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I can't figure out how I feel about this.
I took a friend out when he was at his lowest because I legit felt sorry for him. We then drank and he had sex with me. I was too drunk to say no. I felt so dirty the next few weeks. I got tested and was clean. I just feel like I raped. I feel bad for making fun of girls who cried raped after having sex drunk but now I understand. Do you think it was technically rape or I'm I just that embarrassed that it happened.
>>17120825
Embarrased.
Next question!
>>17120825
>I was too drunk to say no.
Kindly fuck off.
Well, you were drunk, so it can be considered rape. I really, really, hope you don't go off and try reporting him and getting him fucked over, honestly. It just sounds like you just regret it happened, and that's fine.
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FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
Girls,
Do you care if a straight guy experimented in college and decided he didn't like it? Would you bail if you found out? Do you not care? Would you rather know or not hear?
>>17120139
Probably wouldn't care to know, unless the situation arised where it could provide insight or sympathy towards a position. Definitely not something you'd bring up while choking down a footlong from Subway.
>>17120139
No one wants to hear that
Why are some men threatened by the amount of sexual partners I've had? I am 21, and I have slept with 21 men and women. Some men's numbers are just as high if not more. I enjoy sex, it's fun and it allows me to explore a variety of avenues. Not only that, it shows that I am experienced and can carry my own in the bedroom. I get tested inbetween partners and have only had unprotected sex three times (unlike men who try their darnedest to fuck without one every-single-moment)
Opinions?
Some men are into sluts and some aren't.
Its the same as with women.
>>17119485
Why does it have to be immediately dismissed that I am a slut? Why does that word even need to be associated? My "number" doesn't describe the person I am and it never should. Someone who is lacking confidence in themselves and lack bedroom abilities throw that word around as if it somehow redeems their inexperience.
>>17119493
>Why does it have to be immediately dismissed that I am a slut?
It wasn't dismissed though? He called you a slut,
Do Russian women really look outside only Russian men? Ill be going to Russian soon and I would really like to date while there. Im Greek-American..what do Russian women feel Greeks...specifically Greek Americans
>>17124444
>Im Greek
Sorry m8 Russian women only like men that can pay their debts
hur hur hur hur hur hurh ur hur hruh implying Russians are any more well off than anyone else
can you speak russian?
>cheated on ex
>naturally she broke up with me
>want to get back together
>we still talk
>naturally she gets upset at me at the drop of a hat
Is there any chance at all? She has said if there is a chance it's not very high but the fact that we still talk is giving me false hope.
It was a one time incident and I've spent a while recognizing what led me to behave like that.
The only problem is I'm feeling impatient and every time I try to rush her forgiving me it VALIDLY pisses her off and just deepens the wound.
But she still talks to me. Every single day.
Advice?
She likes you, maybe some day she would get back together with you!
But the fact is you cheated on her and she will never forgive you or trust you again because of that. Even if she breaks down and you snag her back it won't end well, she'll always harbour those feelings of hurt and betrayal and it'll end up eventually destroying the relationship.
For the best of you both, don't get back together.
Hmmm mistakes happen especially if youre young. It will be hard to get her to trust you again, understandably so. Basically youre paying the price for your fuck up and you seem angry about it, didnt you learn as a child that there are consequences for fucking up? Just do the time like everyone else. She talks to you everyday so it seems like she'll get over it, you just have to understand that she isnt necessarily playing games qith you for the sake of it. You put her in a bad spot so she needs to reevaluate you and her philosophies of relationships. It takes time to work things like this out. Like I said before, just do the time diligently and patiently, prove that you mean you're sorry.
>>17124435
I don't know if this helps my case, but it wasn't even PIV intercourse. Drunk heavy petting and I told her almost immediately.
I feel conflicted because for one I hate myself that I did this to her and 2 I hate how I made her feel.
She has told me some days she feels like she'll be able to forgive me. And it's confusing about the trust because she /still/comes to me fr emotional support and her secrets.
How do I get myself a little bit more tired? I need to wake up early for lots of University shit tomorrow.
Do I listen to ASMR? Take a hot bath? Make exercise? Read?
>>17124405
Antihistamines
>>17124413
C'mon man, I don't want to kill myself, just sleep.
>>17124425
>Antihistamines
>I don't want to kill myself
M8 don't worry about tomorrow, judging by your post you won't be graduating University. Drop out and save yourself the cost of tuition
i'm drunk, and i'm thinking about lighting off this firework in my bedroom. is this a good idea? pic related
I don't see how it could go wrong live stream it.
call the fire department and let them know what your planning on doing.
i dont think the fire department would have a problem with it
>I had a girl.
>she broke up with me.
>am sad
same brah. you'll learn to get over it and accept it as it is because that's life, anon.
>>17124325
but feels
I want to tell my family or someone that I'm depressed and don't know what to do
I've been on and off depressed for a couple years now, throughout a week I'd have maybe 2 good days and 5 shitty days. The thing is, university's done now until september and I have nothing to do for the next couple of months but sit at home and rot, and I Can feel the depression just getting worse and worse...
Lately I think about suicide alot, how I'd do it, if I'd leave a note or message or not, how it would make others around me feel, should I wait out my parent's lives and then do it or just do it now
I've been trying to keep my spirits up by continuing my workouts (I'm in kind of ok shape) but week by week I'm losing motivation to lift, what used to be an hour and a half full workout is now 10 minutes and then giving up and calling it
I just don't see the point in my life, I'm kind of a fuck up. I didn't get into university until very recently and I'm 25 years old. I've never had a girlfriend or any kind of intimate relationship and probably never will. I've never had an actual legitimate job and I can't find one no matter how much I apply.
