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So there's this girl I see every day when I'm walking to/from one of my classes. She's really cute and I'm starting to really like her, however I have very little experience approaching girls. Since finals are coming up and the term is coming to an end I don't want to take the "befriend her first" approach. Would it be weird if i were to just approach her one day, tell her I think she's very beautiful, and ask for her phone number? She seems like an affable person, because she's always smiling even if she's alone.
Tell me; I'm truly lost here.
>>17126854
She'll probably be flattered and give you her number, but only because it's going to be really awkward for her, and likely for you as well.
I suggest not doing that. Ask her a casual question about something when she's nearby, then introduce yourself and start talking.
>>17126942
Like I said, I'm not great at approaching girls. I'm terrible at small talk until I get comfortable with someone. It seems dreadful to have to power through a few awkward conversations which I, as the man, will have to keep flowing smoothly. I'm terrible at coming up with things to say to strangers. I feel, though, that I'd be more confident just being forthright with my intentions so that I know straight away if she likes me or not. If she does, I would feel more relaxed going forward. If she doesn't, then no harm and on to the next one.
However, I can concede that you make a good point about it being both awkward for her and I. Is there anyway to my preferred method that can dampen this feeling of discomfort? And when you say it will be awkward for her, is this likely to stem more from flattery or annoyance?
If a girl isn't interested you're supposed to move on to the next girl and not waste time chasing someone who doesn't want to be with you in the first place. I did and had a couple of flings, just sexual really although I do want a serious relationship. Somehow managed to recatch the interest of the first girl but seems like she's gone cold again. What do I do different in this cycle?
>>17126799
nothing? i get shes kind of your OTP for now but there will be other girls. enjoy your life and independence while you can. looking for a 'serious relationship' is like looking for a 'best friend'.
you just meet people and see where it goes. chemistry takes care of the rest.
>>17126822
I guess I'm just burnt out on this process of meeting people and being disappointed, even though I try really hard to hold no expectations. I guess I need to focus on something else for now.
>>17126841
thats what i recommend. you cant really control the kind of people you'll meet or how you'll feel, and intending to meet people is holding an expectation even if you say 'not gonna find the love of my life tonight' cuz ur still going out intending to meet people anyway.
you do you and you do whats fun. externalize those hobbies where possible (most any hobby at least has a group of people that want to meet up and talk about it) and enjoy.
Alright so soon I'm going to start university (college) and i really can't wait, the problem is my girlfriend is coming with me so I'm worried about being able to do what I want when I want. Anyone here been through this with their partners?
>what i want when i want.
you mean like going to parties and having sex with other girls?
>>17126784
No like making friends that I like. Not that WE like.
>>17126788
that will be an issue. you'll decide whats more important sooner or later. personally i prefer independence. especially at such a young phase in life.
How do I find something that interests me? I'm 18 and soon I'll have to find a job.
Nothing catches my eye. Not only in terms of jobs - I don't have any personal passions or interests. The only thing I love is gaining knowledge about everything, but I'm always too lazy to get deep into any particular thing.
I tried everything.
>sports
Only skiing and snowboard are fun, but I can't do it whenever I want. Especially in my country.
>books
I get bored after two or three...
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>>17126747
>what should I do?
>I tried everything!
>proceeds to list only the most basic entry level hobbies
wow.
>>17126756
>I'd cont but text limit
I tried shit like parachute jumping, scuba diving and a lot of other stuff.
Gonna try BASE jumping whenever I'll have an occasion
my advice is to not be lazy.
What do I need to rent a car in the US besides a license?
a car
>>17126731
A credit card. Most rental agencies won't even take a debit card.
That's really about it.
>>17126732
>rent a car
Are you some kind of fabulous retard?
I think this girl is leading me on, and I want to start drinking again.
I met her in therapy, and I'm afraid that the standard tumblr-esque, overly ecstatic support from all the group members is pity.
I'm also hoping that whatever the case is with the leading-on, she wants to be friends and has good intentions towards me...That hope about good intentions in people kind of died a while ago, despite the fact I make a pretty consistent effort to help others.
We're on good terms, and supposed to do cool things very soon, but I have a fair amount...
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Quit thinking with your dick and find someone who can support you once you know how to actually support yourself.
>>17126735
>quit thinking with your dick
you mean behaving on behalf of my dick, right?
>support yourself
I'm not calling loneliness supporting myself anymore
>>17126720
Keep your distance anon, this bitch is expecting to see how you'll react.
(I am a guy) So i have had the same best friend since middle school. That friend happens to be a girl. I recently complained to her that my gf was not being affectionate enough, and she basically said
>tell me how you want her to act, i will act that way, it will make her jealous and she will try to do the same
And so we have been doint that, and it works perfectly, but i have been sort of feeling bad. Is it wrong i an letting my best friend make my girl friend jealous so that she will be more affectionate?
I say no my girlfriend isn't affectionate either and its really painful to see everybody else's gf being extremely affectionate while mine barely aknowledges me even thought I'm trying to be affectionate myself.
The fact that you're asking means that you know it's wrong.
>>17126675
Alright, i will admit that. I do feel bad about it, but i am only doing it to bond with my gf more. So i dont know if it is a necessary evil kind of thing.
pic unrelated
So I plan on giving in my laptop, iPad and smartphone and gonna start using a regular nokia phone to completly cut off myself from the internet.
Did anybody do this? What are some expected effects?
