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What does it mean when your fiancé has a file on his laptop entitled "Asian girl butt crushing rabbit in plastic bag"?
that you found a keeper
means you need to talk.
>>17156533
Why would you say that? I'm not Asian and this means he's attracted to Asian girls.
When should you have grown out of edgy loner fantasies? How do you do so?
maybe an atraction to something has an apertunity to something simmilar
>>17156521
When I found people who cared about the same things I did, and who I could talk to because they would appreciated what I had to say. Like talkin' 'bout Romans and US politics
How? Stop writing off other people wholesale. Get to know them as people before you make character judgements. In fact, live by "innocent until proven guilty" instead of the reverse, because they don't owe it to you to prove shit.
Read "Radical Honesty"
I feel very alone
I feel like I have a lot to share, but everyone in my life is leaving me
That's not ever going to stop
It's called alienation, it's common today. You'll see past it one day, maybe
I've been in a steady relationship for five years. My girlfriend is a severely depressed, socially anxious 4channer who is very very attached to me. I moved abroad last November and since then we've been talking via Skype every night. But recently one of my friends here and I spent a few days together on her vacation and things got physically intense - she's a less smart but far less dysfunctional woman than my girlfriend, and she's super into me enough for our sex together to basically be pic related minus Trump. After we'd fucked she made me dinner and we watched some shitty sitcoms together and I briefly knew what it was like to have a normal partner who didn't seem to be constantly on the verge of breaking down, who didn't myopically talk about anime and video games all the time, who didn't alternate between spitting bile at me and cooing at me like a helpless dependent.
The girl here wants to be my girlfriend. The girl back home doesn't know about her. I'm feeling pretty mixed up right now, guys.
>>17156368
>oh hey, my girlfriend back home is shitty
>but I don't even contemplate I just fucked someone else behind her back. Then I have the cheek to talk about other peoples character flaws, lol.
>>17156414
I am contemplating it. A lot. If I didn't give a shit I'd just say "fuck it" and go ahead with having two girlfriends at once.
:O will she read this zomg?!
My friend and I recently met this girl. He has known her about 6 months, me about 2. She's not single, and neither is my friend, and that's why her actions that I'm about to explain are a bit alarming and unusual to us.
She is very touchy, and that's the first thing. She isn't afraid to be so close that our bodies are touching, and she isn't afraid to constantly be hugging us or just touching in general. She also holds very deep, long eye contact with me in particular, and likes to give lots of compliments to both of us. None of this is a big deal at all, and it's probably quite normal. However, the other day she started resting her head on our shoulders constantly (we were all wasted), and giving us deep, tight hugs. When we were laying down together, I put my arms around her and she took my hand and held it for a long time, and this was just... not something I'd expect from a girl who is taken.
What's going on this girl's head? I have no idea to think about all of this. I really like the closeness I feel with her, and I think all of the affection we give each other makes us all feel good. I'm just worried there are ulterior motives or something. What do you guys think?
She's a typical girl crossing boundaries because she craves male attention and thinks she can get away with it when her boyfriend is absent
>>17156290
This.
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Hey /Adv/, need your help:
I (29) confessed my love to a girl (A), who has been a "friend" of mine for 3 months already. Unfortunately she said she was already interested in someone else, nevertheless she seemed very flattered and was nicer to me in the last few days than ever before, so I see a small chance that she may change her mind as the way of revealing my feelings may have been just too clumsy and awkward for her to say yes immediately.
However, it turned out that two of her friends (B,C) seem to like me and she (A) offered me to help me if I want to get to know one of the two other girls better. I know them both, but even though they are appealing too, I only have eyes for A and I just don't want to give up.
What would you do in my situation? Don't forget, I am not 20 anymore and it's about time to finally find a girl for my life and I just don't want to waste my time with girls anymore that are cute, but which I would not marry...
What would you do?
(A) Keep fighting for the 10/10 girl, show her how much I like her and try to convince her that I am good for her
(B) Accept a "no" as a "no" and try to get what I can (As for me, I dislike that idea because no one wants to be only "second choice" and that is what the girls would be, I like them, but I clearly don't love them, so that would be unfair both for them and also for myself)
(C) Accept a "no" as a "no", stay away from her friends and wait for the right girl in the future which I haven't happened to get to know yet.
look at it this way, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't like you? there is no " well if I do ____, that will win her!" if being the person you normally are doesn't do it for her whywould you want to?
