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Advice Lawyer here giving general legal advice.
>I'm a lawyer guys, really!
No lawyer would make the basic mistake of not even posting where they're from, if they'd taken a moment to remember that law isn't the same everywhere at all.
>>17120376
>general legal advice
All K's require consideration, doesn't matter what jurisdiction you are in.
>>17120388
General legal advice ain't worth shit to the person asking for it. People who ask for legal advice want advice on their particular situation, not general principles of law that could be found in any textbook.
I love my girlfriend and that we have been in a relationship for 5+ years.
She will be studying abroad for 1 year for a postgraduate degree. She doesn't really need it to get a job but it would somewhat increase her job market value (which is already very high). Nevertheless I'm kind of annoyed that she's putting me in this situation.
Anyway, clearly she will be in an environment with a lot of young, often single and high sex drive people, where a lot of chances exist for her to fall in love with someone else or to cheat on me (which would be enough for me to end the relationship as well), even if (and I believe this to be true) she doesn't go there with the intention of doing so. And obviously there's the "out of sight, out of mind" factor which means it might not even work out if she comes back.
It seems to me that I have 3 basic options:
> 1 Most moral: wait it out and be faithful
If it all works out perfectly (she doesn't cheat on me and we still click after 1 year apart), this would be great. But the chances for that might be rather small. And I lose: 1 year of female companionship and the pysical aspect that goes with it as well as 1 year of prospecting the market for relationships.
> 2 Less moral, but still justifiable: break off the relationship
(I get what I lose in the first option and I lose the chance of what I would get in a positive outcome for 1).
> 3 Least moral: don't break off the relationship, but search for a new relationship anyway
Now, purely economically, this would be the most beneficial option, since I get the advantages of both option 1 and 2.
I don't think I could do this though, don't have it in me.
Basically I'm doubting between 1 and 2. I would prefer to do 1, but only if there's a reasonable chance that it works out. While I love her, I'm not the type of person to shut down my brain when it comes to love. So what are the chances, your experiences, important factors, etc...?
2. Simply because she can do better than a selfish bastard like you.
>>17120305
/thread
>>17120305
Please tell me how I am being selfish.
I'm not prohibiting her from going.
Why can I not even question the viability of our future together, knowing that LDR's fail so very often?
Alright folks, I asked about this before in an advice thread but I'm still getting my head straight about this issue and it feels good to hear people's opinions.
TL;DR - Girl doesn't know what she wants, acting really immature, not sure what to do if she approaches me again
Alright, so a friend of mine approached me and confessed her feelings for me, but there's an age gap between us - I'm 21, she just turned 18. I was really surprised because I'm a shy, awkward guy and I've got a big crush on her myself. I asked her out months ago and she turned me down.
We kind of "went out" for about a week, but she refused to actually spend time with me or do anything. She was incredibly immature and kept running away from me in public, complaining to her friend that I was awkward and she regretted approaching me, but I barely even had the chance to talk to her - she was only comfortable texting me, and even then she kept showing her friend all of our text messages, which felt horrible. I'm confused about whether it was our relationship or her friend's, or some weird teenage girl drama thing. It felt like she was only comfortable with some fantasy version of me and couldn't be around me in public. In any case, she told me we should just stay friends, and when I asked if it was because she realised she didn't like me/I was awkward, she told me it was because she couldn't do a distance relationship, but when I offered to talk to her about that (it's actually not that big a deal) she shut me down.
>>17120270
She seems very confused and I don't know if I want to be a part of this kind of teenage girl bullshit, I'm way too old. All I wanted was to chill with someone I had stuff in common with and have fun. Thing is, she's changed her mind radically once before, and she has trouble making decisions, and this all happened during a fairly intense time at college re: workload.
My friends have told me to be prepared in case she approaches me again at the end of the course on Thursday, or at the end of year party when emotions run high. We've been friends for months and months. I know I need to tell her it isn't a good idea, but I know I'm going to think with my heart/dick and say yes and get hurt again.
I keep finding myself thinking about giving her the benefit of the doubt, it's a stressful time, she's younger than me, maybe she's just making bad decisions and acting stupid because she's stressed too. I keep thinking that it's the college, it's in a remote area, maybe that kind of thing has an effect, I could tell her we will talk the following week and then I can offer her an adult relationship rather than this soap opera shit, but then I could just walk away.
As angry as I am with her for how she behaved, I still have some kind of residual feelings that won't go away. I'm really hoping none of this comes to pass and she just stays away from me, it would be better for everyone, but despite her weird behaviour in the end, she clearly wanted a relationship with me.
>>17120273
You guys probably think it's unlikely she's going to do anything, that I'm flattering myself, that she clearly isn't interested, but I told her she was special after she rejected me the first time and she admitted it rattled around in her brain for months ever since - "you kinda planted that idea in my head", she said.
