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So I'm about to complete my residency program and I have accepted a job near my family. However, there is another great job that's halfway across the country that is a better place to work and is probably going to be 450k, 500k, and 600k in the first few years. The job I already signed with is guaranteeing me 220k, but I am guessing I will actually make 350k+ or 300k at the minimum. I have a wife and kids, and we put the last 2 years of our lives on hold to go back to this specialty training.
Obviously in the distant job we will have nobody there to help us...
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>>17149588
At some point, enough money is enough money, and being near family is incredibly valuable from a quality of life standpoint.
If the money means more to you and offers you the chance to retire earlier because you don't want to work (or do something else that you want to do), then I guess go with the money.
Check any potential legal issues before you break the employment contract you signed.
>>17149588
I'd go the more paying but make sure you check cost of living that could equal your pay out
>>17149614
>enough money
Part of it is I want to justify going back to school and missing out on 2 years of income. I doubt there are any repurcussions for breaking the contract, it's still 2 1/2 months until my program ends, and judges dont really favor limited employment.
>>17149615
The cost of living is actually decidedly lower in the higher paying job.
Been a while since I last came here, but I cant ask too many other people about this situation. Basically I have a very close friend, who I would damn near consider a brother at this point, but lately he's been changing for the worse. He's starting to hit more progressively dangerous drugs, and for instance what started as a blunt here and there is turning into multiple Xanex pills a night and codine. I dont know much about drugs so I'll even assume I'm being an over reactive pussy which is fine. My major concern is who he's been getting close with lately...
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Cut all ties.
>someone asks for advice
>knows exactly what they need to do
>looks for agreement
Here's a pat on the back, high five, 100% approval. Get far away before you end up in some badly filmed escape movie. You aren't Charles Bronson nor are you Jason Statham. This ends badly for your friend, who is choosing it, and will end badly for you, who chooses it by sticking around.
>>17149565
I'll admit the decision seems clear, but at the end of the day I'm just a sheltered kid from the suburbs whose idea of a "bad guy" is someone who shoplifts from target. In the real world it feels like everyone pops pills, pushes a few drugs on the side from their apartment, or has a friend or two who has anger issues. I just wanted to make sure I wasnt overreacting to something that could have been "common place", because its happend way too many times before
>>17149558
Your friend is no more, please cut all ties before he drags you along.
How to efficiently save money?
Tips and tricks ?
I wish to save money for a car (and later on a motorcycle). What are the ways how /adv/isors save money ?
>>17149501
Write down every single expense you make. Immediately. No matter how small or big.
Gotta know where it goes before you can stop it from leaving your wallet.
>>17149501
Not spending it is the best way to save it. My trick is that before every purchase I do myself if I really need it. If I even have to ask in the first place I probably don't, so I don't buy it. I don't need a new phone. My car still works. My clothes still fit. Steak is nice but so is a $2 slice of pizza.
>>17149501
Don't spend it in stupid bullshit.
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I seen that Nvidia is Releasing their new video card soon. I was thinking about getting it but don't know if my setup could support it (I'm not too good when it comes to this type of stuff) . would I need to upgrade anything else or would I be fine just adding it to my system?
Intel Core i7-4770K Haswell Quad-Core 3.5GHz
ASUS GTX770-DC2OC-2GD5 GeForce
ASUS MAXIMUS VI HERO
G.SKILL Ripjaws X Series 16GB (2 x 8GB)
CORSAIR HX Series HX850 850W ATX12V 2.3 / EPS12V 2
>>17149378
You should be fine swapping out the GTX 770 with the GTX 1080. Is there a reason why you want to upgrade? The GTX 770 is still a pretty capable card for gaming at 1080p resolution.
>>17149378
Getting a card with 8 gigalies of gddr5
>not waiting for Vega wich will actually have the HBM2 it was promised to come with
A 770 os fine until then
>>17149416
I've been doing video editing a little video editing and animation in my spare time and occasionally when I'm playing some games I'll notice a heavy spike for a few moments in the game.(also not sure if this affects it but I'm using two 27in 4K monitors.)
