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How easy would be to get and meet women who will agree on having a baby with me.
By that I mean simply having a baby without any real relationships, more like renting her eggs and womb.
Of course I don't mean something as dry as buying an object.
I want to take care of the children and care about it's education.
I'll explain the situation.
I'm a high IQ person (130) and I think I can get into mensa and be a mensa member, but I'm lazy as fuck.
One of my life dreams is to have as many children as ancient warriors had,...
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You sound retarded as shit and not fit to be a parent in the slightest.
No offense
>>17112659
It would be impossible because they would all run from you
Maybe use your genius powers to cross breed with goats and raise a herd of goatmen
>>17112662
>>17112664
It's not retardation.
more like a silly dream.
there's been cases of illegal semen donators who had more than 80 kids.
I can give you plenty of logical arguments as to why isn't a retarded idea.
Hi /adv/,
I'm looking for job selection advice. I'm torn between 3 different places.
The first is my job at school, boring IT work that pays $13 an hour, with around an hour commute each way.
The second is an internship at a tiny (6 people) startup doing software development that pays $15/hr, with a 45 minute commute each way. I'm worried that this one will expect me to work unpaid overtime.
The third is an internship at a fairly large multinational insurance company, doing some combination of IT and software development, that pays...
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you make the school one sound the most shit, not only is it an hour away, but it's boring and the pay is the lowest on the pay scale you can go. As far as working overtime, I wouldn't stress about that. You're an intern they probably won't even need you to work a full day.
>>17112596
>I wouldn't stress about that
The only reason I do is that the person I interviewed with said that if I wanted, I could leave early and work from home. Which to me sounds like they might expect me to finish working 8 hours, then go home and work more.
>>17112615
Working from home is a mixed bag. I work from home as a Software Developer, I also help support the software I publish.
You'll NEVER not be off of work, you'll always have a knee-jerk reaction to check emails and deal with every situation as it arises. It's nice to really make your work space as comfortable as you want it and be at home, but understand, it's hard to 'get off of work' when it's always 20 feet away from you.
how can i die quickly and painlessly? despite popular belief life's not worth it for an under achiever like me
>>17112489
Well i'm going to have nightmares now
>>17112493
No problem. Any tips?
>>17112503
Live life. Under achievers can still enjoy life, they just have to find their niche. Killing yourself is for the birds, my pal
I'm trying to get my life together.
I'm 20. After barely graduating HS I worked at subway for 3 months then got severely depressed and started going delusional and a lot other shitty things happened.
It's been almost 2 years since that.
I want to go to college and get a decent job, but I have absolutely no clue where to start.
I have aspergers, anxiety ,depression(I haven't had delusions in months)
I'm poor and live with my mom
How do I start getting my life together? How do I start college? What should I study? How do I pay for it?...
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If you couldn't even handle making sandwiches without going into a spiral of panic and depression for two whole years, what makes you think college would be a good idea?
>>17112467
I have to agree with the other guy. Depending on what you can handle i would reccomend different things.
Do you think you are intellegent, hard working, independent enough for a difficult and demanding education?
Answer me because i recently went through pretty much the same and have tried various things and can give probably very good adv
U still here op???
Sup /adv/
So ive been reading about how much cam models make and it got me asking if males do this too? So yeah streamate will let you model if youre a guy so fuck it why not do it? But im not really fit nor do i have a pringle can cock, BUT, i have a weird skin disease that pretty much makes me look like human cottage cheese, will anyone pay money for my freakshow, or is there a cam service for people that like weird shit like that?
>inb4 OP is fagget
The internet has more than enough penises.
There's no way. You have to be the top 1% dude and you're only gonna get gross gay guys watching your cam.
I might be able to sleep with a girl this Saturday.
Actual sleep, not anything else. Just sleep with a girl in a bed.
