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So me and my gf usally have sex alot but recent ly we had a few scares with comdoms breaking and shit. Anyway now she doesnt want to have sex. For some reason i keep obsesing about it, i dont know if i should maipulate the sitiation or just be a good guy i want to be but for some reason its giving me panic attacks and making my depression worse, my anti depressants make me so horney any advices
Masturbate. If she doesn't want to have sex that's completely her decision, it's up to you if you still want to be with her. Don't try to manipulate her that's fucked up. The condoms shouldn't be breaking if you are using them correctly.
It was just one night and yeah i do like 1 to 2 times a day which is way to fucking much but i cant help it
>>17160094
pinch the tip of the condom before you roll it over your dick, idiot. didnt they teach you this shit in school?
Started working at a pizza place fresh out of high school a month ago. I'm 18, and I caught on pretty alright. Now, even when I'm not working, I feel tired, run down, and irritable. I never want to do anything but watch Netflix and sleep. I don't know how else to explain it. I've become more cynical and unable to tolerate anything that even slightly used to piss me off. I don't want to hang out with friends as much anymore. The only thing I really have the capacity to do is work.
What do I do?
You might have a low grade yeast infection called Baker's Drip.
Does a little dampness seem to be always hanging on the tip of your dick?
>>17160044
how many hours a week do u work? Do u have any days off? A day off once a week can do wonders
>>17160058
That's the thing, is I work minimal hours, like 30 hours a week, but how much I work doesn't feel like it has any effect.
As I'm growing older, I'm learning from my mistakes. Each day I become stronger. My current situation and life in general are not bad at all but I have an issue that has been with me for a while and it needs to be addressed.
I had a very awkward adolescence. I'm doing a lot better now, like I said, but the things I did during that time still haunt my brain. Whenever I think about something I did I literally wince. I cringe at the memory. It effects certain interactions I have with people even now. I have to shut out the memories and mental images in my mind...
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Were you molested? That's what it sounds like.
I understand. Do you have any memory of this?
It wasn't your fault!
>>17160014
No, I don't think so. I don't remember anything like that.
I grew up in a very strict Catholic home.
My mother was neurotic about everything and I followed in her footsteps up until a certain age. I can remember talking like a mad man and trying to convert people to Catholicism.
I also have memories with dating girls in highschool. I remember doing sexual things but being the kid I was I didn't know what I was doing. I did really embarrassing things.
I don't know how to...
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I have been in this situation. Literally these thoughts pop into your head all day. No abuse here but cringe things I did sexually to other people when I was younger. It was like all these years and all of a sudden it's popped into my head and I couldn't get rid of it. What helped me was I told my most trusted friend scared to death of judgment. It worked. I no longer have those memories pop into my head it's like a weight lifted. Maybe you should try and if not, therapy might be an answer. You may have another issue psychologically that is making you do this....
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anyone done no fap? results??
I am on low fap (1-2x per week) right now and I just have no sex drive at all. Its kinda scary actually, I have no confidence that I could get a boner in a sexual situation.
Also I haven't been with a woman in so long that sex with another person is no longer part of my kink. if that makes any sense. I see women entirely as human beings and don't even slightly sexualize them in my brain. advice on any of this would be dope. thanks guys
what's your kink now?
>don't sexualize real women
This is good and bad. It can make you more desirable, gives you better self control and may help you see the value of real people. Same happened to me, but I also gave up on sex. Not that I'm asexual but I'd like to be. Sex is complicating.
I try no fap but I fail a lot. You just gotta keep trying. Not sure what you need advice for... Just spouting my mind
>>17160012
I meant I used to have sex and haven't in so long that I stopped caring like you.
