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Do you guys have any tips for getting over rejection by someone you've obsessed over for months on end that you had a real shot with?
>>17143789
move on, do your normal stuff, maybe go do something extra fun. obsessing over someone you dont really date is never a good idea mate.
delete everything that reminds you of them
meet new people
improve yourself
time will help
>>17143789
Make a move before you start to become really infatuated with someone in the future.
Just about the only guy I do things with (I'm a guy) has been lying to me a lot and has basically stopped talking to me. Basically, he's treating me like I'm an annoyance. I really don't have many friends. I have never had a gf. I'm only 19, but this is crippling and I don't really know what to do anymore. I sit at home playing video games, I attend classes, or I practice fencing. That's all I do. What the fuck do I do with my life?
Talk to fencing classmates? Sit at a new table for lunch?
Whatever you do, don't settle for lying asshole guy as a friend.
Bumpo
>>17144209
I see, I'm not good with new people. I have to gauge them first before I even talk to them.
How to flirt /adv/? Tonight I've got a date with a girl I like, and I believe she likes me back. We always chat about random things, but I don't know how to turn our convo into sexual. I don't care if she rejects me, I just wan't to try.
If you have to ask how to try to turn the convo sexual, don't. That's doomed to fail. It has to come naturally. Forget about sex for now. Just do your best to keep her interested. The sex will follow if you two click.
>>17143765
We've been having fun for almost a year. Going for drinks every week. I believe she is interested in me and waits for me to do the first move. I don't know how to do it tho!
I also believe, if I keep that way for some time, she will find another guy
>>17143758
>but I don't know how to turn our convo into sexual
At a break in the conversation, ask if you can jam your ponos into her vagoo.
Or, alternatively, you could not be a spaz.
Any of you used to frequent that board? It's fun, I'm an oldfag (08) there but it's time to leave. It's not healthy for you and I just can't relate to them anymore.
Good thread for /r9k/ discussion, it's easy to realize how big your rose tinted glasses are towards it. I'll be embracing my hobbies and interests again and leaving the sort of cesspool it is now. Wish me luck, good luck to anyone else.
08 is considered as being an oldfag? Lol.
Anyway, frequent literally any other board.
Try out /tv/, /x/ or /spee/. All of these are filled to the brim with morons, pretentious douches or memeposters (or combo of all), however those are not as cancerous as /r9k/ and you dont have to stop 4chan.
Or get some other hobby
>>17143711
>08
>oldfag
Fucking kill me
>>17143775
>>17143778
i'm an oldfag suck my epeen
I feel so lame. I live in a kinda white trashy part of nyc. I see online all these well dressed people always doing stuff and being interesting. It seems like a different world. I don't get how people do things. Like all people do that i know smoke weed and play dark souls all day.
I'm artistic and smart n stuff but i never feel like I'm living a fun life. I go to the city a lot and its like where is everthing?
How do i live an interesting life?
>>17143677
there's a white trashy part of nyc??? where?
ok you're living in a city that has fucking everything, if youre really artistic you'd know the galleries/museums/spots that ppl visit
just go to the moma ps1 event they have all summers, research the party spots, go to exhibitions and meet ppl
srsly wtf man? go out, its ny fucking c
>>17143682
Its too specific to say
Anyone else wait tables? I've been doing it for a month now, I making more consistently than my last job (worked inside at Dominos), but some days it's just not worth it. And the niggers, holy fuck I thought I was racist before, but nigs really nog when you're a waiter. Kind of feel like just going back to Domino's or some other fixed rate pay dead end job. Does it get better, or should I get out before I lose my mind?
>>17143671
i did it for two weeks loved that i was on my feet all day, hated literally everything else, especially coming home too exhausted to do anything. made godo tips but the work was so bad that i wanted to blow it all on booze immediately. i go to a bar or dirnk maybe 3 times a month. back then i was doing it almost every day.
do what i did: start applying for officej obs. there are some entry level thigns you barely need a degree for, and if you have the money invest in online or community college classes...
