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Ignore her, you don't owe her anything.

If she threatens to kill you or something that's when you have to stop ignoring her and report her to the police. Either way though, don't even acknowedge her

>>17124981
thank you most of the advice i got is just ignore her for a month at least, the only thing is i do care about her she is week and i just have to stop from feeling guilt of ending things with really bad words she always threw her bad words and shit in my face i did it on the last msg, i always left a door for her to come back and text me because she is like a kitten you need to guide her she needed my advice in many ocasions but after she left and met other guys who treated her bad she becomes a bad person again i should not feel guilty about what i did, shes a psycho she always blamed me and called me a cheater while she did it many times and i never met another girl since i knew her, she says am a loser while i lead a successful life and shes a mess, shes says everything she is but say it to me, it have been a very unhealthy relationship, i know, even thought shes a bad person , i still dont want to hurt her somehow

It's not that because she's a "cheater and a liar" that you should ignore her. You should ignore her because she is obviously trying to bait you into some kind of stupid argument or a fight and there is no need for that kind of drama.

If she is baiting hard enough to send pics like that through a cousin, you could simply post a non-directed ambiguous facebook message basically saying "let's end this in peace", it will reach her, and how she reacts to that from that point onwards you can wash your hands of.

youre a nice guy arent you?

>>17124914
I mean I love her
Is that sarcastic?

Don't be friends, move on with your life and find someone new to fall in love with

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>>17124908
Thanks mate

>>17124863

>should i feel upset

does it matter? you either do or you dont. you say you feel horrible. there is some conflict becuase you do get that ego boost but you are leaning towards feeling bad.

so yes, feel bad. you werent strong enough to say no. but neither was he.

the best you can do in my opinion is find him, talk to him, apologize for what happened and try to dig into their relationship, see if hes just unhappy about this or things with her in general. then just comfort him, explain that he doesnt have to marry her if he doesnt want to and maybe they rushed into or settled into this instead of really wanting this, and the threesome was proof of that.

say you love him to death and only did the threesome cuz it was for him, and hes your best friend and wanted to share that exciting albeit totally weird 'no homo' moment with him. say you understand if he needs his space but you're his best friend and you hope to stay that way for life, and you'll support him no matter what he chooses.

then let him choose. and maybe suck his dick too so he can understand why his girlfriend loved your mouth so much.

>>17124876
Solid advice, but where did you get the mouth part I didn't go down on her at all. If I'm gonna suck dick it would have to be a super good looking successful guy that looks and acts like Ryan Reynolds with an footlongs.

>>17124884

i was just making a joke.

>ryan reynolds

i know that feel.

what advice are you looking for exactly?

My mother died of cancer too.

Same thing happened to me at first.

It will eventually hit you hard and cripple you for months and then completely change your personality forever

Everything about life becomes a shade duller after your parents pass

Spend as much time with her as possible while you still can

>>17124837

do you live with her? if not how long have you been living on your own? how often do you visit her?

>>17124833
>whenever I go to actually talk to them, they're annoying as fuck
I've got bad news for you if you think going after regular busty blondes is going to fix that...

>>17124833

do you find busty blonds to be inherently/generally appealing personality wise?

I personally think you are stereotyping a little too much. i have too. i am intimidated anytime someone too muscular seems to be into me cuz i cant imagine them wanting a skinny little dude like me, but it does happen regularly. a majority of them wont give me the time of day. some will chase me. its weird.

point is that not all blondes are just nice and into you. not all androgynous girls are rude and hate you. perhaps the biggest issue with your thread is that it operates under the assumption that you are hella desirable, and that one type of woman just happens to be cunts, and the other just happens to be 'ugly' to you.

is this true? can you post a pic to lend it any validity? or maybe you can just admit that the real issue is you are just like everyone else, a normal perhaps slightly above average lookign guy and girls in general wont give you the time of day.

regardless of your type, you have to play the field. going for hot busty blonds wont give you anymore success than tumblrinas. so keep hitting on tumblrinas til one has that strange spark of chemistry with you

>>17124847
I often find the regular girls that I'm not really attracted to are actually way easier to talk to. I guess I don't mean busty blonds in the literal sense but just as a representation of regular girls as opposed to tumblrinas. I also wouldn't say I'm above average. I'm slightly overweight but don't have a bad looking face. I'm a 6/10 on a good day. You're most likely right though and I just had bad experiences

>>17124824

time and distractions. consider looking at porn of men who do not look like your brother.

>things that never happened.txt

>rape

>>17124760
do your parents really want you to end your life? furthermore, if you don't get college, you can step up the ladder through hard work.

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>>17124760

>be 18
>kill myself if i score low on a test i can retake

i dont have a good enough reaction image for this. pepe will have to do.

>litearlly the only thing i have going for me is my grades

and in 3 months your grades will mean almost nothing. i mean its may, and assuming you are 'smart' you've already applied to college. you choose which SAT results get sent out and can retake it if you want. you're threatening to kill yourself over a test you probably did fine on.

>i suck in social situations

today. but in terms of social situations being an 18 year old in highschool is to us like being a 4 year old scared of preschool is for you.

highschool has so little to do with the real world its actually terrifying that its considered important in any sense. there are no prom queens in the office.

