Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 890. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 890. page
Hello, Adv.
I'm not sure what to do.. I'm a 21 year old female and I have had mental health issues since I was in my early teens. I have suffered with depression, loneliness, anxiety and isolation for a long time. I take a lot of prescription medication because I often feel sad, I don't sleep well and find it hard to talk to people or leave my home. I have had a few boyfriends before, nothing serious, but I find that I always seem to frighten them away as soon as they learn about my mental health problems. I told a guy I was in love with that I attempted suicide once, and he told me he thought I was crazy, despite the fact I try so hard to be a good person. He didn't love me back. I rarely talk to people these days.
Are there any men out there that can accept me and help me, or is it too much of a turn off?
As cliché as it sounds, there's someone for everyone. At 21, a lot of guys are douches or fedora tipping you-have-to-eat-all-the-eggs types. As long as you're not still trying to kill yourself, you can be accepted. It's definitely not a turn on, so don't kid yourself, but you'll find someone who will help you find peace together.
Clearly he lacked any maturity if his response to you admitting to once attempting suicide was that you are 'crazy'. You opened up to him, and he tore you to pieces. Not everyone is like that, a lot of people aren't. There are definitely men out there for you, will you be my gf
>>17113287
I understand that its not a turn on.. I have tried to hide it in the past, but there is only so much that you can hide. I'm just starting to think that I'm gonna be alone forever.
Hello guys, so as the tittle/subject says i want to surf the deepweb. I have never done it... obviously, but i want to do it... obviously. More specifically: I want to buy me some high quality drugs. (LSD, shrooms etc.) so how do I do it safely?
what programs do I need, and how do i get into a site where they actually sell some, also if u have some reliable source it would be appreciated... I obviously dont know how things work. If age is concern to you dont worry I'm over 18.
All responses are higly appreciated, if you do not know a bump will do. Thanks in advance.
I had an LSD trip where I thought I saw God before descending into hell. Just a heads up
>>17112931
I have done LSD before, so I do know what im getting in to, anyway thank for the concern.
>>17112926
Make a thread about it on 4chan
Femanon here
Been with my fiancé 10yrs
I play csgo. A lot.
Guy chats me up in game. We start playing regularly. Fiancé blocks him. We talk it out and unblock him. He's just a video game friend. I play with both fiancé and guy, and all of us together. I get the steam app and guy and I start chatting daily. We flirt a bit and get along well, similar interests and what not. Fiancé and I have opposite schedules so I game without guy more than fiancé. A week ago guys wife gets ahold of his phone and starts drunk messaging me to go away and no games ever. Same night fiancé is pissed, saying I'm having an emotional affair and that guy only wants to meet and fuck, why else would he be interested in me? I haven't talked to guy in a week but I miss games and chats. In the end I will respect my fiancés feelings if it is to never talk to guy again. But I feel like I lost a friend. So am I an idiot for thinking this guy was a friend? Is fiancé overly territorial of me talking to another guy?
>>17112597
Your fiance is saying that the only reason a guy would ever want to interact with you is because he wants to have sex with you. Not because you're funny, or you have something interesting to say. Even if the guy is miles away, in a relationship, and as a result has no possibility of actually fucking you, he's only talking to you because you've got a bagina and he wants benis in it
Well, yeah. You even admitted you were flirting; the guy's fucking wife even picked up on this 'relationship' and told you to fuck off.
I'd say there were some boundaries that got crossed. And I wouldn't put all the blame on the guy either.
>>17112617
>>17112597
anon put it in a good way. why is your fiancé not happy about people liking you as a friend? I think that's a very good argument.
I'd try to get in contact with the wife of your csgo friend, and explaining to her the situation, and that she shoudn't worry about anything.
and also bump for this lovely /adv/ question!
My mother drives me absolutely crazy and she is so dumb, like so stupid you can't even imagine. With that said I feel like a lot of people feel the same way especially as they get older (I am in my 20s) Am I crazy?
I love my mom. How does she treat you? You're an adult now, how do your conversations go?
>>17112450
Nah, I'm 20 and my mother is the most important thing in my life. I genuinely can't get mad at her if she's being dumb or unreasonable.
My parents sucked. They're still alive. I wish my mom would just put my dad down. I mean, they never autopsy people over 65 and he's 82 and has had cancer, etc. Shit, she could probably leave a candlestick, a rope, and a bottle of poison sitting nearby and they wouldn't autopsy his old ass.
But seriously, my mom is a pain in my ass too. Sometimes I have to remind these people who is gonna pick the HOME I'll put them it. That usually shuts them up.
So just wait -- you gonna be picking the home you'll put her in if she doesn't chill.