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>>17143676
Thanks, and yeah I spend a lot already on weed, even more now. That's the only thing I see keeping me from an office job, so many restaurants/ service industry jobs don't drug test, but it's just soul crushing sometimes.
>>17143689
whats worse, 6 months without weed (2 to remove from system, 4 to job hunt) or 6 years at a restaurant?
>scheduled to start work at 5pm
Get call at 9am from manager to come in at 12pm because it's busy.
>oh shit. Get my shit together and head to work at 1130.
>Get a call halfway to work (1130am) telling me to come in at 2pm instead.
What the fuck. Can employers do this? Am I just in showing up to work and telling them to fuck off? I live in California btw
NEVER answer work calls when you're off
they try to pull this shit all the time
Is it a union shop? If so, the odds are good you're guaranteed 4 hours if you actually come in (i.e., if you get there and they don't need you, you can say "fuck you, I want my 4")
Depending on your industry, early calls must be anywhere from 12-24 before the start time.
>Safety coordinator at a silver mine
Unfortunately, no. There's nothing to protect you. But I don't know if there's some case you could make for ignorance if they can't prove that you were able to answer your phone and didn't like >>17143638 said.
Whenever I ask my gf about her attitude toward porn is like "I'm totally cool with it, I watch it myself teehee" but whenever she catches or even suspects me watching it goes APESHIT. She would start shouting stupid shit like "what makes them better than me? why do you like those whores more than me?".
I don't want to merely complain in a victimy tone. Looking for a way to wrap my head around this shit because it just makes me fucking angry.
Next time she does it, just calmly point out that she clearly has a problem with it and should admit this, rather than trying to appear super relaxed when she really isn't. Ask her why she feels so uncomfortable with and explain your reasons for watching it.
I can't stand it when women act all indifferent to porn when it actually pisses them off. It's like she's asking you to be honest with her, then conditioning you not to tell her things in future. She's actively influencing you to lie to her about really insignificant things.
>>17143556
She knows the cultural norm is to say she is cool with it but she really isn't.
She has trouble to deal with the fact that you are sexually aroused by other women.
Girls dont understand that tuys watch it because guys need visual help to get off. Girls can just imagine some 'hunk' of their dreams saying romantic shit and they get off...not us. We need to see titties and ass. It has nothing to do with them.
How do get through a situation when someone in a group says "anon can do it better!" and everyone starts applauding and looking at you?
I instantly feel like an idiot not knowing what to do and stands there smiling, sweating instantly, gulping and rushing that adrenaline.
I hope you guys understood what I tried to explain. Yes, I do have social anxieties and I need tips too desperately :(
>>17143472
Fake it till you make it. There's no shame in being humble and admit not knowing something. It actually takes more confidence to admit you don't know something.
>>17143472
if you literally dont know what to do, make a joke out of it
>no i dont you jerk!
One time someone asked why I wasn't saying much and someone else said I was quiet, so one person says "I like quiet people :^)" and someone else says "me too! :^)" so I said QUIET PEOPLE SUCK
If a girl never brings her boyfriend around me, what does it mean?
Especially because I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me, but she's still hanging out. Part of me tells me I'm overthinking this, the other part of me tells me she wants out.
Means nothing
What the other anon said.
Men want multiple women in one bed and women want multiple men in many beds. So it's not that she's necessarily choosing.
>>17143275
ignore this guy
obviously she wants to fuck you, and not just fuck her she wants you to tear her clothes off and rape her. Even if she cries for you to stop just keep going, all women have rape fantasies and orgasm to rape so really she wants it.
How worthwhile do you think it actually is to give advice here? I've asked for some advice that's worked out before, but I really wonder if that's the case for most posters here.
Has /adv/ ever given you advice that you've used to positive effect? Or is it all just frogposting and sluts and whores?