>only have a few friends who actually care about me

ONLY A FEW? AS OPPOSED TO THE MILLIONS AND MILLIONS THAT GENUINELY CARE ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE?

thats how dumb you sound. again, highschool. in 4 years you might be good friends wiht one of your friends on facebook. if oyu're smart you'll have gone to college or a legitimate career opportunity and have left your friends in the past.

>need at least a 1300 to get a scholarship

again, im sure you will do fine, but agian, you can retake.

>my family is poor so if i dont get a scholarship im basicallyfucked for college

arent you supposed to be smart? if you managed to absolutely do abysmally bad at this SAT business you can find other ways to do well in the world, and even get to college. there are options. just combine smart with hard working and you'll conquer the world.

>>17124760
>>17124789
>the one hting my parents wanted me to do

stop caring what your parents wnat you to do and what hoops they expect you to jump through. you're 18. you are about to learn that your own happiness is the key to a happy life. going to college on scholarship may do that. but doing it just cuz its what oyur aprents want wont.

my dad hates what ive ended up doing with the last two years of my life. but i like what i do and im damn good at it, so fuck him.

>id rahter kill myself than be a failed child

killing yourself is a guranteed fail. re taking hte test or just finding a different path to happiness is not.

there are also lots of other scholarships out there. the world doesn't revolve around this SAT score. if you are taking it so seriously then you should have studied harder. and if you studied hard enough you shouldnt be taking it this seriously.

you're not gonna kys. chill dude.

Yes it's shitty. Be patient

>>17124741

if your wife is okay with it, its fine.

if your wife isn't okay with it, its not fine. if you are keeping it a secret from her, then you know its not fine.

>porn doesn't do it for me anymore

yes it does. if you can cum, you're fine. yes you want more, but you'll always want more. despite this you could still just masturbate to porn for the rest of your life.

there will be frustration. there is always frustration. decide now whats more important.

>>17124745
Just keep watching porn? Gets boring and tiring, miss having that spark per se.

If you're really that worried just get tested. It's unlikely that you have HIV unless she's like a mega whore. (I'm talking about someone who has slept with 50+ people.) However, you could have been in contact with bacterial stds that can be gotten rid of, but oral stds are rare. Just go to the health department and get tested to make sure you're okay anon.

>>17124720
You could've also possibly came into contact with the herpes virus, but it's unlikely if she didn't have an active outbreak.

>>17124685
get tested. but you have to wait 8 weeks minimum after contact.
do you know how many partners the girl had in the past?
as far as i know there are no registered oral hiv infections. but it is definitly possible to get it that way, its just not likley. i think youre overreacting. but take the test just to be sure

Op here, she also said she's not leaving me for the coworker. Because she's not sure she likes him. She didn't cheat or anything. She just doesn't want me to keep being like this.

Op again, basically I just wanna know how fucked I am and what I can say to fix it.

Shit nigger be honest and apologise and don't act like an asshole. There's no secret pass that'll factory reset the bitch and make her forget anything, you fucked up, you gotta go face it like a man.

Bumpan

if you change masturbation for sex you will feel the same. And sometimes you will still want to masturbate

If you just stop masturbating, depending on your level of adiction you will feel frustration. You will feel something like a need to chop a tree with an axe or something. You might become good at sports or something... distrations

About social security. No it doesnt have anything to do with it. Just try to improve your conversation skills everyday

>>17124662

people unfortunately are not robots, and doing one thing does not equal another. you can raise twins in the exact same household and they can come out vastly different.

what i mean to say is you might become more motivated. or, like a lot of people on this site complain about, you might just end up sitting around feeling bored with nothing to do.

if oyu want to get the most out of this you have to
>think about what you REALLY want
>write it in a list
>then actually schedule time to make that list a reality.

not masturbating wont magically make you show up at a random bar and talk to a girl. you have to plan a night, write it down, hold yourself to it, know what bar you are going to, and go.

im the most motivated person i know, but when i dont make a list i have no idea what to do.

as for 'socially insecure' stopping your video games wont have anything to do with that. not masturbating may give oyu some testosterone / horny man boost that makes you more motivated to talk to women, but it doesnt magically cure the social aspect. thats learned.

that being said, go learn it. there is no magic button or trick that will make you suddenly 'good' at being social. i think your issue is likely thinking too much about being social. you've already labeled yourself as some lonely awkward 'introvert' (guess what, you're not an introvert) and even when you think you're going out to make a positive step, you do so thinking 'GOD IM BAD AT THIS' instead of just 'I WANT TO DO THIS'.

and that is why you fail.

I know I wrote a wall of text but if you anons could help me I'd appreciate it, bump.

If she didn't seem into it, she might have been doing it more out of obligation, thinking she should since it's prom night.
She doesn't sound that interested. Might have just been making the best of the prom date.

Ask her out

>>17124621
what if it's a man pretending to be a man hating girl pretending to be a man pretending to be a girl?

why is she "man-hating"? i'd point her towards a therapist's website, try to get her into therapy and cut her off. you don't have to tell her you're actually a dude, maybe, just say that all of this is too heavy for you, because it is true.

Just tell her the truth.

its easier than any alternative.

shes already a cunt and blames men for all her problems most likely. so why treat her with any decency

She feels awkward, does not want to reject you and (obviously) doesn't want to have lunch with you.

I'm telling you this before you post your whole conversation, because it's either that or you were unbelievably cringeworthy in asking, resulting in above.


tl;dr; "Learn to take a hint"