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My grandpa died 2 weeks ago and my grandma died today, they were a huge part of my life and I had a super close relationship with both. i also found out my now ex gf she cheated on me with multiple guys and girls during the 1 year relationship. Also said what she was with over 50 guys and girls before me and said she was with only one.
How the fuck do I get over this? I am beyond upset and drunk
>>17121059
shit bro that sounds terrible
i mean i think u already know it's going to take MONTHS to get over all of this
so surround yourself with people that care for you/talk to the people you care for so they could possibly help you get through this
when i broke up with my ex i dealt with it alone barely talking to anybody for months and it was terrible
so i cant imagine having 2 close people die and then your girl cheating on you
sorry about your loss m8, sending you hugs and stuff, watch a sitcom for a few hours you will stop feeling numb
things will get better bro
again, sorry for your loss.
>>17121097
Ya, I already took them summer off school and just gonna kinda hang out.
>>17121099
thanks man, I appreciate it
>have had a car for over 3 years now
>still spend all my time at home
Where is an interesting place I can go?
>>17121042
nigga i dont know
why did you get a car in the first place
>>17121042
Work
>>17121057
A bit rude
I got it so I can go to work
>>17121058
I go there enough already
Where do people go when they want to go somewhere
My friend's birthday is coming up on Wednesday, and I'm not sure what I should get her. Here's some (probably) relevant stuff:
>she's turning 22
>reasonably talented amateur artist
>likes hiking, traveling, the outdoors etc...
>has a rabbit
>likes cooking
I just don't want it to be something that's either inappropriately expensive (because I'm not made of money and I've...
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You obviously do like her, otherwise you wouldn't be so worried about this.
OP 22 isn't a huge birthday so I wouldn't go all out or anything. Most likely something small (to do with her hobbies) will be fine because the effort of getting her something will be most important. It might sound cheesy but it's definitely the thought behind it and she is more likely to appreciate something for her hobbies than say chocolate or something non personal like that. Go to a cookware store and find something in your price range? Or an art store? Good luck! (And just write a note as well or something)
Something like a generic box of chocolates is fine
my gf came in and she caught me redhanded creeping with the girl next door. we were both butt naked and banging on the bathroom floor. All this time she was standing there and never took her eyes off me. guys, I don't know what to do. please help she hasn't responded to my calls.
>>17121009
No song lyrics would be the first thing to do.
It wasn't me.
how could you forget that you had given her an extra key?
What should I do?
Okay, so I've been poor for a while. As in CO pletely broke. However, I just got $2500 from insurance off someone hitting my car, $200 from tax returns, and now I have a job I actually enjoy working.
So, my dilemma. I can use the insurance money to finance a car (current car runs still, but is damaged and would cost more to fix than the car is worth), or I could move out of my parent's house and rent an apartment. I'm 18, so it isn't like I am in desperate need of moving out for their sake, but it's more or less for my...
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2700 is just enough to chain yourself to a lease and find yourself in slavery to a job
get the apartment of course
I'd say if possible, find a place to live where you can walk or use public transport to get to all of the important places you need to go, then work on getting a car if you feel like it.
>>17121005
Can't tell if this is sarcasm or not. Low income housing around here is about $300/month, which is about 28% of my monthly income (recommended max amount for affordable rent)
Recently I've been discovering something about myself that I wish I hadn't. I'd could try to explain it but this annecdote will give you a good idea
>Be me bored,hanging out while little bro ( 11) has his friend over
>All is normal until his friend in the same room as me.
>can't help but keep staring at his butt and doing stuff with him.
>I get a rager,pretty much panicking at this point.
I really don't like feeling this way...
Keep going , also was the friend a male or female, when did you start to notice these feelings?
>>17120990
I said "he" so male....I've know about it for awhile I was just in denial
>>17120990
OP said "his butt", so clearly male.
But OP, is the disgust feeling coming from the thought that you might be gay or that you might be a pedo?
What does one do if they feel like death?
Nike has the best advice
>>17120964
Live
Put on a long black hooded cloak and carry a scythe. Ominously point at people.
>be laziest person on the planet
>finally get job I don't dread going to in the morning
>it's also pretty cushy for what it is
>my heart still sinks whenever I have my full weekly schedule laid out before me and see how little free waking hours I have
How can I get over this nagging pain in the back of my head? Can some people never get rid of this feeling?
>>17120956
Find a way to work part time and live a low stress minimalist lifestyle, leech off your parents, milk the welfare system, get lucky at gamblng, etc. Full time employment is essentially modern day first world slavery.
You could always work part time
>>17120956
Look into careers that support fewer days. I went into nursing and between the pay and 12 hour shifts I only work 1 or 2 days a week
Fuck /adv/ how to I keep myself from going straight highschool nice guy when I start liking a girl.
