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Is it possible? I wish I wasn't a faggot
>>17117880
U can by straight pills on ebay
>>17117880
Stop sucking dicks?!
>>17117880
yeah, nah, you're fucked.
So, I don't really know how to make this short. Posted here already so you might see some similarities but recently there's been something just kinda weird.
Few years ago, after being a disgusting NEET I decided to make a little effort and went back to school. Things went much better than expected. Met quite a few people, made some friends. At some point there was this new girl in class, she was kinda shy, not too popular. She didn't like my friends by that time. After a while these "friends" just quit and I was left alone at class, this girl...
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Then something unfortunate happened: one of my former teachers died. It was a rough day, I went to his funeral. She was there as well for a really short time, we didn't talk much to each other. Apparently I was looking gloomy enough and some people took notice. Going back home I thought that she really didn't give much of a shit so I just gave it up like I wouldn't bother talking to her much anymore.
As soon as I get home, I'm still thinking about this whole thing, I'm pretty unstable. And she decides to text me. She tells me "hey dude, you looked pretty sad today, cheer up" "if you need someone to talk to, just bring it here, I'm your friend after all". And what do I do? I tell her about all of my current problems. I unload a shitton of bricks on her without even thinking. She seemed to handle it ok. After ignoring her, after treating her the way I did I just whined like a bitch about my personal problems. We don't know each other enough and I told her more than my family and friends basically.
And now I'm sitting here thinking, have I screwed up badly? She is more of a stranger to me than many people, yet she gladly offered to listen to me and my troubles. Instead of being thankful enough I just decide to dump it all on her. I ignored her, I didn't help when she was in trouble at school and I barely know a thing about her because even though she does look troubled at times she doesn't seem to bother anyone about it. I feel truly like a piece of shit. I know this question is going to sound weird, but what can I do for her at this point? How do I explain something like the amount of time I spent giving her the cold shoulder?
Didn't do anything wrong. With circumstances as they were throughout you two knowing eachother, I'd say things are neutral at worst, looking on decent. Don't be so hard on yourself
>>17117943
It's just that when I look back at that time I focused my attention on other people without realizing that she would most definitely benefit from me being there for her. I tossed her aside and if the roles were switched I don't know if I could handle it the same way as she does.
So where we stand right now, though we don't talk to each other a lot, I told her that I'd be there for her as well. These things, her trying to contact me and just out of the blue being the only person in that...
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Help
>>17117834
Looks like toe nail fungus at a glance, OP! You can get something over the counter for that or see a podiatrist if you really are concerned...
>>17117834
Trim it, file it, buff it, repeat. Guaranteed success, nigger get your shit together its like posting edited internet porn
>you can do it~
>>17118222
Not even necessary. Regular doc will do.
>>17117834
There are pills that your doc can give you. Took them for about half a year until it was back to normal.
>>17118320
Don't do this, I started bleeding from my nails when I cut too deep.
So I thought about posting this to r9k but maybe i'll get better answers here.
Ive always been out of touch with everyone else in my life and I recently found out I may have an avoidant personality disorder. I constantly feel like people are talking about me behind my back and every person I meet is judging me harshly. I feel like such a detriment to everyone im around all the time, even my friends and family. I have had plenty of chances to get into a relationship but I always move away from it because I feel like it wont be meaningful or the other person is trying...
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You sound like you have a similar personality to me. I have learnt to overcome most of it but sometimes that feeling comes back.
How old are you and what kind of past life moments can you link to feeling this way now?
>>17117831
Not OP, but I'm in similar situation. How did you learn to overcome it?
>>17117849
>>17117811
Avie sure sucks. It really does.
How to beat it? You have to take the plunge and embrace criticism, negativity, disappointment, and discomfort. Grab yourself by the balls and go do whatever you are uneasy about doing! Manifest your thoughts into actions, or else stay emotionally comatose because you can't challenge your patterning.
Step it up!!
how do I balance my relationship with my employer?