Other than consuming media(games, movies, etc), what do you do for fun?
>Art.
>Eat.
>Sleep.
>Shower.
>Repeat.
I'm learning to the play bass guitar.
>>17112319
Exercise
Garden
Read/Learn
I have been having problems with my boyfriend sexually. Im not completely clueless as to why or what is happening but Id love if any of you could talk to me.
We started dating about 2 months ago and we had been friends for a really long time. Our relationship is really strong and we share everything with each other. Sexually I am a very active person and I have a huge libido where as he is slowly coming out of a depression thats lasted for years. He also was a virgin before we were together. So the main problem is that he loses his erection while he is inside me. I would like to think he is attracted to me a lot because just seeing me after a couple days gives him an erection and he loves me deeply. Because I have very low self esteem this problem is making me feel like shit even though I have so much 'evidence' showing that he does find me sexy and beautiful. At this point I really dont know what to do that doesnt involve me hurting myself. He did go to a urologist just in case it was physiological but the doctor confirmed it was psychological. Do you think he needs time or is our relationship doomed?
>>17112140
why are you putting so much pressure on him?
humans are not perfect, they are humans. get a grip and put that mentality on the side. jesus you imature bitch, start to think indepentdently or let him lead.
anyway sounds like your friend faps too much.
btw, is this you in the pic?
Condoms? Over masturbation? Nerves? There are a great number of reasons why this might be happening, and not many of the might include his thoughts on you. Does he take medication for depression?
>>17112140
he's most likely not comfortable with you for some reason. you probably make him feel insecure or some shit. he doesn't know the reason or doesn't want to admit it. I wouldn't be surprised if there was some emotional feeling he had towards you that he hides and doesn't like but puts up with it.
It doesn't mean you're not an attractive person.
What do I do if all my neighbors are morning people pieces of shit? I work at night mostly so this shit doesn't work at all, I have dogs barking, lawn mowers, trucks and utility vehicles and all this shit going off at like 6-10 in the morning and none of them give a fuck.
All I hear is "oh it's 6 you should be up anyway for work" when I ask for advice but no I work 5-12 every night. Why the fuck does everyone assume that every person wakes up at 6:30 for work even if I did have a 9-5 I wouldn't be up that early.
I don't really want to go door to door and just ask hey can you wait until noon to be loud inconsiderate retards
>>17112110
Normies will never accept your night shifts.
>earplugs
>>17112110
Earplugs, noise canceling headphones, black out curtains, take a short nap before work, any of those will help.
Move house.
Ask everyone nicely to consider doing chores an hour or two later.
Or learn to sleep on 6 hours and have a nap during the day.
Anyone read this book? I've heard good things about it apparently he author is gay. How can a gay man right a book on how to be masculine and what it means to be a man?
>How can a gay man right a book on how to be masculine and what it means to be a man?
This is bait, right? Not all faggots are fruits. Sexual deviancy doesn't make you more or less masculine
Homosexuality and masculine ideals are not exclusive. You're weird anon.
>>17111814
I understand this but if you are writing an entire book on what it means to be masculine you should be straight in my opinion. I mean a large part of being a man is women. I know I've rustled someone's jimmies with that statement but a man who is into other men whether he identifies as masculine or feminine is less of a masculine than a straight man.
what do i do with myself /adv/?
my life has just been slowly advancing less and less. Mid 20s and i still live at home. i fucking hate myself. I fell for the degree meme and months have gone by and I can't get a job. the rejection is taxing on my ego. I can't even pretend to be that motivate happy guy. I'm begining to hate my area of study and have lost all passion and interest for it. I can't even pretend to care about it anymore. I have zero motivation to do anything. I don't have any friends and my only social contact is my girlfriend. My parents are begining to hate me and everyday I'm told how useless I am. And they're right.
I don't know what to do or what I like or what my purpose is. I feel stuck in my life and don't know where to go from here.
I'm not fat, ugly, socially retarded, or unintelligent. I don't know why my life hasn't worked out. I try.
You have a gf and yet you still complain?
Fuck you.
Have you ever worked in your field professionally? You should try an internship or volunteer work in your given field. Its really the only way to get into some career fields and it gets you past the catch-22 "degree but no xp".
Your situation sounds a little like mine. Although I can't offer advice, just know that you are definitely not the only one. Maybe it's time to take drastic changes? If you're a student, do you have access to free counselling? Would it be financially viable to change your degree? Try to find part time work and move out of the house? In any case, hang in there. I'm trying my best to as well, but some days the feels are too much.
I'm ugly. I've accepted that; what I don't understand is why I look at myself in the mirror and still think I'm attractive. I know I'm ugly because I've walked down the streets and had people yell out at my about how ugly I am. The only time girls would ever approach me is when they were no better than a 2. I just want to know why I can't see myself like everyone else does.
