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Hi /adv/
so when i was 16 i started feeling weird about my dad, i couldn't be around him, the thought of him being in the next room made me really uncomfortable. Sometimes when we were eating i feel like he's staring at me and i just had to leave. I generally felt like he was flirting me (though there wasn't any big signs of that)
I still can't be around him because i feel like he looks at me that way.
I even made myself more ugly because i'm afraid he'll find me attractive. I also isolated myself totally from other people and had delusions about the world for a period, I thought the world would end etc. I got really sensitive and my feelings really changed everyday from really high to really low etc. Now i'm 18 and i still feel weird around him but it's not that bad as it used to be. I also have really bad thoughts and suicide thoughts which i've had for about 8 months now.
can anyone help me to know what's wrong with me? Is it just hormons?
pis is kind of unrelated
I have no idea, but talk to a professional.
this is the definition
>to make annoying sexual advances to; especially to force physical and usually sexual contact on
you were never molested. You may have wierd paternalistic issues, yes, but you are not a rape survivor
>>17122672
Maybe you actually want to fuck him and feel guilty about it.
Girl I like (age 18) just told me she fucked a 34 year old guy multiple times.
Should I bail?
If you were 18 and you told her you fucked a 34 year old woman multiple times, do you think she would bail?
>>17122657
Probably not. She's fucking into old dudes and it kinda bothers me
>>17122660
Then bail, man.
I recent got my hands on a bunch of money. Something along the lines of 45,000$.
I am comfortable in my job and don't have any debt (which feels awesome, btw).
The money is nice, but I really don't want to spend it on useless crap. Putting it all in a long term investment account is ok, but the interest rates are pretty low. Even with compounding it would take decades for me to make a substation amount of money.
So I was thinking of buying a property and renting it out.
Obviously 45k, is not enough to buy an apartment complex, I know that.
The idea is to make a big down payment on a duplex and have the monthly payments be covert by the rent of the tenants with a little profit left over.
Does anyone have experience with this kind of venture, or have friends/family that do it?
What would be another good way to turn this lump sum into cash-flow?
I really don't need that much money, but I would love to see a monthly check to cover my bills.
How old are you? And you want to make money with this money or do anything that sounds good with it? Also US?
>>17122641
32 years old, haven't lived with my parents since I was 15. I got experience, work very successfully in sales, and can get my way.
I want to make money with that money, yeah.
I manly want to have some form of monthly income. 45k is not a lot in terms of investment, I am not going to quit my job, I am not delusional; but enough to cover my own rent and a few bills.
Yeah, US. Texas to be exact.
I used to work in real estate and was managing roughly $20 million worth of rental property in Chicago before I changed careers. A big part of my management business came from people who bought an income property thinking that it would be a good way to make money and realizing its an incredible pain in the ass.
The thing you need to keep in mind is that the profit margins are thin in the rental market and you don't really make your money from rents. Rent covers your expenses: mortgage, taxes, upkeep, and general building maintenance. You might end up with a few...
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/adv/, what are the cons of not going to parties, night clubs, drunk hangouts, etc ever?
>>17122593
You could potentially alienate yourself from your social circles and a pool of potential romantic/sexual partners.
>>17122593
If you are asking this question to choose between your personal preference and what is socially acceptable or common - try every option, disregard any expectations and choose what feels best for you.
>>17122631
Kind of. Because I hate showing any vulnerabilities to strangers, I won't try partying. Have zero understanding what is enjoyable there.
My parents are concerned that I don't have much friends, that's pretty much it.
>>17122616
Thanks, anon, are these the only minuses?
What's the point in confessing to cheating?
It always ends in a break-up, if not straight away then later down the line.
If you want the relationship to keep going, shouldn't you just nut up and accept the guilt of what you did? I suppose you could say 'I respect her/him too much to not tell her', but literally what does that solve?
In ends a break up because you fucked up. It doesn't end because you told them. The point isn't in accepting the guilt. It's absolving your guilt, because you fucked up. Just because you cheat on someone, doesn't mean that you don't care for them, what it should mean is; you owe them the truth of what you've done.
If you've cheated on someone and upset about the impending breakup, simply follow the steps laid out below.
1. Acquire a tree log, preferably oak.
2. Sit on the log.
3.Admit to the act of cheating.
4.Jam the...
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>>17122595
This is what I don't get.
By telling them the cheater is not 'absolved', it still happened, only now both parties are hurt and are broken up. Surely living with the guilt is the punishment, because it only hurts the one who made the mistake.
Nothing good comes of the confession, and it seems like not telling would benefit both parties.
>>17122713
Your life doesn't end with your relationship. Besides, why would it be so horrible if it ended? Is your initial question loaded in the sense that both parties loved and will continue to love each other, there are no too big problems in the relationship and it was all just an honest mistake?
how to get my ex back? She messaged me that she misses me, and I was told by someone she still loves me. She split up with me. I had some smalltalk with her a few days ago 'hi what's up, what you been doing' but she hasn't talked since.
So many people in this world and you would rather stay stuck on some
One who may or may not want to be with you. Go find another fish dude.
If you wont do the better decision for yourself and you still wamt her that badly then juststaright up ask her if shewould be willing to try things again. The worst (best) thing she could say is no
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Hey /adv/,
Just got out of a relationship, the breakup was really hard. I was so confused for the first week. I had delusions of me just needing to wait out the no contact period or change for her. The thing is that I realized I'd been dependent on her for approval and that is more than likely the reason it ended. For the next month I am going to stop trying to distract myself and just let shit be. I'm going to go grab some model kits, maybe do some coding, and do things that I can be proud of for myself. My life is going in a great direction at the moment, and...
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>>17122563
You hit the nail on the head, man.