I work as a waiter, and it's getting unreasonable
I'm getting the worst shifts time after time, when there are other people who are perfectly able to do them
I don't want to look like I'm unwilling to work, but it's unfair
>have a double today, and the mothers day lunch shift tomorrow
>my boss swaps my dinner shift today, for the dinner shift tomorrow with no notice
>tells me to have the night...
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also the boss takes half our tips at the end of each day; and the kitchen doesn't get any at all
(we make a living wage in australia, so the tips are really an extra, but it's extraordinarily dishonest and by no means the norm)
Keep working there until you find another job. Can you pass a drug test? Great go work for a bank as a teller. Drivers license? Go do deliveries. Either that or work in a warehouse. Also go to college. All starter jobs are shit.
>>17117998
I just inb4'd that man
you can't just quit a unfair job in the real world, regardless of what google of your dad tells you
unemployment is high, the unions are bloated and useless, labor law is clear but it's not enforced, and I rely on the income
there simply are no jobs, I'm lucky to have one to begin with
I have a friend who is a blast to hang out with he is unreal smart and tells great stories and funny jokes but literally everything he says is a lie he just can't help himself.
I care about this person he always makes my day better and often offers deeply insightful comments but when it comes to anything about himself I've known him long enough he always makes something up on the spot and he seems to have next to no empthay for other people
Is there anything I can do for him?
I feel like I know this guy
>>17117734
What are his initials?
Also, if you really want to help him, call him out on his shit. You said he was pretty smart and often gives insight, so just be honest with him.
This person was me. I never accepted myself for who I am. I never accepted the fact that what I am is OK. I also never realized that people knew I was lying so I kept going. It wasn't until I reflected on it one day that I realized something was wrong with me. I didn't lie to hurt anyone. I only lied about little shit to make me seem more eventful and cool because I wanted attention and approval. Call him out on it or understand that his intentions arent malicious and take everything he says with a grain of salt.
just got kicked out of my family home. What do i do? Have no friends that would take me in
Other family? If you live in my town you can stay temporarily
>>17117669
Nah i have no contact with them over a huge fight a few years ago
>>17117672
So you got kicked out of your home and had fights with extender family...why?
Looks like you might have to try a shelter
What's wrong with my eye?
Nothing. That "red thing" you see is the remnant of the third eyelid humans used to have. It's inflamed a little, take antihistamines and some rest.
>>17117654
>third eyelid
What!?
>>17117678
nicitating membrane.
Hey people i need help. Recently I noticed my orgasms were getting less pleasurable. I would still ejacualte normally but it felt not as good. Now it is to the point where when I climax all sensation goes away. I have some pleasure right before then it leaves. What causes this? I really need help because i have a very apathetic mindset where if theres nothing to keep me here I would just kill myself, not like depression but I need help with this.
>>17117611
Stop. Masturbating. Stop porn.
If you don't have a girlfriend to have sex with. Masturbate once a week. Watch porn only when masturbating. Stop choking your boner to death while masturbating.
I'm not kidding. Humans are not designed to have sex or be exposed to sexual acts more then this. Your sex addiction is messing with your body the same as every other drug.
>>17117618
I dont actually donit that often. I know guys who pass me up by alot so I dont understand it.
>>17117611
>I really need help because i have a very apathetic mindset where if theres nothing to keep me here
Also get a life. There are more nice things in this world then you may think.
[part 1] sup /adv/, I come to you in a time of need. my gf[21] and I [21] have been seeing each other for the past 5 months. prior to dating her I had only kissed one girl before.
she comes from a super Christian family so when we initially started dating I thought she might have still been a virgin, as all of her friends were, and she played the "innocent Christian girl" card but a few weeks into dating she told me she had been with 3 guys before me, all taller than me (I'm 6'1", shes 5'4"), and presumably bigger dicks.
it wasn't...
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[part 2] up until recently, she had instagated sex all the time, because I didn't want her thinking I'm only interested in her for that, so I thought she might have just been upset that I didn't try to Instigate it. So after a week of not doing it, I tried making a subtle move, nothing. few days later, made more of an attempt, still nothing. today I spent 14 hours with her hiking, horseback riding, laser tag, bought her lunch and made her dinner, and the whole day I was just being a little frisky and playful, then after dinner I really tried making a move and...
