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Where do you go to or how much (time and money) does it take?
Every country has a different procedure. We can't help you with the information (or lack thereof) you've given us
>>17128726
I was thinking of disappearing and changing identity and I don't mean by the common, public way
>>17128730
If you want info you have to give info.
You want to run away from home?
You murdered a guy and need to make a new life?
Give us your goal and we will help.
Or call you a faggot.
I've lost over 100 pounds in the past year and I gained plenty of muscle but now my loose skin from when I was fat is hindering my physique. Does the loose skin make me still look fat and rate my body overall.
Also this is with my loose skin pulled down. I have 7.4 percent body fat currently.
>>17128672
your skin will tighten itself up over time, 100lbs in a year is significant, far too quick for your skin to keep up pace with. I'd hit the gym aggressively; some muscle under that will go a long way.
you are fine. no need to worry.
I think I'm fucked, /adv/..
I finally admitted to myself that one of the main reasons I returned home after only one month, although I wanted to move out and desperately needed a change from this toxic environment, is the fact that I couldn't take my 10 year old cat with me. I missed him so dearly and would cry at night thinking he may get sick and I'll never see him again. Because that's what happened one year ago with my other 9 year old cat and I still haven't got over it...
I don't have friends, but I always had pets or stray animals to care for. I think they loved me too. I think my cat loves me too as when I'm gone I hear from family that he scratches at my door and looks for me in my room and seems rather lonely. I play with him, talk to him, hug him, buy him goodies and toys and my heart is filled with joy when I see that he likes them, he sleeps in my room all the time and seeks my company like no human being as ever done. I start missing him after only a few hours out. And we've been closer than ever since his buddy passed away. He also purrs more than before when laying beside me.
I don't know what to do, I'm going crazy over the thought that I may lose him too. I'm going to be devastated when this happens. I often find myself terribly sad over this, he feels like home to me. I've even skipped classes just to sit in bed with him and make him feel comfortable and loved. I don't even want to work and be away so long. What if he gets sick or something happens? All i want to do is lay down and stuff my face in his warm furr, listening to his little heartbeat as he tugs himself closer and purrs.
Tl;dr
painfully and overly attached to my cat, i choose him over other things in life and am in despair at the thought of him dying, i imagine this and burst into tears, cant take it anymore, am terribly depressed and want to kill myself but leaving him alone is stopping me. This is serious, please help I dont know what to do its killing me sometimes
Yet another "I'm craving pussy" thread on /adv/, sheesh.
you both need each other. I think you should find a place to take him with you and maybe get another cat just to give him a friend. Also it's not very good from you to skip things you should be living just to be with him. It's unfair to both of you. You both are codependent and that isn't a very healthy relationship. Also, don't waste your time and your emotions thinking about something that hasn't happened yet. Enjoy your love, don't transform it into sadness.
You sir, are pussy whipped.
So I met a girl online, we are both virgins. We met online and we decided to meet each other and lose our respective V cards. I fap quite frequently (2-3 times a day) so I thought to get my sensitivity back I'll need to stop fapping but I kept watching porn.
I stopped fapping 8 days before meeting her and I struggled to get hard and as soon as she touched it I went soft... I managed to fuck her for a full 10 seconds before I went soft.
I asked her to leave the room to see if I can fap. I came buckets within 2 minutes of watching porn. (I quickly called her...
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>>17128648
>I asked her to leave the room to see if I can fap. I came buckets within 2 minutes of watching porn. (I quickly called her in so I can cum on her face lol)
That's the saddest thing I've ever read on /adv/. Jesus Christ, anon.
>>17128648
Jesus Christ I hope this is shitposting for your sake. I can't handle the second hand embarrassment
>>17128652
Yeah.... that... that kind of hurt a little bit...
But basically you psyched yourself out OP.
This is easier said than done, but the solution is simple, quit freaking yourself out. The bigger deal you make out of all this the harder (or softer kek) this is going to get for you
How do I teach myself its okay to be sexual with women?
I've always been pretty social and am able to approach and be funny around people, and have had female friends yada yada.
However, when i become attracted towards a woman or a woman attracted towards me I shut down and become avoidant. If I come into contact with one either through accident or her intention I instinctively recoil and feel as though I'm breaking boundaries or am intruding. This has been constant throughout my life.
