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I keep masturbating, and it doesnt feel like I can stop. I only do it once a day, but its been everyday for a week
Is this too much? I want to cut down to only once a week
>>17124207
As another chronic masturbater, yeah it is. Since I've been in college I've been jerking off damn close to literally everyday. Shit isn't healthy at all. Find a hobby or something to keep your mind occupied off of sex.
One of the main problems I dealt with over masturbation is that the skin of the dick gets worn out from rubbing. I jerked off until my skin torn and bled.
>only once a day
That's too much. I try to go without masturbating at all and only cave when I cave to the temptation
Once day is fine, but maybe you should use lube if you're worried about irritation.
So I recently found out that a girl I basically had a crush on the longest (about 14 years now) is moving with her family to another state while she's off to a prestigious grad school. She and I were family friends for ages now and I never got the courage to ask her out or do anything romantic. I know it seems like it may be too late now.. But knowing she'll be gone for good means I won't see her ever again for a long time. Should I confess my feelings to her or let it all go? (a few people told me she had slight interest in me when we were younger but I was too stupid to realize it). She also likes to study a lot and for that reason she never had a bf.
Bumpin
>>17124140
I suggest you go for it
I rather regret after than regret without knowing what could of happend if i did
>>17124140
knock yourself out champ
I got a text message from my girlfriend indicating she wants to talk. Things haven't been going well, so chances are it's THAT version of "talk."
She sent it three hours ago and isn't responding to "I'm available."
What do?
Image unrelated.
Prepare to make your peace
You talk. There's nothing else to do. That phrase is never good to hear, but it isn't always a death sentence. Face it with courage and hope for the best. Good luck to you.
>>17124143
>>17124149
She's asking about holiday plans. After the last few hours, I'm half-willing to break up with her just for pulling "we need to talk."
Jesus fuck.
>Been a hermit most of my life, even when I was a kid
>Nowadays I read, play games, work out, and study for college
>Literally no social interaction
>But I love it this way, feels amazing to just focus on myself and not have outside interaction
>Never really have any desire to have friends or anything either
So this is all well and good, but I do occasionally date girls. They almost always happen to fall into my lap. At least once a year some girl comes out of the blue and I get involved, usually out of hornyness.
Thing is, these girls tend to always be fucking insane. I'm not talking sjw tumblr insane, I'm talking straight mentally unstable women who need to be locked away ASAP. They seem fine on the surface, but some traumatic past is always discovered, and they always turn out to be fucking lunatics. Last gorl I saw was one of the worst self harmers I've ever seen in my life, holy fuck. Didn't know until we finally got into to bed together, and she took her shirt off. Never seen so many scars on a body, a lot of them were fresh.
My question is, why do I attract these kinds of women? I'm 21, I don't have much money, but there is nothing abnormal about me aside from my lack of social interaction. No tattoos, piercings, no horrible past, I dress as normally as possible. No drug/alcohol problems, nothing.
How do these women always find me? It would be great to find a girl like me, but I'm sure that is bordering on impossible.
Because you're their opposite. While they're emotional wrecks, you're an emotional black hole
>>17124130
Shit. Really?
You know how lions target the weakest gazelle in the herd? Well because you're a loner that effectively makes you weak in the eyes of the crazy bitch. Your friends won't be there to warn you away from her and loners generally have some form of anxiety or general beta-ness they can use to their advantage. Though sometimes it isn't quite so malicious, and they're just attracted to you because you're an outsider like they are. Generally being any kind of outsider or loner, be it due to rejection or choice, is like a magnet to the crazy bitch. And not the good kind of crazy bitch who'll let you choke her and call you daddy, but the suicide risk crazy bitch.
>It would be great to find a girl like me
Highly unlikely to happen. You and this hypothetical girl would be too busy avoiding other human beings to ever actually find each other. Now this doesn't mean you necessarily have to be lonely forever, relationships can work out very well with two people who are wildly different, but just be cautious the next time something lands on your lap.
They say don't look a gift horse in the mouth. You know who says that? Trojans.
How do I suggest a FWB "relationship"?
There's a girl who lives in my apartment complex. We smoke weed together a lot and sometimes she texts me inviting me to go out. I've hung out at her house countless times. She is pretty cute not someone I'd actually date, so there's no chance of me catching feelings for her.
Fuck first, suggest FWB second.
It's not something you suggest
You fuck her, and make it clear that you don't want a relationship and want to stay friends, then you keep fucking her
>>17124029
>>17124037
How do I do it? I feel like I've known her for too long, and thus, she doesn't see me in a sexual light. Can I overcome this?
