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I have been going out with this girl for about q month now. We kiss, go to the movies etc. but we are not bf and gf yet. So I told her that I wanted us to turn it into a more serious relationship and to my surprise what she said was: I'm sorry but I just broke up with my bf 2 months ago and I need some time to catch myself up, but please let's keep trying this out. I don't think she's on me cuz of the money because she has invited to A disco and paid everything before. Just... Wtf is going on? It kinda turned me off and she feels kinda guilty now but I'm...
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Yes, that was an extremely awkward and half assed attempt to let you down easy.
you retard, she told you that she does not want to jump into another commited relationship when she barely just got out of one, if you cant understand that and just wait a little longer for her then yes you should move on because she doesnt deserve to be in a relationship with a fucking idiot like you.
>>17157898
You're a boy toy. Her paying was a bad sign.
Expect to be dumped when she finds a real man.
So, I'm a 32yo man, and the relationship I got with my ex is making it difficult to meet someone I can build a long-term relationship with. Sorry for the wall of text, but I'd like to get it all out.
Basically I forced myself to become polyamorous so that I could justify still fucking my ex while seeing other women, because I basically felt like a cuck as my ex started sleeping with other men (we had already officially broken up, and were living in different countries, but were still seeing each other sexualy/romantically when we she was back home.) This started...
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Stop being a cuck
>>17157850
>still fucking my ex occasionally
>fuck other women in the same period
Last time I checked, my ex was the one being cucked.
anyone?
Has anon ever had a drinking problem and gotten through it?
No, they all died.
Yes. I was like 'woa holy shit I'm tired of feeling awful' so I stopped, and my life is much better
>>17157823
Plenty of people do. Try spending more time with less drinky friends, better health practices, and developing a spiritual practice as well to keep you more emotionally stable. Try to drink less, too.
If things get really bad and you have no control of yourself when you drink and your life starts to seriously suffer to the point you want to quit drinking, I'll save a seat for you in AA, but it should be a last resort. Lets allow you to lose all hope in yourself before we try to sell AA to you.
>2 years soberfag
>tell 'best friends' that I've been diagnosed with hopefully (generally) temporary brain condition
>makes me a complete invalid for a month
>he buries me in platitudes
>1 month later im better now
>have yet to hear from him since the day i talked to him
is this even worth pursuing? i sound like a bitch baby but if he doesn't even care to check in on me it sounds like this is going nowhere.
A bitch baby?
>>17157817
yeah, a bitch baby. where you act like a bitchy little baby over petty shit.
>>17157820
I prefer the term pissbaby
I can't function in groups. I'm better off on my own, It's just better that way.
any hope for me?
>>17157772
>any hope for me
what does this even mean? in what sense? how would being on your own be hopeless?
tell me what hte actual problem is.
>>17157776
>tell me what hte actual problem is.
angry all the time, passive aggressive, not afraid of dying, can't get along with people, can't open up. Would rather live on my own.
>>17157798
what? okay i think theres an intelligence gap here, so lets break this down.
your ultimate question was
>is there any hope for me?
in what sense? what are you hoping for?
![YuckCat[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/miW6AXl.jpg "YuckCat[1].jpg")
Does it? I've swallowed it 8 or 9 times since I started giving my boyfriend BJs in the last couple months and it doesn't taste so bad but the texture is awful. It's like raw egg and snot and phlegm and everything slimy I can think of, and he always seems to cum a lot. He likes that I swallow it and I try not to let on that it grosses me out but it seems to be getting worse rather than better. Do I just need to keep doing it?
You need to consume 3-5 pints daily for a week and then you'll be good to go.
Order it online from horses
Otherwise it may take months to adjust to the texture
>>17157626
It sounds like you have set boundaries but won't enforce them with him.
You're allowing yourself to be abused and posting threads on Chinese cartoon boards instead.
I'm pretty sure this is just another creative writing b8 thread, but in the event it's not, you should have a guy who treats you like a queen, and this one is treating you like a spitoon.
Think about why you're so desperate to please this person, and then go find someone who is worthy of it.
MAGA
>>17157635
Fuck this bitch
Me and my best friend have been friends since middle school. Her parents died before we turned 18. We're 23 now.
I've been helping her a lot, both emotionally and practically.
She has been a great friend, through the years. I've been through a lot of shit and she has been there for me, any time I needed it, without even asking.
I really don't like some sides of her personality: she's very immature, she likes being at the centre of attention, she makes fun of me for my interests and because I'm introverted. She complains about her life all...
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She looks more like a sloth than a bitch
*my family and I
>She can be such a bitch and I feel really insecure and weak around her, like I did when we were 13.
