. So, here it is.
> I'm FtM, pre-hormone and pre-surgery, androgynous
> Bisexual, but I've never seen myself as being romantically interested in a woman
> Except one
> My best friend since high school (We're both 21 now) is a gorgeous chick, 10/10
> Turns heads everywhere she goes, gets hit on in public, gets phone numbers from guys, looks perfect even after rolling out of bed. She's got a gorgeous face and her body is in-fucking-credible
> Lost my virginity to her at 16, became sort of FWB after that
> She was in a serious relationship with a guy for 2 years, then he broke up with her
> She's been in love with her neighbor for 5 years, but he's a stoner and doesn't want to commit to her, they started a FWB relationship about a year ago
> I've always been really insecure about our relationship, since she can have pretty much any guy or girl she wants and I'm just... me
> Lately, we've been acting like a couple instead of just FWB. She's been dropping hints that she wants to be my gf
> But when I finally ask her, she says she "doesn't know"
> It's fine with me, until she starts explaining why
> Says her life is too complicated right now, which I understand, because I know it is, family, financial issues, etc. But explains it in a way that sounds like she considers me to be just like any other guy she's turning down
cont.
> By the time she's done talking, I feel really pissed off, feels like she's been leading me on
> Using me for affection since she isn't getting any from her ex of two years and her neighbor
> I stay the night at her place that night after an awkward and tense brithday celebration for a mutual friend
> She tells me, driving home from said friend's house, that she feels like she was being selfish and wants to give a relationship a shot if I still want to
> Feels like a pity "yes"
> I say no, not if she doesn't truly want to
> She agrees, says she wants to take it slow
> I tell her, as long as the answer is no, I don't want us to act like a couple anymore
> Car ride home is silent
> Get to her house, get in bed together
> I don't want the night to end like this
> Before I can say anything, she gets out of bed and is gone for around 2 hours
> She comes in and out of the room a few times, acting fine
> When she gets back, I talk to her
> "It seems like this isn't as big a deal to you as it is to me, but I need to tell you that I didn't say I don't want to be with you to hurt you"
> She starts telling me that it does mean a lot to her, just that she "puts up a wall" around herself to defend against her own feelings
> Tells me that I mean more to her than anyone else in the world, that she puts me on the same level as her family
> Tells me she sees a future with me, but her life is too hectic for her to want to commit to a relationship
> Long story short, she said she loves me, but she also wants to be with her ex, and that her neighbor is starting to talk to her again (they had a bit of a fight, so they stopped seeing each other for a while)
> She said that, when I told her I didn't want to act like a boyfriend anymore, it felt like I was breaking up with her
> Things were back to normal, and felt even closer to her than before
cont.
But, /adv/...
> She flirts with other guys, gives her phone number out to strangers
> Sends nudes, doesn't know that I know
> She and her ex talk like they're still together, she tells him she loves him and vice versa
She tells me all the time how attractive I am. She talks about having kids with me. She tells me how different I am from everyone else. I don't know if I should believe her.
My friends are yes-men, telling me what they think I want to hear. I need unbiased opinions, based on what I've said here. I talk a big talk around my friends, but honestly, I'm insecure as fuck and I need to know if I should keep investing my emotions into this girl.
JESUS FUCKING CHRIST.
Your whole relationship with her is so, so, so, so, so fucking bad in every way possible. You're so bad for eachother, I don't even know how to explain it in words. It'd be easier in a fucking diagram. I mean, granted you're both so mentally confused in the head I could see how you might confuse that similarity as some sort of bond, but holy shit.
Make yourself a better life.
The thread from the other day got me thinking.
I too fantasise about fictional dudes and not people, I've never been in a relationship, never had a sexual thought that wasn't for 2D. I'm not asexual because I masturbate lots but no real guy has ever gotten me to feel anything for him. I love yaoi and some josei smut, couldn't live without yaoi in fact, I don't like real porn save a selected couple of exceptions.
I'm not lonely though. My parents keep pressuring me to find a boyfriend but it just doesn't happen, nobody strikes interest in me except for 2D, I find no real guy good enough for me but I keep finding new 2D husbandos. Obviously I'm a virgin and will likely stay a virgin, sex with someone who doesn't love me and whom I feel nothing for is not for me.
For me in order to love someone... I have no particular physical image in mind but they would have to treat me good. Be kind to me, be patient with me, leave me space, help me when I need help, not try to lord over me but wait for my opinion and respect it. Respect my boundaries, accept that I masturbate to 2D dudes and that I enjoy 2D guys doin' the nasty. I'm sure there's more but right now that's what I can list off the top of my head. I don't think such a guy exists, mainly because straight guys think they're cucks if you're not thinking exclusively about them 24/7 and nobody wants to be a cuck.
With this realization, how do I get my parents to accept this? I'm a working adult so I know they have no real power over me but I love them and I don't want to be a dick to them, I want to let them down gently.
Gaia bitches OUT
>>17114439
Bumping for advice.
>I don't think such a guy exists, mainly because straight guys think they're cucks if you're not thinking exclusively about them 24/7 and nobody wants to be a cuck.
Is this true? Do you guys really expect a girl to only think about you and not have her own personal private fetishes and fantasies? Guys expect their gfs to be fine 100% fine with their porn and porn actresses because "it's just maturbation" but you don't want girls to have our own porn and masturbation fuel?
How can men be such hypocrites? I'm seriously disgusted.
So my girlfriend of 16 months has her 18th birhtday coming up soon, but i have this trip planned with all my classmates and friends that just happens to fall on the same day as her birthday. its a 2 day one night trip as our graduation trip. so im really conflicted because its my last year with my classmates and it maybe a moment that i need and cant go back to. but also its my girlfriends 18th birthday and she was there when it was mine with a big suprise and all these things planned. I know that i should give back and treat her just like i want to be treated, with respect and loyaty, but i just dont want to regret spending these last moments with my classmates and friends before we graduate. How should i go around handeling this situation?
>>17114417
Chances are that your relationship with your gf will end sooner or later; she is young and so are you. Your friends, on the other hand, may be with you forever.
>>17114417
Surprise her by taking her on the trip dumbass
>>17114428
but this was my first real relationship and i dont really feel comfortable leaving her, i can sense loyalty with her and i know she will let me go to the trip but its more of an im not going to leave her alone on her bday when she was there for mine i just cant stand imagining it.
GF won't let me rename the cat Xerxes. What do?
>>17114403
bitches and whores
>>17114403
Call it Xerxes anyway. What's she gonna do?
>>17114758
This. You gf sounds like she needs to get put in her place.
>slap a hoe
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