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I'm just really pissed off now because I feel like she lied to me with the whole innocent Christian girl bullshit, I feel like she either lied to me about liking sex, or I'm just not doing anything for her in bed, which I find hard to believe because nearly everything I've read women like about sex I have. 6.1" long, Girth is well above average, and it has a slight upwards curve and I can last a really long time when I want to. I've also done my research on what girls like and I've literally tried almost everything I can with her from positions...
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TLDR:
>date girl, think I'm dating an innocent girl
>turns out she's a turboslut
>is now somehow not interested in sex despite months of effort and her history.
should I break up or at least try to make things work?
I have a question for you femanons out there:
>How would you feel about a guy who not only opens his feelings towards you? But is just open about that stuff in general?
I've been doing that a bit as this year of college comes to a close. All with surprisingly positive results. It even saved a couple dying friendships I had. As well as one or two of these girls are a lot more affectionate and huggy.
Still trying to make heads-or-tails of this.
It's pretty damn gay, son.
There is nothing wrong with it, there is no inherent homosexuality attached to honestly and openness, unlike >>17117629 alleges.
The question is, how you will mix desire into that openness. If you show total desire to everyone, that just translates as thirst. If you show zero desire to everyone, then people will assume you are not interested in any romantic relationships.
>>17117566
my bf is like this and it makes me feel very comfortable and secure in our relationship. being able to tell each other what's on our minds is key to any close relationship.
My crush told me he liked me. I'm a virgin nerd and hes an experienced cool guy. I'm ready to get some sexual experience before college but I'm still super self-conscious and kinda have a reputation of being shy.
It sounds like he wants to have sex with me. I'm not ready, I haven't even used tampons. But I've always wanted to give a guy a blowjob.
Is it okay if I tell him I only want to do oral?
How would you respond?
*unzips pants*
blow away
>>17117533
so it's okay? How do I introduce it?
Oral is just as great as sex. I am pretty sure he won't mind. I guess just bring it up during the heavy petting or after the heavy petting?
What do I do if my partner gets extremely down without a certain kind of treatment but has said they need to learn to do without it? I can treat them that way with reciprocation, and sometimes without, but only when I am not asked. It touches on an extremely personal issue and while I'm reassured I don't have to do anything, it gets brought up frequently and they're clearly sad without it. They have said they have dreaded doing the same for me. I feel alone taking care of them this way and I'd be content being normal and happy, though it doesn't seem...
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I want to add that it does not make me feel alone when I get it back sometimes or I am doing it on my own will when I feel okay
I'm sorry but you're being incredibly vague and it really makes it difficult to assess your situation
>>17117587
I have mommy issues and she wants me to be her mommy sometimes. This means taking care of her, me being mommy, and treating her like a kid. I have really bad mommy issues. I'd be happy if we could both just be happy together and I'd feel reassured by her and okay as just myself. I like the same thing, I guess, but not unless I could really relax and not worry. I don't get sad without it but I don't have the strength on my own to just be a mommy. I can definitely get into it if things are okay.
>From a non-Anglo country
>Little cousin learns English really quickly
>All my relatives praise her for her language skills
>I learn a language a lingua franca that is not really spoken in my local area quickly
>People tell me that I will never use it and I am just wasting my time learning it
english is the language of commerce and spoken in many different countries, no one fucking cares that you learned to speak japanese you autistic weeb
>>17117546
I didn't learn Japanese, geez. I said I learned a lingua franca and I know that Japanese is only spoken in Japan so it doesn't count, geez.
>>17117550
what language?
How do I become a less toxic person?
>>17117484
Have you tried working the shaft?
Identity toxic behaviors and begin working through them one by one. Ideally, work with a therapist to aid this process.
tox·ic/ˈtäksik/
adjective
poisonous.
denoting or relating to debt that has a high risk of default.
noun
poisonous substances.
Now let's try again and be more specific this time.