It's a natural thing. We hurt the ones that we love the most, and in this case you are her sole comfort zone.
(Believe or not you also hurts your parents in ways you never notice)
Let it slide.
how do i get a gf ?
>>17157606
You don't.
/thread
Just be yourself
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>>17157606
/thread
I'm a friendless 24 yr old neet do-nothing loser who's going to take a 72 hour hiatus from the internet and media in general. What should I do to productively fill the time and think about my life?
So far my only plans are to:
>clean my room
>go for a couple long walks
Should I prepare for an emotional breakdown? I will fall apart without the constant stimulation from technology that I'm used to?
Yes you're going to die.
For god's sake kid you should turn off the computer now and get outside. OUTSIDE. Don't come back until your mom calls you for dinner.
Jesus what it it with people who think they will find their passion by doing nothing.
Well, you could spend some time sleeping.
Also fapping, and perhaps spend a few minutes brushing your teeth.
>>17157599
Go for a hike or travel somewhere. I wish I had a car right now so I could do it myself
Hey everyone, here's a question; are there things you wish people would say to you. If so, what do you want people to say?
Are you AGirlThatWillBreakTheRules?
If so fuck off. I hate you to death.
Uhh its been so long since I had any female contact I don't know what.
I wish a decent non-hideous female would have a nice conversation with me. That's all.
>>17157597
euhh, nope! I really don't know who that girl is. And I'm very sorry for what happened to you and that person.
But seriously thought, I don't know who the hell that person is
>>17157600
It doesn't matter what other people say, What you do is the only thing that matters.
Need some /adv/.
So I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now. For the past 2 years it's been sex maybe once every 2 weeks; if I'm lucky. She never initiates it; or very rarely, and get angry and upset if I ask for anything. I know she's not cheating, or uninterested. She plain out has like no sex drive. It's been talked about and talked about. She says she's trying but nothing ever really comes from it. I love her, but I really don't know what to do at this point.
Most likely there is a bunch of shit you do that she does not like but she doesn't even know it herself or she doesn't want to cause conflict by bringing it up.
My advice: evaluate the relationship and not just the sex.
Get her to try anal
If she won't, she's not a keeper
I've definitely evaluated the relationship. This is pretty much the only part that's lacking. I'm not a slob/pig/ or aggressive. Pretty average dude. I genuinely don't know what to do. Is sex frequency like this typical for a long term relationship?
How do I break up with someone without hurting them too much? I know it's going to hurt them, but I'd just like to minimize the amount of damage I do. Maybe even keep them as a friend afterwards. So what's the best strategy?
fucking rip that fucker off as fast as you can fuck you don't want a hairy bandaid as your friend
>Maybe even keep them as a friend afterwards.
You can't, people hardly accept that as an option. Also, are you really sure you want to break up with them? Think it well, I didn't and now I regret it, it really hurts ;_;
Tell him/her you 2 are a too different and a horrible fit, it just won't work. Most people buy it.
I've seen 2 different doctors, both of which didn't even want to listen to me about this.
I'm 23, and I have chronic lower back pain. It's not the spine, it's a bulging bone I feel in the backside of my hips, and it is painful. Sleeping is uncomfortable, sitting is uncomfortable, I've gone through 4 beds, and 3 couches trying to find something that would be a more comfortable living situation for my condition.
I can't sit through a movie at a theater, I can't sit in my car for a long trip, I've got the wooden beads in my drivers seat, I put analgesic gel on my back almost every night, sleep on ice packs, and take a heavy dose of on the shelf generic pain killers almost every day.
I will say the pain differs from time to time, somedays I barely notice it, but am still obviously limited in my motion of bending, and performing, and other days I'm groaning like a 70 year old trying to get out of a chair.
I feel bad, my entire body is fatigued, and has been for two weeks. I saw 2 doctors last months, one didn't even address it, and the other gave me some muscle relaxer pills that just put me to bed.
I'm seeing my first primary care doctor at the end of this month, and I've never been in this much pain that I worry if I'll make it or not.
It's been getting more intense each day for the past couple weeks, it seems. And coincidently, I also caught a cold in that time-frame, and I know that isn't helping me out one bit with the body fatigue issues.
Has anyone gone through this type of stuff before. I don't want to say it's cancer, but I now also have a boney lump protruding from the top of my spine now too.
I have played a lot of video games when I was younger, and gained a lot of weight. That was years ago, and I've lost that weight now, but I still play video games, and it might just be poor posture catching up to me or something. My head has always kind of tilted to the right.
Again, I have a doctor appointment, and I've already seen 2 that didn't care before.