Overall I think i have a serious fear when it comes to sex...
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Baby steps that work up to being more comfortable with it. It's not just like someone can tell you a few sentences and it'll undo everything. It's a slow process that's going to take a while. Do something slightly out of your comfort zone more and more and keep expanding what you're comfortable with. Eventually, you'll work up to sexy stuff.
bumping this, I feel the exact same way op. My therapist says it has to do with an inferiority complex, at least in my case
>>17128624
>Baby steps that work up to being more comfortable with it.
Can I get some examples of this? I am able to approach and start convos but I dont have a clue of telling a girl that I like her in any romantic way. I feel that its wrong. Its hard to say.
Hey guys, need some critical opinions
How do I improve this resume?
Telll me wat you think, no matter how harsh.
Bonus points for recommandations
remove the hobbies. everything else looks great op
>>17128618
Okay. No need to describe myself a bit? Also, is no picture a problem?
>>17128627
>is no picture a problem?
yes you need to attach an 8x10 glossy
My gf told me there's some guy trying to put the moves on her and she told me she's gonna cut off contact with him. However, she refuses to tell me his name or show me what he looks like even though I've assured her I won't go picking a fight or anything. This bothers me, if she's got nothing to hide why would she refuse to tell me his name and all that. Should I bring it up? Or am I just being insecure and is it not worth the argument it will most likely spawn.
Do you not trust her to deal with him?
She likes making you jealous without dealing with the consequences. It's an easy way to make you protective and defensive over her without her actually cheating or you beating the shit out of someone.
You don't give her the attention she wants or she'll make a habit out of this.
>>17128563
I guess i don't fully trust her
>>17128574
She has complained that I don't give her enough attention/affection in the past. I've tried to do a better job of this but she also knows that I wasn't raised to be that kind of touchy feely guy. I hug and kiss her all the time now though, I try yknow?
Am I insane? Am I being cheated on? Am I not even in a relationship?
The woman that I love to spend all my time with and have sex with and plan my future with and go on vacations with, wanted me to leave her alone tonight so she could cuddle on the couch with her long time guy friend.
She started by telling me she has an exam tomorrow for finals and she needed to study. I have graduated from college and have a full time job but I also have hobbies like reading that are quiet so I'm not some distracting bothersome lump who doesn't understand college life.
I...
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>>17128492
You haven't even finished, but various parts of this story sound fishy.
>she said, before "she" shows up
So she has no qualms with lying to your face.
>Before I could even get half way through the sandwich her study partner had already shown up, it was Luis, her guy friend, the same guy who was at her house all of a sudden the day she told me to go running and working out on my own
That's weird.
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Mind you when I sat down to eat there was a table next to the couch she was sitting on and a lonely chair on the other side of the table. She was sitting on one side and had her papers on the other side. Before when I tried to gather her things up to give to her or not sit on, she told me not to, she also wouldn't move the papers over to let me sit this time, she made me sit by myself in a chair on the other side of the table from her.
When Luis entered the house she made room for him and went out of her way to get everything for him, when I ask where anything is, I get a demeaning lecture about how helpless I am.
There we are studying all three of us together with me by myself and Luis on the couch with the girl that I love and she is cuddling up to him and moving things out of their way to she can get closer to him. All the while I am by myself. He starts blaring music and she won't even let me choose music in the car without a fight. And they keep chit chatting about random crap with each other never once even acknowledging that I am in the room.
Then it becomes 11:30PM and all of a sudden I am being told to leave by her and I was curious again, "Is he leaving too or is he spending the night here? Why do I need to leave right now if he is only here to study and his shoes are now off because he isn't ready to leave at all?" I was told I was then making things awkward. Fuck right I am making it awkward, it feels like I am making it awkward for this guy to fuck the woman that I love and says that she cares about me that I am being selfish when I feel neglected by her when other men are around. When she refuses to let me call her my girlfriend, when she calls me her friend, when she calls Luis her friend, when I have to fuck her with a condom on and I am her friend.
I have already been packed up to go, understanding from her that she wanted to wind things down, but he is still there, she expects me to be okay with her winding down with another man?
