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>ended a 5 year relationship i know was bad for me
>love was never fully reciprocated
>felt like shit most of the time but accepted the way things were
>2 weeks passed and i am regretting my decision and want back
>cant put myself together or do anything
>get all the attention at uni and great supportive friends
>still feel like garbage
What the fuck do I do
>>17128012
1. cut contact.
2. hit the gym.
3. focus in yourself
4. don't talk to anyone about her, she doesn't matter anymore.
5. try new things
>>17128012
It's normal OP, two weeks the wound is still fresh just DO NOT GO BACK TO THE PERSON.
I say you are allowed a brief amount of time to feel like shit since your relationship lasted 5 years and it seems to be one that greatly affected you negatively during it.
You say you have supportive friends, my advice is together and have a night out or hang out if some fashion. Go work out or run or even find a new hobby. Go anything that can get your mind off the relationship. It won't be easy but if you are persistent in doing activities it will fade and you can get back into the dating game.
My relationship wasn't as long as yours, but I feel your pain. Get out of the house. Be with friends or even random people. If you are alone, those thoughts will creep into your mind and destory you. Im sure there are people ready to help ya. If they aren't, well... we are here at least.
How do you travel the world?
If only there was some kind of board for travel...
Google Maps
>>17127991
Be rich, work at an airline or on a cruise ship or become a traveling package delivery person :D
I like this girl and I've been trying to take your guys advice and compliment her and I was planning on asking her out on a date tonight.
> be in class
> we're talking a lot
> she's excited about this edm festival that we're both going to
> prof gives us a 10 min break
> she asks me if I want to go with her to starbucks
> I say sure
> another girl chimes in and says she wants go too
> cockblocked
> we end up leaving the class together
> break off from the cockblockers and walk back to her apartment (its on the way back to mine)
> she brings up how this dude texted her saying that he wants to talk about something
> she doesn't want to deal with him cause it sounds way too serious
> she says that she wouldnt want him say that he has feelings for her cause he's her friend and she doesn't wanna deal with that
> fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuug I was literally going to do the exact thing he was gonna do
> I ask her if she friend zoned him
> she says 100%
> she asks me what she should do
> I tell her to let the guy down easy, but be clear that she doesn't like him at all
> fuck that dude, I aint letting another guy date her before I do
> end up not asking her on a date, or telling her that she looked pretty that night
> thought it would have been kind of weird if I did
my questions are:
> Did I make the right decision to not ask her out and compliment her?
> should I have asked (jokingly, but actually seriously) if I was in the friend zone too?
I'm pretty certain that she likes me
Yes you made the wrong decision.
Yes you should have. Ask her the fuck out. If she wigs out then she isn't worth your time anyway. The fact that you took the time to post this tells enough. You know what the answer is already. Just ask her the fuck out.
People need to stop putting so much thought into this sort of stuff. Just ask her out.
>>17128033
but wouldnt it have been weird?
she spent so much time saying how she didnt want a guy to tell her that he had feelings for her and how she friend zoned him and how she didnt want to deal with that stuff
I am confuse
>>17127984
She was clearly trying to tell you that she's not interested. You're the guy she's talking about, OP.
Hi /adv/visers
Have any of you guys asked for a reference letter from your professor?
Honestly if I could I would personally ask my professor but the campus is like a 2 hour flight away and I'm home for the month. Stupid thing is I lost her email address but I do have her on Facebook. Is it too rude to just message her on facebook and ask for a reference?
i don't care about your shitty post i just want to say gud taste in music senpai
I'll send the message anon. explaining exactly what you wrote here
Look for her email on the college website. It should have her contact information
>work with cute shy girl
>she seems interested and I'm quitting soon
>tells me I should be on snl, I make her laugh at work all the time, heard she thought I was hot thru grapevine
>go on one hang out date at a local art and music thing
>goes pretty well but she opened up in bursts maybe twice and then was shy and is addicted to her phone
>doesn't reply to my second date offer
>ok, so I just don't press the issue, joke at work so it doesn't get awkward
>couple weeks go by
>work with her this morning
>I go to get a ladder
>she scurries over and grabs it first
>sets it up in front of me
>is wearing leggings
>climbs it so I hand her the stuff even though I'm 6'2" and she's 5' and can still barely reach
>her ass is in my face
I found out when we hung out that she's never had a boyfriend because she's so shy. This act seemed really contrived, does she want me to ask her out again?
probably. why not?