I have posted a few threads and most of the advice people gave was too simple to help me out. I really feel that some cases are just too complex for strangers to give proper advice.
>>17143162
i have asked for advice a few times, and i did get useful replies on one thread, however, on the other threads people where predominately looking for arguments. some threads on here are great but i sometimes cant stand how people act. this is meant to be the board with the most normies but a lot of people still act really edgy and childish.
I always doubt that anyone I give advice to follows through with it. Usually people come here with a preconception that they want to hear validated. Many posterd are incapable of critically thinking about their own problem from perspectives other than their own, and this language-based medium simply cannot convey the true lessons of revelation and empathy they need. I think I give advice more for myself, that I might better understand the things that obstruct and cause one to suffer, and deal with them better in my life when my time comes. I don't really care whether my...
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I hate everyone in my life they are abusive and take advantage of me. Should I just pack my shit and go, say fuckem? Everyone has a "he's not important so his opinions don't matter" vibe towards me that's in my dad's crib (who Im living with). I could simply get an efficiency, should I give a fuck about everyone's feelings? they're mentally weak but why should I give a fuck I can't change them, especially being how they view me.
>>17143144
including, but not limited to:
>girlfriend of 1year
>couple that are "friends" living in my house
my dad is extremely respectful and I have no problems with him.
>>17143148
*dad's crib
>>17143144
>feelings
my girl would be the only one that really gives a fuck but she's mean as fuck and flirts with the dude that's with the other girl crashing in my dad's crib.
I know if I left she'd fucking bawl and scream how much of a piece of shit I am for leaving.
I see no reason not to leave, and help my dad financially who is going through a divorce. what do yall think?
in case it matters im 21 y.o in east coast america
Hi /adv/, I tried shooting for the first time around a year ago. Of course, I got a black eye on the first time. Most of it faded away over time, but it is still a bit swollen and discolored after a year. What should I do? Thanks heaps
PS: I am not anaemic, or have any other relevant medical conditions which I am aware about.
>pic unrelated
shooting? black eye? is this some slang I don't know?
>>17143030
Shooting a shotgun. Black eye from not holding it right. I was a moron.
Cold compresses in the mornings.
Anyone have any tips on how to study if you're depressed?
I struggled with depression years ago and have noticed it slowly creeping back recently, just in time for my university exams. Some days are fine and others I feel trapped in a cycle of not revising, contemplating how little I've done and feeling guilty, which just makes it even harder to do anything productive.
Any idea on the best course of action??
Iktfb, the last thing you want to do when you're depressed is–well, anything really. Everything feels like it takes too much energy to accomplish, and you feel guilty when you procrastinate, so you trap yourself in a vicious cycle.
Unfortunately I don't really have a solid solution for this, but if it'll help I'll tell you what has worked for me.
-Take breaks; short 15 minute breaks every hour.
-Force yourself to commit to at least 10 minutes of work. If that time passes and you want to stop, then you can stop. But at least you'll...
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>>17143018
Thanks for the tips man, think I'd be lucky if I could work for 15 minutes every hour though! I've been trying to work in short bursts but I'll write a few words and then suddenly snap back to reality and realise I've been staring blankly for who knows how long.
Just seems to be a bit of a gamble if it will be a motivated day or not at the minute.
Thanks for the help, any extra ideas would also be gratefully received.
>>17143061
>I'll write a few words and then suddenly snap back to reality and realise I've been staring blankly for who knows how long.
Are you me? Really though, it's so easy to just distract yourself from your work. Even staring at a wall is more appealing than forcing yourself to study. I catch myself in an almost catatonic state at times.
To keep myself interested in my work, I'd turn it into a game. If there was something I've been eyeing for a while,...
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Where is the border between friendship and love with opposite sex? How do you know it from each other?
>>17142990
When you start wondering where is the line between friendship and love you have pretty much crossed it.
what is sexual attraction
>>17143010
That is when your peepee goes stiffy when you are next to a girl.
