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ok...so I have encorage my wife for girl pussy...for may years...she finally broke and has a girl firend hey fuck as much as they I have walked in twice on it, at our house...i fingered the girl.
We are about 42,41 the girl is 25.
We have 2 children who have no idea (very young)
I fuck my wife almost evry day or second day soild 8/10
she has good job...bring hone $$$ and does not even have to do much at work....thats why she has so much free time for this sorta thing to happen with co-worker
I feel her eye is off the ball emotionally with children...and it fucking hard for me to concentrate.
what do?
>>17159700
You encouraged this and now have second thoughts. You're a fucking idiot, OP. Clean up your own goddamn mess
>>17159704
yeah but we had always agreed to share...and or veto rule if one of us did not like the girl they can fuck off.
wife has not honored this
so how to fucking clean up this mess easy to say but how.
>>17159712
Sounds like onision
How do I get a girlfriend with low self esteem. I want someone I can easily get. Should I go to anorexia support groups and that sort of thing?
>>17159688
why you want that?
>>17159689
I've never had a gf so I feel like this would be the easiest way to get one. Plus they'd be clingy so they won't leave me.
>>17159697
low self esteem =/= low standards. You should know that since you're probably literally an example.
Can you guys give me your opinion on my girlfriend's story? Honestly, I think her mother is a psychopath and I'm pretty shocked to how she treats her. This is going to be pretty long but everything must be understood.
Her mother and father left her when she was around 7 or 8 years old, and she was left with her grandparents. Her mom was a drunk and fought a lot with her father, which was also a drunk, they were both addicts, and they ignored her and repressed her a lot until they left her to her grandparents. Her mom slept around after she divorced/broke up with her father and she was never nice to her, always said that she hated her and ignored her, called her names, hated her for no reason. She used to hear how her mom was having sex with different guys since her mom had a lot of problems with addictions and drugs. She never felt love from her parents, told me that her dad was nicer than her mom but her dad doesn't seem to care that much either since even today he's still a drunk, even though her mom is better, I'll get to that later.
Continuing
Her parents left her at the age of 7 or 8 to her grandparents, not exactly sure which of those two ages. But anyway, she was left to her grandparents, and she never felt wanted by them, because her mom and dad just left her there. Her grandparents were the closest she had to parents, but they are very old and she had to take care of them during her teens and even earlier, which left her with no free time and she honestly felt like a servant to them, didn't feel much loved from them either even though I do believe that they loved her. Her grandmother passed away and she was forced to see her mother after so many years, she is 19 now and hadn't seen her mom ever since she left her and her dad for a couple of years as well. Her mom was at a ward because of her addictions for a couple of years. After she left that ward she had another child and didn't even think of visiting her current one, so she has no excuse. Instead of coming straight away and apologizing, if being an addict was her excuse, she had another child.
So, she met her mom when her grandmother was about to die, and she was mad and didn't want to see her, because of course after the first seven years of her life being treated bad by her own mother, and then after so many years she had another child instead of seeing her, she wouldn't be pleased from seeing her mother. They talked and got into a fight, her mom got angry and told her many harsh things, like how she never loved her, how it was her fault for her grandma dying, since she was the one taking care of her, I mean what does she fucking expect, leaving a child to take care of her mother AND father and she's MAD at her? That she wasted her child's years taking care of their parents? The years that people say to be the best of your life?
She called her a lot of other awful stuff, but that one got to her uncle as well. She never really had a lot of relatives supporting her except for her uncle, grandfather and grandmother, and her uncle's wife. I don't know why but her uncle started defending his sister, her mother, even if it's his sister she left her child, and then when she got better, she made ANOTHER child, her mother should be ashamed of herself not mad at her. And that basically ruined her relationship with her uncle, one of the few people she could trust, and her grandfather is pretty shocked because of his wife, her grandmother's death, and she doesn't want to talk to him because she doesn't want to stress him out.