Aight, so I'm going with some friends out of town this weekend. Since there aren't many beds and all, everyone pairs so we usually sleep 2 in a bed. We're friends, nothing unusual, I've slept with guys and girls alike, no problem.
Well now this weekend there's this girl, friend of friend kinda situation. Since we're going to split in pairs to sleep, (couples obviously together) there's a high chance I'll...
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Wait, jinx is real???
>>17112395
Initiate cuddling? You do realize that sounds weird? Honestly just be very charming before and show a lot of interest in her / talk to her. You seem like you care too much about what others will think, that way you won't be very successful.
Nobody wants to cuddle someone they barely know, unless well she wants your dick or just focuses on your appearance. Although if you get friendly with her cuddles can become like flirting, if you don't than it will eventually be weird.
When lying next to her touch her with a finger and retreat instantly like you did it by accident (don't go so far that it looks like you are repulsed by the thought of touching her though).
Gauge her reactions carefully and if she reacts positively do it again whenever feels acceptable. Then start caressing her slowly.
I know this sounds autistic as fuck but it usually worked for me.
I want to be a detective, the only problem is I'm bipolar and because of this I can't join the police force.
I don't want to be a detective because of TV shows, it just fits my natural talents. I'm highly intuitive and good at picking up small details and making educated guesses.
I was thinking of studying psychology at university to get into the field of Forensic Psychology. Clinical psychology would be the last thing I'd want to do, I want something more hands on, even if it's just researching criminal though processes at a university....
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Are you sure your condition bars you from joining the police? Is it not controlled by medication?
>>17112401
Well I'm not sure I know I definitely can't join the military, a history of even being treated with medication for a mental illness bars you. I've been to psych wards numerous times, I'm type 1 bipolar and I go off the deep end when I go manic. I'm balanced currently and on meds, the problem is I feel like I'd be a liability and also I have an active firearm hold on me. I really want to be a detective but I wouldn't mind working behind the scene like profiling people and inspecting...
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>>17112429
What's a psych ward really like?
I'm kind of socially retarded when it comes to romance and I need some help.
Basically this guy and I have been hanging out. We make sexual jokes and we've basically cuddled without going further cause I'm too reserved to really return his touches. Most people would probably think it's pretty clear he's into me but I don't want to assume and also I don't want to have a FWB kind of deal.
I'm really afraid he'll think I'm friendzoning him but I'm actually super interested.
He has also implied I'm intimidatingly...
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Follow up question, does it kind of take away from a girl's cuteness if she's assertive in that way? I mean is it unattractive when the female takes away the role of the guy?
Yes
No
>>17112340
I think you should come out with how you feel, and he will almost guaranteed not reject (but can't say with 100% certainty)
It depends on the guy if he actually cares about an assertive girl. I don't, and I don't see why men would care but some do. If he likes you he'll be happy either way.
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How do I stop feeling so guilty about having interests?
So I have depression and generalized anxiety. Been getting treatment, so things are okay. For as long as I can remember I've felt guilty about being interested in anything. Like if I'm not spending all my time doing responsible things then I'm just a worthless piece of trash.
It doesn't help that I have a brother, who harasses me about everything from my interest in art down the the music I listen to. Don't think of it as endearing either. He's...
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You feel guilt because of that psychopathic manchild? Cut that shit out, he's not worth the brain problems.
>>17112339
I know! That's the ridiculous thing. He's just a self-absorbed protein sipping stoner. Yet I still end up taking his insecure projections to heart. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I grew up with it? If he was just some random douche bag I'll never have to speak to again, it would be different, I'm sure.
>>17112367
So when you start to feel guilty, say 'I'm not going to let that dickbag that everyone knows is a loser dictate how I live my life', and then stop feeling guilty.
TL;DR - Girl likes me, I like her, she suddenly cuts things short, I think she wants this but she's just scared.
