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Im a 22 yr old virgin and recently got a gf.Shes is really hot like a 8/10 but the problem is i cant get hard when we try to have sex. As soon as im getting my clothes off erection disapears. Im a fucking sensitive pussy because my heart starts to beat so fast and i get really nervous.We tried like 5 times and she knows im a virgin...Do any of you had the same problem during their 1st time? How can i stop being so nervous i literally start to shake when im getting my clothes off .She is really understanding and has no problem that im a virgin but i feel that a hot girl like her will leave me if this shit gonna go on
>>17125878
Hi OP.
You have tried 5 times and she has not left you yet, this should be a sufficient confirmation that she likes you and won't leave you. Although it is hard, stop worrying about it and try to enjoy her and yourself. How long have you been dating?
>>17125878
Nice lying OP. Its pretty weird that a 8/10 chick can't get your dick hard
>>17125939
dude im hard as fuck while we are making out but as soon as the clothes start to go off the anxiety kicks in and i lose it
How do I study for the driver's permit exam? I took once before in high school and failed with a 36(need 40 to pass).
>>17125872
Bump
>>17125872
>read the book
>take online tests
>ask someone to read the book and ask questions from the book itself so you get the exact information from the book
>go in
>take test
>fail
>study more
>retake test
>pass
>???
>profit
We (depressed people and shit) have all felt it at least once.
The fucking bottom.
Some nights, some days, sometimes.
I am not here to tell my life story or whatever, but can you tell me, when you feel like absolute shit, what do you do.
No bullshit, just, when, right now, it's the worst. What is your little thing to get past this feeling. To let time go until it goes bearable again?
Let us share our little spark.
>>17125792
I have the perfect cure for this, works ever time.
>not being depressed
Try it, shit's cash.
Escapism, usually. Works like meditation in that it takes you away from toxic thinking for a while, and puts you in a better state of mind when you return to said thoughts. The only caveat being that this can lead to too much escapism. If you're in this vicious cycle seek professional help and medication right away.
Dark Souls 3 makes for a good distraction. Maybe pick up a copy of Game of Thrones, or watch some shitty videos on the youtube, like Howard Stern TV.
>>17125792
Usually if I have a particularly bad bout of anxiety or w/e, I just try my best to take responsibility for whatever happened and think about how whatever's causing me grief won't change who I am.
For example, right now I'm really stressed out about a term paper that I have due on Wednesday. I'm probably not going to do well on it, because I haven't done shit yet, so I probably won't end up doing well in the class. I've been an A student for my entire life, and it feels really shitty to have that taken from me, because that's a huge part of my identity.
Herein lies the problem: nothing was taken from me. I've earned the crappy grade that I'm probably going to get on this paper, because my decisions are what led me to my current predicament. It feels better to know that you're in control, even if you went full retard, because at least then you can start adopting a mindset that'll be more productive going forward. You'll be more concerned with correctly controlling your own behavior rather than worrying about how others will react to your behavior.
That said, even if taking the class was a total loss, my identity will still be pretty much intact. The only things that I give a shit about in this life are my hobbies and My People. None of my friends or family members (My People) are going to suddenly start thinking less of me because I did a shitty job on one paper (or every paper) in college, because I'm a lot more than just a student. Doing badly in school in general won't be enough to keep me from pursuing my hobbies and new relationships if that's what I want to do.
If you're depressed because of an illness or something that's out of your control, then this obviously isn't going to apply to you. If that's the case, however, you should just try and find comfort in the fact that whatever happened to you was completely out of your control. Think about how you can move forward rather than dwelling on what you might've lost/could potentially lose.
Just got out of my first break up and haven't fully moved on, posted a thread about it yesterday and it seemed like a few people took interest. I am past the hardest part after 2 weeks. If anyone is going through anything similar and wants to know how I came to terms and what steps I have taken to find myself I am an open book. Helping others makes me feel great so if you have any questions or want any advice ask away.
What would you say are the best things you can do to preoccupy yourself. So you don't end up thinking about them
>>17125766
I was with a girl for almost 7 years. She was my first love, lost my virginity to her, lots of firsts with her. It honestly took me a few years to really get over her. In the meantime I kept myself busy, joined a common interest religious activity once a week, made new friends, met some really decent people.
Don't get me wrong, I'd had trouble eating, sleeping for almost a year. It was one of the crappiest periods for me, although I've had other ones. Just the feeling of a part of you being ripped away takes time to recover.