If other girls catch your eyes at least a little try and grow that then force a one sided relationship
I see your point, but what if this is a test or what if she just wants me to fight for her instead of saying yes immediately?
Look, she doesn't want you. There's no point in 'fighting' for her, because she only has eyes for this other person in the same way you only have eyes for her. Get over it.
(Pic unrelated)
Ok /adv/, I got a bit of an oddball for you here. I'll just sum it up as briefly as I can.
>be me, 19
>have friend (lets call him T), 16 almost 17
>T has rough upbringing and not a good relationship with his mom and step dad
>T is on suicide watch because he's depressed, helpless, etc
>T has plainly stated numerous times to his mom that if step dad was gone some problems would be fixed
>step dad nor mom have job, they leech off welfare (although T is a very good kid, very good grades, good morals, got a 31 on ACT)
>mom finally realizes T is serious about the step dad thing
>makes step dad move into trailer behind house but doesnt fully kick him out
>fast forward 2 weeks
>T's mom calls other friend's mom (we'll call other friend B) telling B's mom that T is flunking out of school, horribly depressed, etc, asking if T could stay at B's house and it was his idea
>B's mom agrees, being the good christian woman she is
>two days later after further questioning, T says it wasn't his idea and he wasn't notified until 30 minutes before his mom packed his things
>T now lives with B
>T's mom dodges ALL questions pertaining as to why she kicked her son out
>T's mom lets step dad live in the house again
>doesn't see anything wrong with it
>T just found out his own mom kicked him out and let step dad back in a day after kicking him out
Is there ANYTHING at all I can do to get this guy out of the house for good? call the cops or anything? He's very mentally and physically abusive to both T and his mom but neither do anything about it and the first time cops were called the step dad turned it around on T and got him taken in, saying that T had punched his mom
I feel so fucking bad for him but I have no clue what to do.
Forgot to mention that after we looked at his grades after his mom said he was flunking, he had all B's.
Does anybody have sex or engage in humiliating sexual acts in that story?
>>17156201
That mom's a straight up ass. So is the step dad.
But anyways, if he isn't already, convince him that associating with these people will kill him. Tell him that he only has a year to go till he can do whatever he wants, and if he can't go through that, then call child protection services. Maybe even do that now; if you have proof to show them, and if he's not afraid of dealing with foster care.
I've been dating this girl at work, but I've been to afraid to kiss her. I'm thinking that I should just go in to work tonight when it's just her and our closer, tell her how I feel and just go for it just so I can get past this lump. I was never good at being physical with people, but I feel if I don't do this I'll be too afraid to ever do it. Good or bad?
Or, instead of making it weird and high pressure, you can do the normal thing, take her on a date, have a fun time, kiss her at the end after you cuddle a bit.
There i gave you a whole game plan. Do it.
You're doomed to fail no matter what your approach is, OP. I would suggest just looking at the benefits of life as a single person
>>17156186
what benefits
How do you guys fight your incessant urges for 5 year old kids?
>>17156125
An hero
>>17156125
Fap to loli and shota. Despite what some say, it's okay because it's just drawings.
>>17156125
By outgrowing them when I was 6, like normal people do.
Is it possible to lookup license plate info for free?
>>17156091
with pin, paper, time, and lots of gas yes!! have a good day
>>17156132
How do you get it online for free though?
>>17156091
become a police officer
/adv/,
Last weekend I hooked up with this girl. We had made plans to hang out this week but she has been ignoring me, and blocked me on FB for 0 reason (I did find out she went on a date with another guy the day after, though).
Ever since I met her I've been constantly thinking about her, and now I feel super shitty and empty. I rarely care about girls in this way, as I'm more of a "jerk it and move on" kind of person. How the fuck do I stop thinking about all this?
You stop by realizing she made her choice to reject you. And you respond to that by moving on.
It's a dialectic my man. Can't just go on your own feelings. Plus, that was a pretty bitch move. Don't just take that shit.
>>17156053
Have you ever been denied something? This sounds like you're upset because you don't have an answer, or that you don't have a say in what's happening.
>>17156094
I'm not really sure what you mean, but I have been denied/rejected many times. I honestly think I would have been better if she would have been upfront about it rather than just ghosting me.
Ive always had problems with keeping a conversation interesting during texting. With this specific person, ive known them for quite a long time, so we do kind of know each other well, but when it comes to talking daily its the usual "hi, how are you" "what are you up to" etc. and the convo usually ends at that. I need new ways to continue text conversations because my own lack of experience makes me come off as boring as dull. Thanks in advance :)
Bump :(
You have a problem with picking interesting OP pics, too
>>17156048
>>17156048
Start the conversation off with a topic, like 'hey I saw this movie recently, it was good/bad/whatever'
Or 'My cat/dog did this weird/funny thing earlier, so how's your day going?'