She recently saw her mother again at a store, a bad coincidence, her mother was with her boyfriend and daughter, she apparently introduced them sarcastically and before she left she told her that she's happy for ruining her relationship with her uncle, because she says that she doesn't deserve anyone to love her, how even she her mother, didn't. And that's really bad because my girlfriend has felt really bad about never being loved, how her parents raised her, then how she was left to her grandparents. How fucking psychopathic do you have to be? What's her mother's problem? Why are such people like her allowed to have more children when they can't be good parents?
unfortunately, even the shittiest people on earth can have children. That sucks for her. Hope you're good to her.
This is me right now. I'm not able to attract any girl so i asume i'm not attractive at all. What can i do to improve my appearance and make girls feel attracted to me physically?
>>17159654
Let's see. First, you could get a better picture that's oriented correctly.
But given what you have, you're actually pretty fine OP. I'm not just saying that out of pity, you look like a guy who's one good haircut away from looking pretty damn nice. Eh, maybe change the shirt too. And either go full goatee or shave entirely, don't keep that mediocre stubble.
>>17159658
What kind of haircut do you recommend?
>>17159667
Go for something short. I'm no expert, but you should probably avoid the shaggy-Bieber thing you got going on. Just get it cut short, comb it nice, and it'll do wonders for your confidence.
Hey guys it's been a while but I've recently been wondering if I've been worrying too much about not being very good at conversation when talking to women I like. If so, I think it's been holding me back from going on more dates and so I want to know just how important talking is and whether silence (as long as it isn't too long) is a bad thing when going on dates.
Pic is unrelated
I guess I should preface that I am already friends with the girl in question and we can have good conversations, but it's not all the time and usually it's when we're doing/watching something. So is not having conversation ALL THE TIME a problem or do we have to constantly be in conversation mode?
bamp
>>17159646
Being a good talker is moslty about being a good listener. Asking the right questions and making the right time to make jokes.
Hey /adv/, feeling severely anguished since family argues that my body and around it is getting bigger and I'm gaining weight around it. But due to my mental anguish due to depression and very limited interests that I'm stuck living with, I'm feeling like I'm getting hopeless by the day, and I'm already at the maximum amount of medication so I don't have a seizure, which means I can't take prescription medication to treat depression, but the worst thing is that the only thing that keeps me alive is wanting to play boring old classic games.
Is there anything that can be done to help me treat my weight issue and my mental depression that continues to haunt me, or is it that I am just doomed in life to end up dying faster than I think within the next 7-10 years despite being 20 and having survived depression once?
>>17159614
Older anon Medfag here.
Weight gain and depression are nasty combinations. With seizures you mentioned, you have a complex issue that feeds into a negative feedback loop. Demotivation, diminished neural activity due to medication, weight gain, high bp, poor oxygenation of the blood stream because of lack of activity. All nasty stuff.
You're also stuck in this rut that makes you believe you can't do better, so you gravitate towards these instances of minor achievement feelgood moments (old video games) to cope.
You're in a comfort zone that will prevent you from growing. I imagine you're afraid of trying due to negativity from othets as well.
You need to find the strength to break this cycle. Get rid of the video games, do things that give you a real sense of accomplishment. Replace the crutches with a structure that will reinforce positive change. It may sound like frufru bullshit, but you have to scrap this she'll you're living in and choose something new
>>17159673
Shell not she'll
Yes. There is something you can do to address your weight gain and depression. You can see if a practice in mindfulness is helpful for you. Stress hormones make it hard to lose weight, and if you are depressed, chances are you are feeling a little anxious and stressed?
-slow down how you eat and don't worry about what you eat for starters
- take ten extra minutes to eat your meals so you can slow down
-our emotions play a huge role in how we eat
-take 10 deep,complete breaths before you begin eating and if you find you rush, take 10 more breaths
- take meals outside and away from devices
-oxygen burns calories so breathe
-meditation can help with depression and so can journaling
I hope you find this helpful. Be gentle with yourself.
Hey /adv/, so I have a girlfriend and she's great, we've been dating for like two months and change and she wants me to take her virginity. The problem is, I don't know how to go about doing this. She really has no exposure to sexual things, she doesn't watch porn or masturbate and I've been her first everything - kiss, handjob, blowjob dry hump etc. I asked her what position she wants to do and she says she doesn't know, and that we can try different ones.
I really don't want to disappoint. How do I satisfy someone who doesn't know how they like to be satisfied? So far from what I've gathered from the dry stuff we've done she responds well to being on top, and responds well to being bent over and taken from behind, but that's different from actual penetration.