I look around at couples and it makes me so sad, something so basically human that I can't experience. And it will only get worse as I get older
I find myself asking why, what's the point, I won't ever have a job I enjoy, I won't ever have a girlfriend or a wife, or even a family of my own, its all just pointless pain
Most of my days now consist of numbing myself with video games and porn but I'm starting to enjoy those even less as well
I don't know what to do anymore, I can't tell anyone in real life that would just create too many problems and my family already has financial problems as it is
You know that feeling of falling asleep? The emptiness that you don't remember? Unconsciousness, that's what I want. I just want to permanently sleep
>>17124292
>are you me
I'm going to bed after this, because it's 4am, but I live by myself (ie, no friends or family) and I can tell you; porn makes you feel worse, and setting yourself daily goals and meeting them makes you feel better. Porn will depress you more, so just get it over and done with. Don't jack off for hours.
So, keep working out. That's good, I do it too, I've got weights at home and a freezer stocked full of chicken and a cupboard full of bread and vegetables. But you want to mix it up. Add in some reading, be it for your degree or for pleasure.
>week by week I'm losing motivation to lift, what used to be an hour and a half full workout is now 10 minutes and then giving up and calling it
Are you recording your progress? Do that, it gives you motivation. Seeing yourself get better and better makes you feel better.
>>17124313
cont
And videogames are shit, too. I don't have any friends, and videogames these days are meant to be played with friends or they're fucking depressing as shit.
The important thing to remember is, we're still young, and still have the rest of our lives.
if the depression gets too bad try anti depressants and maybe some therapy.
>TMI / gross-out
>you've been warned
So when I'm bored in my bed, going online or whatever. I'll sometimes start plucking my pubic hair with my bare hands. It doesn't hurt at all so I can pull entire clumps out without even flinching. Searching online I keep coming across sources that say it's trichotillomania, aka. the compulsion to pull hair as a result of OCD.
I mean yeah, I have a generalized anxiety disorder but not OCD. I don't feel driven to pull the hair, and it never correlates to my bouts of anxiety. It feels just like how other people like popping zits.
I can't imagine this is normal, but I also don't feel hindered or distressed by it. However I'm starting to wonder if this is something I should be worried about.
At least you're not willing out the hair on your scalp. You should probably talk to a therapist about it if it's anxiety driven
I do the same when I'm on the toilet or in a standing urinal.
Maybe I should shave more of it off.
I do this once in a while. I'll just sit there and start plucking hairs out. I'll shave it off if I have sexy time.
So this girl that I have known for the past 6 and half years finally let me out of the friend zone three weeks ago, and everything was going great and we were both dropping serious hints for a future together and I am starting to feel actual attachment towards her. Our new found quasi relationship was going well or so I thought up until this weekend, I last spoke to her Friday night and ever since she has ignored my messages I have sent to her late Friday night before I went to bed. I only messaged her once yesterday wishing her a good day which never got a response, and today I haven't heard from her at all. I also haven't messaged her today either to avoid being seen as clingy or as a beta. Could she be testing me somehow, should I just wait it out tonight and send her a message tomorrow checking up on her since I haven't heard anything, or should I just move on completely?
Pic related.
Well after 6 and a half years you sound like you don't really know her that well still, so yeah you're probably better moving on.
>>17124231
I know her rather well actually, we just have a habit of being good friends and drifting apart on occasion. We have both seen each other at our lowest, we know each other's personalities, and both of our relationship needs. I should also point out she is openly trans, and I have made it very clear to her that I am no way ashamed of her because if I was then I would have no business talking to her, and if my family ever asked me about her being trans then I would completely honest because it would be disrespectful to her to lie about who she is.
>>17124231
But also, I would like to add that the option of simply moving on seems to be the better option because I am getting older now and I no longer have the time to waste on someone else who isn't feeling the same as myself.
Is there any way to stop being a bitter asshole? Ive been depressed for a long while and finally seem to be coming out of it, or at least coming to understand it better and therefore able to mitigate it when it really starts to act up. But in the process of all of this ive isolated myself from pretty much anyone that I wasnt close to before it, and reject everyone before they can do it to me, and in turn have a pessimistic view of people and am an asshole. So anyone know how not to be?
>inb4 just stop being an asshole.
You dont get what im saying if you think thats good advice
have you tried anti-depressants and therapy?
Stop coming to 4chan and unplug from the internet in general if you can.
Negativity is all the rage online and it takes a serious toll on your subconscious.
Start smiling more and fake being interested in your coworkers and acquaintances bullshit.
What's a good job for fat lazy people with social anxiety? I myself am a fat lazy person and need a job.
I also have crippling social anxiety.
night time security guard, literally getting paid to do nothing
I don't plan on breeding but I need a job to get me by.
Hey /adv/,
So it's coming up on 18 months with my and my gf. She's absolutely amazing. But I haven't seen her in over 9 months since I have been joined the military. We skype and talk everyday and have a strong mutual trust and love for one another.
I'm not much of a crier, but today just before she was about to go to bed I looked through all our shared media on telegram and cried. Looking through all the places she had been, seeing her gorgeous face when she would take selfies for me, all the things she's eaten and cooked, and even just mundane things made me tear up.
I'm not purely sad or happy right now i can't put much of a finger on it. What am I going through right now /adv/?
sounds like regret.
>>17123970
Also, I'll go through a picture and remember where I was when I got it and the things I was doing. Like I am going back through time of all our time apart.
>>17123978
There's no one else I want to be with. I do regret not being able to take my international leave to go see her though. It will probably be close to Christmas time when I will be able to take it and be with her again.
Is there a way to keep masturbating while on SSRIs?
>>17123864
you can jerk it all you want
busting a nut is where you run into problems
>>17123877
What if you smoked weed or took yohimbine root and maca?
Your dose is too high. Talk with your doctor about cutting it.
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