Also turned to God, gives me a real reason to go no fap. Even if it isn't a sin in itself it weakens your resolve and loosens your self control by being another thing you expect instant gratification for
Things aren't going very well for me right now. On in about a week i have to go back to court for my trial. I am being charged with the misdemeanor loitering near drugs, and the judge is trying to give me 90 days in prison. I have passed both my drug tests and despite arguing that i didn't know about it being in the car it seems like my fate is already sealed. After the prison time i would be looking at about 2 years of probation. I can't even begin to imagine how this is fair and why this is happening to me. My lawyer told me i got a judge who is very anti drug...
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>>17159959
You should have been thinking about this before you got involved with taking or dealing drugs. After 90 days I imagine your asshole will be sore, either from being reamed or being clenched in fear. After that 2 years of probation means nobody will hire you. After those 2 years nobody will hire you because you're a drug fag and can't be trusted.
Yes, your life is fucked. If you were ever going to amount to anything or earn good money that is now beyond your reach. You will be poor white or black trash.
>>17159966
>You should have been thinking about this before you got involved with taking or dealing drugs.
Did you even read his post?
OP do you have a lawyer?
>>17159959
Was it bad luck that you were near drugs or did you put yourself in that position? If you use or sell then i guess its a risk you were taking.
Never had friends before. I started a new job a few weeks ago and my coworker and I have similar interests/hobbies. He is 3 years older than me and is gay/married. We do have opposing views, so I'm very guarded/always thinking of what to say to avoid making an enemy.
He is going to a place I want to go and I don't know how to ask to join him. I've never gone to an event like it since no friends.
How do I make friends w/ people/hang out at places that arent work/school?
He is very outgoing and social w/ lots of xp, so we're literally polar opposites.
bampu
For starters, you said he is going to a place you intend to go? Simple. Secure your ticket if it's a band or something, and then be like, "Oh didn't you say you were going here? I was going to go there too, we should try to find each other." Or something like that.
Maybe I'm just retarded, but you could just be upfront and be like, Ive always wanted to go there, mind if i tag along?
I dated a girl for four years that was my first girlfriend and I started getting bored and wasn't feeling like I had a real future with her. At the same time I met a beautiful Brazilian exchange student that lived across the hall from me at school. I started to develop feelings for this Brazilian girl because she was amazing. She studies chemistry, she's smart, funny, beautiful, has an amazing body, is incredibly down to earth and I was able to talk to her for hours and hours without ever getting bored. We got closer over time because of parties in the building and...
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why not learn Brazilian and move to the country with her?
>>17159901
because I'm studying to be an engineer, and I don't want to leave America to get stabbed to death by favela dwellers in a third world country
>>17159901
Portuguese?
So me and my long-distance gf have gotten into sexting a lot recently... she eventually wanted dick pics which surprised me at first. I was really uncomfortable taking them but eventually I took some good ones because I wanted to make her happy, and she really liked it. Then she started talking about how she likes seeing me play with myself, so I took some short snapchat videos. Now she wanted me to make myself finish.
I took one of me finishing the other night, but I was really uncomfortable and didn't send it. It came up again tonight, so I did it and I sent it.. The weird thing is is that she didn't open it. I know she was awake for it, because she said she wanted to see me cum just a minute before I sent it. And after I sent it, I looked back at the texts and she was typing for a few seconds, and then stopped. I sent her another text, she read it, but still didn't open the snap, and then ignored my texts afterwards.
I'm just kind of panicking, cause it's really weirding me out why she just didn't open the video and started ignoring me after that. Especially cause I wasn't very comfortable sending it in the first place. I know you guys aren't in her head, but seriously, what just happened?
Oh and now she's going to wake up to a snap of me cumming. Which is weird as fuck to me.
>>17159880
Maybe she got off or whatever and wasnt horny anymore so didnt want to open it. Pretty sure she wont mind waking up to it. She would know what it is already its not like you just randomly sent it. Dont sweat it
>>17159880
So... the only thing that makes sense here is that your LDR "gf" is an internet gf who, up til this point, hasn't seen your dick/had irl sexual contact with you? Because that's the only way this makes sense
How would you decorate this room?
I love the big window.
Maybe a cool IKEA rug to cover the floor and then some fun beanbags?
