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There's this girl I really like and she invited me to her graduation party. I was just considering throwing $40 into an envelope. Is $40 too much? Would it be too obvious that I like her?
>>17152896
Money's a shit gift for plebs. Think of something she'll actually enjoy getting. If you like her so much you should be able to figure something out.
If I was in your position, I would buy her something you know she'll like and not just give her money. But giving her gifts isn't going to let her know you like her. Literally just ask her out or something.
I don't really want her to know I like her since I'm kinda fat and beta.
So it's a long shot to ask this here but I'm gonna try to ask anyway. I want to be a voice actor it's my unobtainable dream that I want but I know I can't make it as a real job but I still want to pursue it. What are qualities I would need for it, what are some ways to start off this dream of mine, my end goal is to work for funimation if I can but there is no way I see myself getting there
>>17152860
first become an actor.
second, abandon all hope of financial security for highly irregular contract work with lots of competition from people who've built better professional relationships than you.
>>17153091
this, its no coincidence that all of the original voice actors in animation were either radio stars with decades of experience or friends of executives
>>17152860
this anon >>17153097 is right man, in audio and music and basically a lot of things related to arts if you have the right connections you can climb up higher. Go out and met people on the field and become a friend of them
I had one short term girlfriend my sophomore year, and it ended because it was mostly physical.
Only other notable thing was I dated a girl off and on for 8 months. We had feelings for each other, but we stopped it because she had no time, and our schedules conflicted.
I'm going to be attending my first year of college, and I've only got one local college course under my belt (Wanted to get it out of the way before I moved out). I'm heading to a new town and going to be renting a place with my friends and a female friend of my friend.
>Is college dating any different than high school?
Dating in high school to me was overly stressful because anytime I'd be interested in a girl, they would either not know what they want relationship-wise, or would be over dramatic about things, like being pissed about not going on a date every weekend. I want to date while I'm in college, but between a job and classes, I won't always have time to make a "x amount of date" quota every week.. Are college girls typically more laid back and relaxed about dating?
>Are they more obvious about their intentions/Easier to get into a relationship?
Friend of mine told me that in college, everyone is more obvious about their intentions with a guy/girl, They don't do the typical high school beating around the bush when it comes to someone they're interested in.
I found its exactly like highschool withiut the drama
Also some girls want dates and going out and some dislike the whole thing
I for one dont like going on dates in general, my friends ex is super pissy if they dobt go on a date every day when he gets of college and work
>>17152856
OP here and I feel the same. I really don't care for "dates". I'm fine with going out and doing casual things, but setting time aside to go eat at a place we normally wouldn't for the sake of "It being a date" just feels forced and weird to me. I'd rather just hang out with someone knowing there's mutual feeling.
>>17153085
This more or less yeah but i prefer stating at home
I can cook and bake and often i made stuff with my ex
Dates are forced and I'd rather have a girl who would spent time with me watching something or on a walk while eating ice cream
But im a pretty simple creature when ot comes to that
Girls in college are less insta bitchy and dont care as much for social standing like in hs bur its still mind games and bullshit
so i def need some advice. im 650 miles away from this girl i dated for 3 years. when i left we did everything except have a title. ive been here since thursday of last week and this weekend shes been really dodgy with talking to me. tonight on the phone she said she likes this guy and wants to fuck him.. she wants to do it while im away but i told her i want her to do it if at all while im at least in town. she said i can fuck her hot friend. but she has been hard to get answers out of. she told me she asked him if he thought of fucking her and he said "dont get me wrong,...
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oh and apparently the dude is like 6 inches shorter than me and skinnier than me.
im 6;0 and i weigh 213.. i used to weigh 240
bump because im kinda feeling like shit. ive been the only guy shes fucked for the last three years. but now I feel inadequate. the guy is some local fuck whos 17 without a license car or anything. im 19 and have two cars and i bend over backwards for this chick and now she does this to me.
alcoholism is creeping up on me.. amoung other things
How can i counteract addiction? i can't really afford a miss-step right now
>>17152732
Stop buying alcohol
Are you dumb?