>i'm the average anon who spends more than 8 hours online
>>17126639
expect to be bored if you dont already have a plan for how to spend your time. a lot of people act like getting rid of their tech will magically teleport them to a pile of hot girls at a bar.
have a plan. but also, why are you even doing this
>>17126662
I'm doing this because of my excessive internet use.
But thanks for the tip. I'll try to make myself some sort of journal/agenda so I'll have something to do everyday.
>>17126673
the problem with excessive use is that if you had something better to do, you'd do it. you need a productive hobby to invest yourself in in my opinion.
consider taking other little things you do and reverse engineering them. for instance, like vidyah? design a video game. like comics? draw one? like books? write one. watching sports? play one. think of what you like and reverse engineer it.
use the internet as a resource if you need.
I'm in deep shit /adv/
So I've somehow started dating the girl of my dreams and we've been going out for several months l. She's been really busy the entire time with things like school and work and whenever I'm like with her she doesn't really pay attention to me. I know it's normally the other way around but whatever. So I've also been really depressed recently for multiple reasons and I've just wanted to spend time with her but like I said she's always busy so she can't and whenever that happens I just get really angry...
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>>17126633
too bad she doesnt like you get over it.
Best thing to do op give her her space to think. You've done enough don't add more into the turmoil cause you giving her more of a reason to stay away from you. Give her space and in return shell come back. Stop being in fear and trust her. If you love her so much accept the schedual she is the honey moon phase is over stop forcing things. Let her breathe so she'll give you answer and she'll come back to you. Trust her learn it
ya that's one of the things I was thinking of doing but I also thought that it might lead her to think that I'm ignoring her instead.
>Went from top in class to Failing every single one of my classes
>I am now recomended for Therapy
Can my teachers even do this? Or is this some bullcrap and my parents recommended it and are saying my teachers did to get me to go
What do? Good ways to troll a person who gets payd to listen to tumblerinas?
I'm not wasting my motherfucking time in fucking Therapy, I just started working out too, I don't have time for this crap.
>>17126626
You sound like a loser and it would probably do you some good. If you're asking for /adv/ you're about one step removed from a tumblrina yourself.
>>17126635
I'm mainly only asked to know if my parents are just lying and they asked for the Therapy themselves or if teachers can legitimately do this.
>>17126646
You sound like you're in high school? Either way they'd need your parents' permission.
So I just finished a job interview at a bar. I applied to be a cook.
The interview was very odd to me. When I go there, we shook hands introduced ourselves normally, Then, he asked me how much I wanted to work, time available to start, times preferred to work, and asked about pay.
After that, he basically just gave me a rundown of the job. Told me it was fairly easy, and that as long as I showed up and was willing to work any part of the kitchen I'd be good. He said it was a pretty laid back place.
Then he asked if I had any questions, told me he'd...
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>>17126596
That usually means they're desperate. They'll take anybody.
Hate to say this but most likely he already has decided who to hire. Guy gave you the interview out of courtesy.
>>17126596
>I applied to be a cuck.
Mate, you read the application wrong...
i have the chance to fuck a woman i met on tinder. she's 33, a bit on the ugly side,
should i give her the D or wait? i've been single for a year now
If she's ugly you'd have more luck fucking a stripper or a prostetute.
>>17126589
we don't have strippers here, most of the prostitutes (the good ones) are super expensive. the cheap ones are landwhales
>>17126573
>a bit on the ugly side
How ugly we talking here? If she's butt ugly and you're just after the pussy you're better off getting an escort.
I have met a girl at uni and I think she likes me. Today was the 2nd time we sat next to each other during class. We also walked to the bus station together. She is overweight and at least 10cm smaller than me. Her body is a 4~5/10 at best. Her face is 6/10.
I want to keep this acquaintance on a professional level a.k.a. friendzone her BUT wouldn't mind if she would like to suck my dick and lets me play with her small tits. I am not romantically interested in her.
How do I get her to suck my dick without putting too much effort into this acquaintance?
>>17126571
Ask her how much for a blow job. Don't beat around the bush if you don't want a LTR.
>>17126571
>be overweight
>have small tits
I feel sorry for these women.
>>17126571
Mention in a random convo that "oh *thing* me and my girlfriend love to do that!"
I once had an extremely fast metabolism and could eat whatever i wanted with no worries about weight or anything, and i'd still look anorexic. I used to get called a concentration camp survivor because i had really long air and looked extremely frail. Then, my metabolism slowed down but my consumption of junk food did not, and in the last year I've gained close to 30 pounds and i have a huge gut and I'm starting to get a double chin. I want to lose this weight but i seriously don't know how to, because i cannot exercise due to a herniated disc i got while...
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>>17126554
You have to change your diet. Stop eating so much garbage. Start cooking your own healthy meals and have a calorie deficit every day. You will lose weight. Also don't drink anything other than water. If you feel the need to eat badly you can allow yourself one cheat meal per week and still get results. Other than the cheat meal though don't drink any liquid calories.
>>17126572
Is a cup of coffee a day okay? I'm addicted to caffeine really badly.
And also, what constitutes a healthy meal? Basically just nothing fried/no fast food/no fat?
>>17126582
Like home cooked. No pre-packaged, frozen, or fast-food. Not sure about coffee since I have never been a coffee drinker. It might be fine if it doesn't have too many calories.
So my mom always used to say, "You can't know until you try" and you're allowed to eat people in my country so I figured why not give it a shot?
>>17126544
Can I ask you which country have legal cannibalism?
South Africa.
How will you accomplish this