Why did Disney let a creepy virgin kill han solo?
Hello all I really need help I dont know what the fuck to do right now. I am having a mid life crisis, I think.. I'm tearing up trying to type this. I don't know what I'm going to do in life. I need help guide understanding. I have a job and I like it however not sure how long it will last? I didn't go to college. I hate to study my ADD it too wild when I try to study. I have a decent life however I'm freaking out because of a girl. I know she likes me we hung out before and it got wild. Since that day all I can think of her her her her. Like what if things work out? I like her a lot. My friends are saying ride the lighting but I know lighting has an end and don't want to see it that way. She's smart, kind, lovely and know what she wants in life and then I look at me... I'm a cluster. I feel bad for her... I'm a hard woker but I feel like I have nothing.... I always wanted to know what love was but now I'm afraid to.. anyone's been on this same boat?
So I guess thats why I'm here I need some advice from couples if possible or someone been in a serious relationship, and some guidance on life.
I guess its more like im comfortable in life and the water is rippling and not sure how I feel...
>>17125748
How old are you ?
RIDE THE LIGHTNING
my girlfriend is chinese, born in china and lived there for ~20ish years until heading abroad to the west for university
I really fucking love her, she is amazing and ridiculously intelligent/attractive
I found out that when she was in china, she was with a parasitic expat who basically used her like a sex toy, leading her on and making her love him even though she knew he would never love him back, while he also used other women
he pretty much went nuclear on her and I know there's not really any way she could resist him due to chinese culture not teaching good sexual practices and proper self-respect and restraint.
she was desperate to have western interaction due to her interest with the west and lack of companionship who understood her and who were interesting to her since all the people around here were steeped in stifling chinese culture
he was much older, maybe 40 while she was 20, had money like she wasn't used to, and he treated her to things in exchange for sex
do you guys think its unreasonable for me to be bothered by this, or is it something that is excusable because of all the cultural and situational issues
thinking about him fucking her and using her disgusts me but I don't know how she could have resisted it
I am sorry for the news but I think that she is already broken girl you should move on.
>>17125695
Your bitch a ho nigga!
And you vouchin fo dat ho!
Damn nigga!
>>17125695
>but I don't know how she could have resisted it
Bait
How do I stop hating myself? Everywhere I look just gives the same positive thinking bullshit that just makes me feel worse because I know it's a lie.
>>17125679
You could start by not posting anime pics anymore. Everyone hates weebs, even themselves.
>>17125679
>Everywhere I look just gives the same positive thinking bullshit
Because that's how you stop hating yourself? It's very simple, just think positive until it becomes default. Right now negativity towards yourself is the default mindset.
>>17125895
But I've tried it and it makes me feel a lot worse, not better. It doesn't work at all.
I dont know what to do with my girlfriend. Shes too sexual for me, always wanting sex or to give me blowjobs while I'm trying to play my games.
I'm happy with sex once every 2 weeks or so and just fapping in between but she wants to have sex once a day and it's getting annoying.
I dont know what to do about it, I've talked to her about it and she puts it back onto me wanking instead of having sex with her. Is it actually a big deal? I love her but i dont know if I can keep doing this. We've been together a year and a half.
Not sure if bait...
>>17125682
Its not, I really dont know how to get past this
>>17125689
Then I think it's time to split. Not because you or her are bad people or anything but you guys aren't compatible.
Do you want to find out she cheated on you because she wasn't satissfied?
I'm your typical autismo neet and I'm honestly done.
my life is dlank meming and smoking weed in my room living off my parents money.
I cant go outside to socialize with people to find a connect so I buy my weed off the darknet.
the guy I buy from sells a shit ton of other drugs. Everything from speed to dmt.
The one thing that really interests me is the skag.
I haven't been happy in years and i feel like this is the only way i ever will again.
Why shouldn't I just buy heroin and truly give up?
I've bought xanax from them and it was stronger than the shit I'm prescribed so I'm sure the heroin would be pure.
Are there any downsides to heroin other than addiction?
Heroin doesn't make people happy for very long friend.
Just overdose
The highs are nice but the lows are debilitatingly low. It won't improve things.
Where I work there is a 19 year old employee trying to get with a 15 year old employee. I myself think that this is wrong. And it's illegal where I live. Is this something I should intervene on? I let one of my mangers know and she said keep an eye out
>>17125671
Let people live their lives you fucking autist. Don't you have better things to do? What if the guy was one year younger? Would your panties still be all twisted up in a self righteous knot? Get a life
>>17125671
How about minding your own business?