>>17152732
go to alcoholics anonymous. dump out all of your booze tonight. tell all your close friends you have a bit of a problem and would love it if they kept an eye on you. family too. make a post on facebook saying you want anyone who catches you drinking to call you out on it.
if your first reaction to any of this is
>NO THAT WOULD BE BAD BECUASE xx OR yy
then it seems you CAN afford a miss-step
>>17152739
This this this
Dry Skin or Herpes?
>>17152723
honestly hard to tell without the rest of the picfture as context. is it even genital or face?
A quick google image reveals herpes.
>>17152723
Beard rash herpes yuck fucking shave m8
How to know when you are pretending to be something you're not?
It's it gender related? Stop pretending
Is it anything else? That's just you being you (but you're probably stupid for thinking it)
>>17152526
>do you want to do this?
>congratulations, you are not pretending when you do it
>>17152538
No its not gender related. It is career related.
Why do I act like a spaz around certain people. When I'm with my friends I talk coherently. Same goes with my mom and siblings. I talk very quickly with my dad, and I can never really open up around him. There are people I'll randomly talk to; my words either come out straight, or they'll come out jumbled and messy. I don't quite understand how to overcome this. I've been working on small conversations, and I've been getting better with this. But there are a just certain people I click with, and others that I don't. I'm not trying to be...
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>>17152512
people are people. some will intimidate you. others wont. you may not see it as intimidation. but there is this subconscious level. despite peoples preference for an attractive friend, as soon as conversation starts you will find that you click way easier with the majority of people you consider unattractive. you will be shocked each and every time that the guy iwth the dead eye seems really nice.
and thats cuz he is not intimidating to you. you find it easy to connect with cuz even when you dont have...
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Its because you don't feel comfortable around them and are probably an introvert. I don't have an answer other than talk to as many girls as you can as practice and have a lot of friends who are socialites who you can ask about being more social. I am the same way though OP
>>17152522
introvert simply means recharging with alone time.
When I was younger my dad use to cut my finger and toe nails, shave me, trim my pubic hair, and pop pimples on my face and back. The pimple popping in particular could get incredibly painful sometimes to the point where sometimes I would be crying/begging him to stop. If I ever denied him, he would become incredibly angry with me and I genuinely think it would've escalated to physical violence if I didn't cave in. Would this be considered a form of sexual abuse? Even at a young age I had quite a few hang-ups about sex. I only started masturbating at the age of 18 and I still to this day have never masturbated to porn since I find even the thought of penetration uncomfortable and I have a rather prominent fear of being castrated. I feel like that might help explain some of it, but I don't want to wallow in self-pity or put my own problems on the actions of other people.
Did you want some advice about something or are you just working on your autobiography?
>Would this be considered a form of sexual abuse?
No but it is physical abuse
>>17152399
in american culture, this would be borderline sexual abuse with the pubic hair trimming. a parent cutting their toddler's fingernails i can understand. a parent popping pimples and shaving their teenager's pubic hair is just fucking weird.
How do you gain a healthy view of sex if you have been sexual abused in the past?
I am male and I was raped once when I was 10 and again for six months when I was 12. Been abused by both male and female and I find that I don't give a shit about sex anymore. Sex to me is as meaningful as taking a shit. I pretty much just fuck everyone and I suspect the reason I operate this way is the abuse just makes it not matter in my mind. I mean I can't control what happened to me so I just minimize what sex is.
Thoughts?
How can I make sex matter again?
>>17152267
Get help 0/10
Don't bother bro, sex is disgusting, evil, demonic.
It is the vehicle through which satan enters the world (srs)
>>17152281
Well I am in therapy but I don't know how to address my feelings so its pretty worthless.
Its just two extremes right now, I can recognize what happened to me and lose my mind and kill myself or I can not give a fuck.
Seems like the only options is to not give a fuck and I guess thats not a bad way to go, I have nailed some pretty nice bitches.
Its just not what I wanted, call me old fashion but I would have liked to have shared the moment with someone I loved.