19 years old been a NEET since I got out of high school, no idea what I should do with myself.
I don't even really have any hobbies or any interests I could make a career out of.
>>17123883
travel
>>17123883
music
become a day trader
programming
>>17123883
>i dont even really have any hobbies or any interests i could make a career out of.
most people don't. generally speaking these are your options
>get a job you can bare / doesn't kill you
>proceed to use freetime to do what you really want and/or (though mostly or) raise a family.
How do people make a schedule and actually stick to it? How do people wake up at the same time every day, do some morning exercise, work/study for n hours, work on a side project, etc. I could probably keep a schedule for about a week and then start fucking off.
>>17123810
do you find yourself going "eh I can skip it this one day, it'll be fine" (or you are sick/something comes up and you just can't do it) and then never get back on track? that's what I do. I used to have health problems that made it hard to keep a schedule consistently, and I think it made my already-poor self-discipline worse.
am trying to fix it now. my current working theory is that everybody has an inner excuse-maker, but people with good self-discipline are used to reining it in. first step is to get good at recognising when it's your inner excuse-maker talking. next step (what I'm working on now) is shutting down the excuse-maker. arguing with it just takes you down a neverending path of self-justification. sometimes you can split the difference and negotiate with the excuse-maker, i.e. doing things on your schedule and then rewarding yourself with whatever it was you'd rather be doing. but ideally you want to shoot for just telling the excuse-maker "ok that's enough, I hear you but we will deal with that later, right now it's time to do X thing on the schedule."
I think the step after that is to just keep practising shutting down the excuse-maker as much as possible. to some extent it will become second nature. however, it does take energy, and if you find yourself having to do it a lot, you will feel mentally drained at the end of the day. I do believe that it is a combination of personality, skill, and energy level. in other words some people are naturally able to do it, others can get good at it with a bit of practice, and other people are just never going to be able to do it without it costing a lot of energy.
you won't know which you are until you actually spend a few years trying to work on the issue. but if you find you are the last category, then maybe you just need simpler, less cluttered schedules and/or more ways of preserving and augmenting what energy you do have.
>>17123810
motivation. most people have all the advice they need to do something, but they come to this board and ask how to get the motivation to do these things.
its ironic cuz if they dont have the motivation to do the task, they wont have the motivation to do something to get that motivation.
there is an inherent spark inside of some people. a flame that was lit that keeps them going. some people never get it. some people get something to light it (like the impending fear of a child / family to take care of) and some people have it or lose it.
its different for everyone. if i had to guess your life is too comfy as it is.
>>17123810
It's called discipline. And discipline consists entirely of doing something because you decided to do it, and you have decided to be the kind of person who does what he decides to do.
That sounds like doubletalk, but it isn't. If you don't have an external goal (e.g. lost 10 pounds, raise my GPA) strong enough, you have to create an internal goal (I don't want to disappoint myself) strong enough.
/adv/ help. How do I keep my sister from become trans?
Her story isn't complex, no identity crises from birth or any of that nonsense. Instead, she was a normal female kid who likes guys, took take care of her nails etc all the way up to her early twenties. Her real problem is falling for peer pressure and wanting to imitate those that surround her. She went from film hipster, to literature, to circus performances--you name it--all because of her friends, or people she 'thought highly' off. Think of the try-hard middle-schooler kid copying whatever people think is 'cool'--that's my sister. Now unfortunately she's become a 'transexual activitist' and has been hanging out with trans of people for a while. While at some point she came out as gay (also very likely out of peer pressure and daddy issues), it was only until yesterday that we learned that she had been seeking and now has gotten approved for hormones. She hasn't taken them yet but knowing her, she will pretend this is vital for her. My sister is really just a suggestible dumbass and I know this will be something she will be regretting in a few years, just like many of her many 'phase' choices.
So /adv/, how the fuck do I convince her? How do I save my sister from her stupidity? Help...
>>17123804
You don't. If it is truly what she wants and it is not caused by social factors, you really should support her. How old is she?
>>17123804
>So /adv/, how the fuck do I convince her? How do I save my sister from her stupidity? Help...
You can't. People like her have to learn the hard way, unfortunately. She's too caught up in wanting to be liked and accepted, and this is something that most people leave behind when they finish school.
She's another victim of the Internet fuelled society. Inform your parents that they're failures and accept it
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Females,
If a guy is new to a relationship, but is entirely clueless, what are some ways he can improve? For instance, I've never dated and the thought of it kind of terrifies me because I feel like I wouldn't be a good enough boyfriend, like I wouldn't do the right things and stuff. I'm super introverted so I feel like a lot of socializing and whatnot would go really over my head.