Any tips appreciated, especially from femanons.
Have you done any fingering or oral on her yet? It's going to take a few sessions of that before you should attempt penetrative sex. Start with one finger, your pinky even, and then the next time do a bigger one, then the next time add one more, and so on. LOTS of foreplay beforehand each time to make sure she's aroused and relaxed. I'm talking like making out for more than 15 minutes and all that jazz. Be gentle and slow.
Also, you and her can't honestly expect you to make her cum if she has never made herself cum, especially not at first.
And remember to use contraceptives.
>>17159603
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>>17159603
Oh and I forgot the most important thing. COMMUNICATION. Talk. To. Each. Other. About everything. I know it's embarrassing, even more so for her probably, but it's essential. Talk about what you like, what you don't like, what you want, what's off limits, boundaries, talk during the act of sex, talk about it during completely nonsexual times, talk before, talk after, talk about what you want in terms of contraception and what you two would do if there did happen to be a pregnancy. It's all important.
I don't understand how to game? What does it mean? Could anyone share me a clear example how to "spit game"? If she is not attracted to you physically, does that mean that no amount of game will change that? Can you spit game to a girl that friendzoned you or isn't interested in you anymore?
>>17159569
It's called having a personality. Black speak of 'spitting game' is just trying to say things to get a woman interested in you, but let me tell you a secret:
>if you're looking for a normal, reasonable relationship, you don't want to 'spit game'.
>>17159587
I just want girls to be interested in me, enough so that they will contact me. I can hold conversations and even managed to get 2 phone numbers/facebook in one night but they both had boyfriend and I don't know how to approach them/talk to them
>>17159591
Why would you try to fuck them if they have boyfriends? Are you specifically looking for a challenge? Then try to fuck women that are more attractive than you, not ones that are already in relationshits.
What are your thoughts on tattoos?
>>17159542
hot if they're tasteful and sparse
Tattoos are fine, I don't even care what they're about honestly.
It looks unprofessional from a business standpoint if you're unable to cover them, though.
anyone wanna talk?
I'm kind of in the same boat myself, but I'll listen to you.
What's up?
>>17159538
latest thing is school. found out today i'm suspended again because my GPA didn't go up in spring semester. i switched all my courses to audit because i was doing badly and honestly didn't know it would result in suspension. i can appeal it but by the time that's done and over with the one class i wanted to take next fall will be full. wanted to take it with a friend.
guess i'll be lucky to be go back in the fall at all.
I love chat threads. Such an 2006 internet vibe.
What's up?
Whats the best way to keep Spiders out/away/whatever the fuck out of my house?
With the weather getting nicer, I find more and more of these gross little scurrying faggots on my counters, bed, kitchen, etc. Ive started by spraying some rooms with pure Lemon Juice and a light coating of Raid. Atleast I can have that placebo to help me sleep at night and avoid thinking of them crawling on my unconscious body.
Oh, nothing repels spiders, OP.
It's a well documented fact that spiders lay eggs in our orifices as we sleep to allow their eggs to incubate in our bodies.
Oh, and if you own a mattress? They love living in mattresses. I'll put it this way, a single spider can lay up to 300 eggs. A mattress makes a perfect breeding ground, and it's usually always close to a human orifice.
Just embrace the spiders, OP.
>>17159533
ah ah i tink ur lyin to me therr m8
>>17159533
I thought spiders could lay up to a thousand eggs? At least get that right
Honestly OP, I'm surprised you're finding so many random spiders just scurrying around, most spiders once they find a corner/place with food they will not leave there for fucking months - if ever, literally until they die unless the food runs out.
I hate having them everywhere but think about how many OTHER bugs they are eating too.
Hell I even had a tiny little spider in my bathroom take down a big spider!
Honestly though they are rather hard to get rid of because the lack of movement once they do find that certain crevice. Google some remedies but really try not to let your brain go overboard, I'm genuinely almost phobic to them but I understand once they find a place they don't move and they really do not want to be around you
So no, they aren't really attracted to mattresses, or clothes unless they are dirty and on the ground.