Ok here we go -
A girl I liked approached me to tell me she liked me back. She didn't feel comfortable talking to me though and wanted to only text. When I was around her in person it was like she was physically running away from me all the time - like she couldn't face me. When we were in public, she would act like nothing was going on, but then she'd text me with really deep stuff.
She basically said we were "going out" or in some kind of relationship in one of those texts. Unfortunately, we had to leave our college and go home for the weekend, then her texts got sparse, and when I saw her again on Monday she was fine around me but still refusing to actually spend time with me one on one or avoiding it. I asked her best friend if I was doing anything wrong, she said she was having regrets about having told me, that she wasn't sure if she liked me after all. That didn't quite ring true though because she was indicating that I wasn't taking things far enough and she clearly wanted to be more intimate, even though I was trying to take things one step at a time so she didn't get overwhelmed.
I just wanted 5 minutes to talk to her, but I asked her on a date, she said she was busy. I told her I could take things as fast or as slow as she wanted but she told me then we should just stay friends and refused to see me, shutting herself in her room and not talking to me, even though I just wanted 5 minutes for the sake of closure.
I wrote her a letter telling her I understood what this thing "was/could have been" is dead, and although we would have practical problems the real issue was probably that I didn't have it in me to be the kind of guy she wanted and she probably didn't like me as much as I liked her.
>TBC-
>>17112267
She looked terrible when I saw her around the dorm and I didn't speak to her. I texted her friend on the train home to ask how she was, but I get a text back from the girl -
Telling me:
"Look I'm sorry it all happened this way but nothing ever actually happened it was better to get out before anything did, nothing lost"
When I asked if by "nothing lost" she meant she was worried if we had something and it didn't work out after college ends she said:
"No...
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>>17112271
People are going to tell me to move on, that's exactly what I'm doing, but this girl... I fully expect her to get back to me at some point. Even that last text. She did this before - I asked her out in February, she took a day to think about it and told me she wanted to stay friends but then said "you never know where the future will take you anyway."
I think she does want this, deep down, but someone has hurt her and she's afraid of intimacy and letting her guard down. I don't think she's not attracted to me anymore, she's just scared of us actually moving into reality and doing bf/gf type things. I think she has attachment problems of some kind, ambivalent attachment or whatever they call it, she probably got hurt young - she told me about her "scars" once.
She does this push/pull thing with things she really wants but doesn't feel confident with. She drops out of things a lot and I think she has low self esteem.
I'm going to play this like the horse whisperer in that movie, where a horse that got traumatised in an accident has to get broken in but it keeps bolting from the stable out of fear of the saddle because of memories. The main character just waits with the harness for the horse to come to him.
If she's scared of this, I can't reach out to her because I'll overcrowd her, I'm just going to be her friend no matter what and end things on a good note. In my letter I told her it meant a lot that she still wanted to be my friend after what happened before. I am also prepared for her approaching me again like she did before. If she doesn't, I guess I won't have to worry anymore.
Am I on the right track here?
Bitch...be...CRAZYYYYYYY HOLY SHIT FUCK THAT CONFUSEDBRAINED LIL HOE
We met a month ago in a bar and seemed to get on well, she proposed we swapped numbers. I've had some stuff going on up until now but would now like to go for a drink with her. Have I left it too long?
>>17112257
Take a swing worst case rejected by a random best case score.
>>17112260
I mean, I'm sure I will text, like you say, nothing to loose. Just wondering how I'll come across, randomly getting into contact a month later.
>>17112326
Just let her know you ended up really busy but enjoyed meeting her. Ask her how things are going
How do I stop getting borderline obsessed with people I'm interested in?
Every time I get close to a guy or start dating I get really into it and start feeling super close to them. Like I think about them all day every day and want to see them all the time. I have a life, things to do and my own friends but they're still always at the back of my head.
Also I've recently gotten close to someone new and our sexual tension is insane but we haven't really talked about it yet or brought it out in the open in that sense. Now I feel so anxious and I...
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Uhh will you be my crazy gf?