>>17125671
Do it OP fucking wreck him, you didn't have a good life why should the youth of today have one. Bonus points if you can get him on a sex offender list.
How do I stop eating food all the time?
Keep less food around so you can't just eat automatically out of boredom. Eat less calorie dense foods like vegetables to fill yourself up.
>>17125654
Don't buy unhealthy food, make it unnavailable to you. Get 5 portions of fruit and veg a day so you have less of an apoetite for junk food
This is going to sound stupidly obvious but i'm gonna tell ya what worked for yours truly.
Every time you're about to eat something, STOP and ask yourself if you're..
A. actually hungry?
B. is it good for you?
Any medfags on?
I regularly get really dizzy and often fall over. My vision generally blurs or goes completely black. Lately the spells have been getting worse, and my mouth or face tingles and feels warm.
I've talked to my doctor about it, and got the "drink more water" advice, but it's not working. I'm on some medications that might be contributing, but I can't go off of them. The meds are for bipolar disorder, psychosis, anxiety, and OCD. I've also had my brain scanned recently after having stroke-like symptoms, and came back with a clean bill of health.
So aside from drinking more water, is there anything I can do to prevent myself from fainting/falling? I've gotten really good at catching myself and falling into a sitting position, but I'd love it if it happened less often. I talk to my doctor again in a few days.
I didn't have a related picture.
See a different doctor because that one is clearly retarded.
Sounds like something I share with my brother
Low blood pressure
Eat more salt
>>17125625
Well, she screened me for stroke and MS. She said that MS was her main concern, but I came up totally clean. We discussed going off of my meds, but decided they were too necessary. I might discuss switching meds at this next visit.
hi . is it normal that i feel really turned on by posting my gf hot pics here. sometimes we spend time on Omegle and i also feel turned on when she show tits to someone or similar things. we could never cheat on each other and we have nice and long relationship but i don't know why that turns me on and makes my dick hard. btw, sex is exelent and i'm generaly jalouse person (and it's not my gf in the related pic.)
Don't know if it's normal, but I do get that. Sounds hot af.
>>17125602
100% bait, but I'd still fuck her until she cries.
>>17125605
it is, when someone starts jerking on her and and know that he wants to fuck her badly my cock explodes
Hi /adv/.
Saturday night i hooked up with a cool, foreign girl after being introduced to her at a pub. We ended up having lovely sex all night and morning, smoking weed and talking. For me it was really special, i've never experienced these feelings during and after a one-night stand. We talked a lot, laughed, kissed, and i felt really good in her company. Two days later i still get butterflies thinking about her, i'm not really sure what it is. She's a really free spirit and i'm by nature somewhat shy, and i'm wondering wether that could(or should) be an issue. I felt this really great connection to her and i'm wondering if there's some way I could find out if she felt that too, without asking her. She seemed to like my company too, but how could i better tell if that was the case? Sorry if i'm rambling a bit, but I just really need to come to terms with this, i'm not really used to these emotions. Any answer would help :)
the feeling will go away after some time or after a fap
Anon you have to ask her first. If she's into you she will say it if it was a one-time thing she'll tell you.
Sucks I had one. She was my first talked chilled and then as fast as it happened she forgot about it. I felt used after that a girl told me "there is no true love" I'll prove that slut...
>>17125745
maybe, but I kinda hope not.
>>17125826
defender of the faith, good for you. I'm scared shitless of the thought of asking her :(
I'm 20. I have a good job that leaves me room to advance and pays well. There's an equal number of women/men. They're all of the same culture, background, etc and I always feel left out.
One day one of the guys noticed me and invited me out after work. We had sex. It was a mistake and I wish I didn't. But I liked the company, because I don't have many friends. Then a few nights later another coworker offered me a ride home and out of no where started to kiss me and rub me. It was really awkward and uncomfortable but I didn't say anything. Now even more of the guys will talk about me and blow me kisses and all that. And the girls give me stares.
I just want to be left alone and I feel really depressed. But this is a very good job for me.
I want to die. I don't know what to do.
Holy shit that second guy sounds like a total creep. You should have blackened his eye at least. Wew lad.
>people treat me a certain way because of my actions
Golly gee, who would have though that?
>>17125557
Either keep being seen like a whore ot get another job and don't fuck up this time. Sorry but no matter what you do now, it's way too late to save your image.