Hey, /adv/. So I'm 19 years old. My first semester of college, last fall, I absolutely hated my major (music) and had tons of attention issues that I foolishly did not attend to (diagnosed ADHD). I ended up getting put on academic suspension. This spring, I applied to a community college to take two classes. I ended up getting an F and a D. I was supposed to have a B- average in order to pass the reapplication.
I am so fucked. I have no idea whether I should take more community college courses, or just drop out... I'm scared and ashamed of how much I fucked up. Where do I go from here? I can give more details on things as needed
>>17156045
drop out, get a job and your own place, work for a bit while you figure out your life.
you didn't withdraw instead of failing, you are not mature enough to even do basic things to help your gpa.
>>17156045
Switch to a real major or drop out. Try not to treat it as a giant fuck up and waste of thousands of dollars, think of it as a learning experience; one that costed thousands of dollars and a lot of time. Trade school is always an option.
And you can't use ADHD as an excuse when shit gets tough, I've been diagnosed and went through HS (and currently in college) unmedicated. If I can do it then anyone can do it.
>>17156045
Skilled trade job, forget college.
Hey, trying to process this. Could use some input.
My girlfriend will just leave me money when she leaves after spending the night+eating some of my food. Never to my face anymore b/c I usually decline it and make her take it back (unless she REALLY feels I deserve it, I won't argue it for too long haha)
It makes me feel bad because I'm making a lot more money than her - it's really no big deal to feed an extra mouth to me. I feed my poorer friends all the time on our outings. I don't like her feeling like she needs to pay me for these things? She pays for a little less than half of our dinners (I usually eat a lot more than her, and prefer the nicer places). Basically I'm financially secure, and she's still dependent on her parents (we're both young btw, not saying that's the issue).
So, am I crazy for not taking free money, or what?
bamp. No thoughts?
If you can afford everything you can practically want (no yachts or anything crazy like that), then no. Having some pride is a nice thing.
>>17156028
it is odd that she does that. maybe she feels really insecure about the income inequality. I guess I would if I lived with my folks and was dating someone who lived on their own. in my experience, many poor people that *don't* develop a "muh benefits/gibe monies" mentality end up feeling really self-conscious about their lack of buying power and can develop a really strong aversion to anything that even resembles charity. I used to be like this. it's a way of preserving dignity in hard times, but it can sometimes go too far and damage relationships with people who are just trying to help, too.
maybe you could just keep an envelope and always put the money in there. then give it back to her at an opportune time. a great time would be when she's getting ready to move out of her parents' house, give it to her for moving expenses. if she protests, you could tell a white lie just once and say that you did need to use a bit of it for idk, car repairs or something.
I don't want a girlfriend because I like to have fun and joke with girls without having to worry about drama....
At the same time I'm always sad..I'm lonely..I'm see other couples and I get jealous..I see girls that I want to date because their so amazing and everything.... what to do?....
>>17155982
Don't do shit.
If you get a gf that's just it. You won't stop being jealous or anything else unless something touches you.
It's good and all, but there's no such a thing as a "be all end all" situation for anything. You'll just get someone to get jealous with, opposed to just alone.
You gotta work on yourself bud. You fantasize about having a girlfriend because you think it'll make life easier. Protip: it won't. You'll still be sad, feel lonely, and if you're getting jealous from other couples... imagine how jealous you'll be when your girlfriend is talking to her male friends.
I'm not trying to put you down here. I'm trying to help you.
You have to work on making yourself happy. I don't know your life situation so that can be done in many ways. If you have personal issues (aka, been unhappy for awhile), get a therapist for this part of your life. You can set it on your own terms and they will be a huge tool in your progress. The key point here would be to set goals for things you'd like to improve on. They MUST be realistic and they MUST be tracked. If you do this, you will succeed. There is literally no chance you will fail if you follow those two objectives: realistic, and trackable. Setting and achieving goals will give you the confidence and motivation you lack to achieve what you want to in life.
People think having a girlfriend means being happy. It doesn't. Having a girlfriend is about sharing your happiness with others. Hopefully someone who is also happy and makes you happy. You're not going to get this if you don't help yourself.
>17156005
Damn I needed that dude...thanks