If a friend of mine liked me at one point, but my inactiveness kind of pushed her away, is it at all possible to win her over again
The more I think about this situation and the more I realize how great she is the more I want to either off myself or spend the summer becoming someone that actually deserves her instead of the beta fuck who ruined his own chances at happiness that I am now
>>17159514
People move on. She's probably moved on, too.
The only people who don't move on are the people with nothing going on themselves, and hours to spend wondering 'what if', 'why,' and other irrelevant shit since the opportunity is gone now. People like you.
>>17159534
That's... enlightening.
Thank you, Anon.
I feel you OP but >>17159534 is probably right.
You made the choices and now you just need to move on and remember the outcome.
Hey /adv/, I've got some heavy stuff to ask about tonight.
A few nights ago, I met-up with an old high school friend of mine. We go to different universities and have only seen eachother sporadically over the past three years. I'd been hearing about his worstening mental health and substance-abuse issues and, after seeing him in person, am convinced that he's a threat to himself and possibly others.
He and I aren't very close anymore but this is what I know.
>raised in a catholic family with a history of substance abuse
>been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and has struggled with anorexia and bulemia since adolescence
>uses alcohol, marijuana, cocaine and NO2 daily
>takes LSD and other psychotropics regularly
>has used Aderall, Xanax and heroin periodically
>lately has been prone to paranoid outbursts and increasingly unpredictable behavior
Basically my other friends and I want to get help for him before he ends up in prison or the morgue. I know "interventions" don't work very well outside of TV, and want to know what /adv/ has to say.
>>17159503
I have a friend like this. I feel your pain. I don't know what to do. He'd just lash out and get angry.
>>17159518
That's what I'm afraid of. It's evident that he cares a lot about his friends, but none of us can seem to get close enough to convince him to stop.
>>17159503
If you try to help you'll probably push him away and make him feel more isolated and more justified in his self -destruction.
Or he might cave in and start sobbing like a baby and ask for help. Probably the first, though
Alright level with me, how do I stop feeling jealousy or whatever it is whenever my girlfriend does or mentions anything to do with another guy.
I feel utterly pathetic about this and have been taking steps to try and improve it but it just doesn't seem to be working. We've been together 7 years and have worked through LDR status for a long time. Yet whenever she shares something involving another guy, a co-worker, a friend or anything I get this tinge of jealousy that makes me feel mad. She travels fairly regularly for work and college related things and that only amplifies the feeling.
I know this is an issue on my part and I've looked up numerous ways to solve it. I don't feel like she dislikes me and I'm confident and happy with myself. Why does this get to me so much and how can I fix it?
>>17159464
I have the same issue but in reverse. I believe it has alot to do with trust, or something in your past might be triggered...
>>17159464
Maybe u need to put a ring on it. If u haven't already. Might help u feel more secure...
It's you should just deal with it. If you don't trust her what's the point.
Caught in the act.
All men masterbate. I get it.. As a matter of fact we all masterbate.
Is it so wrong as a wife to be upset when your hubs doesn't want to play with u, he rather play with himself?
Should I be offend?
Am I overthinking things and looking to much into it?
Story time; I went to the shops yesterday said goodbye to hubs and told him I would be gone for about an hour and to watch the kids. Now about 45mins before hand, before I even told him I was going to the shops he was all touchy and feely and told me he wanted to fuck me later that night. I was excited, I know he was to. He then told me he had somethings he needed to take care of phone calls, emails Etc.. So I left him to it. Anyway I was only 25 - 30mins at the shops in the end. I come home to find our bedroom door locked and the kids left outside to play, while he is playing with himself and watching porn (I think) and I can here coming out the door.
I felt let down, like maybe he didn't want to fuck me or that he found something or someone more fun. Should I of felt that?
It ended in an argument, him left feeling embarrassed and me left feeling worthless, an both left unsatisfied. To make things better he didn't even make any calls or emails...
Lmfao. You better hold onto your "hubs" because you're one stupid slut.
>>17159462
I don't know about you, but people can have more than one boner or orgasm per day, lady.
>>17159583
this, sounds like you got mad and decided not to fuck him, which ended up fucking you, so in actuality you fucked up, get the fuck over it and fuck him, the end.fuck!