>>17128517
>When she refuses to let me call her my girlfriend, when she calls me her friend, when she calls Luis her friend, when I have to fuck her with a condom on and I am her friend.
Uh... It sounds to me like you're not in a relationship. Doesn't matter if you love her or not, but she clearly doesn't feel for you in that way. Sounds like you're being used, friendo.
I take back >>17128504
You are not together....
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i'm 35 but look 25, how do i go about getting 18-20 year old girls while i still can?
picture related it's me
>>17128486
>i'm 35 but look 25
Probably not.
>>17128486
I'm 19. Where are you from anon?
Why bother?
I'm 30 and the only women who give me the time of day are way younger than me. I want none of it, 18 year olds are impossible to relate to. They were literally in kindergarten when I bought my first car.
My friend is in jail on two counts of assault totalling a bail amount of $1000.
Should I be able to pay one of the $500 amounts and reduce the sentence?
>>17128483
>Should I be able to pay one of the $500 amounts and reduce the sentence?
Why would you? If they broke the law, let them learn. You're not going to get anything in return.
>>17128493
It's honestly my girlfriend.
Can someone please answer my question
That's not how bail works, you retard. Your girlfriend is still going to have to go to trial if they decide to go through with the charged.
So there's a video of me on YouTube from 7 years ago that someone who I haven't talked to in years posted. I want it taken down the only problem is I haven't talked to that guy for good reason. He's a little bitch and one day o got tired of his shit and just completely cut that faggot out of my life. Anyways, this video was taken during the high school days when I was nerdy and unpopular and tried hard to fit in and I look back on this video and fuckin cringe. Not to mention I never gave that motherfucker the right post it. I've reported it several times...
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>>17128474
ALSO the reason I don't want to contact him and ask him to delete the video is because he is a scheming motherfucker and will probably just download it before he deletes it so he will always have the video on hand. I want it gone.
>>17128474
Bump
>>17128474
prove it op otherwise your just slandering noobs on the internet
We were arguing last night and ended up play-wrestling in bed. She was giggling and tickling me so it's not like it was a serious fight. Eventually I pushed her onto her back and she didn't bother getting up anymore.
I used to have makeup sex in my previous relationship so I thought that was a good idea. She said "no" and "don't" a few times as I was putting on a condom and inserting but stopped struggling as soon as I got my dick in. From then on she just lied there quietly, unmoving with eyes closed. I continued fucking her for good...
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Sounds like rape to me.
Considering that there was no reason that you should have thought she was consenting, yes, you probably did rape her.
>>17128460
>She said "no" and "don't" a few times as I was putting on a condom and inserting but stopped struggling as soon as I got my dick in.
what the fuck dude. that's messed up.
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I'm lonely AF (no friends, no sex, no social life whatsoever) and I have devised a way to fix this. I intend to join Alcoholics Anonymous just so I can hang out with people, and maybe get some pussy. I am in no way an alcoholic, and drink only moderately, but I intend to lie about it and pretend I can't stop drinking.
Is this a good plan or no?
>lies are a good basis for any kind of relationship
maybe you should insetad go to a meeting for the actual problems you have, like social anxiety or autism
>>17128391
70% of the people in AA are doing that anyway. You'll fit right in.
One of my best friends had a friends with benefits type relationship with this girl for 2 years. He treated it like a relationship while she did not. Up until two months ago she stopped having sex with him, distanced herself from him dramatically, and really wants nothing else to do with him besides just stay friends. So now we're dating and he is taking it extremely hard. He always wanted a relationship with this girl and treated it like such but never got to that point. It was as he describes his first love, he never did anything with a girl prior to this so it was his...
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He has no right to be butthurt if he was never in a relationship with her, but you're a shit friend for dating her if you know how he felt and still feels about her. You're no more in the right than he is.
>>17128347
Yeah, that's how I feel about it to be honest.
>>17128355
At least you're acknowledging how awful of a friend you are
How does /adv/ deal with a sexless relationship?
Medical/life issues keep getting in the way.
>mfw we had sex twice 2 weeks ago.
>mfw it's going to be another 3 weeks.
>>17128321
Alcohol and weed.
Possible if you're allowed to get hookers or see other people for sex.
>>17128321
what did you do before this relationship?
