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Hi guys, so I did a really fucking scummy thing last night I went to this house party and I went with a couple of my housemates. This girl was there who my housemate has been crushing on for a long time now although she sees him more as a really close friend than somebody she's interested in romantically.
So anyway it was late at night and we ended up staying round the house party, one of my other housemates who we went with ended up sleeping with one of the girls who hosted so me, my housemate who has the crush on the girl and the girl ended up sleeping together...
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>>17119505
No advice here OP, I'm just here to reinforce your belief you're a piece of shit. Good luck with life you fucking loser.
ah shit man. yeah talk to your roommate, let him know what happened. things are probably gonna be different between you two (and him and his crush), but hey man, every action has a consequence. good luck.
>>17119536
Woah he may be a huge piece of shit but I wouldn't say loser
So, /adv/,
Keeping it short. Went through break up. Got on tinder. Matched with a hipster-y wishes-she-were-white black girl. I'm heading over to her place at 11 pm for "dinner" and staying over.
Sex is pretty much established.
Any protips on fucking a black girl ?
>>17119484
Don't touch their hair. And be ready for the foul smell down there. They have different microbes which causes an unpleasant smell compared to other groups.
>>17119491
Oh damm really? Im actually curious about the microbe thing. Not op btw
>>17119484
Also, black women have the highest rate of STDS
http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/minorities.htm
My girlfriend and I are both 18, her ex just turned 24.
I have been friends with "Shari" for 5 years. Last summer she started dating a college guy and they made each other extremely happy. Recently I've been hanging out with Shari a lot because her ex had been too busy to see her and we have gotten close. Watching movies, going on "dates" etc.
He got jealous and they started to fight so I convinced her they should break up because of the age and his jealousy. We kept hanging out and gotten closer, going to prom together, etc.
Though...
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>>17119466
>Is she stringing him along
Yes.
Now the question becomes; Do your instincts tell you that she is capable of cheating on you?
You're on a shitty situation. There's a simple way to solve, although you might not like it.
1 - Start talking to other girls as well. Don't cheat, just expand your social circle. Bonus points if you can get one interested
2 - go back to her and tell her she needs to make a choice. You can't be stringed along and risk wasting your time and feelings.
3 - cut contact until she makes up her mind
That's a huge red flag there. I advise you jump ship.
I don't want to sound like an annoying, whining ball of self-pity, but I hate myself. I really hate everything about myself. I'm 21. I feel like everyone is fucking better than me. I'm so dumb and I know near nothing about the world because I've never had any real friends, I've always been a shut-in, and I'm too ashamed to ask stupid damn questions. I'm also black and I think I also have slight self racial hatred as well. I'm a manchild and only care about immediate interests with no regard to plan for the future. I am apathetic about...
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>>17119425
Come on bitch don't think about the others, you are a beast, a FUCKING BEAST, NDERSTOOD?
>>17119425
>I'm so dumb and I know near nothing about the world because I've never had any real friends, I've always been a shut-in, and I'm too ashamed to ask stupid damn questions
This is a horribly self-destructive excuse mate. You live in an age where the world's knowledge is literally at your fucking fingertips. I'm a shut-in too, I use this time to L E A R N.
Google is your friend. Wikipedia is your friend. Neither of them will judge you.
There...
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>>17119463
I guess you're right, I do use the Internet to look a lot of stuff up. Though I think they're only morsels compared to the amount of stuff I should know by now...
Should I dump my gf?
Pros of gf:
Sex
She's totally in love with me
She makes more money than me and can prolly get me a good job later
Cons of gf:
Less time for videogames
Have to spend fucktons of money eating out all the damn time
Risk of pregnancy
>>17119411
unless you're planning to never have a gf again i don't see why you should dump her. your cons are easily applicable to any partner ever.
>>17119411
If she makes more money why do always pay when you eat out. Why not try to balance it between you two?
>>17119417
I thought I might get a new gf in 3-5 years after my student loans are paid off and I've played all the videogames.
20/M poorfag.
I keep getting mail from various recruiters trying to get me to join the army. At first, I was like fuck that, but the opportunities being offered to me are increasing every time I ignore them. Back when I was in highschool, I did ROTC and CAP and had expressed my interest in joining the army as an officer to several generals, majors, colonels. Apparently they submitted several glowing recommendations, and now it's actually a viable option.
After highschool my interest in the army disappeared, but they keep dangling nifty contracts in my face, and I'm wondering if its actually worth taking a few years of shit to be financially stable.
What does /adv/ think?
tl;dr, I'm poor and the army can fix that, but I'm not sure I want to deal with the bullshit that comes with it.
>>17119405
Are you in college now? If so, how many credits? You can automatically start at a slightly higher rank depending on your hours.