Because she was on her phone and didn't want a second date I'd say she wasn't interested. The thing about the latter is just us guys trying to overanalyze different situations to make it look like it's in our favor or not.
But because you're quitting it wouldn't hurt to ask again. So go ahead. If she says no you'll never see her again so who cares amirite
>>17128032
She's on her phone all the time, she's 19 and addicted to that shit. Even at work she sneaks in glances.
So, long story short, I need to get revenge on someone.
I have skype, phone number, address, ID card, credit card and photos, videos etc.
This person was really greedy and basically an asshole to me, I was stupid to be so trusting but either way, here we are.
Anyone got ideas what to do?
Or know the risks involved in using certains part of the information I have?
Or maybe want it for themselves to sell on that there deeper webs.
This what you do.
Take credit card info, buy 1500$ worth of 12" dildos. Ship them to his/her place of work. Buy 5 cases of 24 can monster energy
Leave a can randomly one day for 5 months. Feed anthrax to a pet
dont mess with the credit card, as that belongs to the bank and trust me, those mothefuckers will get you smoked, as for the rest of the stuff you have... think about it.. do you really wanna do this? if so: spread his info here and everywhere you can, just quote stuff like:"disgusting human" or something like that.
I guess give out his phone number to telemarketers and address to every spam mail you can think of
But beyond that, using that stuff will just get you into serious trouble
Going to the doc this Wednesday bc of depression
probably going to be put on meds
What do they feel like once you start taking them? I'd want them to make me feel like an emotionless zombie. Is this possible?
I took Wellbutrin, which is a pretty mild antidepressant, especially in the doses I was taking. It was awesome, I barely felt different from a personality standpoint, but I didn't feel as much impending doom. Plus you have less appetite so you don't get fat and it helps you get drunk faster.
>>17127931
Interesting, but I would want something stronger and I wouldn't want to have less of an appetite bc I'm already skinny as it is.
They range greatly depending on the person, what kind of meds, what dosage and if they're combined with any other meds.
I'm on prozac and effexor but it took a good 5 or so tries and a year or two before I found this combination that really worked for me. I don't feel emotionless but it stops me from getting really randomly depressed. Keeps me a baseline that ranges from content to happy. Side effects are it takes longer to cum, and it's even used as an EDF treatment, which my gf loves cause I can last basically as long as I want to. Worst side-effects I had was when I tried Zoloft. It made me super spiteful and angry.
My advice: Try it with an open mind and be patient. Communicate with your doctor and please don't think you know better and start self-prescribing. So many people stop taking them abrubtly, or cut 'em in half, etc. And it fucks you up. Also you might think "I feel great after taking these for X months, guess I don't need 'em anymore!". Don't do this. If you want off, tell your doctor.
ITT- How not to be a betafag when saying "I love you"
Try being over the age of 18
I hate this type of overly violent humor.
Incredibly unfunny and just cringeworthy, on par with *teleports behind you*
>>17127878
"you are alright senpai"
Trying weed for the first time, any advice?
>>17127860
Don't. It has a bad effect on some people.
>>17127860
how are you ingesting it?