>>17123832
I'd be a little disappointed, but I'd happily accept it. My penis loves blowjobs.
>hook up with guy last night while drunk
>i put the condom on him the wrong side at first, it was on the tip of his dick
>then i took it off, flipped it over. and put it on him the right way
>we fuck etc
i think there is a possibility of precum from his dick getting onto the condom and getting me pregnant so i'm gettng plan b, or am i being paranoid?
I feel disgust and contempt whenever I see a low tier male. More even if they talk to me.
Things like
> Less than 6 feet tall
> No muscle what so ever
> Less than 7/10 facial aesthetics
> If I pick up they are beta in any form
I don't want to feel this way anymore. What can I do short of seeking professional help or going to a therapist.
You're just an honest girl.
>>17123666
Stop browsing /fit/.
You should have read the sticky, and never went back.
>>17123666
Nice try satan
>be me
>ugly
>ugly as fuck
>messed up face
>big ears
>decide to grow hair so i can cover my ears
>my hair is curly (aka shitty)
>fucking ugly with long hair
>even worse with short hair
>disgusted to even look at my face in the mirror
>super tired to be me
I'm here to ask tips, anything in your opinion that would make this shit face a little better
(Suicide is always an option)
pic of my face (almost a gore in my opinion)
>>17123457
Just cut your stupid hair and style it a bit and you'll look fine you faglord
You have kirk hammett syndrome. Just do what he does, grow facial hair and trim your eyebrows thin. He seems to make it work.
You got a good strong jaw man. Try pucking your eye brows, grow out some light stubble, and maybe try a haircut with a fringe
will revealing to my gf that i used an onahole while watching hentai, effect our relationship? i want to be honest with her.
>>17123407
Unless she's really prudish about sex I doubt it. Imo no reason to tell her tho. How you masturbate and to what doesn't have any relevance in a relationship, in my eyes at least.
>>17123407
The fuck is an onahole?
Why do you want to be honest about that? Why even bring it up? Some things just don't need to be mentioned
How do you make yourself desirable as a romantic partner when you're irredeemably ugly, can't offer any kind of social leverage, you're picky and can't bring yourself to settling for someone as undesirable as you and can't afford to throw money at the problem?
>>17122889
its simple just don't be.
>Ugly
>Unpopular
>Picky
>Poor
You answered you're own question OP, if you can fix at least one of those you have a chance.
>>17122896
>ugly because transsexual
>unpopular because autistic and weird
>picky because I don't like old or skinny guys
>poor because millenial with no rich parents or talent in any lucrative field
Which one of those is the easiest to fix?
Impress them with your hot dog making skill
I did something bad /adv/, i killed someone's cat on purpose today.
>Next-door neighbor, 9/10 girl.
>Always tried to get her attention but it never worked
>Never invited me to parties at her house or anything of the likes
>Her boyfriend is handsome as fuck and beats me in every category
>Got angrier as the days go on, every-time his car was parked at the front of the house i was enraged and felt hatred to both her and him
>Knew he was fucking her
>Anyway be out in the back today when i see her beloved cat on my fence just sitting there.
>Decide to grab a brick from the shed, break it in half and throw it at the cat
>It got it right in the side of the head and literally just dropped to the ground on my side of the fence
>Picked it up and threw it back over and it landed on her lawn
>2 hours later i hear her screaming
>Was too pussy to look through the window
Sort of feel bad, i didn't think or understand what i was doing at the time. I didn't mean it she is half to blame. It's her fault.
Should I write her an anonymous letter?
Retard.
>>17121684
>Should I write her an anonymous letter?
Yes... tell her what you told us... I'm sure she'll understand.
Besides, she'll need closure. You wouldn't want to hurt her would you? Then you have to tell her.
That's fucked up dude.
Take this to your grave unless you want to go to jail. Don't write a letter or anything.
Idiot.
The semester ended today. I sent this to one of my best friends, been crushing on her all year. She hasn't responded, it's been two hours. Should I expect the worst? She's seen a post in a group chat since I sent it.
>>17120957
>She's seen a post in a group chat since I sent it.
She's not going to reply, she's going to ignore it and avoid you.
>>17120961
Cool, thanks anon
>>17120961
depends on what kind of girl she is
I remember when I was 16 I told this girl I liked her over a message, and she didn't respond for a long time because she was nervous and excited.
Just wait it out OP, it's on her to say yes or no, you don't have to say anything else