>0-29 hours = E1
>30-59 hours = E2
>60+ without completion = E3
>graduated = E4
>>17119577
not in college, but the contracts offered are for 0-7 (i immediately enter officer training)
>>17119589
What? You literally cannot be an officer without a degree (along with a direct commission, ROTC, or OCS).
I literally cannot cum at all during sex yet I can literally cum in under a minute wanking
>I however can't seem to cum from sex with my girlfriend at all I've had sex around 5 times now.
>Everyone always goes on about how amazing sex is however I think the feeling is average even without a condom and I can't seem to get anywhere near to cumming. Can anyone help?
>>17119397
death grip google it and stop fapping
>>17119404
I don't masterbate with a that tight grip, and I've tried to cut down my fapping to 1-2 times a week. Is this still to much?
>>17119404
Not always the case really. I suffer from a similar thing, never used a "death grip" and I masturbate really rarely. Even once didnt even touch my private parts in a month in an attempt to cum during sex, but nope. Came close a few times, but it just didnt happen.
Sex always ends up being something where I do my thing for about 30minutes, the girl says its starting to hurt, finish her off by hand and roll over to sleep.
The funny thing is that sex itself feels really good, but I just cant orgasm no...
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I'm part asian (You probably need to know this)
I'm 28 never finished college, I've been having a bad streak in employment. As in getting fired rather early on.
My asian dad wants me to go back to college...
I hate this, I am wanting to go back to college but, I have no idea what I want to get a degree in. Why can't I unfuck myself? This makes depressed to the point where I want to end my life.
Advice please?
>>17119239
Why are you getting fired?
>>17119245
First job I was late one too many times.
Second job I wasn't meeting their quota.
Third Job, I applied to a place I had no experience in and the boss just hated me.
I realize I'm not very good at physical labor and I feel like I'm not good at anything.
>>17119239
Are you me? I'm about to drop out aswell any tips bro?
PIC UNRELATED. So i haven't experienced something like that, actually i'm planning my suicide.
No one will care, i'm not really loved. I'm the typical person who everybody seem to like, but not that much to care or love. Not even with my family.
But i have this friend of mine, the only one i have. We are not best friends, i mean we don't talk about our thoughts or feelings. We just chill and laugh about silly things. I know he appreciates me. I'm a little bit worried about him, i want to make sure he will get over this fast.
Should...
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>>17119214
He will not get over this fast and the fact that you care shows there's still enough basic humanity left in you that you're not truly ready to off yourself.
If you really wanted to kill yourself, you wouldn't bother typing up a post on a Faroese whaling board. You would've fucking done it, no concern for those around you.
>>17119214
When I was a kid, third grade, I met my first friend in the new school district I moved to. I was friends with him from third grade until 11th grade when I changed schools. We would have sleepovers, play video games all night, this was over 25 years ago.
Anyways, I found out about 10 years ago he killed himself. Even though I didn't see him after 11th grade, I still think about him from time to time. It's still sad to me. He was a decent kid.
You're friend will likely not get over it...
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>>17119214
Call the hotline.
We literally don't care.
just been taken aside and informed by a supervisor at work that a few colleagues have mentioned that I smell, he asked if I use deodorant and everything.
obviously I'm pretty shocked, I shower every morning and all that jazz, so I bought some Lynx bodyspray and body wash straight after work. I think partially it's because I work at Argos, and as such have to carry large packages around fairly frequently, but it's still a cause for concern.
any tips for keeping myself presentable from a smell point-of-view? And is it likely that all my colleagues loathe me, including the ones I'm friends with?
>>17119130
>And is it likely that all my colleagues loathe me, including the ones I'm friends with?
If none of them would even tell you that they smell but went to their boss instead then...man, it sounds like you aren't actually friends with any of them. That sucks.
Also, lynx bodyspray will just make you smell of Lynx and whatever BO you happen to be reeking of.
Do you use deodorant in your actual armpits?
>>17119130
I'm in the same situation.
I work in a similar job and from the moment I start working til I leave for the day: I sweat non-stop. To the point that I have to take a gym bag with extra t-shirts and underwear to change into when my clothes become so soaked with sweat. It feels like I jumped into a pool (actually it's so bad one time someone asked me if I had jumped in a pool).
And, yes, I do get that very rancid sour smell after a few hours. THANKFULLY i only had a few coworkers that are never...
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>>17119152
Not OP but I wear deodorant every day.
That's not the smell I get. It's the sweat that smells so bad.
Hi, guys. Plain and simple. I'm engaged to this girl, but some complications have happened and I don't think it can ever be fixed. and adding to that, I'm actually in good terms with her parents and other relatives. The question is, how do I break up with her?
I always hate breaking up, especially if you are well acquainted with family of hers. The only good way to do it though is sit her down and say it. Be ready to explain (doesn't need to be real, just make sure it's non-negotiable or something she could promise to change) and be ready to fend off pleading, begging, crying and maybe violence. I always do it at home, some people suggest public places (to nip crying/screaming) but I think in a serious case like engagement more private is better. But make sure you do it, you will regret it forever otherwise.