Why would a guy who goes out of his way to regularly mention he is not interested in me, constantly pick on me?
He came onto me when he first joined our friend group, I told him I had a steady boyfriend. He was persistent but learned very quickly that I am in a stable long term relationship and there is no chance of that changing.
I don't want to talk to him, I don't think he's attractive and I have a boyfriend. Yet he goes out of his way to get my attention by picking on me.
>He's in our friend circle so it's not easy to just avoid him all the time.
Autism
I guess you could pull him aside quietly if you get too frustrated and say "please stop saying 'x' or 'y' to me, it makes me feel uncomfortable".
If he continues, just ask him in front of everyone "why would you say that?" or "what do you mean?" or "that's a shit thing to say", and hopefully eventually he'll get too embarrassed, if he isn't a lil' autistic.
sounds like a big fucking baby who he can't get over the fact that someone rejected him
So I turned 18 a few months ago, and was wondering how legal it is to drive to another state to purchase smokes if I live in some state that requires me to be 21.
I used to smoke quite a bit with my brother whenever we were out fishing, and it helps calm me down so I don't want to wait till I'm 21, as I have no chance of moving anytime soon.
Anyone have experience like this? Is it legal?
I actually have done the same thing with friends before lol because the lkimit is 19 in alabama so my friends would drive to florida for cartons and were never questioned even though their licenses were from out of state, i dont think its legal per say to bring it back, but you could probably get away with it by . who cares right?anyway good luck ;D
>>17149334
Thanks, and yah I don't plan on taking it back into the state with me.
Also what is best / your favorite brand I should get?
>>17149306
You would be better if you drop such disgusting habit.
So I have no trouble being alpha around women, but as soon as other guys enter, I start to break down.
If I psyche myself up, I can usually assert myself fine, but if I don't think about it then I start to act beta. The effect is that as people get to know me more they start to walk all over me. How can I stop being such a little pussy bitch around other guys and be alpha all the time?
You hesitate to compete with other males. You probably have low self esteem and don't bother trying because you assume in comparison to these other guys you don't have a chance.
I think you need to take up a competitive sport, practice until you are competent, and then regularly play it with other men.
>>17149313
Does Magic: The Gathering count as a competitive sport?
>>17149302
>So I have no trouble being alpha around women, but as soon as other guys enter, I start to break down.
So in other words you do have a problem being alpha around women
how i talk to people about things down there?It s sore but i idk what to do about it and Internets not helping...I'm also nervous about them seeing it...
Go to a doctor. They are professionals. They have seen worse.
What the above anon said.
Drop all of your hesitations right now and go to the doctor as soon as possible. It doesn't matter at this point if you feel too scared or embarrassed with what I'm assuming to be your genitals. Everyone has them! Woo hoooooooooo!!!!!
Just go. Please. Before it's too late. We don't know the seriousness of your soreness, but only a fool wouldn't go to the doctor to have themselves examined, especially seeing how this is for your own benefit and can't hurt you.
To add, they're professionals. As...
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>>17149287
>>17149287
how do I not sound like an autis? I literally don't know to explain what my concern is. I want to make sure I dont have anything. Is there a standard checkup or something I ask for?
How have you people improved your self esteem and confidence? Got any success stories or advice or anything else you want to share? Post here.
Instead of getting down on ourselves and each other let's be positive and supporting.
>not so good stuff in life got me down
>gained literally over 100 pounds
>life went even shittier
>figured out how to personally eat better
>visibly lost weight
>other people notice
>have to continually cut new holes in my belt
>pants that were too small now bunch up around the waist
For the first time in almost a decade I am comfortable walking around without a shirt
Feels gud man
>>17149176
yes i have my own story
>in in highschool
>late bloomer
>shorter than everyone
>weighed 100 lbs as a freshman
>shit on constantly, but laughed it off
>time rolls on
>friends start losing their hair
>they're all fat now
>me...
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I did things that made me feel good about myself.
I got a job, made some friends and am now learning how to gain real confidence in my actions.
i did, but then it all fell apart and got even worse when i started hanging around with horrible abusive people. no idea how to fix things at this point.