Say my personality as well as my life are boring. But I've got LOADSAMONEY
How do I get a GF purely based on my fat wads?
go to a brothel
Russia or Thailand. They don't need a green card as long as you've got the dosh.
Go to the club, VIP session e buy the bar out. Plenty of bitches of flock, then just pick the one you like, get her info and you're pretty much set.
I have a BA in archeology, can I teach High School history?
go to grad school and then become an archaeologist
>>17152130
Most high school history teachers in the USA have a degree in teaching, not in history (that's a factoid I read somewhere or other, but a look through teacher records that I have access to seems to bear it out). That's apparently preferred by a lot of school districts so they have a pool of teachers who can be placed into whatever type of class happens to have a need, but if you want to know the specific requirements for a specific school/school district, you should contact them.
>>17152130
Gotta get credentialed first. Try becoming a sub to build up experience while you get credentials.
>broke up with ex, she moved out
>she wants to get back together
>I tell her I can't do the same thing we were and that it wasn't working, but I'm willing to be in a relationship with her that looks different, and that I'm going to sleep with other people
>she's okay with that
>she gets her own house, relationship gets better, she still has issues but distance helps that not affect the relationship
>I still tell her I'm going to sleep with other girls but haven't yet (other self-improvements take priority over dating)
>unhappy about it that but seems to accept it
>life goes on, thinking about dating now, not sure what to do with this
first of all, am I fucking up, here? I feel pretty stable with it, but it seems complicated as fuck. for some reason I feel pretty confident with it, but I also feel like it might make me kind of an asshole, I can't decide.
second, how the fuck would I approach girls when I have a girlfriend in a non-monogamous sense anyways? Do I just lay that shit out on the table or what?
>>17152113
>first of all, am I fucking up, here?
Yeah, you're holding your relationship hostage and the ransom is you get to fuck other girls. She was desperate to get you back and now you're taking advantage of the desperation to fuck other girls.
You and I both know she doesn't want you to fuck other girls she just said she's okay with it because you gave her a take it or leave it ultimatum.
Listen, man, if this is how you want to play it I'm...
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>>17152142
has it
why be in this "relationship" at all if you aren't even going to try to make it work? Just stop wasting everyone's time and work towards an actual end goal, not some stupid shit that you're doing now.
>>17152152
I am trying to make it work - I'm just no longer trying to make it work like a "normal" relationship. What should my end goal be if not to maintain a functioning relationship while having sex with other women? Seems like a good goal to me, it's just >>17152142 that, which I'm concerned about.
>>17152142
Am I really holding it hostage, though? If a girl wants to get a guy to commit...
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>ADHD Tips, Tricks, Lore, Microforum, and Advice
>SImple Problem, Creative Answers
After long day of work and college lectures, I feel okay most of the time, but i cant focus for the life of me. DO any of you with the ADHD zodiac sign know any tips tricks hacks etc that can be done to stay on task and not mentally bouce all over the place?
Im not even supposed to be here now.
tldr Help me and others master the art of focusing under ADHD
Apologies for spelling, please disregard faggotry as accident
Never went to the doctor or whatever so I don't know if I have ADHD (sorry if I am being ignorant). Try tapping your foot to some music and keeping the tempo. I did that pretty much constantly in school. Again don't know of I have ADHD, just trying to help. Also don't worry about all that grammar and stuff. Anyone who complains about it is just looking to make others feel bad.
Its just like i get to my dorm and im content with walking around in circles and looking out the window. I would rather spend all night focused and committed to my studies. Theres got to be one simple trick that can get my head out of the clouds and onto these textbooks and essays.
I'm too fucking sensitive, whenever someone says something about me negative it stays in my head and I start to freak out. It's probably the reason why I'm a dick to most people too
oversensitivity is probably the #1 cause of assholism, so don't feel like you're alone
>>17152005
Well stop being such a bitchy cunt. It's actually not that hard to just let shit go if you genuinely try.
>>17152012
Ok
>>17152014
Wtf it's harder than that
