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I masturbated too violently so my shaft got chafed. I want to shoot but scabs have formed on the sore so I'm ignoring the urges.
My question is the following: how do I speed up or further the healing process?
I've googled but I can't seem to find any good answers, other than that I should avoid getting the area too wet so the scab doesn't fall apart and I get too big sars.
>>17119928
Maybe you should use this rare opportunity to not fap for a week and next time be more gentle.
You will most likely just make it worse if you try to apply any kind of balsam or cream for skin.
go to the doctor
Alright, I need some help here. Long post inc. .
I'm 18 years of age and am about to finish school at the end of this month. And this is where my problem begins, I don't know what I should do after that. I have close to no interests, I like playing vidya games and listening to music and just having a good time. I grew up bilingual and visited a grammar school, so I suppose I'd like to do something with languages but then again I have no idea if I should start studying right away or if I should go out and explore the world, I have nothing that would hold...
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That wasn't a long post. Unless, like your picture and last sentence, your post was cut off and there was more to add
appreciated*
>>17119923
I thought I had more to say, but I suppose that was all
The day I bought a ps4 was the day I went from excitement to pity and disgust.
Months later now, my brother is glued to the couch, anytime he is asked to get off of it he turns into an absolute asshole. He needs his online friends to verify his existence and dictate his actions. The only thing that ever comes out of his fucking mouth is asking and begging for more over priced subscription. He feels not having games is reason enough to belittle his siblings.
Grounding him is never enough and by now he's the textbook definition of a sociopath. The only thing...
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What is it I need to do to unfuck this situation I am in
>>17119880
Lock that shit up
>>17119880
This is my advice. A PS4 is not a life upgrade.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLalvNDcHIs
How do I stop resenting my dad?
This is a man that hit me once, called me a useless piece of shit, and always emotionally kicked me when I was down in my teen years and early 20s. When times were hard, and I was forced to move back in with my parents, he always made me fucking miserable, knowing I was clinically depressed. I've never hated anymore more in my life than my dad, awful to say. For the last several years we've made amends, and I can actually enjoy my time with him, as long as it's in a small time frame of a couple days or something. But even...
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Therapy is probably the best option. Forgiveness and letting go are extremely difficult things to do especially when you want to continue being around the person. I spent 5 years with someone who verbally abused me constantly and went to therapy for a year and a half. Things have improved a lot but I still get angry and resentful at times even though I haven't seen them for over 2 years.
You could also try talking to him about the things he did. Maybe his past contributed to his actions and you would feel better knowing the reasons why those things happened. Has...
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>>17119877
It's difficult to talk to him about the past. He gets angry extremely easily, and when he does there is absolutely no reasoning with him. I kind of prefer not to bring it up, because we seem to get along now, he doesn't treat me as he used to. He apologized, but it was so often it felt like a currency he paid so he could treat me like shit beforehand. I don't know why, he never treated my older brother and sister like that. I don't know why he didn't like me.
>>17119883
The fact that you were singled out does make it a lot more difficult. I can understand why you wouldn't want to talk to him about it.
I think that forcing yourself to go on fishing trips with him is a bit self-destructive. If you dread these meetings, you are probably just building more resentment.
You may just need to figure out what offers you relief with your feelings in this. For me, it was venting about my ex, telling fucked up stories, over and over and over. It made me feel better because...
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I took about 3 grams of dried cubensis mushrooms about four hours ago. Would it be responsible and ok to go behind a wheel soon? Feeling quite fine.
if you feel fine you feel fine. thats really it. there isnt really a 'hangover' for shrooms or anything
>>17119846
Maybe.
It all depends on the circumstances. Sometimes a trip feels like its fading only to come back with a vengeance, so i don't really recommend it. Usually you clear your schedule for this sort of thing.
Fucking cow-poster
Poor fag here. Anon which major would be the most appropriate to get a banking job after finishing it. I was leaning towards a computer science major please help
finance or accounting
You could get your Ph.D in physics and become a quant and join the two comma club pretty easily.
>>17119798
Holy shit baking jobs suck dont do this there is a 100% chance you're not going to end up on wall street
Ive always been straight, and Ive always had straight friends (The type that call each others pussies and fags jokingly).
I fell in love with a trans, female to male (No surgery, still acts rather feminine). Im not attracted to any other guy besides him, and I dont know if I should consider myself gay, and I dont know how to admit this to my friends and family. Should I just come out and get rid of all the people that dont support me? Or should get away from him because Ill never really love him for HIM. Im torn /adv/.
Thanks in advance to anybody who posts
You want to get rid of all your established friends because they may freak out about you liking a trans person? A person you might, as you get to know them better, not end up liking at all?
That's a life gamble, OP.
>Or should get away from him because Ill never really love him for HIM?
I think you already know the answer.
If you don't love the person for who they are, just startstart walking and stop wasting each other's time.
>>17119787
Well if she was a female before you're still straight, biologically.
An acquaintance of mine seems to be losing their mind. They claim that people are using psychic power to try to make them explode; and that their skull is changing shape.
They seem to be a paranoid schizophrenic. Apparantly someone told them that "there is another person inside her" and that freaked her out even more. Out of sympathy, I want to convince them to get help. How do I do this without causing them to have an episode (and trying to murder me)? I have no way of contacting their family.