>>17157495
>gave me some muscle relaxer pills that just put me to bed.
What pills, exactly (eg flexeril)?
Doctors aren't really supposed to do this (prescribe dangerous and addictive pills to get rid of you) but it's unfortunately common.
Use pic related or another such pic and draw exactly where the pain and bumps are (eg with mspaint).
>It's not the spine, it's a bulging bone I feel in the backside of my hips, and it is painful.
Both sides i'm guessing?
The pain's probably at a site where an abused, stiff, spastic, or otherwise impaired muscle/set of muscles attach to the hip bone.
Try a non-spring mattress, like an inflatable one, or water bed. See how that works.
Also do some back stretches and exercises to improve muscle function and range of motion, whenever something's wrong with one muscle group or nerve, its neighbors have to compensate for it, and in most sedentary people the back muscles are far too weak and stiff to compensate for anything. For example:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QRZhlYCl8k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9wph_-iKys
>>17157495
>both of which didn't even want to listen to me about this.
Since it sounds obviously psychosomatic. They know they're just going to order a laundry list of expensive imaging just to have it all come back negative, and that they probably won't be able to fix it in the end since they're not trained for it (nor do they particularly want to do that job).
Better for both you and them in that situation to stop wasting time/energy and wait for it to go away (mystery back pain usually does).
>>17157495
>now also have a boney lump protruding from the top of my spine now too.
Draw that too. Make sure it's not just the C7 vertebrae (its spinous process normally protrudes and aches like hell when the muscles attached to it cramp up)
>>17158035
>What pill?
You guessed it, flexeril, I think it was generic, though.
>Both sides
Just my right side is in pain, occasionally the other side aches as well, but it would be to a much lesser degree. I do feel numb in my right ass cheek, and thigh from time to time, and this is a new development that is miniscule and not bothersome for the time being.
>mattress
I do have a girlfriend to consider, and I've...
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>>17158411
Meant to add on, about exercise and stretching
Over the years I've had this chronic pain, I've done many different exercises and I have noticed nothing happening on the positive side of things.
From using a baking roller, to laying on a hard floor (that's the best, imo) I never get the relief I desire.
My mom keeps trying to get me to those mall massage people, and everyone suggests a chiropractor, but they all say they go regularly.
I don't want pills, I don't...
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Hey /adv/ im just curious about behaviour of my girlfriends cousin.
So i was eating cake at the table with my girlfriend, her sisters and cousins (females i was the only guy). One of her cousins was sitting next to me on the end of the table, i noticed she's bubbley and very friendly so i didn't think anything of it. Then i noticed a couple of times i made a random comment to her she leaned in closer laughing but with her face and arms like 30cm away from me, the way she did it seemed flirty but i assumed she's probably VERY friendly to people so i ignored it. Then she randomly said (not to anyone specifically) my pants are getting too tight for my legs, stood up turned around to the mirror and tried pulling them up as her ass shook side to side then sat down. I didn't look because i was sitting with my girlfriend but i noticed it in my peripherals. I felt it was kinda inappropriate because im a guy and was right next to her but assume she felt comfortable because of all the females there.
Anyway i think im looking too much into this and it was all nothing but is this normal behaviour for bubbley females to do infront of their guys that are physically with their girlfriend.
Also i have seen her a couple of times, mainly when i played card games with my girlfriends family (young sisters/cousins) and she is most friendly towards me (smiles) than my girlfriends other sisters/cousins.
Any comment much appreciated.
Oh and i find her behaviour alluring.
>>17157475
>Any comment much appreciated.
You have a girlfriend. Your mind and eyes should be always on her.
>>17157475
If you didn't get a boner from noticing her glorious buttocks, your GF should be worried that you can't get it up at all.
I mean is it REALLY that big of a deal for a man to get an erection?
Holy fucking shit it's as normal as anything else for fucks sake.
Jesus.
>>17157484
Yeah i know but i was trying to be social so that people don't think that her boyfriend(me) isn't friendly/social. But the issue was that one of her cousins was being overly friendly and as a man i put those thoughts away, avoid them but i'm a man. If im surrounded by 6 attractive women (including my girlfriend) im going to focus my attention to my girlfriend but it doesnt mean i dont notice the way people act, especially if it's "overly friendly".
Should i just avoid her cousin?
I am using movie maker to create videos and I have this problem I can't figure out how to fix. I can't find anything on google that can fix this shit.
I think this crude pic explains the problem pretty well. I have to sort out the sound effects every single time I add a new sound.
The video I am making is going to have at least a hundred sound effects. I need the sounds to stay where I put them.
pls respond
Stop using movie maker, retard