Now, I was sad after she friendzoned me and I asked her friend if the girl was feeling alright because she looked terrible when I saw her. I get a text back from the girl instead, apologising but telling me "nothing happened" and there's "nothing to get over", then the bullshit about distance relationships (I never spoke to her about the future distance relationship, only to her friend) - and I'm really sad at this point and tell her about the adventures I wanted to go on with her, and asked if we could still go on them even if we aren't in a relationship (I'm going to be travelling near where she lives over the summer anyway) and I get a text back from her friend at that point saying "She's absolutely fine but wishes you would stop bothering her"
I take the hint, but then an hour later I get a text back saying
>"I don't know we'll see how things go"
After she rejected me the first time, and I told her she was special, she told me "hey ho you never know where the future will take you anyway"
This feels like the same kind of shit.
I'm just bumping one last time, I'm probably going to see her today and if she approaches me to say sorry I'm just going to tell her "Listen R***, shit happens, feelings change, I'll be your friend no mater what" - if she expresses regret, I'll tell her to contact me after college is over and we can talk it through, if she doesn't as I hope she doesn't, I'm off the hook.
I rejected a guy after hanging out with him three times. He thought I wanted a relationship, I just thought he was cool and wanted to be friends. T
He will not stop asking me why I rejected him. He wants me to explain every little reason of why I wasn't attracted to him. It is frustrating, annoying, and I wish he would stop, especially when he couples these questions with flirting and compliments. How do I get him to stop, politely? I'm running out of patience with him.
Block him.
I dont know but I'm on the flip side of your situation right now.
I went out with this girl 3 times. The last time we went out was a month ago.
Only difference is we went out on dates and have had physical contact.
And I actually thought it might be headed to a relationship.
She still talks and cuts up with me, but won't tell me what exactly is going on.
So my suggestion to you is just be honest with him. Even if it hurts.
Because this girl drives me crazy and I wish she would just tell me whats up.
>>17120259
Sorry to hear that, anon!
My problem is that I AM honest, I answer his questions frankly, but he just thinks up more and more details that he wants me to explain. It's a bit exhausting explaining to him the emotional logistics of why I didn't find him good to date.
And he does this super annoying thing of pretending that I was interested in him, when I never was. He bumped into my father when we were hanging out, now he says that seemed planned. Is this normal rejected guy behavior? Because I am getting a bit upset now.
does this mean she wants to fuck me
>>17120194
Jesus Christ, why have you not fucked the shit out of her yet? What's wrong with you?
>>17120194
I wouldn't look so deeply into it. She talking to you as she would talk to one of her girl friends.
Just found out my best friend got a new job. I found out through her snapchat story (the equivalent of a public facebook post)
I'm a little upset that she wouldnt tell me something like that; we just had a two hour long conversation a few days ago and it wasnt even brought up. I'm her best friend, I want to know whatd going on in her life. Should I be upset over her not saying anything or am I getting butthurt over nothing?
Butthurt over nothing.
>>17120117
break up with her
>>17120117
you've been giving her to much freedom OP, put a tracker on her that'l show her whose boss.
My husband mom is creating distance between my husband and I.
I am going to try my best to make this as sweet and short as possible. I am a very caring and considerate person but my husband mom is very controlling and only has her best interest. I use to go out with her sometimes before I saw what she really was like I put up with her but she does things to upset my mom and I on purpose then acts innocent and cries to my husband.
An example I have a very bad anxiety disorder and she was aware of this I am very shy and rarely talk she found out that my husband and I were considering moving further away for job opportunities and she started yelling at me and scolding me in the restaurant I had to get up and leave. She later called my husband lieing crying saying she had no clue why I left her and he would not believe me.
Now this is the 3rd year in a row she has guilted my husband to going to her house for mothers day instead of rotating and my mom getting a year. My mom was really upset so I told my husband that is fair we should go to my mom's next year. My husband told his mom today that we be going to my mom's for mothers day next year and she started crying saying she be all alone and that she is being tested for cancer. Naturally when my husband told me this I could not hold back a sigh and now my husband thinks I have it out for his mom when it is the other way around.
I am getting very tired of all this.
Please help me Anons.
Your husband is a faggot.
>>17120128
That is not nice Anon. Seriously though Anon please help. I am getting more and more frustrated each day.
>>17120116
Here's an idea. You spend mothers day with your mom and he spends it with his. Or have both of your mothers visit at the same time and all spend time together.
Hey guys I need advice. I was visiting my parents for the weekend and when I was reversing out of my parking spot I hit a neighbor's car.
Pic related was the only damage (small puncture on the bottom left) and they're saying repairs are $570 if I don't want to go through insurance.
Should I just get my insurance company involved?
Any help is appreciated.
Well if you go through insurance it will go onto yojr drivers abstract for 7 years. So anytime you go to apply for csr insurance it will come up thay you had an accident and you were at fault, resulting in a higher premuim. In the same respect anytime you want a job that requires a clean record or to drive it will be on your abstract. I work at a taxi xompany and i see this all the time when taking new drivers and dealing with other insurances.
>>17120106
Thanks for the warning. I'm mainly asking to see if it'll be cheaper with insurance. I'm self employed so I don't really care about the job record check.