>>17112238
Do I really sound so crazy? ;_;
I'd like to think I'm just sincere. It's not that I'm actually obsessed but they are always on my mind and I miss them.
>>17112246
I was just exaggerating ;_; you sound so sweet you see
First of all, i must say my english isn't so good, but i'll do my best to explain whats going on with my life.
I'm a computer science student, my parents pay for it, and i also study in another city, so they have to spent even more money. This semester i've picked up about 9 classes, a number slightly above the average here. The problem is i have no self-control at all...
I'm already disapproved in 6 out of 9 just because my absence. On these 3 i'm still doing i'm on the limit of attendance, and my grades aren't doing that...
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You need to stop drinking, it's fucking you up. Drinking worsens depression, making you miss classes, which in turn makes you more depressed. It's a viscous cycle. You have to save what you can of this semester or you'll truly be fucked
I feel for you, I have finals monday and I'm really not prepared. I think the more important thing is to ask yourself why you're avoiding things? Clearly drinking and gaming is an escapism tactic. If it's too much pressure, then think of it in another way (this is what i did, it's hard to explain). Instead of thinking of the people you may or may not let down, think of yourself- what kind of person you want to be etc. but if it helps, at the end of the day they're paying because they want you to do something you enjoy- so i'm sure they wouldn't...
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>>17112193
>Drinking worsens depression, making you miss classes, which in turn makes you more depressed
its exactly whats happening
>You have to save what you can of this semester or you'll truly be fucked
I'll try really hard to do it, anon.
>>17112224
> I think the more important thing is to ask yourself why you're avoiding things?
Every class...
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Background:
I am a guy
During school I had long hair (a little longer than shoulder-length) for several years.
On university I had it very short then long again. When I had it very short, I kind of liked but I had the feeling it didn't really fit my style: I was fat and where I come from, that kind of hairstyle is more of a fit guy hairstyle. (bullshit, now I know...)
Once I finished university, I kept it kind of medium length, at earlobe level, more or less. I never felt I looked GOOD, it just felt comfortable because that is what I was used to: a compromise between long hair and "adult lifestyle". Such a bullshit.
Fast foward several years, I worked out, lost weight and let my beard grow.
Last year I tried it very very short, I liked quite a bit, I felt good though I would say that it doesn't look handsome, it just looks cool (I feel badass with that hair).
Pic related, that is how I looked like but shorter beard. GF liked it.
Now, note the key moment: I had already tried this hairstyle, I had already liked, I just didn't keep it because I was a pussy controlled by stereotypes.
During the winter I let it grow back and, following GFs requests, I have been letting it grow. I mentioned to her a few times that I liked when my hair was very long and that someday I would let it grow again. I also mentioned that I like the "manbun" hairstyle. I just don't have it because people don't take guys with manbuns very seriously (you see the pattern?)
Now it is back at the former ear-length (GF likes it very much, says I look like some italian model, she overestimates my looks too much...) and I feel confused....
cont...
In one hand, summer is coming and the very short hairstyle is easy to maintain and I feel good and more confident about it. I think about cutting it short at least once a week then I complain to the GF and she talks me out of doing it.
In the other hand, I feel like I am making the same mistake that I made when I didn't have it short years ago: feeling uncomfortable because if stereotypes instead of sticking to what I WANT to do.
On top of that, I live in a country where guys with long hair are very very uncommon (and frowned upon), which might be related to why the GF wants it...
Bump...
Come on, let's make this a general hairstyle advice topic!
Bruh
How do I make silence not so awkward?
Although I am pretty good at talking and me and my gf talk a lot, I am afraid of when silence comes
What should I do concerning this?
Silence is only awkward if you let it be. When you're in a relationship with someone that you're comfortable with, it's okay not to talk sometimes.
>>17112077
It is awkward because I am afraid they find it awkward
I know it goes both ways
But how do I tackle this
>>17112081
Ask her if it's awkward