It gets really difficult being somebody's everything, that's why dependency can ruin a relationship. Just be you, and realise that you don't need a we any time until you're ready. Keep up all the hobby shit, being passionate and enjoying yourself and eventually someone's going to come along and see a you that they want to make a you two.
Best of luck man. Don't get discouraged.
>>17122563
Well man, thank you, your post helps me especially. I'm still trying to resist the urge to check up on her, and see what she's up to, because doing so will end up with me finding things out that I didn't want to know....
I want to take the same direction as you one day. Thanks for being strong, so that I can be so too, one day. Love is difficult.
>>17122563
I got dumped by my girlfriend on the 5th a few days ago and it's still hitting me hard. We were together for 4 years. She said she'd felt like she hasn't wanted to be with me for about a year. What I don't get is why she still said "I love you" back to me. I realize now there signs, like I always avoided serious conversations about the future and the life path she was headed and was comfortable with things staying the same. She'd felt this way for a while but for me this is just really sudden and like being hit with a ton of bricks. I've thought about suicide multiple times a day and even decided my fate with the flip of a coin. I don't how to handle this one. I'd been in other relationships but this one is destroying me.
Where do you have sex when you can't do it at home?
Why the fuck wouldn't you be able to have it at home?
>>17122565
Either cheating or underage would be my guess.
>>17122565
I'm guessing OP's parents wouldn't approve.
Fuck /adv/, I need help. It's Mother's Day, my moms boyfriend is going back to Indiana, and she hasn't got jack shit except a thank you and an I love you. I don't have any money either. Wtf do I do? Pic unrelated
Steal something. You're already at the store. Are you telling me your mom's not worth it?
how about baking her a cake?
>>17122531
He has no money
How do you get over the fact that, no matter how hard you try, you will never be more attractive than average, and may, in fact, even be ugly?
I feel like it's hopeless and I'm tired of trying to put effort in.
Then stop putting effort in. If it isn't meant to be then get over it and put your care and time into other things like achievements. Be at peace with who you are and hold a reasonable world view and self concept.
Get talented at something. At the very least, be kind and polite. Compensate.
>>17122475
>>17122482
I'm actually successful and very talented at what I do, and I do have hobbies I put a lot of time into...
I'd just like to be attractive too. No matter how much effort I've put into improving myself in other ways. Should I just pay for plastic surgery? How weird is it to take a month off from work and come back more attractive?
Hello /adv/, i'm in a bit of a pickle and i need your help
I've been looking for a job for quite sometime now with no success.
And now i got an interview for a position of a depot keeper, the interview questions will be based on that position and i can't for the life of me out what a depot keeper does, can any one help me with an indept explanation? Any help will be appreciated. Thanks
>>17122386
Ever heard of Google?
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First post seems like it summed it up pretty quickly.
I imagine it's just someone who stocks inventory. I think the most complicated question they can ask you is "Look at this receipt, and tell us who the client is and when they dropped it off."
>>17122468
Got nothing, famalam
Does therapy really work or is it just a meme?
I'm very directionless in life and don't know what to do. I don't have friends, a meaning in life, passions or hobbies. im at home 99% of the time.
Will therapy help me or is it just a normie meme? is it just a place to vent or will my issues be solved?
>>17122345
no therapy doesn't help. no other person can give you the will to live, they can't give you the meaning of life, and they can't guide you to satisfying and fulfilling hobbies. they are money sucking leeches that pretend to care about you.
Only you can help yourself. There just saved you some money.
>>17122345
Well for starters, it is somewhat of a meme.
>normie meme
Now that's just retarded.
However, I understand what you mean.
It still is. People presume therapy is a magic cure for depression and shit. For your problem, I think you can solve it yourself. It took me 3 years to find out my path, and no therapy was needed.
Meaning in life is something you'll just find someday, which there's none, but to make something out of nothing is an achievement in itself.
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What can I do with a nursing degree other than nursing? Can't really afford further study right now. I'm UK based. What are my options? Been trying to find decent paying jobs that take any degree but so far no luck
>>17122336
well what the fuck were you thinking? that's like saying i got an accounting degree but I don't want to be an accountant, or I went to the police academy but I don't want to be a police officer, or I got a phd in dentistry but I don't want to be a dentist, or I dropped out of middle school but I don't want to be a loser
WHAT DID YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN?
>>17122374
I know, mum.
>>17122374
You raise some good points. All I can say is I thought it would be better once starring work as an actual nurse. I was wrong. I also wanted to see what I started through. Anyway here I am. So have you actually got anything to contribute? Sadly I can't undo the past
Its happening again. I got the girl I wanted for so long, but now that she's mine, I'm losing interest.
Why does this happen, I wanted her so badly. Does this happen to any of you too?
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you liked your idea of her, not HER. now that you get to know her, your enthusiasm is faiding.
also, you are only in for the hunt. you wanted her only as a accomplishement. "arm candy", so to speak. that's never really going to cut it
>>17122324
Is it possible you wanted the idea of being with her as opposed to actually wanting to be with her? Am I even making any sense here?
>>17122330
Yeah you do make some sense. But I don't know, she is nice and attractive and I would think about her a lot, I liked the idea of being with her, but something is off and it just doesn't feel the same.
>>17122329
I think you might be right here
i done got wasted last night and passed out in my own puke the first thing i see in the morning is my phone screen with a sent message over facebook to a girl proclaiming my love for her what do?
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>>17122285
i don't know what happened.
however,
you own up to having been drunk out of your mind and also own up to the fact that drunk texting holds some truth and that you'd like to ask her out on a date
>>17122283
Why exactly can't you just move on?
You have a crush on her? She's a long-time friend? She's a coworker? More info please. If isn't anything special just leave it, bro. Shit like that happens all the time.