Also...
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>>17119157
Here's the thing, she loves me. I can tell. But she has made me cut ties with my friends. She says it's because they're bad influences (my friends are either potheads or womanizers. But I do it for her because I'm a fucking idiot.) But she always doesn't seem to mind my best friend, let's call him Jeremy. Jeremy and I have been best friends for about seven years now. He's the guy who actually watched my life progress. Back when I had girl problems, he was there. Back when I had...
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>>17119219
Sorry if I can;'t explain properly I'm actually drunk as I'm typing this. But if you have any questions just shoot away.
Hey guys, femanon here. Have a problem with my boyfriend. Maybe you have some advise. Hes often here on 4chan, so maybe one of you can tell me how this is gonna work out...
We had an argument again. I asked him to sign up a private account for me on some website. Unfortunately he used some very important Nick of mine as my visible-to-everybody Name (which cant be changed) and tied this in the websites database to my private email which included my real name. I was pretty mad since he should have known better.
When Im mad like this, I raise my voice. Its no more the...
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>you ask him to do something for you
>he does it
>but not the way you wanted, despite you not communicating that
>you yell at him
>wonder why he leaves
>conclude with saying you're hurt when you're the one who instigated all this
What the fuck is your question seriously? You're all over the place in this post OP, he said "ok i did crap" and you're saying "Thats all it was to him" well what the hell are you expecting him to say? I see him apologise for what he did and you say it's not enough, how high maintenance are you.
You also say you raise your voice to the point where he covers your mouth? How loud are you srsly? One of yous needs to tolerate more.
Yes, he did me a favour, but he also understood he messed it up. Im less raging about his messup then about him trying to mute me and the moment he fails he just runs off. I need advise about how to prevent this.
To me, freedom of speech is very dear. He totally ignored this, and he ignored it in past too. He did understand that it is dear to me to be allowed to say what i think and to feel the way I do, yet, if its uncomfortable to him, he prefers to mute me. What can I do?
Where can girls with a heart can be found? Every time I've thought that I've found one they've without exception turned out to be cruel and sadistic heartless monsters. It's happened to me again and again and over again, and I can't tell whether it's just bad luck, or whether most girls are just like that. In my experience it's extremely common for females to convince themselves they have hearts, and yet who then turn around and do the most heartless cuntish shit when they sense you're at your most vulnerable. Where can empath females...
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>a bloo bloo bloo: The Post
I'm an empath with a great and very loving heart. I will love you until you turn on me. If you hurt me or reject me without explanation, if you take my body under false pretenses /- I will be the most sadistic bitch you'll ever know. I will hate you with all the love you turned black. YOU. You had to have done something cruel to these women to get them to turn on you. Because people with empathy and a desire to please the one they love can hate with the same strength if you stab them in their great hearts.
>>17118972
Nobody owes you anything in this world. Not your preacher, not your mother, not your child. No one. To expect kindness and heart is to expect nothing but failure in this world. But, if you go into the world, with a big heart and not expecting anything in return... You start to find those like you who also just want to care.
Have you ever found yourself agreeing to things that you don't necessarily agree, apologising for things that you didn't believed were wrong? All that in order to avoid conflict.
>>17118964
That there be an unhealthy relationship.
Only when I don't have to do anything.
>>17119040
Indeed unhealthy but fortunately not at all times.
I believe that there is a communication problem between us. It's partially my fault, unfortunately I don't think my partner has an understand that she also is part of the problem. When try to communicate this, hell breaks lose.
Struggling to get this across.
I try my hardest to understand what other people think, and to fit in. I try to be ephathetic and social. But in the end find more pain.
People don't understand me and outcast me. Others pity me, come unprepared to help, and then cause more problems than they help. My parents try to love me, but they still get angry that I can't "act normal".
Everyday I'm reminded how much I don't fit into society, and everyday people tell me how much they understand and yet everything they say contridicts that. I'm just alone, and the more I reach...
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>>17118955
Fucked-up guy here (not autism, mystery brain dysfunction diagnosed as 6+ different psychatric disorders). I really do understand.
Some of my best friends (some of my only friends) growing up were autistic. Always felt like I could communicate better with you guys than with "normal" people, never noticed anything wrong (only learned those guys were autistic from teachers, parents, etc). I just thought they were weird. And I was weird too.
So you don't have to be alone, you can find friends...
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>>17119026
I've made friends in the past, people who I've trusted, and people who left in the end.
I'm really scared of being alone and losing all of who I love.
Most of all, I don't know if they even care, or if they miss me.
I have one person tho. My best friend of the past 5 years, I'm not sure if one person is enough, but he's all I have.
>>17118955
I MADE THIS WALLPAPER!!!!!