One of those nice circular cozy couches to stare out the window with.
>>17159869
First you tell us what room it is. There's a huge difference between bedroom and living room
>>17159909
It's a bedroom
Is it okay to spend lots of money on strangers or friends?
In the past, I've spent hundreds of dollars on gifts for people that I've never met and today I spent more on a friend because they've been down lately. So I decided to try and cheer them up.
I am not rich, but due to my living situation, I've managed to save up a decent chunk of money (basically enough so that if necessary, I could live somewhat comfortably without working for a year).
I made it clear to my friend that I did not do this because I wanted something from them, and...
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I guess the real reason I posted this is because I wanted to know what others would think. Does it come off as trying to buy affection when I do these things? Even though I told my friend, and myself, that I didn't want anything in return, I've still got this nagging feeling that deep down, I'm being selfish by doing this.
>>17159848
yes its cool to buy strangers stuff. remember when I was homeless in Oklahoma city naught a lot of clothes living at a shelter decided I was leaving one day and left all my stuff to two dudes at the shelter they made me laugh everyday who new homeless were better than Normie's
>>17159864
>Even though I told my friend, and myself, that I didn't want anything in return, I've still got this nagging feeling that deep down, I'm being selfish by doing this.
Are you me
Alright /adv/ time for my own thread. While trying to keep it short. I live by myself. I spend most of my free time gaming. LoL. LiF. SC. Im lonely. Wouldnt say depressed (been there a lot). I miss my ex but I broke it off with her because she cheated on me. I was still banging her for a while after but havent seen her in about 5 weeks. Still struggle with not messaging her, and I think its mostly because I have no one else to connect with on a real level. I stuggle to meet people because A. I game a lot B. I dont talk to random girls when I do go out C. Most girls live a life...
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Millions of women in the world....
This guy. Lock up your daughters.
Don't blame her for cheating
Ill add that I dont sleep around. Or get a lot of chicks or anything like that. In the past 3 years ive slept with my ex and one chick in attempt to get over her which just made me feel worse. Relationship was 2 years. Been broken up for probably 6+ months id say
i love him so much please help me get over him i cant stand another day of torture
Explain
>>17159856
im in a relationship with someone who has a lot of insecurities and boundries that I respect but he still gets very upset when something on the internet, tv, or when someone else says something triggers him and he takes it out on me and thinks its my fault for triggering him. I try to soothe him but he starts calling me names and making me feel below him. He never apologizes after he feels better even though he agrees when I tell him that it was wrong for him to take such strong emotions out on me. I put up with...
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>>17159873
How about the fact that the behavior being exhibited is basically emotional abuse.
And...triggered? Fuck that shit. If I ever had a relationship where I was accused of "triggering" someome, I'd cut it off right there. The adult world doesn't have time for tumblr/reddit level pedantic bullshit like that. Sounds to me like you're involved with a self centered manchild
I just started taking an anti-depressant yesterday. I've felt weird both days, and today I've had really dark thoughts.
Is this just a placebo, or is the SSRI fucking me up? Maybe I should just give in...
Talk to your doctor. You might just be overthinking it, and that's making your thoughts darker. Depression thoughts tend to snowball. "I don't feel good/I'm not sure if the pills are working" turns into "I feel terrible/Nothing will ever work for me." Fixating on things makes them worse.
It takes a few weeks for antidepressants to build up in your system. That is when they are supposed to start helping.
>>17159844
It's really hard sometimes. I appreciate your advice. Thanks.
>>17159831
It's just you the pills are fine if after 2 or 3 weeks that feelings doesn't ease up call your doctor
I do nothing all day.
What should I do with my life?
>>17159742
End it.
become a unicorn.
unicorns are rare and special.
>/adv/ is slow as fuck
Let's speed things up. Let's say you found out that someone you knew ritualistically lashed themselves daily with a steel chain and had marks all across their back. How would you react?
Ask them fucking why
>>17159722
Ask to watch
>>17159734