Does someone who knows about cars/car repairs know if I'm getting boned on the cost estimate? It seems like an awful lot for such a small hole
>>17120114
You are getting screwed. The estimate is probably to replace the entire bumper. They'll probably fix the dent and pocket the remainder. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about that.
Should I stop going to my college art history class for the final 2 weeks if I already have a guaranteed A?
Your professor could resent that and not give you the A (or even a good grade)
In what way is it guaranteed?
How is it guaranteed?
>>17120050
The professor grades by points from tests/one museum project. A = 180-200 points, and I have 184 already.
well /adv/
i just fucked up my entire first year of community college. my GPA is trash. probably a low 2.0 or even high 1.0.
how fucked am i? do i have any chance of becoming an engineer of any sorts or is that a joke considering my grades? if i work hard and redo every class i fucked up in, would i still have a chance?
please help.
Depends on the college. Some will allow you to have them completely removed from your record, meaning you will have to start over. Or they won't, check with the administration to see if you can.
Why'd you fuck up OP?
>>17120048
GPA isn't everything contrary to popular belief. What's more important is your experience and how good you are at socializing/networking. Within reason of course, you'll definitely need to put some more work in on your grade.
But considering it's your first year, I wouldn't worry about it mate. My first year I ended up failing majority of my classes and having to do repeats for all of them. Got my shit together during the summer and scored pretty well in year 2, ended up bagging an IBM internship during year 2's summer[not due to grades but due to me going all out with networking].
>>17120048
I just transferred from a community college to UCLA. If you have F's you can simply petition to retake the class and count the higher grade on your transcript. If you got C's your absolutely fucked. That's gonna hurt your GPA forever and will have to work harder to fix. The reason is that a C is considered passing, so you can't petition to remove it & it just shows that you understood the material and were a lazy fuck.
Next time shit gets bad, withdrawal from the course ( don't make it a habit) but keep up that GPA. It's the most important and determining item when it comes to transferring.
>>17120067
>GPA isn't everything contrary to popular belief
Yes it is. He's at a community college. GPA is the most important thing when it comes to transferring to a decent uni.
Yesterday I came seeking help on this insane guy from an obscure chan who cut himself on cam. Now he's looking for a gun to shoot someone.
the video: http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=09e_1462323576
archived thread: 17116833
can someone call the waterloo police now? i'd do it but i'm too much of a sperg.
>>17120033
archived thread: >>17116833
i'd post a link to the chan but the spam filter won't let me.
>>17120033
>waterloo police
waterloo police if he's in england he can get a gun OP,
Is it possible to be with black woman in Africa?(I'm white)
Are they more loyal than other races in general?
Can you post some charts about woman and races for exaple: loyalty etc? Don't answer if you want to say "every person can be something something"
If you like win95 most you are good
well according to highly rigorous and peer reviewed research from okcupid, black woman/white man relationships are the strongest and happiest
are you in college? go on a study abroad to africa and get a wife that way. US citizenship is way attractive to most people outside of north america.
>>17120066
I'm from Eu + I want to live in Africa someday
Black girl here. Definitely more loyal, less fussy, respectful, affectionate, nerdy, fun,upbeat. I play tabletop and video games with my white boyfriend.
We are very happy and almost never ever fight. Both of our parents have been married to their SO 30+ Years, we will be married soon.
Go for it! The statistics are correct!
Do I lack empathy or are people just too sensitive?
I understand the way someone can feel, but I have a hard time connecting with people on an emotional level and when I say I'm sorry or try to offer kind words, I'm doing it out of respect desu, so it isn't like I actually care/feel about what anyone is going through. Isn't that most of you do anyway? Be honest, does someone else's problems actually matter to you and is it easy to empathize?
Because I don't get it. It makes more sense to think that people are just selfish and fake and will make someone else feel important when it really doesn't matter to them since that's what I've always done when it was necessary
Other people are always wrong.
>>17120024
A little bit of column A and a little bit of column B
>Do I lack empathy or are people just too sensitive?
Being empathetic means understanding people that aren't like you. Even if someone is oversensitive you should be able to empathize with them.
So the girl I like just asked me over the phone who do I like? Should I tell her?
>>17119998
sure why not
Do it. She might be interested too. Why else would she ask?
Are you in 3rd grade?
Don't tell her you like her, and don't tell her you like someone else.
I hate that I'm not as charismatic as I'd like to be
I can articulate what ideas I want to say much better in writing than I can through speech, but in general I'm introverted and not particularly expressive, verbally. Or at least in the way I'd like.
Any suggestions or words of wisdom?
The more you try to force it, the less charismatic you are. Be okay with your nature and don't try to change it too much except for actual virtue.
You don't have to talk a lot. In fact, people often think quieter people are the wisest given they don't say enough to fuck up.
Think about this and just be comfortable as yourself in public
take a speech class.
>>17119961
>introverted
Yeah more like you're a socially retarded fucking bitch amirite