>>17111662
>I'm ugly.
Post a selfie and let the glorious 4chan to decide.
>why I can't see myself like everyone else does.
How do you know how everybody else is feeling about themselves?
>>17111670
>Post a selfie and let the glorious 4chan to decide.
but I'm not looking for conformation
>How do you know how everybody else is feeling about themselves?
I don't, but I know how they feel about me.
>>17111674
>but I'm not looking for conformation
So, what exactly do you want to know anon?
he /adv/
i finally feel fucking stable for once. all day every day i have been eating avocados, salads, bell peppers, sweet potatoes, drinkig lots of green tea, having dark chocolate here and there as well as takinng care of my skin. i also take collagen supplementa.
i finally feel like i am reapecting myself and i love and honor my physical body. thank you Lord for helping me overcome this huge struggle. When I felt the most weak, I eat the healthiest foods that were within my reach to pick myself back up and regain strength.
this whole ordeal happened after a pathetic fuckboy rejected me. but as a stronger woman i can confidently say i dont give two fucks about that loser. i have myself, my healthy beautiful body with beautiful skin. i lost 5 pounds, i look radiant and glowing. guys at school are noticing me and i feel like a beautiful woman. i am so glad that the nasty fuck boy is out of my life. i feel purified after respecting my body this much, and purifying my mind from nasty thoughts. i will continue to do this as long as i can and NEVER seek the approval of some random fuckboy. i approve of myself and hold myself in high regard. i will never let some nasty guy put his filthy hands on me ever fucking again.
i have been standing up and picked myself up after being kicked to the ground. i feel proud as ever. i attribute this to eating healthy and de stressing/not giving a fuck about things that dont matter. ie purifying my mind.
bump sorry for typos i posted this usng my phone
Why the fuck are you bumping this? You aren't asking for advice.
If you really didn't care, you wouldn't type like that.
If I were you, just don't date. Focus on yourself and your career.
![male-and-female-relationship-sign[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/CbX2hv7.jpg "male-and-female-relationship-sign[1]")
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
>>17111126
i thought we already had a thread
or is 300 replies the limit in /adv/ ?
>>17111137
310.
Either gender:
Is it OK if one of a person's Tinder pics is their Facebook profile pic?
So I saw my gf lock herself in the bathroom to use her vibrator, I told her not to do, it makes me feel less of a man hearing her make sounds with a vibrator she never makes with me, and she this is what she told me
"Fuck off anon you know I never even get even close to orgasm with you if you don't let me have my pleasure you don't love me and I don't want to be with you if you're going to be like that"
I feel really hurt and offended at this. It's true that she's never had an orgasm with me but she is capable to, I heard the sounds she makes when she's alone with her vibrator, if she really wanted she could make those sounds with me also. It makes feel like a cuck knowing that she puts that machine of hers higher than me just because it gives her orgasms and I don't. How do I get my gf to be sweet and nice and not such a cunt?
Pros: At least she is not going to someone else for that orgasm
Cons: She is and insensitive cunt. Rub one out when she is around so she can see how it's like.
You've been cucked by a vibrator!
You're dumb for feeling jealous of a piece of plastic. I bought my girlfriend a vibrator and we use it in bed as a part of sex. Fucking her in the ass while the vibrator is embedded in her pussy feels great for both of us.
It sounds like you two have some communicating to do.
(18/m) I just realized today that I wasted an entire year of my life masturbating, playing video games, and watching tv. I don't have friends so I don't go outside often. I quit my job without another lined up and stopped going to class because I'm lazy. I have no idea what I want to do with my life and my parents say to finish college or I won't get a good job.
I recently got a gym membership so I have that going for me... Any advice for a NEET? Also how the fuck do you make friends out of high school/college?
>>17110533
>wasted an entire year of my life masturbating, playing video games, and watching tv
As opposed to what, wasting 40 working for someone else while the government steals half of the fruits of your labor?
Spoiler alert:
[spoiler]Everything is a waste of time. The only difference between one thing and another is whether or not you enjoy doing it.[/spoiler]
Go do something creative like art class or something, you'll make friends there
you stopped going to class?
this is a very serious concern and you need to talk to your parents about it as they're wasting thousands of dollars every month on your schooling.
Much of the /adv/ population is in college, so I thought this might be a good idea.
I'm a University professor and researcher. I'm a doctoral candidate and I have been teaching college courses for 3 years. Any questions about college life, careers, or the like: ask your professor here.
>>17110310
Which uni? What is your PhD on?
>>17110310
Faggot?
>>17110310
what should i do if i forgot to pay tuition