Smoking it in a spliff
I'm a aspiring producer. I fell in love with my music when I was really young and now I want to pursue my passion as a career but I am always so nervous to put my stuff out there. When I'm making my music I feel amazing but after I'm done, I hate the song I just made, and when I muster the confidence to put my music on there, I just want to take it down and give up. I don't know why I feel like this even though people say they like my music. Do you guys know how I can stop being so hard on myself?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwfhH8yDZQo
>>17127799
>i'm an aspiring _____
>do you guys know how I can stop being so hard on myself
so you haven't done anything worthwhile and have motivation issues, got it.
you're never going to make it. Give up now.
try posting your stuff to a website anonymously. if you get good feedback, maybe start giving your own name credit, but it can be more comfortable until then to use an alias
Is being "sophisticated" seen as feminine or something? Since I was a kid I fenced, read books and played classical music. I feel like girls are imposed by me, and when I asked them out they would just want to remain friends. I'm not necessarily bullied, but I feel alienated. No one really talks to me or invites me to parties or anything like that. I was even told numerously that I spoke "overly proper". I'm leaving high school now for college. How do I not be a total fucking loser in college?
>>17127798
It's a spook m8. Do you enjoy these things? Then keep doing them. There's also a thread about being manly in the catalog right now
>>17127801
So I can just calk it up to unfortunate encounters with girls then? I'm 6 feet and told I'm handsome on a few occasions. I'll take a look there though, thanks.
Bumpo for more opinions
So I'm heading off to travel the world thanks to my job. The thing is that I'm leavin my girlfriend back at home. I'll miss very important dates like her birthday. ( I'll be abe to comunicate very little)
I want to do something special like making a video that she can watch to start off the day or maybe have her open 1 present each month that I'm not with her.
I have 4 weeks any ideas?
>inb4 dildo
>>17127777
Just facetime a lot and visit as much as you can. In all likelihood you'll end up single if you have to resort to cute bullshit to try to distract her.
>>17127810
visiting is pretty hard. fom june to january ill have about 43 days where I will be able to reach her
Never had one, turned 18, handholdless virgin, and I'm giving up hope because I always get turned down or rejected
Pls
>>17127720
Get one
>>17127780
I'm trying dude
i know this is very common around here..
ive never had a gf, my dad left me when i was around 13(never seen him since), my friends moved to different countries, i feel so bad, im shaking as i write this, i truly wanna die... whats the best way to do it? or what can i do to ease this pain ive been feeling for almost 5 years now?...
>>17127713
How old are you?
lostallhope.com
but really what you have is depression and it's very common and very treatable by the right medical professional.
>>17127728
im 19yo
>recently start talking to fairly well known person from 4chan
>things were shaky for a bit, decide to do my best to make them better
>she is worried i speak to other girls, i do but when I do I'm speaking to them ABOUT HER, have zero interest in the other girls
>literally only interested in her because trying to make anything real or meaningful with more than one person at a time is degenerate
>not officially together, but under no circumstance could you argue i was unfaithful
>she has to be gone for the weekend (no not some skiing trip with chad, too young for that, mothers day related stuff)
>bit of a fight friday night because combination of me hiding things from her, her being demanding
>in my defence, the things i was hiding were things about how shes wormed her way into my head and im afraid im becoming attached too quickly
>in her defence, i was quite literally hiding things
>take EXTREMELY large doses of xanax friday, saturday, and sunday night
>friday to work up courage to be honest with her, because if i want to be serious a relationship can not be founded upon lies
>saturday and last night were literally to make me numb because I actually miss her
>past 10pm where she, bit past 9m here
>monday
>she should be back
>can think of one situation where she has a legitimate reason to not have been in contact with me
>other situations means she played me like fiddle
>panic attacks and physically shaking, probably combination of xanax withdrawal and anxiety
how would any of you handle this? what do you do when youre anticipating a message from her literally every second but it never comes so you never get a reprieve?
You're crazy.
>>17127706
i know, but so is she, in just the right way, which is why im attracted to her
>>17127702
Was it boxxy? I don't have an answer.for you, OP. I'm a girl so when I want an answer I can blow up a man's phone all day and no one gives a fuk. Maybe go on tinder or play some Xbox live?