Girls I don't like. No problem treating them like my guy friends, instant banter, and they end up liking me.
Girls I do like. I turn into a total beta faggot and treat her like I'm fucking walking on egg shells. So scared of offending, and it never works out.
>>17120827
if you are interested in someone ask them out immediately.
If you play the "let's be friends" card first, you already lost.
>>17120827
Quit being a bitch.
I have been able to manage my depression for the past year, so I want to share the advice of what I've done, and give you guys a few tips in this thread.
>>17120794
1)
It's not about improving your life, it's about not worrying about it.
The trick is to be absolutely mindless, not to think about your problems, don't reflect on them, don't think about how bad you are having it.
I still don't have a job, never had a relationship, have no friends, all my family thinks I'm a piece of shit good for nothing, etc. Guess what? By reframing it and not thinking about it, I don't care now, and I cry myself to sleep much much less than...
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>>17120802
2)
Don't worry about the future.
Sure, you might be in your 30s, never had a job, have no education, and being homeless in the future is a very real possibility one day. Just don't think about it, let the future you deal with the problem when one day it arrives at your doorstep. Do things like playing video games, watching a tv series, reading a novel, and things that will keep you distracted, and occupy your time.
>>17120812
3)
Do drugs.
If you can afford it, find a delear in your location and start doing drugs. They will help you by taking you out of your misery for a moment, and taking you on a trip somewhere else instead. You don't have to spend too much money, for example you can eat brownies with weed in them, instead of smoking, and they will hit you much harder.
Hello friends!
so im canadian and i got a 30mph over speeding ticket in newyork back in february, i never paid it and tommorow i have to go to detroit..
my question is will my new york speeding ticket affect me in a different state (michigan)? or will they stop me at the border? thanks for the answers friends!
I'm not really sure here but I'm pretty sure that the ticket is at a state level and not a federal one so you could go through other states and not get in trouble, kind of like the elder scrolls. But I would read up on it more online
Why didn't you pay the ticket like you were supposed to? Why were you driving like a moron to begin with?
It's a shame you aren't charged with a misdemeanor and promptly told to fuck off at the border point.
A friend of mine told me that he got a speeding ticket in Toronto and years later he tried to go to Montreal but they wouldn't let him cross the border until he paid it.
I wonder if its the same in the other direction, let us know OP.
I feel like there is a problem with me. People often tell me I'm smart and good with problems and abstraction.
However, I feel really shitty when I'm faced with problems way out of my league. As a student at a university, I feel like it's taking a toll on me as I constantly feel like trash for being an idiot as I'm bugged by questions too difficult for me to find solutions to.
How do I stop myself from being caught in this cycle of self-hatred?
shameless self-bump
embrace the fact you are at your intellectual limit and embrace the opportunity to surpass it. Such opportunities dissipate with time so I suggest you relish these moments.
>>17120716
So you're generally pretty smart, but from time to time in university you come across something hard to learn/solve/conquer.
It's called education. School wouldn't be worth much if you could already do it all coming in. The WHOLE POINT of education is to identify your limits and then push (and guide) you past them
Is it wrong to be uncomfortable and almost resentful at this?
>>17120710
Not at all. If she the type of person to respond to a mature conversation, sit down with her and tell her how you feel. If not, move out and never call and only visit on holidays.
>>17120710
It's not "wrong" but more so immature and ridiculous.
She's your mom, you're always her baby to some extent.
I'm sure she finds it wrong that at 19 years old you can't do your laundry or help out with chores and still browse the channel 4
>>17120710
It is totally natural to be bothered, and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Some mothers are like that and will be when they're 90 and you're 70.
I feel stressed and upset.
I feel like people are trying to pressure me into getting a girlfriend. ive had a few people recently tell me that I should get a girlfriend, because the whole "you'll get married one day" or "when you get married..." This shit is starting to depress the fuck out of me. I've never had a girlfriend before, why? I don't know. But recently, it's been by choice. My close friends don't understand. They think I'm fucking crazy. One of my best friends actually sat down with me and said he wanted to...
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Why don't you want a girlfriend?
>>17120746
I don't know. I just don't want one
>>17120759
Is it because everyone's telling you to get one?
Sooo /adv/ I need some help. Ive been lying to my parents for 3 years about going to college. they live states away and I used their money to pursue a career in music. Im supposed to graduate this week. Im going to send an email because I dont think I could properly verbalize everything Id need to say over the phone. What do i say?
>>17120691
Maybe start with the truth?
Why do I think your a female?
>>17120691
Move to a different country and change your number
>>17120702
Ill start with the truth obviously but Im wondering what things I should say or do to start making things right.