Tell them that talking to a psychiatrist and taking medication will help prevent their skull from exploding.
Females are something like 65% less likely to commit violent acts than men. And that's females 18-25. Females 25-32 it's even lower, and 32-45 lower than that.
Get your friend help but your chances of being murdered by her are WAY less than the chances of YOU murdering her, especially if you're a male 18-25.
>>17119773
"Hey, so you know how your head is exploding? Well I know a great guy for that!..."
Is therapy the only way to beat depression?
Therapy is just something that can potentially help. There are many ways to approach depression. Therapy is a vague word that covers many things. If you mean speaking with a therapist then it is not necessarily the answer and it will not necessarily work.
No.
You can beat it at chess.
You can beat it in a vidya.
You can corner it outside the bar it goes to every friday to sunday nights.
>>17119743
therapy in what form?
> talking to some one
> working out
> doing something
I think my great-grandfather is going to die tonight. How do I fake sympathy?
(picture unrelated)
>>17119742
if you guys weren't particularly close, i think it'll be ok to just appear glum to fit in the funeral's atmosphere. maybe tell closer family members generic stuff like "he's in a better place now" if they ask for your emotional support or something.
just be polite. no one is expecting you to trip over your shoes, bawling your eyes out for someone you didn't know too well.
You need to fake going to the bathroom and vigorously cut onions. I guarantee that it works.
>>17119754
Alright, thanks.
How do I fix this?
You can't. The anchors are already destroyed. Best solution is probably just to spray it with penetrating oil and see if you can't loosen it with pliers, or just chop it off.
Better take another look at yourself. If you want to fix things, then you have a problem. First it's a tiny metal piece, then a person, them a marriage, how further are you going to take this?
>>17119713
If one hinge only worked could it still hold up the screen?
Hey anons, everyone is saying the same thing about this situation. If you agree that my landlord is lying it helps me a lot.
I rested my foot on the bathtub wall and it caved in easily. I shouldve told him but if I did we still would have refused to pay it and he would have ended the rent. When he found out he wanted me to give him 300 dollars to repair the damage the hole did. I think hes lying because its impossible that the crack would make all that water drip down in a 3 weeks time. Do you agree with me that he is lied to try to cover the costs? Oh and those buckets...
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>>17119631
I don't get what you want advice on, you gave us your side of the story, you admitted you fucked up
>I rested my foot on the bathtub wall and it caved in easily. I shouldve told him but if I did we still would have refused to pay it and he would have ended the rent. When he found out he wanted me to give him 300 dollars to repair the damage the hole did.
You broke something, you didn't tell him, the damage carried on and affected other areas of the property.
If...
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>>17119631
I agree it's incredibly unlikely that crack is where the water came from that made that kind of water damage.
Has he already fixed it?
If not, test it yourself. That crack could only even collect water from a running shower, but then it would only get misted.
That looks like a hole from a continuous drip, is water dripping when the tub isn't even running? If so, it's the pipes.
Run the tub and see if any water drips down.
There should also be an access panel behind...
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How is one more mature for ones age?
I lost this incredibly attractive and sensuous girl because I was too immature for her.
I don't want this to happen again: what exactly does maturity (in a relationship) entail?
>no bitter misogynists please
>>17119578
to clarify: she was 5 years older than me
>>17119578
pls respond
>>17119578
I dunno man.
Just replied to give the thread a bump.
Hi /adv/, this is my first time on this board. This is probably going to sound equally confusing and complex as it feels, but I'm just going to blurt it out and hope for the best.
I spent my teenage years (13-19) a drug addict. I used pretty much every drug you could think of but most heavily were cocaine, mephedrone and aMT. I was always horrifically depressed through this time, using the drugs as an escape and a form of self harm almost - i was using in huge quantities over long periods of time deliberately up until the point where I ended up not spending a waking...
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Write faster nigger
>>17119571
The perp was someone i knew very well, and I've heard details about the case that have deeply disturbed me, not even knowing things like that existed. I will have to appear in court to give evidence as there is a lengthy trial ahead.
I am failing to see good in the world at all and feel completely doomed. I can't see any way out of the (relative) poverty we both live in, my job is damaging to my physical health, i smoke too many cigarettes as a coping mechanism for the cravings for drugs I experience...
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Trying to be as quick as possible, I'm fairly sure you've got the picture but if I've been too vague in places please ask. I really need some kind of way out of this situation.
Hey /Adv/ I'll try to keep it short
Tomorrow me and my girlfriend are gonna celebrate one month together, bad thing is that yesterday my mother in law searched my girl's trash and she found an used condom.
She told my girl she is disappointed, that she is dumb and that she is not ready to take that responsibility.
Her mother told me to go to her house tomorrow, the 3 of us are gonna have a chat.
Needless to say her parents are not together and that her father is a psycho.
We are both 18, seniors.
What to do /adv/? I'm nervous and stressed as fuck
>>17119521
>gf
>1 month
>my mother in law
You don't seem to understand what a mother in law is.
>>17119521
lol what the fuk am i reading
>>17119526
You are right, my mistake
